My name is Heather im 14 going into high school. I play basketball and volleyball, and just enjoy partying and gettin out with my friends. Im really good on advice, like everyone comes to me. Things that are serious that i've done is helped a kid get out of wanting to kill himself. I'm realy nice and i just love to help anyone and everyone, ill try my best to help you out.
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ok well...sorry if this is too long but..... i have been gettin these strong feelings....first i thought....no sex before marriage.......then i thought.... you know sex before marriage is not that bad....then now i am thinking it is great to have sex AFTER marriage, but then i am asking all these questions in my head..what if he doesnt like my body? what if...this happens what if that... i have been thiking alot ...and i have been lusting....ye lol...and i have been having these ideas maybe a month ago..children? my ass i am adopting..now i think it would be cool to have a baby..just a life and all the beauty..and since i am getting these ideas to be married of course i will have a baby IN marriage.....and then i am getting these thoughts it would be a beautiful thing to do this...and then i am thinking oh i wanna have a child and get married at 19..then i am like what am i thinking? then i am thinking 20..no 26.....and i am all copnfused and THINKING A LOT .. i have just layed on my bad and thought......and i think about sex.... yup..and i really feell i need to do something about this...please help!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Relax =) haha its your choice to have sex before marriage or not! He wont not like your body, and if your about to get married with some guy then id immagine he loved you enough to love your body no matter what! Wait to have kids untill after your married. you and your guy should be able to talk it all over and agree when its the right time to have them! Everything in your life should feel like the right time, not just a feeling of pressure and how great it would be! Dont rush into anything, it should just come to you. Hope i helped you! =)
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i've got a broken leg and it has to stay in a cast for weeks. I mean, ages! Im stuck with not a lot to do so im just eating loads of rubbish and im worried im gonna get fat.
how can i exercise so that i dont put on loadsa weight without actually hurtin my leg real bad? (link)
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Well dont excersize if its broken! Just eat healthy, portion control, water is something really good you can drink to. you could probably work on other parts of your body, like stomach and upper body. Well goood luck!
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Okay, this may not seem like a problem, but I started babysitting for this one family this summer. They have a pretty big house and good jobs, so it's not like they are poor. I think they overpay me though. I know I shouldn't complain, but they paid me $40 for watching a 4-year-old and a nine-year-old from 6-11pm....and they pay me $100 a week to watch the 9-year-old while they are at work during the summer....watching the nine-year-old basically consists of watching tv or watching him play nintendo or watching him fish. it's not a hard job, and I enjoy it...should I say something about the high pay, or just take it as them appreciating me and being nice? I don't want to get more than I deserve.... (link)
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Aw thats really thoughtful of you! But thats about and around average pay. Haha thats all that babysitting is, and its great! Its their decision on how much to pay you, not theirs. And sounds like they got some extra money, so they were being thoughtful and appreciated your simple work! =)
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hey. I'm 14/f. Me and my ex boyfriend had sex ,i thought it was a good idea at the time and i felt really comfortablewith doing it but now i don't think it was right. He dumped me the day after and i felt realy bad because i liked him alot but he obviously didn't like me. Now he is calling me horrible names and being really mean. All my friends are all acting wierd to me now and i don't know what to do.
If anyone has any advise it would be much apricated! xxx (link)
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Well thats great you felt comfortable at that time.. but he sounds like an asshole hun im sorry. Any guy low enough do hit it then leave isnt ever worth it. Dont regret it though, at the time it was great. Life moves on, but dont talk to him anymore if hes really mean. Tell your friends whats goin on, that at the time you thought it was right and now you relized it was a horrible mistake, but it was your decision not theirs. And that if they understood your position they'd forget it. Best of luck sweetie!=)
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hey, im a 14/f. 7 months ago, my boyfriend & i had sex. & now im pregnant. my parents kicked me out of their house & now i am living with at boyfriend's house. his parents are really supporting us with my pregnancy. my boyfriend says that he is gonna take responsibility for me & the baby. he is 16 years old & he has been workin two full time jobs. so he works all day. we are saving money for our new apartment that we are going to move into next month. i was also working a full time job, but now i had to stop because of my pregnancy. we are saving money to buy clothes & furniture for the baby. the baby is healthy & we are really excited. my bf asked me to marry him, and i said yes. we are getting married next month. my parents and his parents are going to help with the wedding. the thing is that im worried he is going to dump me. just like in movies. i know this is reality, but i just want to know if there is any chances he might dump me. he is really sweet, hes happy & everything. he is always telling me how much he loves me & our baby & that he is always going to take care of us. he is really responsible. i say he is the perfect daddy & husband. he already started buying clothes for the baby. i just want to know if there is any chances he might dump me. thank u for your advice. (link)
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Hey thats great! Well your only 14.. so becareful, If you really think hes the one then go for it. If not, dont. Or tell him to wait a while, you two are young ,or well atlesat you are.. and you shouldnt feel the need to rush into everything because of being pregnant! i dont understand your title my best friend and I are pregnant with the same guy? haha thatdoesnt have to deal withthe story
well best of luckk!
