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"We make war so that we may live in peace." -aristotle

"If you judge someone right away, you will not be able to learn to love them."

I'm Hayley, I'll try to help you as best I can. I'm 18, and a senior in high school. I like art, music, and clothing. I'm a vegetarian abd have been consistent with it for four years. I have two dogs a westie named misty and a Maltese/poodle mix named mally. I know a lot about dogs because any time
my dogs get a scratch, I research and call the vet haha.

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Okay so there is this guy i was set up with by one of my best friends. We finally met up without her and to both of our surprise it wasn't awkward at all. We were totally comfortable and had so much in common and think the same way. Ten minutes after my good friend called me and said she talked to him a second ago and he was raving about me and how he had never met anyone like me. This was great to me. He immediately texted me and for the past week we've been texting throughout the whole day every day and he always wants me to text first and said he wudnt treat me like shit like the rest of them. i am worried though like every girl ill be used, what are some signs that he wants a relationship?

Well, signs he is using you or is just trying to get in your pants..
-he calls you late at night and wants you to come over and "cuddle"
-he doesn't take you out on dates.
-he just wants to hang out at his house all the time just the two of you alone in the house
-he says I love you right away
-he tries to go too far with you too fast
-he doesn't want to stop kissing or whatever and tries to talk you into things.
-he doesn't call you often
-you guys don't hang out often and you know he is going out with his Friends (I don't mean like once, I mean like every weeked he cant hang out and makes excuses everytine you ask)
-he asks you out on dates and you do sexual stuff but he never asks you to be his girlfriend.

Basically, if he takes you out, seems interested, and you guys have a good time, it should be good. It seems like you guys have a good connection, so I wouldn't worry about it

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i've been looking for a list( updated) that has companies on it that dont test on animals. i looked on peta. but i don't think that one is updated. and all the ones that i find on google havent been updated in four years. does anyone know where i can find one that's updated?

Look for products that are organic or inthe back it should say not tested on animals. It's really hard to find accurate information online, PETA is not a good source. They lie a lot. I'm a vegetarian & have been for 5 years, and I love animals, but the PETA organization is not good for accurate info.

Hope this helped

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What does that mean? Is it bad?

I agree with the person below me, thatnis what I was thinking, but I was also thinking it in a different way. Maybe they meant like your sheltered from much of society. I used to be like that. I went to a very wealthy school with a bunch of other wealthy school, I was spoiled and unaware that everyone didn't live exactly like me. When I got to high school I went to a public school, which had kids that lived in different areas over town. Some were wealthy like me and others were not. I was surprised to learn not everyone got 50 presents on Christmas, or that not everyone spent 1000s of dollars when they went shopping. I guess it's more innocence then anything. You just don't know what's going on in the world around you. Mybe you think everyone is just happy all the time. That sort of thing. So I think they meant either what i said or what the person below me said, I guess you just have to think about your life abd see which one applys to you.

Hope that was helpful!

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Hi! I have been around the mall twice, and through rue 21 and i have no seemed to find a small brown coverup for all my spaghetti strapped tops! *i cant wear them at school like that* if anyone knows any stores or anything online, i'd appreciate that. a lot. what i mean by cover up is.
its like a very short top. it's open so it shows the blouse well. thank u !

-forever 21
-charloutte rousse
-wal mart
-macys, jcpennys, dillards, sears
-abercrombie kids(if you are young enough)
-target
-kmart
-old navy
-kohls
-hollister
-abercrombie and fitch
-buckle
-delias
-American eagle
-express
-Juicy
-anthropolgie
-nordstrom
-guess
-urban outfitters

the stuff at the top are all reAlly cheap stores, well in my
opinion all the way up to american eagle is pretty cheap. But the value of a dollar differs from person to person. You can try wal mart or a place like that, they might have it, but if course not as good quality.

I think you should look in hollister or somewhere who sells similar bland colors. Brown is a fall color and I'm sure plenty of stores will end up carrying it. Summer is just ending, so not all stores have all there fall line just yet. Old navy probably will have It they sell more bland plan colors.

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Hey I'm 14/ftm transgender and I'm 5'1 and extremely skinny.
Not skinny in the places that I'd like to be, though.
I've got really wide hips and big boobs rite now and I can't go on T because my mom would hate it. Anywho, i'd like to know what pants I could wear that wouldn't make me such a girly shape. Like there's these skinny jeans for guys at hottopic I like, since they're narrow in the hip and have got shtraight legs. Will wearing pants like that make me look more like a boy? And if the boys sizes are too big for my stupid female body, is there any way to shrink jeans?
Thanks so much for any advice & help it's appreciated!!

