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Q: hey...i'm 17 and my b/f and i have been dating for 4 years. We really truly love eachother. I know it's true and i know he respects me. When we were 15 he wanted sex but i said no and he hasn't bothered me with it ever since. That's how i know he respects me. Also, i know he has never cheated on me so i know he's serious about this relationship like i am. I love him and i know he loves me. I guess my question is, i can tell he wants to have sex now and it's making me antsy. He wouldn't ever force me too but i'm afraid that he'll crack any second if we don't have sex. Should i have sex with him or should i stick with my morals and say no if it comes up. I really love this guy..what should i do?

I definitely think you should stick to your morals. If you don't want to then don't and if he cares deeply about you and loves you then he will wait as well. I regret having sex before marriage. I was 17 as well when I did and fortunately I married that person but we both regret it because it wasn't as special on our wedding night. I hope this helps!
Crystal

Q: does anyone on here have a shar-pei? if so, does yours smell really bad? mine does and i was wondering if its just the breed, like odor gets up under the wrinkles or something, or if its just rolling around in something really nasty

My grandparents have always had shar-pei's and they are really bad smelling dogs so the answer to your question is it's the breed of dog. They definitely don't smell very good. I hope this helps!
Crystal

Q: whats the biggest difference between high school and middle school?

The main difference that I can think of is with high school you get a lot more freedom. I hope this helps!
Crystal

Q: is it normal for me to be crying over little things when i get my period??

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Yes, it's definitely normal. In fact, I'm the same way when my period comes. It's called PMS. I actually start getting emotional a week before my period so you have nothing to worry about. I hope this helps!
Crystal

Q: Hi people! I am on a high school varsity cheerleading squad. And the thing is, there are 15 of us and we are 600.00 in debt cause the last year's coach bought the team new uniforms and never paid for them, and now we need fundraising ideas. We already got the basics like the car wash, bake sale, candy sales, and things like that. So if anyone has any other ideas rather than the one's above, IT WOULD HELP US OUT ALOT! We also have to buy new uniforms as well! Thankz for your time! ;)

Hmmm...well the only thing I can think of is if your state does deposit on cans you can go around to different neighborhoods and collect soda cans. I hope this helps and good luck!
Crystal

Q: Okay, i've been having weird period cycle's.. at the beginning of the year i was having periods around the end of the month the 25th or 27th then they started earlier like the 15th every month for a few months well.. just last month and the month before i had my period around the 6th.. well today is the 10th and i haven't started my period yet! I don't understand this. I'm 17 and i feel like a dork. I have had sex before just to let you know.. last month about a week after my period well i'm pretty sure i'm not pregnant because i took a test and i'm not. But, i still don't understand why my period hasn't come yet..? I know this is probably weird but i'm having all my normal symptoms as usual.. i'm eating a lot more like i always do before my period and i'm eating chocolate "alot" and that's always before my period.. but i haven't started yet? This has been going on for like a week now. Everysense i've been with my boyfriend for about 8 months my like has been stressed with so much stuff.. do you think thats whats causing it? Stress? Or is my body just not normal..? Could someone help me please..!?

Well, it most likely is the stress that is causing your period to be late. That happens all the time. Also, you may not be on a regular cycle. Sometimes it takes a few years to be regular with periods. Also, if you're sexually active that may be causing it to be late too. When I first became sexually active my periods would be as late as 2 weeks sometimes so you have nothing to worry about. I hope this helps!
Crystal

Q: im 16, a junior in highschool and i was with a guy for a year and a half, since freshman year. well we have been broken up for about 5 months now and he has a new girlfriend but all the sudden ive fallen back in love with him. Im not even the same person nemore, all i seem to do is cry, its horrible and so not like me. Im too scared to tell him how i feel cuz i know i will just be shot down but i cant stand not being with him, hes been a huge part of my life, what should i do?

Well, first off this guy is obviously not "the one" for you. There is somebody out there for you. You just have to be patient and wait for him to come around. Secondly, don't confuse puberty for true love. You're so young now that you may not be in love. My suggestion is try to do things that take your mind off of this guy. Hang out with friends! Do some different activities and in no time you should be over him. I really hope this helps and good luck!
Crystal

Q: I am a 15 yr old who plays sports but i got injured (i fractured a vertebra in my lower back) ne ways i had to sit out for over a month i could not work out... Just a simple yes or no is 5'9" and 140 fat or not ?

No you're not fat so you have nothing to worry about. I hope this helps!
Crystal

Q: does anyone know some good stores for back to school shopping??????!!!!

I definitely recommend Old Navy. They have the best clothes. I hope this helps!
Crystal

Q: I have two horses that are the BEST of friends. You can't take one out of the pen without the other. They are stuck like glue, but one is 42 years old! really he is! and the other is at least 30. When one passes away, do you think we should put the other one down? I mean they are both already really old and I know that one would be in MISERY without the other. Just getting an idea if the event might arise.

