ok so i want this next school year to be the best year for me. it is my sophmore year. i want to make a whole lot more friends.
but im really shy. i normally wait untill people come to me. so how can i become more friendly?
or unshy? haha lol.
im the type of girl who needs to be comfortable around you..for me to be who i am.
so any help on how to make friends?
I was that way too. I found that i didnt feel confortable around people because of the way i looked. i wasnt confident in myspel, so i kinda gave myself a little makeover (hair cut, some new clothes) and then i found myself being more sociable. Dont get me wrong. Im not saying that you have to look a certain way to get people to talk to you. Im saying that you have to be confident and comfrtable with yourself in order for other people to be too.
If thats not the case, then its all kind of on you. There isnt much advice to a question like this. You just have to find the confidence and put yourself out there. When you go to classes sit with new people, just start by making small talk, its easy at the beggining of the year cause you can say hey hows ur summer and then that give you a lot to talk about and you can be more comfortable around them. good luck:)
Jess
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Hi, I really hope you can help; i've gotten mixed responses from others...
Basically, my BF discovered that in my senior year of college (I graduated last year) I had taken two semesters worth of judo classes and he thought this was really funny b/c I don't look like, I guess, a "typical" jock chick--that is i'm not muscular or buff or whatever...i'm your stereotypical "girly girl" in appearance--tall, skinny, blond hair, blah blah blah and I'm like 125 lbs....so he's laughing at me, calling me "judogirl", etc., and I was fine w/all that, if a little annoyed, but then he made a mistake: he challenged me to a wrestling match...and I beat him.
He outweighs me by like 40 lbs. and is pretty strong but he didn't understand that my judo skills would use his strength against him and he just couldn't believe I won. I figured it was a one-time deal, but he was so bent out of shape that he's challenged me several times since then, and I've defeated him every time. It would be OK if he didn't take it so seriously, but he just becomes this mean pouty jerk when he loses and keeps challenging me and now i've refused to wrestle him b/c it's no fun and I hate his sexist attitude as well. But refusing to wrestle just makes him angrier and he says stuff like "you're just afraid i'll figure out your 'tricks' and win...it's so annoying!
I've considered just faking it and letting him win but I don't REALLY want to do that b/c I'm proud of my skills, and just wish he would be too...plus when he baits me w/all this "you're just a girl" crap, it gets my goat and i'm more than happy to throw him to the floor and pin him when he gets too tired to fight me off...
Have you ever beaten a boy at something athletic--whether martial arts or sports--or know a girl who has? B/c maybe if I can tell him he's not the only one he won't feel so bad...
haha well im pretty weak so i usually dont win at things like that but i have fun trying anyway haha, but i remember one time me and guy were trying to push eachother off a dock in the water and he was twice the size of me and i got him off fisrt, we just laughed it off and he didnt really care (plus he got me back later)but that wasnt as competitive as you were being.
But you know guys they NEVER want to be second best especially against a girl because were so under estimated. Hes probably just being insecure about it.
if you need anything else feel free to ask :)
Jess
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So when i was younger i was really popular.
i was friends with all the boys and i was really cool.
then i did something by accdent and everyone was against me. i made new friedns switch schools and everything was okay i guess. i would see the people that went agaisnt me now and then and it would be akward but whatever. now a boy who is really popular and cool and who i was friends with when i was cool is switching to my new school. its going to be really akward and am really scard !! what do i do??
Well there are two things you can do. Just ignore him, if you have a big school its easy.
Or just talk to him, it shouldnt be that weird, if you guys use to be friends maybe he misses you. Catch up on things. who knows maybe you could be friends like before.
Jess
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what do people mean when they say ayooo? is it mean like "hey you" or what?
Its just a way of saying heyy!
Jess
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My friend's coming over tomorrow and I wanna
do something fun and not typical. She's only
staying from like 12 to 6 so it's not that long.
She's either going to my house or we COULD go
out. What do you and your friend do when your
together? And we are pretty much best friendss.
If me and ym friends are hanginf around someone house we usually take pictures, and make funny videos. Or watch movies. We draw sigs for eachother or play games. Take a walk. hang by the pool.
