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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo.
"i refuse to sink."

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Hello,
I wanna hv sex wit my virgin g/f how to i convince hr to hv sex with me, Coz i really want it.

It doesn't matter if you want it or she wants it.. You both have to want it. If you have to try to convince her to have sex with you, than she's not ready and you're not being very fair. Both of you should feel comfortable with it and ready to take that step in a relationship, not just one of you. I stress the word BOTH greatly, because you have to BOTH agree to this without convincing... It should just happen naturally, not forced by convincing. Sex is a big deal for girls especially, and it takes some of us more time to want to do it than others. So let her think about it, get used to the idea of it, make her feel comfortable and safe, but don't try to persuade her to do something she might not be ready to do, especially if she's still a virgin. You can talk to her about it and see how she feels, but just talk about it for now, get the idea out there and let whatever happens, happen. Sex can come with a lot of consequences you and her probably aren't equipped to deal with like pregnancy and such, so if you BOTH decide to d it, remember to be safe. No glove, no love.
Hope I helped ! xxo

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I'm 18 and I've always hated not having boobs. I'm a 34A if that, I wouldn't be caught dead in a sports bra beause I'd look like a 12 year old or a little boy..are they really done growing? Or is rhere a way to make them bigger (for my own personal preference, not anyone elses or society) also my left is bigger than my right which is noticable with small boobs, my left fills out a 34A cup and my right doesn't so my bra like has a space before my boob..embarrassing. Also usually when you grab a boob it's squishy because it's fat, but mine feel almost like I have some kind of tissue implanted boobs..because they aren't squishy there's like some kind of tissue feeling ness as my boob Practically. They haven't grown that I've noticed at all over the last 2 years idk if it's my diet or what, I'm 5'8 and weigh about 113 I've always been slim but all my family has big boobs, my sister is a 34C shes had boobs since she was 14 and here I am 18 and can't even wear a bathing suit in public -_-

Holy crap. I think we are the same person, not even joking, except I'm almost 20 years old. Anyways, my left boob is sooooo much bigger than my ight and I'm so ncomfortable with the size which barely fills a 34 A. So I hear yuh girl. Mine feel tissue like also because they're so small, so that's normal.
Unfortunately, the only times your boobs will get bigger are when you're on your period or getting close to it because bviousl, they get swollen and if/when you are pregnant (for other obvious reasons.)
Honestly, the only things that can make them bigger are weight gain (not excessive) and just waiting. I believe that my boobs arent done growing yet... Maybe when I hit 22 o something.. (at least that's what I'm telling myself, lolz)
But, look at the plus side, when were older, everyone huge boobs will be all wrinkly and saggy, but our will still be perky ;)
I also wear push up bras to help myself out. There really is not much you can do besides surgery. However, I always try to move my boobs without touching them (kind of like how guys move their pecs up and down) because I feel like it helps them grow/perk up more. No joke.
The only other option is surgery, which isn't up my ally, but lots of girls get it done. Wish there was a quick fix or other options, but if there were, all of us goat chested girls would be doing it. Good luck though ! :)

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so i have a new girlfriend but i still miss my ex, we ended on really bad terms but everytime i see her in town i end up missing her more and more. im pretty sure she hates me with a passion, what should i do? try talking to my ex or just leave the feelings alone?

If you still have feelings for your ex and you guys ended on extremely bad terms, then maybe you should reach out and talk to her. It's never too late to make things better and if you can't get her off your mind, maybe she's supposed to be there. I could help you more if you told me what happened, so shoot me a message, my inbox is always open !
Hope I helped, xxo :)

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Hi,
I have a hugeeeee crush on my brothers friend who alwayz comes over. he is super athletic and i was just wondering if this is normal??!?! i mean i really cantt help it whenever i see him.. you know? have u ever had this feelin before? Or had a crush on someone? I'm 16 and a girl. thankss!

