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Hey, My name is Ryan, And I will be your shrink for the day, I have 18 years of life experience, trust me I have been through it all, loss, births (no I didnt give birth silly), Parents divorce, my own bad relationships, I have fixed heaps of relationships, basically, I'm the one who will lay it out straight! if you dont want the answers everyone seems to give like those stupid answers that never really help, then come to me, I condone the realists approach, the ways that REALLY work :D so ask me about ANYTHING..

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I was wondering can anyone give me advice on the proper tecnique of making out? Because me and my boyfriend wanna makeout on the 22nd. I want it to be romantic and special. Its his first time and mine. Help me out please. I rate 5's for good answers but 1's for stupid ones.

if you set a date to make out.. it wont be special.. if you want your time to be special you got to just let it happen.. setting a date takes all the magic away...

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All of a sudden last night my eyes started to sting and get wicked watery... Theyve been like that all day since last night... Ive tried eye drops and they dont work.. Its irritating me because my eyes rarely water and now i cant even wear my eyeliner because my eyes keep frigin watering.... I just wanted to know what this could mean if anything??...

one simple word "Fatigue" you arent getting enough sleep hun.. go to bed earlier tonight k?

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my boyfriend always claims he misses me whenever i'm gone but i'm always the one that has to say it. what's up with that?

nothings up with it.. its just harder for some people to say that kind of stuff... he does miss you.. its just hard for him to say it.. just give him time.. in time he will say it..

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Hey does anyone here know any latin or greek or anything? Its about my love life but i cant say anything right now cause im afraid he'll read it, cause he uses this site too. So if you answer this question i'll tell you how it has to do with my love life.its soo cute you wont belive it!! I'll tell you what this guy did and you'll be speechless!! It has to do with greek mythology..but i didnt get the whole thing..so i need someone who knows stuff like that.

i know greek and latin.. i know all about greek mythology.. whats up?

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my boyfriend went to college on thursday.. hes a freshman.. and im a junior in high school. he went out lastnite n stayed out til 5 am n didnt go to bed til 7 am..im wondering what he did in between those hours..and i dont want him to be out partyin all the time cause i know he'll cheat on me. as much as he says he wont..i really think he will. we wont be able to see eachother alot because hes away at school..should i worry? please help ill rate high

babe.. if he gonna cheat.. he aint worth your time.. and theres no way you can stop him from cheatin if he tha cheatin type.. my advice.. ditch the loser.. if you cant trust him.. wheres the point in the relationship? there isnt one... move on and find yourself a better man..

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what exactly is the difference between an poid and a mini? besides the mini have colors? thanx
-chelsea

Ipods are between 10 and 50?GB where as a mini is about 5GB tops... its all to do with size and how many songs it can store :)

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everyone labels me as a punk, a punk-goth, and a goth! and some of my friends are like ick you listen to that music its all about oo lets go slit our throats...but its truely not! they just dont understand me!one of my friends is exactly like me though!i hate how people diss my music!if they would just listen to it they would be able to tell!! i`m getting so sick of it! what should i do??

i rate well!

its your music, and they can get over it. if you like the music it doesnt really matter what other people think.. does it? just tell them they can stick to their music, and you will stick to yours :)


** Condoneing the realists approach, dont bother with the crap other people tell you, it doesnt hardly work.. ill tell you the nitty gritty that will REALLY get the job done! **

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my older sister just had a baby. and me and my mom have been taking care of him. and now that i've had experense with babys. i think im old enough to take care of him my self. but everytime i ask my sister she says im not old enough. i feel she dos'nt trust me. i feel she dos'nt think im responsble. i mean she babysat infits when she was my age. how do i convince my sister that im old enough and responsble enough to do this

i'll rate 5s for good answers

Don't worry, its not that she doesnt trust you at all.. Its her baby.. its a maternal thing.. she would have a hard time trusting anyone who hasnt had a baby before.. dont worry, in time it will come to the point where she will let you look after him.. how old are you? seriously.. if you want a good answer.. we need your age :) thanks

** Condoneing the realists approach, dont bother with the crap other people tell you, it doesnt hardly work.. ill tell you the nitty gritty that will REALLY get the job done! **

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hey...well within the last year i have become christian. but lately i have been having my doubts. i have depression, and have had it for about 2 years now. i pray so much but i dont seem to be making any progress to becoming happier. i dont understand why my prayers arent getting answered.