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13/f i have a boyfriend & we have been gonig out for about 2 months. i'm wicked happy with him and i've liked him for almost a year and whenever i see him i am always smiling. i've kissed him on the cheek and i know he wants to kiss me but when we are about to do it i get kinda nervous and i know he thinks i dont wanna, but i do. howw can i be less nervouss? this isnt my first kiss, but i dk why i act like it. (link)
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haha sweetie everyone is always nervous with their first kiss witha new person, i know you've been kissed before but idk if its from him lol. Once you kiss a couple times its soo easy haha no more nerves or anything.. let him know that you want him to kiss you! No matter how nervous you may look. After you kiss once you'll kiss all the time, and be completely comfortable! bestt of luck hope i helped! =)
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I feel like I am not needed. Like I don't have a purpose on this Earth. I feel like if I was gone, no one would notice. And I honestly believe that no one would. I would be gone for weeks before any of my "friends" noticed I was gone. And my family, they would all move on extremely quickly. I am always forgotten, left on the sidelines, doing nothing, locked up in my room, wishing that someone loved me....
How do I get pass this? (link)
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Aww, listen up you are needed and im pretty sure people would be devistated if you were to be gone. If you want someone to talk to im here, brautiganh212 is my screen name please talkto me sometime! Just keep your head up and dont do anything stupid, if its really that bad maybe you have some sickness, and im not lying i have friends like that. But im garanteeing you you have tons of friends and family that care for you! And if you're really locked up in your room thats crazy?
best of luck, please talk to me sometime if you want too! =)
-Heather
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My face complexion is always changing because either, i have a tan & then I don't, etc. And I get and lose tans easily and it makes things hard when it comes to face makeup and chosing the right color. What should I do? (link)
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The best thing to do is get a color that matches your untan skin and then get some bronzer! It works great and can get your skin darker. The best thing i use is called pearls of perfection.
hope i helped =)
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my boyfriend & i have been dating for almost 6 months. we love & respect each other very much. the furthest we've been is 1st, & we don't even do that anymore. i try my best to respect my parent's wishes which consisted of hugs, cuddling, & an occasional kiss. lately it seems like they're becoming more & more overprotective with this rule. my boyfriend came over last night & i had a stomachache & didn't feel good. so, he put a pillow on his chest/stomach area & let me lie on it. he spread his legs out so i could lie down while he sat down comfortably. our "private parts" weren't touching indirectly, because i know my dad doesn't like that. he was rubbing my tummy to try to make me feel better. no one told us to stop so i thought they didn't mind it. then i overrheard them talking about it today & how disgusting it was. how my "private parts" are above & below my tummy so he should never touch there. so then i told my parents later on i wouldn't do that but i just feel bad that they keep assigning random rules left & right & i feel like a bad person, because i do. my boyfriend is hurt everytime i tell him we can't do something because my parents don't approve of it, but they always feel uncomfortable telling us that. he feels like they don't trust us. & i feel the same way. why don't they? we don't do anything majorly wrong. i'm trying so hard to gain their trust. when we're alone, we do the same as when we're around them. i don't want to do nothing around them & then do more with him when we're alone [nothing past a peck] because i feel weird about that. like i'm sneaking or something. someone please help me fix all of this. i've talked to them about it many times but they just don't listen. they say they're too old fashioned. but they're really hurting my relationship with my boyfriend. we have a lot of love & sometimes we want to show it physically, but just with a hug & an occasional kiss. they're married & have sex, so why can't they understand that? ugh i can't take it anymore. thanks if you can help. (link)
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well for one how old are you, if your like 14 or older then its completely like normal to want to do more than just that. Parents are always strict, but if your young it might be good. Its really cute that you guys only do that much when you've been goin out that long, its a good sign. Showing that you guys love each other because of who you are instead of what you can do. Now dont feel guilty if you guys do more, my parents were really strict about all that stuff to. But i went behind there backs and did it anyways. Yeah at first a felt guilty but honestly its between you and your boyfreind not you him and your parents. If you guys are goin to do something make sure your both comfortable and agree with it. Make sure you are completely alone, like i wouldnt do it if the parents are home. Mean while around your parents only do what you would normally do. They just care about you and dont want you to get hurt or maybe even eventualy pregnant. Trust me, almost everyones parents are like that. Just do what you guys wanna do, comfortably! I hopee i helped and good luck! =)