Yesss, this is totally normal. Having a crush on anyone is normal, as long as it doesn't turn into an unhealthy obsession with a person. You are totally fine, I promise :) maybe he has a crush on you too ! you never know !
And yes, I have had this feeling before.. And I have actually dated a couple of my brothers friends. So it's normal.. If it wasn't, everyone would be crazy :) don't sweat it.
Hope I helped ! xxo

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i am nine and a girl
i want to have sex with someone who is nine as well but im not sure what to do i try not to think about him but i cat help it hes so cute and hot
i think he likes me and i want to get into a realashionship with him some one hel i just wanted to be i love with him but now im too far in love i just want to have sex with him and do all the other stuff please help wat should i do

I would highly, and I mean HIGHLY, suggest not having sex. If you really are nine years old, that is wrong on so any levels. It is dangerous and nine year olds are not supposed to be even thinking of having sex. Just don't act on your emotions right now, take a deep breath, and just go play on a playground or something... Enjoy your youth and do not have sex right now. Just don't.
Hope I helped ! xxo

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I dont no what to do i have my ex who wants to go out with me and im in love with my current bf. and i still love my ex what should i do??????? I am 12 and im a female.


im 19 years old. and in my opinion, if youre in love with someone else while in a relationship, you shouldnt be with the person youre currently dating.
and.. since you say you're in love with both of them, i think you should do yourself a big favor, and both of the people youre supposedly in love with a big favor, and just be single because its not fair to any of you.
and youre also 12 years old. you have your whole life ahead of you.. i know it might not seem like it now, but this is not something youre going to be concerned with 7 years from now. trust me.
but, follow your heart.
xxo. hope i helped.

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Do I need to trust anybody ?
Is this world just business ?
People do cheat. In that case, why do I have to trust someone and be broken ? Cry ? Be disappointed ?
I know many of you might have experienced this.

You don't NEED to trust anybody, since you can trust yourself, but it is going to get very lonely if you don't trust at least one person in your life. and I know how hard it is to trust people, I have been screwed over soosoo many times in my life, it's like not even funny and because of this, I have major trust issues. but there are those few people, like my family and a couple of friends that I trust. but the only person i can truly trust is myself.. and my dog.. but thats self explanatory hahaha.
this world is not just business, because you wouldnt be able to mix business with pleasure ;]
yes. ive been cheated on. emotionally, and im pretty sure physically.. but people also cheat when it comes to lies and all of that. so everybody at some point, cheats.
but you dont have to trust anyone and be broken, but also know that not everyone is going to break you.. the fact of life is that people's true colors come out eventually.. sometimes the outcome is good, sometimes it is not. but its those sucky people who break us who show us how strong we truly are and they help us realize that we can get back up. never let anyone completely break you, also know that they cant, unless you let them.
crying sucks. especially over a broken heart. but wounds heal.
dissapointment is inevitable. everyone will be dissapointed at some point in their lives also. its a part of life, but that does not mean you cant trust anyone because people might surprise you. i think that everyone deserves at least one shot to prove you wrong.. and if they dont, or you get a bad feeling about them, then cut them out of your life.
but life is about taking risks. and taking that jump and hoping you dont fall. yuh know ? but i promise, not everyone is un-trustworthy. take it from someone who LITERALLY knows.
hope i helped. xxo :]

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How Can I make my boyfriend to feel ignored?

Are you asking how to make your boyfriend not make you feel ignored or how to make your boyfriend feel ignored.. ? because they are both very different things.

I'm going to assume that it's the first one, and if that is the case, ditch the loser. If he is ignoring you, he is beyond immature. trust me, ive been there and ive done that. Don't let him make you feel that way. your boyfriend should not be ignoring you. period. end of story. there are plenty of fish in the sea, i think its time you started fishing.. :] hope i helped ! xxo.

