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Well lets just say i kinda like my body, but not really. Well i have a nice stomach, but pretty much a flat chest and ass. Also, i dont tan which is why i hate my body in the summer. Well, lately i stopped running because cross country was over. My stomaches been getting bigger, and my boobs and butt staying the same.
Idk what but lately whenever i eat, i feel sick, so i stop. Well, i havent eaten in 4 days, and i m starving but whenever i take a bite of ANYTHING i feel like im gunna puke. One day i ate through it and puked 5 minutes later. I know im not sick, and i think im doing it to myself, but i dont want to! I cant stop it, it just happens! Dont tell me to go to a doctor, bc i think shes going to think im one of the eating disorder girls, and im not.
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EAT.
Please, please, please eat again. I know how you feel when you're feeling starved but if you think of food you kind of get sick. But you're body's trying to adjust to this "new" eating pattern, if you would call it that. You just have to start eating so you're body can regulate itself again. As for your body, (how old are you?) I don't think you need to worry about chest and an ass. Trust me, boobs can be ANNOYING. But anyways, try eating, and if you're continuously puking, you HAVE to go to a doctor. They'll understand your problem, they won't jump to conclusions. But if you keep doing this...you WILL be one of those 'disorder' girls. Because once you get too far into not eating, your body gets used to it, and it reacts badly if you start eating again. My advice, is to eat. Please, I don't want anything to happen to you.
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My face is horribly broken out, and I really don't know why. I'm impatient, but yes, I seem to have tried everything. I hate medicines that make things "worse before they get better." I have been BEGGING my mom to get me Proactive, but she is refusing. She says she will take me to the derm. but I don't want to go there because I know she will give me something that will dry my face out and make it peal and really discusting. Any advice? I really want Proactive, is it worth the money? Should I just get it myself when I get money for Christmas? (link)
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Well, I don't want to make you mad by saying this, but it's true that things have to get worse before they get better. I don't have acne, but I wouldn't recommend just buying Proactive, because I think it's expensive.. and it might not even work. You should go to the derm. because they will tell you what's best for your skin type. You can ask him/her if Proactive would be okay to use on your skin. But even if they give you the medicine that makes your face dry and whatever...you should stick to it because there is no acne treatment that will get rid of everything extremely fast..besides laser treatment [please dont.] I also heard that when using proactive, it makes you break out like crazy and your face gets seriously dry, but then it helps, but it's the same as any other medicine but it's a lot more commercialized. But don't go ahead and buy it because it may not work based on your skin type. I hope everything works out.
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Ok, please hear me out, and give your honest opinion.
I am a male in high school and am a straight guy. But there is this one kid that I can't get off my mind.
He is a very good looking guy and he's not mean or anything, I just feel like I want to talk to him all the time and be with him. But every time that we talk I feel like I'm the one that keeps starting conversations and he never starts them..
I don't think I 'like' him, I'm not sure.
Like for example, he's a trouble maker but not a bad one, and every time he does something stupid, I'm always the one to look at his gorgeous eyes and smile and his smile is so awesome I can't even describe it. And the way he smiles at me I feel like there's something more.. but I'm not sure. :(
So as I said, I'm not gay, but I just want to bring up this relationship as friends and see where that goes.
How can I get him to talk to me more?
We talk on AIM, Facebook, MySpace, but we end up just running out of things to talk about..
ALSO! How can I get him to talk about his life? Like what can I say to him that will get him talking about himself personally.
Thanks!
-AJ
PS: I'm 15 and he's 14, we're both in the same grade. (link)
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Okay, so around the 12-15 age is the point where you really start deciding whether you'll be gay, straight, bi, etc. So right now, I think you might have a little thing for him, but you never know. I might just be that you wanna hang with him, be friends. I know the feeling. Getting him to talk to you more, hmm, does he have any interests on his Facebook/Myspace such as sports? You could talk to him about those sports. You could even have the same interests in girls. I'm a little unsure about how you can find out more about him, because I'm a girl and whatever, but I'll try my hardest to imagine your situation. Next time he gets in trouble and you're around, you could high five him and say something like, "Niiice man." He'll probably laugh and you guys could start a conversation. You could tell him something funny about a time you got in trouble, and believe me, he'll probably tell a lot about himself getting in trouble, but eventually you might become friends. Again, it's a little tough for me, but just try the things I said and you can drop anything else you need in my inbox. Good luck, I hope you guys become friends!