Well since you guys are that age and youve been together that long i think it would def. be fine to start taking things more physical. Since your parents are like always home or around you, maybe you are allowed to go to his house? if not then maybe you should try talkin to your parents...haha or be a badass and hang out with him behind there backs somewhere else. Just remember though, there's no reason for regret.. all parents are lilke that, but they should know you're growin up and you found somenoe who you can REALLLYY TRUST. Thats so cute just everything about you two how you were best friends before, i just got outta a relationship like thatt. lol but yeahh really i wish you the best of luck and hope things go well for you to!=)
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Okay i'm 12/f about to turn 13 in 2 weeks =] ! I really like this boy and yesterday i went to his house to hang out and i d k if this is slutty or what ? Well we was over there watching the Grudge and i was just laying by him, then we like moved to the floor and all the sudden he leaned over and we started making out. I like got on top of him and we like started having dry sex with are clothes on. Well he knew my turn on spot is my neck so he was kissing my neck and i just got really in the mood so he rolled over on top of me and we kept on doin it. Well then we stopped cause we heared someone upstairs so we were just laying there. And i let him finger me. And i was giving him a hand job all night !! Like every minute. Then hes like how bout you suck it for meee ? and i was like omg i never sucked one before soo yeah.. but we went downstairs but then we came back up after we did some more stuff.. okay now heres where it gets bad. We were laying on the couch and i like sucked his dick about 3 times and he wanted moreee. but we didn't have a condom . Well he fingered me again and left a huuuge hickey on my neck. Wow thats alot of stuf. Do you think thats slutty and just give me some advice on what i just told you . I feel slutty and guilty and i feel like hes useing me. (link)
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sweetie sorry to say it i believe he def. is.. Guys are assholes, and its hard to find a good one now a days. How old is this guy anyways.. Dont let him take advantage of you, and no matter how much you like this boy.. your age is pretty young, but things like this happen. Just remember, any guy who makes you feel uncomfortable or pressures you into something you know you shouldnt do, isnt worth it. Dont feel guilty just learn from your mistakess, dont let it happen againn. best of luckk
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My best friend is everything to me, but sometimes we make plans and she ends up ditchin me. And she always says that SHE'LL BE THERE, and then I ask her if she if going and she says "no", and when I ask "why" she says "I made plans before" and that absolutly ticks me off. And I get sooooo mad at her that I end up calling her a name or something. I always think that she talks about me because we kinda fight when we're not together. What do I do? Not be her friend? or... tell her to screw herself? or just ignore it and keep being her "friend"? (link)
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Well for one ask her why she is ditching you in a nice way. Be like im sorry but whats up? why are you blowing me off it hurts me. Be the bigger person and dont be mean even if she is... if shes not matture enough to tell you the truth of handle it correctly then just start hanging out with other people.. a best friend is someone who should always be there and not cause so much drama or make you feel like shit.
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I'm an 18 year old female, living on the East Coast. My friend Jake is 22, living in Oregon. He is suicidal. Is there anything I can do to help?
I've known him for about 4 years. He has been suicidal since he was 10, apparently - that's 12 whole years of "depression". He just came back from the Jop Corps last week for his summer vacation, so yesterday was my first time speaking to him in 10 months. ALLL he would talk about is getting his hands on some tough drugs and then going to the "train tracks", if you know what I mean.
How do I help him? His complaints are pretty much the usual stuff. His family hates him, no one loves him, he doesn't have a girlfriend and now that he is 22 he will never have kids. For years, I've been trying to help him, trying to comfort him, trying to make points where I feel I can. But oh no, nothing works, because.... "no one loves me". When he says that, it actually insults me. What, have four years of my time meant nothing to him? Isn't there only so much a person can do?
I almost blame myself for not being able to help him. I can not contact his friends or family, because I have zero connection to them. He doesn't live with his parents, so there's no address I can find. He only has a cell phone, so that says that. And I don't even know his parents names, or friends, for that matter. I have zero way to get him help.
I know this isn't about me, but I'm losing my patience here. He is seriously stressing me out. I try and try and try, but I am never good enough. What, does he like being this way, or something? Could he secretly enjoy his lifestyle? Could I have a major attention whore on my hands, rather than a suicidal man?