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So my boyfriend wants to take it to the next level with oral sex. But to be honest I am not sure about it because im afraid that I wont know what to do. Should I just tell him that I dont want to do it or should i try to do it?!?! The thing is, i dont want to "not do it right" and disappoint him. I am 17 years old. thanks!!!!

If youre comfortable with the idea of doing it, then go ahead, but if you want to do it because hes now mentioning it and you want to please him but youre not totally comfortable with it, then dont.
With that said.. you need to talk to him about how youre feeling and why you feel this way. If youre not comfortable with talking to him about it, you shouldnt do it.
Soooo the key is talking to him :)
Hope i helped ! xxo

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hi so i have a fetish whr i like it when a girl dominates me. I dont kno if this is normal and im 16 years old. Is it okay to tell my gf other tht im into that kind of stuff? Im kind of scared of her reaction...

alot of guys have this fetish.. dont feel abnormal or alone. you are fine. just don't let your fetish control your life, and you are perfectly normal :] no worries.
and to answer your question about telling your girlfriend... it kind of depends on a number of things:
1. how long have you and your girlfirend been together? if it hasnt been for at least 9 months+ I probably would not suggest bringing it up or even telling her. you could scare her away, and she might not be comfortable enough around you yet to talk about that stuff.
2. how far have you both gone? because this is a MAJOR comfort factor. and depending on your answer to this, i can help you more with if you should tell her or not.
3. is she the same age as you? becaus eif shes younger, do NOT tell her right now, seriously. if shes 15 or younger, it will make her very uncomfortable and i dont know if she'd be able to handle it. because 16, yes, is young but younger than that.. i would not advise you telling her youre into this kind of stuff.
4. i dont think youre even comfortable with telling her this information, so until you are completely sure and COMFROTABLE with telling her or even mentioning it to her.. dont. youll know when the right time is.
good luck ! feel free to inbox me again if you still need help. xxo.

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How come good guys are so hard to find these days? I mean most guys just want s** what happened to the good guys you know the ones that are actually interested in someone and would like to have a relationship with them?

I ask myself that question every single day hahaa. I've honestly had the worst luck with guys, and both of the long term relationships I have had have ended badly.. because their true colors come out (and i was in denial, saw their true colors, yet hoped they would prove me wrong. which is the worst thing you can do, because then you get screwed over in the end, haha) .. and let me tell you, those colors are NOT pretty. haha. but you just have to be patient. and dont go for the same guy you always go for.. branch out. thats what im doing ! there are plenty of good guys that we dont notice because we're too busy wasting our time on the ones who we're so used to going for, yuh know ? most likely, youre not going to find the guy of your dreams at a club, so also take where you go into consideration and the types of guys at these places. just keep an open mind :] youll find someone.
hope i helped ! xxo.

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ever since i went to his place, he doesnt answre my calls anymore, i text him apologising for god knows what but he doesnt reply, so how do i get him back

alright, i know youre not going to want to hear this.. but you need to forget about him. i made the same mistake as you, texting and apologizing, even though i was being ignored.. and it was my ex boyfriend of over a year. hes playing you sweetie. you went to his place. and now hes done with you. you have to move on. he wants you to chase him. literally, my ex boyfriend was just.. insane. he played with my head and trapped me in our relationship by threatening suicide, and then one day we're doing good, then he ignores me.
the moral of the story is.. you dont deserve this. he WANTS you to chase him. it's an e-go booster and for whatever reason he has for ignoring you are HIS reasons, and you may never know what they are, but you have to let him go. you dont want a person like that in your life. yeah, it may hurt now, but trust me, it will turn around for you and you will find someone who WONT ignore you after you go to his place. if he wanted to talk to you, he would. and maybe one day he will.. but for now, you need to not want to get back with a loser like that and find someone else. :] trust me, i know how much you want answers. and i know how much you want him to talk to you and want you again, but youre better than this. you deserve more than this. no guy should ever take you for granted or use you like this. i was used, i know how it feels. and its not right. just do you, let him do him, and move on. the best revenge is being happy. so be happy and let him talk to you if he ever wants to.
hope i helped :] xxo.

