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my brother is really spoiled. Here are some reasons why:
*he gets whatever he wants
*whatever he does i get blamed for-no joke.
*when he wants friends over, he can have them over (I cant.)
*if he slaps me or hits me or punches me, even if i dont say anything or touch him, i get yelled at. EVERY TIME.
*one time my friends came over and he started just peeing his pants right there and my friend and i told my mom and she didnt believe us even after my brother admitting it because she thinks hes "perfect" and would never do anything like that.
--this gets VERY annoying VERY often. I really wanna change this but whenever i tell my mom how i feel she goes "Oh please..grow up I never baby him" when she knows she treats him differently. I cant even have friends over without him around us!! please help me! what can i do???
Im 14/f hes 9/m
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Just sit him down and start a conversation about privacy and how you respect his so he should respect yours. Maybe then he'll listen to what you have to say. Good luck! Hope I helped!
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just ignore him and your parents for a while.
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tell your parents kindly that you do not appreciate that they spoil your brother and do not get the same treatment.
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move out justkiddin ask ur dad
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What you need to do to open your mom's eyes about how her son is no angel.There are ways like do you could have a hidden camera,capture his disgusting behavior if you have trouble have a friend or ask an adult how to use it.Or take him a picture without him noticing doing bad things.When you do you should also take out the film but make sure it's full if you don't know how ask someone but not your parents because than they'll start asking questions.If your camera to take photos has numbers increasing each time you take a picture well you'll know when it's full when the number is just there then it'll go down to zero , then a E that's what it did to my camera I used.If you don't have a camera buy one at the pharmacy,buy a film but if you don't know how like I said just ask someone to help.Take my advice.
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double jeopardy.. if your going to get into trouble for doing something.. you might as well do it.. forget how his mum treats him.. forget how you always get in trouble.. if your mum doesnt hit you.. then whenever you get into trouble.. just be like.. meh! shrug it off and walk off.. and next time your brother is annoying you and your friends.. walk up to him and kick him in the nuts (i dont normally condone violence, but since your getting in trouble for it.. make the most of it) then from that point on.. every time he is annoying you and your friends say "do you remember what happend last time you annoyed us?" and he will leave.. and if your mum hits you.. go to the police.. its child abuse and its illegal.. she does care about you.. its a given.. your her child.. but doesnt seem like she really cares as much about you as your brother.. just show her the same respect she treats you.. dont ever compliment her, dont talk to her ever, dont even look at her.. when you have tea.. take it to a secluded place where you dont see her.. she'll get the hint...
anyway, i have wasted enough of your time.. hope this helps
** Condoneing the realists approach, dont bother with the crap other people tell you, it doesnt hardly work.. ill tell you the nitty gritty that will REALLY get the job done! **
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You do need to talk to your mom again. But, this time, do not go along the lines that she treats him too good. Go along the lines that you and him are not treated equally.
I would probably start off by asking "Mom, who do you love more? Me or my brother".
If she says your brother, then you can immediately blame her for having favorites, tell her that she's a bad parent, and storm out of the room. For me, the ability to do that would be pretty fun. But, more seriously, if she says that she loves you equally, ask "The why does he get to do things I cannot? Why does he get friends over when he wants, and I don't? Why does he have to be around when I do have friends over? Why does he get whatever he wants? Why does he never get in trouble, and I'm always the one to blame?" and ask her to answer each question in turn, not just say "I don't." Ask for a reason, a proof. For instance, with "Why does he get whatever he wants?" ask her to give you an example of a time he did not get what he wanted, and how long ago it was. Then tell her the last time you didn't get something that you wanted. Same thing can go for the blame game as well.
Eventually, you should be able to cause some real damage to her argument that she does not baby him. Once she gets through the end, you should have shown her that in each question, you were at a disadvantage. Ask her then "So, if he is 9, which is old enough to have responsibility, why do you let him have an advantage over me?" That should be where you either get another opportunity to yell at her and storm out of the room, or get what you want.
Hope this helps!
-Steven
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ok. do what my friend does... video tape everything. At parties you will always see one of my friends with a video camera.ok here's what you do, bring the camera around and tape your brother doing something and then tape your moms response. Now you have two choices:
1) After she responds you can show her the tape.
2) You can wait untill your brother does something else and flip out on your mom when she doesnt believe you. Be like "OMG, you always take his side! You NEVER believe me" wait for her response and then show her the tape. Just go with the flow from then on.
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Well, you could try to video tape everthing that he does. Also, you need to video tape everthing that your mom does. Then show it to her. Maybe if she saw herself, she will realize how differently she treats you. (Say that it's a projet that you're working on)
Or, (assuming your parents are together) you could tell your dad. HE should be able to tell that you are being treated differently. I really hope I helped. This is not right! Good luck!
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I honestly don't know what you can do, my brother is the same way, except he's 13 (I'm your age, though I'll be 15 soon)
He's really tough and he once punched me in the face, chipped my tooth, and guess who got yelled at when my mom had to take me to the dentist, ME for upsetting him enough to make him punch me (yet all I did was pull him off of a screaming and crying 4 yr old that he was tackling). Anyway there really isn't anything you can do, my brother is the same way, and he effing gets away with everything.
Let me guess, he's the youngest? My brother is, that's why he gets babied.
Besides the pants peeing thing, and him having friends over thing, our brothers and moms are exactly alike with that. My mom always says "puh-lease I never baby him" and doesn't listen.
What about your dad? Is he in the picture, are you able to talk to him about it? If so you'll have to. If you still can't I suggest seeing a school councilor, though I'll warn you NOTHING is confidential, no matter what the heck they say (trust me, I was told to see the councilor and she said it would all be confidential, yet it wasn't she called home right after I left)
But still, if you're mom won't do a thing, and you're dad isn't in the picture or won't do a thing, then your next bet is to talk to a trustworthy adult such as a teacher, neighbor, parent of friends, or school councilor.
Sorry I couldn't be of much help, I just wanted to let you know that you're not the only one going through that. Moms will be moms, brothers will be brothers, not that it's right, but good luck on changing it.
Sorry if I came across as uncaring, I do care, and I empathize, or sympathize, because I'm going through the same thing. Also I'm a middle child so it makes things somewhat tougher. But anyway, I hope your mom realizes how much she babies him, maybe if she checks your computer history she'll even see that you wrote this question and then get a big slap in the face. You could even right her a letter with how you feel, then print out this page with the advice you get, put it in the letter and leave it on her bed. Hah, I just thought of that, it might even work!!
Well good luck, and I'm sorry that you have to live with a clueless mom and a spoiled brat for a brother, trust me, I know how ya feel!
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