Well, I think when one of the horses dies you should just really watch the others behavior. It might take a while for the other horse to adjust but he might be fine but if he doesn't adjust at all then I think it would be best to put him down. I know that's a hard thing to do but it will be best for the other horse. I hope this helps!
Crystal

Q: When waz ur first kiss?

I was sort of old for my first kiss. I was like 17 and my boyfriend (who I'm now married to) leaned down and kissed me the first day we started dating and I had know idea what to do. Hahaha! I was so embarrassed and to this day he still likes to tease me about it. :-D
Crystal

Q: I have played basketball all my life... it has become an every day thing for me ... every day i practice 4 to 6 hours a day... This year for some reason Im confused about wanting to play or not...I played this summer with our towns varsity and want it to stay that way, but if i end up of JV i will be really depressed like last year should i still play even if it means being on JV?

I definitely think you should go for it! I mean, if it means being on JV then oh well. Basketball is a great sport and it sounds like you are really into that game. I hope this helps!
Crystal

Q: What's a good way to lose weight on the tops of your legs? I've tried the running thing and it doesn't seem to work well. Bicycle? Walking? what?

Well, walking is a good exercise for the legs to start out with. I recommend walking for at least 30 minutes a day. Also, I recommend leg lifts. For those, you lay on one side and you bring your leg up and down. I would start out with 30 on each leg but if you can do more than go for it! I hope this helps!
Crystal

Q: Hey! This question is for anyone who has ever changed schools! I wanna know how long it takes to make friends! I'm really pretty shy and I'm so scared I won't have any friends!! I dont know anyone and I want to know some ideas on how to get to know everyone! Thanks a billion! -me!

I have moved a ton before when I lived with my parents and it didn't take me very long to get friends. I had friends the first day in school. You just have to go up and introduce yourself to people. If they look like they are going to be nice then just say hey. That's what I did! I hope this helps and good luck!
Crystal

Q: do you consider ppl with dirty blonde hair as blondes or brunettes?? cuz ppl joke that i'm blonde when i say dumb things, but i really don't think i'm blonde!!!! lol

I think dirty blonde hair is still considered blonde even though it's slightly darker. I hope this helps.
Crystal

Q: how do you keep your clothes from shrinking.. like jeans and shirts!! please help

The only thing I can think of to avoid your clothes from shrinking is to not dry them in the dryer. Let them air dry! I hope this helps!
Crystal

Q: I'm trying to lose a little weight and I'm hungry right now. What are some healthy snacks I can eat?

Some snacks that I recommend are fruits, veggies and granola bars. I hope this helps!
Crystal

Q: Ok well i been wid mybf for over 9 months and i have been thinkin bout"IT" lol well i wanted to wait till i was like 16 but i dont think im gunna b able to wait that long cuz im 13 now turnin 14 next month but i feel im conforablen stuff n im almost definately positive my bf iz!! lol so my questions iz do u think i should or do u think im to young?!?!?!?! plz help!! thanx

~*~ Should I?!?!? ~*~

I honestly think you should wait. Make sure he's the right one but I recommend waiting until you're married. I was 17 when I lost my virginity. Luckily, I married the man I lost my virginity to but I regret the fact that we didn't wait until we were married because it wasn't as special on our wedding night. I hope this helps!
Crystal

Q: is there good way i can lose some weight.. im not fat at all but i got some pudge in the middl of my stoamach... please help me

Well, first off, you should watch your calorie intake. Don't eat past 7pm and if you need snacks eat fruits and veggies. I recommend walking at least 30 minutes every day in your neighborhood. Also, crunches or situps will help your stomach. I hope this helps and good luck!
Crystal

Q: i play drum set and it's fun, but i never really want to practice or have a lesson. people are always saying "that's so cool it must be so fun to practice" but i get bored. my parents say that if i want to i can take a year off or something, but i think if i do they might get mad or think that i want to quit or something. I also think that if i take a year of or something my teacher will think i want to quit, or maybe i'll decide to quit! i don't know. should i just stick with it or take a risk and take a year off?I DON'T WANT TO DISSAPPOINT ANYONE, INCLUDING MYSELF!

Well, honestly, I think you should stick with it especially if you don't want to disappoint anybody. I remember when I was in school and I played the clarinet. I got sick of practicing too but I just kept at it. If you really think you need to take a year off then do but my honest opinion is that if you do you just might not want to go back after a year and if you like playing the drums then I say keep at it. I hope this helps and good luck!
Crystal

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My name is Crystal and I'm 22. I live in Oregon. I'm married to a wonderful person. We have been married for 2 years. Some of the things I enjoy doing are spending time with my bestfriend, Christine and her fiance, Aj. I also love spending time with my husband, Brent. I love to go walking and go swimming and also love to read but talking is my main thing. If you need help with something I'm here for you. I would love to give you advice. Thanks for reading!! :-D

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