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Every time talk to my boyfriend he always gets a boner even I'm not talking about sex?

he's just really into you. take it as a compliment.

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He gets a boner by just looking at me, or being around me. I don't have to do anything...is this weird?
He said i just really excite him and just thinking about me has given him a boner.

i didnt think this was possible. lol
he's almost 18.

this is how my ex boyfriend was like all of the time.. actually both of my recent ex boyfriends from the past 2 years were like this, but i just noticed it more with my most recent ex boyfriend. i think its because theyre just really attracted to you. i know that everyone is saying its because of the guys age, but i totally disagree.. you have to be very attracted to someone for them to just get a boner by even looking at you. yeah, it happens easily.. but attraction is key or they will not get a boner. plain and simple.

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Why can't a 9 yearold have sex

because they are 9 years old.
........ seriously. 9 years old shouldnt even be THINKING about sex ........ their bodies wouldnt be able to handle it, and their mental stability would no longer be stable. its too young. and thats disgusting actually.

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Hey i was trying out for volleyball yesterday and i really pushed my self till i started seeing black spots . Like , it really wasn't black spots on things that i saw , i guess because i was really tired and i almost couldn't catch my breathe , that's how hard i pushed my self . So my question is why did i start seeing black spots ? And by the way they stopped after i start catching my breathe and stuff . :/ Help ,Please . (: (:

thats happened to me before..
its basically your body telling you that you need to relax and not push yourself so hard because you were about to pass out.
you need to drink more fluids and eat more so you have more energy before tryouts and games and practices.
if this keeps happening you need to go to a doctor, but im sure youre fine :] sometimes this happens, especially if youre tired and you havent had a good nights sleep.
good luck ! hope i helped, xxo.

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In your personal opinion, do you belive it's ok for a 13 year old girl who is trustworthy and gets excellent grade to have a boyfriend?

sure :] why not ?
as long as your social life and education arent being affected by it, id say it is most definitely okay to have a boyfriend.
xxo.

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What are some good songs/quotes about a guy playing you and you knowing it and he thinks you have no idea?

heres a few songs:

- avril lavigne: everything back but you.
- jojo: in the dark.
- jojo: marvins room [cant do better].
- jojo: get out [leave].
- kelis: i hate you so much right now.
- ciara: like a boy.
- girlicious: liar, liar.
- mariah carey: thanx 4 nothin.

heres a couple quotes:

- "a wolf in sheeps clothing is still a wolf."
- "I know you think you broke my heart, but I knew your game from the start. I saw your game and played it too, stupid player, the jokes on you."

good luck ! hope i helped, xxo.

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So i'm 14 and i have a boyfriend of 4 months now. we've made out, hes seen and touched my boobs. yesterday, we were curious as to how OTHER things feel. so i like stroked his penis and we dry humped with clothes on... we didn't wanna do it because we're horny little teens, maybe a little but it was mostly because of curiosity.I WILL NEVER DO A blowjob AND I AM CONTENT ON SEX AFTER MARRIAGE. we agreed these things will never happen again. what we normally do is just hold hands and kiss :) but i feel guilty about my actions yesterday. am i a slut?

nooo, nononoo. youre not a slut by any means ! i promise.
dont worry. :]
hope i helped, xxo.

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so me and my bf decided we r gunna get crazy and get dwn (have sex) and he starts to put his .... inside me and i strt bleeding while he is inside me i thnk he popped my cherry but cld that get me pregnant????

if he was wearing a condom that didnt break, or if youre on birth control or some sort of contraceptive that helps to prevent pregnancy, than youre most likely fine.
if you werent haveing safe sex.. then yes. that could get you pregnant. it doesnt matter if you bleed or not, once he enters you without a condom or you without some sort of birth control, you can get pregnant.
remember: no glove, no love.
good luck ! xxo.

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