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i recently shaved my vagina for the first time, like the top part of it, and now there r all these red bumps and stuff and it looks gross! my boyfriend was unbuttoning my pants a while ago and i made him stop cuz i didnt want him 2 c. i dont know what wrong! help! (link)
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Well, what I do, is I use this razor called Intuition. It's big because the soap is like, on it, so in the shower you just run it wherever you need to shave and it shaves. So it hurt really badly for me shaving 'down there' with a regular razor, so I used this Intuition, and it didn't hurt at all! I also got no irritation. (besides a little itching because I did it quickly) Plus, I have sensitive skins so it was reallly good.
But for the most part, that's what happens. But here's the link for the Intuition razor.
http://www.schickintuition.com/
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16/f;139lbs;160cm
Really, I should be 117 lbs according to the BMI, but I don't really care as long as I'm not close to being overweight, like I am now. The purpose of me losing weight is to be more healthy, and fit, and well.. to look better, because when some 90 lb girl complains how fat she is, it makes me feel like I'm one of those people on the 'supersize me' documentary that look like bowling balls.
Anyways, I'm in no rush to lose weight because it's fall and I have a lot of hoodies to cover up all the flab I have ;(. But I hopefully want to lose the 15 lbs by December or January which gives me about 3 1/2 months. Currently, I wear medium to large shirts, depending on the brand, and size 7 stretchable jeans.
I have a treadmill but the incline thinger is broken, so it pretty much just goes straightz. I also have 5 lb weights. I can't go to a gym because it is inconvenient since I have school .
I also have this addiction to cafeteria food, no matter how gross it may be. Like my parents pack me lunch (fruits), but I'm still tempted to buy their food. That's probably the only time of day I eat that weird stuff (sometimes a small fries, sometimes a muffin... you may think there's nothing wrong with the muffin, but they put alot of oil into everything, including their cookies). So I kinda need a bit of help with that.
So to conclude, is 15 lbs a lot because I don't want to end up looking like a bobble head, and what size jeans should I be able to fit by the time I do lose the weight?
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First, good for you! You want to change your lifestyle and that's great! I know how you feel, those little 90 pounders saying "OMG I am so fat!" It's like, woah, you barely eat.
But anyways, I think even though that it's fall, it's a GREAT time to start losing weight. It gives you like, a year, until summer to have an awesome body. In 3 1/2 months, you can definately lose 15 pounds if you TRY.
The treadmill is fine even if the incliner is broken. Walking can really improve your body. So try walking on it everyday for 30 minutes. I have a TV near my treadmill and I watched a whole movie and ended up walking for 1 hour and 15 minutes..hah! What you can do with the weights is lay down and push your arms up with them, it improves muscle. Also try sit ups to get a flat stomach.
I totally know what you're saying about the lunch thing, but you have to learn to stop yourself. Just think before you buy foods in it, "If I continue this, I won't continue to lose weight." I controlled this habit, and I'm losing weight. It's great that your parents pack you fruits and healthy food. Remember to switch white bread with whole wheat, much better for you.
As for your pant size, I'm not sure what size you'll be when you lose weight.. Maybe a 5? or even a 4. Not sure..sorry. =\
So, 15 pounds is fine for 3 1/2 months, and good luck! I hope you achieve your goal!! =]
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Can anyone please tell me why H.S coaches are so mean?(like making us run, yelling at us when we do something wrong ect.) and like ALWAYS want to win games??? Cause i just want to know like what their "motives" are for acting so mean. (link)
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Believe me, you're lucky when your coaches are like this. They want you to be your best. They yell at you to push you to be the best athlete out there. My 6th grade basketball coach was exactly like this, and we won every single game. My 7th grade coach was all nice and "fair", and we lost every single game. Every single one. Sad right? Believe me, they want you to do your best, and one day you'll be really happy that they pushed you so hard.