Dear Typical Christian,

Praying never gets you what you want.. no amount of praying will make you happy, no amount of praying will get you the girl of your dreams, no amount of praying will heal someone with brain cancer, no amount of praying will win you a new car..

Praying helps in no ways at all.. being a christian doesnt mean you pray, or go to work.. the only thing about being a christian.. is that you beleive in god.. if you beleive in the chirstian god, your instantly a christian..

I dont know if there is a god, Im agnostic.. To me there is something.. but I dont know if its a god.. or just a supreme being..

if you wanna be happy, you have to make it off your own steam, meet new people, be out going, actually have fun! you cant be happy if you dont get out and enjoy your life.. you cant simply pray and be happy... you need to do the things that make you happy.. and obviously praying isnt one of them.. my advice drop the praying.. and get out of the damn house!!

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my brother is really spoiled. Here are some reasons why:
*he gets whatever he wants
*whatever he does i get blamed for-no joke.
*when he wants friends over, he can have them over (I cant.)
*if he slaps me or hits me or punches me, even if i dont say anything or touch him, i get yelled at. EVERY TIME.
*one time my friends came over and he started just peeing his pants right there and my friend and i told my mom and she didnt believe us even after my brother admitting it because she thinks hes "perfect" and would never do anything like that.
--this gets VERY annoying VERY often. I really wanna change this but whenever i tell my mom how i feel she goes "Oh please..grow up I never baby him" when she knows she treats him differently. I cant even have friends over without him around us!! please help me! what can i do???
Im 14/f hes 9/m

double jeopardy.. if your going to get into trouble for doing something.. you might as well do it.. forget how his mum treats him.. forget how you always get in trouble.. if your mum doesnt hit you.. then whenever you get into trouble.. just be like.. meh! shrug it off and walk off.. and next time your brother is annoying you and your friends.. walk up to him and kick him in the nuts (i dont normally condone violence, but since your getting in trouble for it.. make the most of it) then from that point on.. every time he is annoying you and your friends say "do you remember what happend last time you annoyed us?" and he will leave.. and if your mum hits you.. go to the police.. its child abuse and its illegal.. she does care about you.. its a given.. your her child.. but doesnt seem like she really cares as much about you as your brother.. just show her the same respect she treats you.. dont ever compliment her, dont talk to her ever, dont even look at her.. when you have tea.. take it to a secluded place where you dont see her.. she'll get the hint...

anyway, i have wasted enough of your time.. hope this helps

** Condoneing the realists approach, dont bother with the crap other people tell you, it doesnt hardly work.. ill tell you the nitty gritty that will REALLY get the job done! **

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Okay so my friend said she hates my boyfriend, and always tells me to dump him or she will make my live hell.. she said that i deserve someone hotter because my boyfriend is ugly, and cares about only me. She and my boyfriend are always arguing and it makes me cry, and today she was being really mean to him, and she made him cry, and then me. I dont know what to do..please help!

Ditch the Bitch.. she isnt worth your time.. friends like that are stupid as!.. i think the main truth is that she is jealous coz your probably spending more time with him than her.. but if she was a good friend she will pull you aside and say "hey, we never get to do anything since you started dating him, whats up?" people who try to ruin good things arent worth being around.. if she talked to you about it.. then its good.. but doesnt sounds like she did.. just tell her you dont want her friendship if she is going to act like a child.. tell her if you have a prob with him, you have a prob with me.. or if you cant accept that im with him, and i like him for him.. then i cant accept your friendship :P

hope ii helpd

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Can i simply have a yes or no answer to this question:
My brother used to put his hands down the back of my trousers and grab my butt and stuff like that, i told him to stop but he wouldnt. is this abuse?