If we go out we like to go shopping, see a movie, have lunch, go bowling, go to the beach, go to the park. minigolf!
jess
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Hey. well... last night i missed the new Kyle XY episode. they one where Lori gets trapped, and they all go out in the woods and stuff. is there anyway i can watch it without buying it off of itunes??? i'm not sure what i would search on youtube. so if someone can give me a site or a link or something, that would be awesome! thanks!
if you go to abcfamily.com they put the episodes on but because the new episode was only 2 days ago they probably wone have it up by now but it will be up before next weeks episode comes on.
sorry if the was a little confusing =/ hah
Jess
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Ok..my cousin's cousin. How is that person related to me, 2nd cousin? Or not even related at all?
they arent anything to you. Because its on the other side of your cousins family. Your not realted, and not second cousins.
Jess
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i know theres a gas that is way more dense than helium so it sinks rather than floating and when you breathe it in it makes your vioce lower rather than higher its kind of the opposite of helium. does anyone know what this gas is called?
hahaha i saw that on the tonight show.
its sulphur hexafluoride
Jess
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ok so basically umm i started smoking and well i just wanted to know cause i wanna be healthy and live for quite a long time and be able to play with my kids when i have kids and grand kids and possibly even great grand kids so if i smoke not even that often just every once in a while will that be able to happen at least be able to run around and play with my grand kids and i know smoking is addictive but i mean yeah
Its a drug so its addicting, even if you say you will only have one once in a while eventually you will probably grow to wanting more and more. Even one ciggarette is bad for your health. Its so bad for your lungs and can cause empazima that will lead to death. I dont reccomend it at all.
Jess
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Okay so my state (TN) has decided to mandate that every student K-12 get 90 minutes of excersize a week. Well they are using our homeroom time at my school to do just that. I think it is incredibly stupid because its not the school's responsibility to tell us what to do as far as excersizing goes. It is so damn retarded I can hardly stand it. I HATE coming to school now. OMG as if it wasnt bad enough LETS THROW IN SOME EXCERSIZE!!! Plus my homeroom teacher is strict with the rules, so if we dont do these excersizes every morning, she will write us up. I dont feel like I can talk to her because she wont understand. And I cant sit there and object while everyone else is doing it because that will draw negative attention to me. I get enough attention as it is for being fat. And thats not the reason I dont want to do the excersizes. It's just that 15 minutes is a long time for someone who is as heavy as I am and its embarassing to have my fat jiggle around for the whole freaking class to watch and laugh at. I would much prefer to excersize in PRIVACY where I dont have to worry about what I look like. High school is bad enough as it is. I think this is pure torture and I really want to refuse to do it. But I dont want to bring negative attention to myself. WHAT SHOULD I DO???? and what is your opinion on our new state law??
So as i see it your main concern isnt that you dont wanna exercise its that you dont want people to watch you do it. Well just go to your guidence cousolur( if you have one) or maybe a nurse or principal, sombody you can talk to and maybe set up a diferent time or a different room that you can do it so not everybody is watching.
hope it helps
jess
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I will be going into high school as a freshman come September. I am really nervous and people say "watch your backs if you want to fit in." Well I fucked that up already coming out. I want to join the cheerleading team, but I don't want a lot of people to say shit to me. Any advice?
Trust me everyone just trys to scare you. Freshman year was the best year of my life. Just dont go in trying to act like you own the school and you'll be fine. Yea omce in a while the upperclassman makes jokes but its no harm your not gonna get beat up. And go ahead try outfor cheerleading just be outgoing and fun ad people will like you.
jess
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how do people do the graffiti that is high up on the bridge? 1. how? spray cans? how do they know how to do the fancy lettering? 2. how did they get that high? some are in hard to reach places 3. isnt that illegal? how do they not get caught
1. yea spray cans. and the lettering is usually something they makeup or have done alot of so they know what there doing.
2. They will find nyway to get up, either by climbing or hanging.
3. Yes its very illegal and they probably do it at night when people cant see.
Jess
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The week of August 20th I am taking vacation. My mom wants to go visit one of my aunts who lives in Cape Cod. We were talking about dinner time at restaurants up in Cape Cod. My mom says that I should order what I am going to eat and eat what I order. I took this to mean that I should eat everything on my plate. So I said to her that you cannot control the portions given to you at a restaurant and does she expect me to eat everything on my plate.