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14/f and I've never kissed a boy on the lips before. I've heard that you can practice against your hand or a wall or something, so I practiced once and a question came to mind, when you're kissing... are you supposed to be breathing?? if so, then through your nose or mouth?? how exactly do you breath when your kissing, cause i don't wanna stop every 4 seconds taking a breath, or breathing through my nose and having air being blowed on his skin. so could someone explain all of this to me??
also maybe any other helpful first time kissing tips and stories??
please no links! thank you! (link)
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You should definately breathe, but through your nose. You just have to be calm when kissing him, because if your blowing full force out your nose, it will ruin the kiss and bother him. I know that if it's your first, you'll be nervous, but your first kiss can truly be magical. So you have to let if flow, and breathe normally.
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im 5'3 and 1/4 inch and im 107.2 pounds
i think thats normal but i have these really awful hips that i hate
i work out and dont eat too poorly but i just cant seem to make them go away idk i guess cuz its bone?
can anyone help (link)
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Try the elliptical, it really tones your legs. Oh, and your weight is totally fine.
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13/F I just moved to Moore,Oklahoma. I broke up with my bf in Henderson,KY that i really havent gotten over yet. But then I went out with this one guy named Phillip. At first He was really really nice. But after we broke up, he was a really big jerk. After that I had a bf for like 2 days because he was cheating on me. Now a guy is asking me out, He's cute in all, but he isn't the nicest around my friends. Plus, I'm not the biggest fan of new relationships.I get scared that I'm going to get hurt in the end. I think I'm still trying to recover from my relationship in Henderson. I'm scared and I dont know what to do. Can ANYONE help me? (link)
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I think you should take time off. You need to ive your heart a rest because if this guy isn't nice around your friends, he's probably not worth it. And it's not worth getting your heart hurt over. So just say no to boys for a while, and then you can recover and be stronger. Find a guy who's nice and won't hurt you in the end.
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but does chorlerine pool water take away your tan, like say you tan all summer and then you go swimming for like a couple hours does it take it away? (link)
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Nope. You actually get even tanner in the pool because of being in the sun for a while moving around. You won't lose your tan in the pool.
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Okay So I Am No Way Skinny. Or anything close to it. im under 200 pounds. not sure how much under. probably around 170. ugh i know. so i want to know how much weight would you think i could lose in 9 months? just an estimate.
and what are some ways to do so..
like please give specific excersizes and stuff like that.
thanks in advance. (link)
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I'm gonna have an estimate of 50-60 pounds in 9 months. I'm not too sure, because I don't know your height and age. If you try as hard as you can, you CAN lose 50 or 60 pounds in 9 months. Try walking, swimming, and using the elliptical at the gym. (If you have a gym to go to.) Eat healthy and drink mostly water. Only have 1 glass of juice a day. The rest should be water. Don't drink sports drinks or Vitamin Water, because they're packed with sugar. Cut down on junk food--a lot. It will help you in no way. If you eat white bread, switch to whole wheat. Try eating Special K. You replace breakfast and dinner with it, and for lunch eat something light and healthy. Try, and feel good about yourself. You can't lose weight if you're stressed. Good luck
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I have been dating my girlfriend Caitlyn for two years in October. She is the most amazing girl i have ever met and about 7 months ago i gave her a promise ring and i know Cait is the girl i want to spend the rest of my life with. Sometimes we get into little fights and blow them way out of proportion. About a month ago we had one of these fights and she wouldn't come to a party with me that night. At that party, i got pretty drunk and slept with a girl from another school. I didn't tell her about it and everything seemed like it was fine until this girl i slept with showed up at my baseball game and just so happens to sit down next to Cait and her best friend without knowing it was them. They start talking and pretty soon Becca, the girl from the party, has to go so she asks my girl friend if she could give me a ring back that i had left at her house (the promise rings we gave each other. i guess i left it there that night) of course my girlfriend gets curious why this girl has my ring and so she asks becca about it and she told her the whole thing. After the game Cait brought the ring up to me and said that my "little friend Becca" thought i would want it back and asked her to give it to me. I was totallly shocked and had no idea even what to say. Cait broke it off right then and there. I need to find some way to make it up to her. She is the love of my life and i totally regret what i did but she won't even talk to me which is really awkward since i am at her house all the time since her brothers are my best friends and her dad is my football coach. How can i get her back?