Yes, getting boy jeans will def. help. I think some stores make jeans that are just sraight up and down. Especialy if you get then somewhere cheap like wal mart or k mart. When you wash your jeans, they should shrink a little. Whenever unwashed my jeans they always feel a little tighter abd lose their shape after continous washes.

Hope that helped!

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Hes only a year younger than I am & I was hoping if i stay close enough to him that I could possibly ask him to prom which will be in May. I wouldn't ask right away of course.... How can I stay close with him? We are friends but now we both don't have one class together this year making it difficult.. He also has never had a gf before so shes shy & wouldn't ask me to hangout.. How can I take charge? Should I ask him to hang out as friends & see where it goes & have him get used to hanging out with a girl. I need suggestions. Thank you in advance.

I had a similiar situation as you do. Freshman year of high school, there was this beautiful boy who I found out was a junior. He was new to the schOol and sat alone at
lunch. I was shy and h didn't have any friends for them to introduce us or something like that. So me abs him would
make eye contact a lot, and one time he even came up to me. But neither of us said anything, haha. Then my sophmore year I was determined to talk to him. I thought of all these schemes ad tricks to make it work, and finally by the end of the year, I just went up to him and said hi and gave him a compliment. After that, we dated for a year and a half. We just recently broke up because he is going three hours awayfor school, and I didn't want to hold him back. He always told me how he was happy I made a move because he's so shy, he's not sure if he ever would have.

So my advice, is just be forward, I hate being forward and win the one to approach but sometmes you have to. Do you have his number or talk to him on facebook? If you two like the same band, text him o whatever and say "hey did you see so&so have a new song?" that's always a good way to keep things going. Compare your schedule, maybe you cab walk with eachother.

Shy guys always take more work!
Good luck.

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i'm going to be a junior. i got put in this class called reading comprehension or something. it's a class and my counselor said that it's to help with your reading and literacy skills. i know it sounds bad to say, but i almost feel stupid for having to take this. i asked if i can change it, and she said no. there are only going to be 15 other people in the class. i kinda know i dont need this class, because we had to take a bunch of reading test at the end of the year, and i honestly didnt try on them, and so i think that's why i'm in this. the counselor said we're going to be reading alot and using kindles. is it bad that i feel stupid for having to take this?

No, abd if you really feel you are smarter then this class, then tell your parents and they can get you out. They can't force you to take anything. I was in a class similar to this. Mine was called connections. I did bad in math thebyear before so they put me in it. It was the worst class ever. I was 10 ties brighter then everyone else and it was honestly just a bunch of losers who probably have dropped out of school by now. Seriously, if you feel your smart abd don't need it, drop it, it was the worst experience I ever had in there.

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me=15 boy=16 friend=15
My best friend was talking to me and suddenly she told me about my ex boyfriend texted her and they met while they were in the same store. My friend had thought he just wanted to say hi and ask how summer was going but instead he kissed her, grabbed her butt, grabbed her chest then licked it. She told him to stop after the kissing but instead he went on to finger her. she pulled his hand away and said stop but he just smiled and asked if she liked it. She said yes so he would go away. I told her she could file sexual assault, is this true? She told me not to tell anyone but I immediately felt like telling his strict mother who I am friends with. What do I do? I broke up with him while we were together because after 6 months I got bad vibes. How do I protect my friend from this creep? Thanks in advance!

I agree with the personrl below me competely, I just wanted to tell you that is sexual assault from wha you said. He has no right to do that. Don't tell his mom. Support your friend abd tell her how it wasn't her fault and she didn't do anything to deserve this. Try to get her to tell a parent or another adult. If she doesn't, you defineitly need to.

Good luck!

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I'm a big money saver. Sometimes I go shopping with my friend for three hours and while they come out with ltos of stuff, I'll buy nothing.

WELL I've heard about how you need sunglasses for good eye protectiona nd under wrinkles and dark spots you know? And Most are UV ones now and they're nice and cheap. $10 in almsot all the brand stores.

So I want one but yet I DON'T. I cna't see myself wearing sunglasses and the last time I wore sunglasses was when I was 5 swimming - those star and heart shaped ones form the dollar store.

Should I buy them? And when would you/I wear them? Driving would be great on those sunny days (but I loose my balance when I try one on because the world looks SO different. Plus, I can't tell the traffic light colours apart). In school and the mall, I only see people wearing them on their heads. If I wanted a head accessory, I would get a head band!

Also, when you you NOT wear them outside?

I think you should buy a pair. Go to like macys a little closer to th end of summer nd you can find really good quality name brand sunglasses at a low price. Don't go for super
cheap ones, they break easily. If you try on different kinds, you can see what you like best, from style to different tints. I drive, and the sunglasses I own show me the colors of traffic lights and all that. I don't like to spend my own money very
much either, but sunglasses for me are a must.