Yep.. bar none.. 100% sexual/physical abuse :)

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13/f
well my best guy friend (friend with benifits) has his birtday coming up and i really want to get him something but i have no idea what to get him.i really care about him and want to get him something very special but i dont know what.Any ideas?

erm.. umm.. a headjob?

or if you dont wanna do that.. something he likes.. something he is into.. or maybe you dont have to get him anything.. maybe take him out for the day, but i guess coz ur only 13 this aint an option

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13/f
one of my best guy frins and i have gotten alot closer lately and have become frins with benifits.when he is around me he tells me that he really care about me and everything but we dont go to the same school so i have a frin who sort of sends messages between us.right now he is ground for 4 months and i cannot see him or call him and when she ask him about or brings me he says that he doesnt care about me and then starts callling me names and stuff but that is around he frins but when she will ask him when she and him are alone he says the same things he tells and is really sweet.i really like him and have liked him for almost a year and this has finally happened but he will not go out with me or answer why he acts like that or anything.i care about him so much and like him alot but i dont know what to do with him actin like this.it really hurts me.should i ditch him or keep trying?

Too confusing, try again..

my advice to that, who cares? you are far too young to need the stress of a relationship.. wait till ur atleast 15 :)

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Sometimes, out of no where, i'll get dizzy, my head will feel weird, and i see these weird grey swirls. i cant see anything else. it goes away pretty quick, but its incredibly weird. does anyone know what this could be? thanks.

Erm, It could be a mental disease.. maybe scitzophrenia, it wouldnt be bad, just mild, but go see a psychiatrist asap.. just in case

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ok there is this guy weve been friends 4 a couple weeks and everyone say he likes my friend but he syas its not true and i like him how should i approach him please i neeeeeeeeeed ur help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

he doesnt like my friend and i like him so what should i do b/c i dont no how to tell him?

err.. just walk up to him and say hi, what you doin on the weekend? wanna go to a movie with me or something? try that

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ok there is this guy weve been friends 4 a couple weeks and everyone say he likes my friend but he syas its not true and i like him how should i approach him please i neeeeeeeeeed ur help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

whats his obsession with your friend got to do with you? You don't need to approach him, if he likes your friend, its between him and your friend, and has nothing to do with you.

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I don't know why but I am scared of love, but I want it so bad. I am 19 and have still never had a boyfriend or even a first kiss because I want my first kiss to be special. I am considered an attractive girl and guys like me and I like them too but I won't let anything happen because I personally feel like I don't carry enough self-confidence which my friends get angry about. I think I worry about life in general and I'm scared that I'll just end up alone forever. What should I do?

hmm, seriously.. if a guy doesnt fight for you.. he isnt worth having..

like me, if I like a girl, like really like her, I wont give up on her! if she says she doesnt want a relationship, its just coz she scared or soemthin, so I fight for her to show her how much I care, if you can find a guy that fights to be with you and wont give up.. then you got a keeper.. hehe... it may not be true its just a guess but yeah.. hope it helps..

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hey im a 14 year old guy..ok theres this girl who lives in a different city who i met thru some friends who i LOVE! she is so aweosme! and she loves me too, which is great. but theres a girl at my school who really likes me and i kinda like her..and i might want to ask her out in the summer, but i wouldnt be able to flirt with the girl i love and she'd never forgive me or trust me again. but its hard cuz the long distance, even tho i visit her a few times a year. should i ask the girl at my school out or stick with the girl i love? i rate high for good advice

what do you think? come on, seriously think about it.. love over lust? i think you should stick with the love mate.. but if you are even having these thoughts.. i think you should sit down and seriously think.. is it love.. or just infatuation?

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i look for porn sites on google with my computer...everytime i get on google and i type "p" and the word porn will then flash on to the screen...i dont want to get caught!!! how do i clear the history??? plz help!

even if you clear the history it will still happen.. just look up as many things as you can with the letter "P" thats not porn untill it doesnt happen any more :)

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