He is also compulsive liar, which doesn't help anything. I'm thinking his other friends (the ones he doesn't have, according to him), probably assume that if he hasn't done away with himself in 12 years, he will never have the guts. That may be true, but I am not willing to write something like a death threat off, I'm sorry... because I know there is always a breaking point.
I consulted a few of my friends, and of course I heard the same thing every time, "Why do you bother talking to him? Oh, I wouldn't talk to him. Screw that guy."
Only, I know that wouldn't contribute anything to his well-being. Right?
I guess what I'm trying to ask is, at what point should I disconcern myself, if ever? And what more can I do to help him? Trying to help somebody who doesn't want to help themselves, is usually a failure before the process even commences... (link)
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Wow! Sounds EXACTLY what i am goin through right now and i know its soooo hard!
Theres so much we could talk about so if you have instant messenger or something my screen name is brautiganh212
but listen, dont give up on him.. Let him know over and over again that you're there for him and you care about him sooo much. Drugs are hard, my friend always is like im sorry.. then i find out he took like 30 pills. He's still alive and im trying to get him backk to the way he used to be. Jake should get some help, proffesional. but yeah you should really IM me sometime or something and if you cant just reply to thiss. Because theres a lot i coudl say, keep your headd up!
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Okay, so, they guy i like, has a girlfriend, but he told me that he liked me and to wait for him. Should i continue to wait for him? (link)
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Ok, well.. be friends with him yeah, but this is already showing he's not a good guy. When your goin out with him he could be telling other girls yeah i like you.. ASSHOLEE! haha but i know how you feel, to like a guy then when hes available. He's just showing immaturity though. Dont wait for him, talkto other guys and do whatever, while still being friends. Just keep an eye out, he could be a heart break!
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Okay, so i don't have any friends. frankly alot of people don't like me because of all the drama that went on last year in 8th grade. Now i am really scared to be going into freshman, when almost everybody hates me when i only have about 4 girl friends.. and would've i`m not in any classes with them? well thats not my problem.. my problem is.. the people that don't like me are going to harass me and get everybody to gain up on me.. i`m now a religious christian && not many people know that, except for the people that went to church camp with me. i don't know what i am going to do. what should i say to people who are trying to fight with me.. should i like apologize to them.. so that they don't cause drama for me in 9th? i really just wanna stay out and be like unknown.. but thats not going to happen.. what do i do :[[ please please help. (link)
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Well sweetie I know how that feels. High school is a fresh start! Change the things you used to do that caused the drama. I dont know exactly what you did, but im pretty sure you can change it. Girls are bitches, you learn that in middle school. Apologizing would be the best thing, and if they arent mature enough to except it then forget them! 4 friends is great, and you should get to be friends with a lot of guys. there is soo much less drama with them and they are fun to hang out with.
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Sorry in advanced if it is long. I'm 16/f. So, I broke up with my bf of 4 months a month ago. And the same exact day he got a new gf. And he didnt bother telling him, I found out at a party, I saw them together. And it didn't feel right to me, like he shouldn't have moved on so quickly. But I wasn't really jealous I don't think. And we are still friends, which I'm glad for, and I'm constantly going online to see if he is on. And when he is, my heart starts to race like crazy, and I'm like so happy. We can talk forever but little stuff, we just always find things to talk about. I also think about him all the time no matter what, it drives me crazy. And when I'm not talking to him, I feel a little depressed. I'm just scared that if we do get back together, it will end up like the past. I really don't want to hurt him again, I would just hate myself. And after we broke up, I told myself that I did love him, but just that it was just friendship love. But now I"m not too sure. Can I really still be IN love with him? And I just also need some advice on how to deal with these feelings if they won't go away. I'm just really confused and need some advice. (link)
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Oh wow I think everygirl knows how this feels hun. I went out with a guy and he got back with this girl in a week, but omg a day? There's just those people out there who make you feel great and you just love talking to a being with. Usually after serious relationships that are long you'll always have strong feelings for that person no matter what. Its so great that you two are good friends, and you seem like a great girl! But it was really low of him to go right to another girl, it shows immaturity. You should still stay close with him, and just remeber whats meant to be will always find its way. He'll eventually see hopefully that you were always there and you're everything he wants. If things go wrong, hard to do it but block him out of your life for a while.. dont talk to him and when you start to think about him, DONT. Also try talkin to other guys, theres so many out there and even though they might not seem like they could compare, they just might. I wish you the best of luck!
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