I only think you should wear them when your outside or driving. I think it looks weird when you see people indoors with them. I admit I've done it before when in bit wearing make up or don't want people to see me.

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I understand that the mineral, Biotin is found in many multi vitamins, and they make your hair grow. My question is, if I take "Women's One Daily" multi vitamin which includes Biotin, will it give me the same results that I would get by taking B7?

Pretty much. A straight biotin vitamin will probably increase hair and nail growth a little more, but it's not as good for you as a multiple vitamin. I take a multi vitAmin with I think 30% biotin. I've noticed my hair has grown much faster taking it.

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What does {{xoxo}} mean?

Kiss hug kiss hug

x=kiss
o=hug

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Alright, well I am a seventeen year old female. I recently relocated back to my home town. The guy I had been crushing on from elementary school all the way up to 8th grade when we moved finally admitted to me that he liked me to when we came back. I've only been here about three weeks. When he found out I was here we hunng out a lot and he broke up with his girlfriend. He would call me just about everyday. Well last weekend we ended up sleeping together, kinda fast I know. Anyway after that he called me the next day and I wasn't home so that night I went over to his house and there were a few people there, I'm not sure who they were but I only stayed about 15 minutes. He acted very distant towards me. While I was there my ex boyfriend said some things that upset me and I was kinda quiet, I didn't mean to be. The day after that a bunch of people including me went swimming. He was there and barely acknowledged my presence. He said maybe two words to me. Then the next day he pulled up in my yard and revved his engine and then sped off. But hasn't said anything to me since that night. I know that if he calls and I'm not home he usually doesn't call again unless I go see him, he kind of backs off for some reason. I really like this guy and he said that he liked me to. What's going on and what should I do? I haven't heard from him in like 3 days.

To ve honest, I think since you had sex with him so fast, he got what he wanted and is done with you. Sadly, that's usually how some men are. I've seen it happen a million times. Sex is kind of like a game to guys. The lobgeryou
nake them wait, the harder they try to work for it. I'm sorry that happened to you. Move on abd try to find a nice boy who respects you.

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Hi, not sure if this is the right category but im looking to get my second tattoo. First is a swallow. Now, I want to get writing on my side. I was thinking something like "a broken nest can still create beautiful wings." Or "A broken nest created beautiful wings." I just want it to mean that a broken home, or past, does not need to dictate your future. I want it to show that I made it through the broken times and am happy with who I am now and can fly :). Does anyone have any ideas about how to make this quote better in any way, or any other sayings that would mean the same thing?

any suggestions could be helpful, thank you!

I likethe first one you did, that is really nice. Be careful where you get it though, if you gain weight it stretches out abd won't look good.

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Well see I had a crush on this girl for awile and we got no where with that! So my bestfriends from school were always there through my heart break with her. My crush and I are still friends or whatever, nd I have no problem being around her. But now my crush want to come to my school this year and my besties don't want her to. They don't like each other very much... and I know I'm goin to be caught choosing if she comes here. My besties didn't even give her a chance. They're trying to protect me and keep me away from her basically. Please help!

These are your best friends. Don't worry about this girl. Also, friends tend to see things more clearly when you are blinded by love. You said she wasn't even that interested in you.. No point in losing your beat friends when she doesn't even mean that much to you.

If you really want to try to make it work, try telling them how cool she is and to give her another chance. I don't really think she is worth your time though.

Good luck!

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okay so i have thought this guy was really hott for like ever but he is like older then me kinda by a lot. im 17 and he is 24. well one day he texted me and told me he thought i was hott so we hung out one day and we hooked up. well he has a fiance but he told me that they were bout to break up because they fight all the time and they do. she left for like a week then came back because her friend didnt want her there anymore. but then i got a wedding invitation in the mail so i asked him bout it and he told me he was done with me and everything so i have ben ignoring him but i see him like everywhere cause he like lives next door. so he texted me and told me that he still wanted to hang even thou he is getting married and i told him i cant do that he is getting married and he was like dont worry bout her? like what am i suppose to do. i know he is like only using me but he is sooo hot. and he told me he oesnt get a long with her and i know he doesnt cause i have scene it. but he is still gonna marry her anyway. what do i do? should i hang with him still?and how do i make him not get married if he doesnt wnt to?

You can't force him to do anything, first of all. You can give him your opinion about it but that's about it. I get he is hot and all but he is clearly just using you. Even you seem to realize that. There are plenty of other really hot guys who will like you for you. Respect yourself and your body. You can get any hot guy you want, one who will respect you :)

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Ok I keep seeing about it on here and it seems like a lot of people swear by it and others say it isn't true so I want to ask YOU: Does rinsing your hair in cold water make it shiny like they say? Honestly?