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Don't want to sound mean, but you're right. You did make a huge mistake, but you have to understand that if she doesn't forgive you at first, don't be angry with her because you slept with another girl and she needs time to cope with that. But I think you should make her a video. You should tell her EVERYTHING you just told me. You have to let her know that she is the one, and you don't know how you'll live without her, you made a big mistake. (But don't keep telling her "I was drunk, I didn't know what was going on..." because you have to focus on her, not you. Don't try to prove yourself that it was an accident, because it already happened.) But you also have to mention that you understand if she needs time, let her know that you're NOT rushing her into getting back together with you. But at the end of the video, say something like, "Cait, you're the one. And I love what we had. I'm just hoping and praying that we could get back to that." I think that if she's watching the video alone, she's going to feel something. But you have to give her time, and let her know you understand. When you make a big mistake, most people need time. Good luck, I hope you guys get back together, and if you have any more questions drop it in my inbox. :)
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ok. when i first started my period it use to last on average 5 days. and recently it has only been 2-3 days. is this bad? how long does yours usually last?
i havent had sex or anything like that so that wont be the cause. and im not on birth control. i havent changed anything either and this has been happening for about the last 5 periods.
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Don't worry, mine is 2-3 days long too! It's actually WAY better then having it for 5-7 days, haha, believe me you're fine. Be happy, you have a short lasting period! :)
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15. 5"9 160 pounds
ive been running and exercising for most of the summer for at least 1 hour each day AND i ate NOTHING but healthy foods and drank NOTHING but water, with a treat every weekend or so. but i dont feel or see the weight loss..and this week i was so frustrated with lack of results i just ate everything i saw..and then i went out and bought like 3 jumbo ice creams and ate them all..and then i went to walmart and bought and ate a lot and lot of candy (m&ms mostly, hah) and now i feel so FAT! every time i feel my thighs touch i just feel awkward and hateful of my body. (which is totally not healthy. i know)
sooo..do you think I could lose 5 pounds by the time school starts (sept 5. 3 weeks from now.)? That's about 2 pounds a week..i feel like losing 5 pounds will really up my morale to getting my weight goal of 140 pounds by the end of this year. i'll have only 15 pounds to go and 3 months to do it.
oh and what are some exercises i could do to speed up the weight loss? besides running, that is. (link)
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I definately think you can lose 5 pounds in 3 weeks. You just have to remember to try, and feel good about yourself. Don't be sad because you don't think you're losing weight. Go back to eating healthy and exercising. Instead of running, try walking. If you can get to a gym, try the elliptical (sp?). It really works out you're quads and thighs. Also, try Special K. Replace breakfast and dinner with it. Eat something healthy and light like a salad for lunch. Special K seriously worked for me. I lost weight and it tastes really good. So execise, drink water, and eat healthy. If you're stressed, it's much harder for your body to lose weight. Feel good about losing weight. Just think when you're exercising, "I'm going to lose weight. I'm going to have a great body and be healthy." If you have a positive mind set, you can definately lose weight. In 3 weeks, you may even lose 6 or 7 pounds. But remember, when you lose that weight, that doesn't mean go back to eating junk food or anything like that. Because you can easily gain weight back. Weight loss is a change in lifestyle, improving your life wit healthy food and exercise. Good luck :)
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I'm 17, and 5 years ago something really horrible happened to me. I accidently let it slip to this guy I really like and he said he wanted to hear the whole story, but I was too scared to tell him then... I haven't been able to sleep for 3 days, and I think I do want to tell him what happened, but theres no way I can just bring it up in convresation, I'm too scared, plus he hasnt even mentioned it since I told him, I don't know if thats because he doesn't care or he thinks its what I want...