My mom said she does not expect me to eat everything on my plate, but what she is saying is that I should not order five items if I only want four items or order the five items and only take two bites and leave the rest over. She told me that sometimes I order three vegetables and then I take two bites of one of them and say I cannot eat it because the vegetable is too soggy.
I told my mom her original comment sounded like she was telling me I should eat everything on my plate and she repeated that isn't what she was saying.
Later on when we were eating dinner in our dining room she said to me you can eat what you want you can do what you want.
My question would you think her original comment was telling me to eat everything that is served to me at a restaurant. If yes why yes and if no why no
shes just saying order something that doesnt sound to large mayeb even order from the kids meal if you dont think you will be able to eat. And whatever you do eat you should finish it all.
jess
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I have DEAD STRAIGHT hair and i dont like it.
I want some more curls and i was wondering if you could give me some tips on how to get my hair nice and curly.
You can try to scrunch you hair. It might not work but heres how you do it.
After you get out of the shower, towel dry your hair so its not driping wet. Then just get some styling gel and scrunch it around in your hair til its curly.
You could also braid your hair before you go to bed (french braids are better but whatever you can do) then when you wake up it should be curly. It works best if your hair is wet before you braid it.
Or just use a curling iron. Your air should also be a little damp for this then use some hair spray and it will stay in.
Hope some of these work for you :)
jess
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I had some mean things written to me on facebook in my honesty box and i really want to find out who did it.
The comments were quite harsh and i know that they are anonymous, but is there any way to find out who wrote it? I know there is an I.P. address or something that has to be attached to the comment, and if you could tell me how to find out, that would be great, thanks! :)
the only way to find out is if they tell you who they are.
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HOW CAN i GET AN HONESTY BOX FOR MYSPACE?
iF U FiND OUT PLEASE TELL ME
you cant. the honesty box is only on facebook, sorry.
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hey.
on facebook, i have the "honesty box" application. well, some people said some stuff in mine & replied, but it's been over a month & they haven't replied back. when - I - reply t them in response to their original honesty box comment, how do they find out i replied? do they have to check back on my honesty box? - especially the people who don't have the honesty box application.
thanks in advancee =)
it will give them a notificaton ssaying that you replyed.
jess
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ok, well i'm REALLY bad at showing my personality at first,i'm mostly shy until you gett to know me. soo, my semi-friend is asking me to hangout with her on saturday(sleepover) but idon't know,because i'm scared its not going to be fun and i'll bore her! i'm not good with just hanging out with one other person, how do i get out of my shell? should i go? any tips on this?
ps-i've known her for awhile only from school. i don't know if i should go for it? thanks!
deffinatly go. because it will give you help on being more outgoiing. If you always turn people down thne your never gonna get exsperience and you wont change.
Obviously this girl likes you for you since she asked to hang out. Just be yourself. Be outgoing dont hold back. You will come to find that people like you more when your outoiing. trust me i use to be that way to and then i stopped because i hated being shy and i have made a ton of good friends.
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I have this friend, ok, lets call her x. And her boyfriend, J. X and J have been going out for a month. They are both 14. X is very primiscous and likes to make out and stuff, which is fine with me. Like, they kissed the first day they were going out. They go over to eachothers houses all the time. And x (my best friend) said she would never lie to me. She knows how conservative i am. I think having sex at 14 is disgusting. I told her that and she said, dont worry im still a virgin. Then, j's best friend told me that they have had sex like, four times since they started dating. I havent told her yet, cuz she'll get mad. I havent talked to her since i heard about it, i wanna tell her, but i dont wanna loose my bff. WHat should i do? HELP!!!
you deffinatly should ask her about it. Dont go and just accuse her of doing just go to her and say this is just a question but are you sure you havent had sex with him. If she says no then tell ehr that you heard from someone that they said you did. Bescause if she really didnt she will probably want to know why people are going around saying she did, you know what i mean. And if she really did, then yes your gonna be dissapointed but you still have to be there for her. Even if you think it was a mistake she will learn from them. good luck with everything :)
jess
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http://www.journeys.com/catalog_detail.aspx?c=girls&s=shoes/Canvas&id=50681
is there a shoe anywhere else that looks similar to that? like i like that one and i like that style but i want to see some more optionss.
look in a famous footwear or payless.
there is a brand of shoes called rocketdogs and they have lots that look like that.
Jess
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