If it does is there a special way that you have to do it so that it works right?

Thank you!

Yes, my hair is always shinier when ibrinse with cold water! Just turn your shower to cold and put your hair on it. That's what I do

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for the past 3 weeks i went on a bit of a starvation diet.
i havr 700 TOPS calories a day, usualy from the 400-600 range, on bad days 700.

i got my period 4 times in one month and iALWAYS have to make number 2.

i feel like anything i eat just come out.
i dont eat enought to be making so much but i do!
is everything ok with me? is htis normal?
do you think me getting my period 4 times (maybe 3) in one month relates to this? i have 2 anorexic friends that DONT get their period bc they dont eat...

whats wotn with me!

I think your screwing your body up big time. My friend was severely anorexic, which you are on the path of too, she only at 250 calories a day and exercised like no other. She was in intensive care unit and had a crash kit by her for
three days.. They were afrid she was going to die. Not only is her body so screwed up, to the point where she is now
unable to have children, she had to miss 4 months of her junior year of high school, and she is on a million medications. Oh and she used to have really pretty long blonde hair, they had to cut it all off. It's at her chin now it use to be at her waist. Her hair was falling out.

This is the path you are on & your friends are already closer. When you eat it fuels you body like gas with a car. If the car
does t get gas the car won't go. Just like your body. When you aren't taking in enough calories and your body isn't getting enough fools it starts thinking " ok we need to start shutting down parts that we don't haveto fuel" & so yes your body is malfunctioning. I don't know why your body is having you get more periods, it's usually less. I don't really know what's happening, I'm not a doctor. I know a lot Bout nutrition because that's what I want to be, so I read a lot about it. If you want to pm me and tell me more about you like your height weight and what kind of foods you eat I could help you with that.

My advice for right now, see your doctor. Tell him how you've been eating and all that. Good luck!

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I have been watching my mother in laws children for almost two years now. One is three and the other is six. I have a three year old as well. I am started to think I would like to try to get an actual job. My mother in law hates daycare and preschool and I am the only person she really trusts to watch her children. I am afraid to tell her that I don't want to watch her children anymore. My husband doesn't want me to get a new job because I'm helping his mother so much. We could really use the extra money though (I only get paid $305/2 weeks from watching her kids.) Should I tell my mother in law I want to quit or should I just keep watching them until they are all in school?

Well i'm 18 and I babysit a little three year old girl. I get paid 9 dollars an hour and it's twice a week for four hours. So I get paid like 72 dollars a week. I was going to get a real job, but all jobs are paying like minimum wage and I'd have to pay taxes. So, for me it's obviously better just to babysit.

However, if you have a college degree this is obviously different. If you have a college degree and are able to get a job in that career right now, then I'd definetly consider leaving.

If you don't have a college degree, then I don't know if it's the best idea, depending on your age and job experience of course.

Also, if you do leave what will happen to your kids..? I'm assuming your kids are with you when you babysit. So if you have to go to work will you have to get a babysitter or put them in daycare? Wouldn't that take a good portion of your
money away if you are not college educated?

If you need more money, maybe you should ask for more from her. Tell her you guys need some extra cash & you might have to get a job. If she says she can't afford to pay you more, then tell her you might have to start looking for a real job.

Good luck with everything !

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hey, Im gonna keep this short and sweet. So my hair doesnt grow as fast as it should, (or as fast as I wish it would). Is there any way I could get my hair to grow really long, really fast?

Take biotin supplements or a multiple vitamin. Make sure it has biotin in it. I take that and my hair (and nails) have been growing soooo fast! Also giving your head a massage once a week will make it grow faster.

Hope that helped!:)

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My best friend has been kicked out of her apartment twice now coz she has been caught with her roommates stuff. I just found out a while ago and I was trying to contact her but her cell is off and she is not responding to my e-mails. I'm really worried about her, she is suffering some family problem and I suspect she has an OCD. Her boyfriend is no help either. He just won't talk to us and her parents seems not to care.

How long has she been missing? Try to talk to everyone you know that knows her, if they haven't seen or heard from her for 48 hours, you should tell the parents and say you are going to the police and ask what they think is best. I wouldn't tell the boyfriend you are going to the police, since her boyfriend seems sketchy. If she has a pattern of running away or not talking to people for awhile then maybe you should wait a little longer. But if this is abnormal behavior for her, defineitly consider going to the police. Better safe then sorry!

Good luck hope everything works out!

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