How can I tell him? Should I even bother? (link)
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I think that if it's not letting you get sleep, you should just confront him online or anywhere you're alone. Say something like, "Hey, I was really scared when I was telling you about what happened to me, and I was too scared to tell you the rest, but it's bothering me that I didn't, so I wanna tell you now." If he wanted ot hear the whole story, I'm sure he cares about you, and he may even like you. If you guys start a relationship, it's best that he knows so that you wont always be hiding the rest of that story from him. The reason he didn't mention it in conversation is probably because he knew that you were scared, he probably though you just didn't like talking about it or something. So, try confronting him online or anytime when you 2 are alone. Hope I helped, good luck. =]
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my boyfriend and i have been going out for ten months. Everything has been pretty great, we had a couple rough spots, but things turned out okay. Well he gave me his myspace password, and of course, me being curious, i went on it. i was looking through his messages, and this girl kept saying i was a stalker and immature and stuff. I confronted my bf about why he doesnt stick up for me, and he just said that he's tried but they don't do anything and keep talking about me. i then said, why are they even your friends then? and he was like, cuz they're cool. and then he called me paranoid. like two times. what should i do?? (link)
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This is gonna sound mean, but I'm gonna give it to you straight. (I'm a girl, too.) He doesn't care. Those girls talk about you, but they're jealous of you, to be talking about you TO your boyfriend. But he doesn't care, because it really doesn't matter, and he's a guy. He doesn't like to get emotional, or confront those girls and say "OMG we're not friends anymore." Do you get what I mean? If I were you, I'd ignore it. They're just a bunch of whores on myspace, in my opinion. Let it go, because they're just being bitches, and they're most likely jealous of you. Wow, talking about you to your boyfriend. Pathetic. But ignore it, because it shows how strong you are. Guys love girls who are confident about themselves, don't let some bitches bring you down. Hope I helped =]
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i dont wanna sound dumb asking this but i edited a video on windows movie maker and the type i can only save it under is windows movie maker. so like for example if you save a picture you can save it as a jpeg or something else but for the video i can only save it as that (thats really confusing but hopefully someone will understand it) and then i go to youtube and it wont upload it from windows movie maker. it has to be like a different type. so i dont know how to do that cause theres no other opotion?
helppp!
ps. sorry is thats really confusing hah (link)
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Click on SAVE AS instead of save. And save the movie in my documents, not where Windows Movie Maker opens a folder to save it in. This way, it saves in a different format, and you can put it on a CD or youtube, whatever. Hope this helps, it worked for me. =]
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what are some songs that have good lyrics about saying goodbye, moving on, or being confused?
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She Walked Away- Barlow Girls
The Graduation Song- Vitamin C
Never Wanna Say Goodbye- JoJo
Icebox- Omarion
When I'm Gone- Eminem
Girl- Destiny's Child
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I'm 14 and i've never had a boyfriend. I don't really care and I don't obsess over it or anything but if I do ever get one any time in highschool I wouldn't want to do stuff like being fingered or sex or blow jobs and all that...
is that weird? I just don't think i'd feel comfortable doing any of that. I wouldn't have a problem with kissing though..
I'm scared i'll never get a boyfriend just because I don't want to do any of that stuff. (link)
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No, because guys that turn you down because you don't want to do that are guys that are just looking for action. I'm 13 and I'm not even looking forward to any of that except kissing. I'm really proud of you, it means you have high morals and you're definately going to be wanted because you don't let guys have what they want. You WILL get a boyfriend, and if he wants any of that, tell him that YOU don't, because your opinion matters.
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I was wondering if anyone can name me some, punk/rock/emo type love songs. PLEASE and thank you! (link)
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I'd Do Anything-Simple Plan
I'm With You-Avril Lavigne
Keep Holding On- Avril Lavigne
What I Like About You- The Ramones
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