this is why i hate the word slut. its become so common that many girls feel like if they makeout with a guy theyre attracted to, theyre a slut. TRUST ME..youre young & having fun..yourej ust being a girl! us girls have hormones and if were just making out with a guy for fun, why is it anyones business! so do not worry, as long as youre not off having sex or something then youre still respecting yourself by not letting him go any further. but if he keeps wanting to do more, stand your ground & dont let him. older guys are PRETTAY horny! hes cute, you wanted to makeout with him, thats that! its your life to live, dont worry about that term. its a stupid term. we're all meant to be sexual. and plus you were just making out. okay hope i helped!

leave him alone. its not gonna kill you, and its not worth hurting someones selfesteem over. it would humilate him and im sure he'll realize it one day on his own.

its great that you guys are in love, but you gotta make time for friends too! because in the end, friends are the ones who are ALWAYS there and plus every girl needs some girltime! you should consider apologizing to all of your friends and trying to hang out with them more often, if theyre true friends that is..if theyre not even good friends then dont worry about it but if you genuinely love them then you should definetely hang out with them and you can still hang out with your boyfriend alot too. plus absence makes the heart grow fonder..space is necessary in a relationship..and im sure he'd enjoy hanging with his friends too. but yay for you & your boyfriend and being crazy about each other though!

guys cheeks get flushed when they are very turned on ours do it too if you ever look in the mirror after making out youll notice! ist just the blood rushing to the skin.

you are COMPLETELY RIGHT! i hate when people say "if youre ready" to a 13 year old! no 13 year old is ready, sex should be an act of love and committment and its so sick how the world and society is these days. i wish there was a way that certain answers wouldnt show up so these kids wouldnt be thinking "well they said if im ready" UGH it makes me so mad! thank goodness someone else out there feels the same.

oh honey oh no its the plague! this is very very VERY BAD! hahahah im just messing with ya..its either discharge with is normal for all girls before or even after their periods or it could be female ejaculation. it means youre turned on. DONT WORRY! all girls get it!

the guy wants to pleasure you because he is definetely WAYY into you romantically and just wants to make you happy. ive read in cosmo that guys LOVE to satisy girls its one of their ultimate turn-ons! so trust me, this just means hes pretty much head over heels & just wants to make ya happy! haha guys think its hot when girls masturbate because thinking of them being comfortable with their bodies enough to pleasure themselves turns them on also. its just another weird thing. they love to think about girls touching themselves cause theyre CRAZY! haha.

sounds to me like a problem thats way too common these days: she has extreme low confidence. i know so many girls who have gone through the exact same thing because they simply just did not feel good about themseleves and would take any kind of love they can get, even if the guy is a jerk. your friend is most likely defending him because she doesnt wanna admit the truth, and even though its messsed up, she still feels some sort of love from him and thats all she needs to feel good about herself. but trust me..this CAN change! those same girls i knew..alot of them have gained SO MUCH confidence and now only date truly nice guys. so what im saying is..you guys have got to help her realize how truly great she is inside..and help her every day learn to love herself mroe and more..what she needs is strength & it comes from within her, but you guys can guide her. sit her down and tell her that you really really care about her so much and that this is only gonna mess up her life..tell her to think about her future and who she wants to be with..and also just let her know how amazing she is and that if she begins to love herself..all of this can stop. she'll realize she really CAN get better and NEEDS to leave that guy behind! over time, she will hopefully get strong enough to dump him! hope i helped

it's impossible to have NO libido. especially being 15..your hormones are going crazy..sounds like the problem is that you jsut need to get in touch with your sexual side and you probably weren't attracted to the people you made out with, which makes it just "eh". but trust me..once you meet someone you are attracted to/have feelings for..youll realize how easy it is to get turned on..confidence also plays a part in being sexual because if you feel good about your body youre more likely to be able to make yourself feel good and get turned on. so just remind yourself everyday that youre a WOMAN (haha) who has the power to turn on any guy and just feel good about yourself and trust me..once you meet the right person your libido will definetly be going crazy.

OH HELL NO! i literally said that out loud when i read this. NEVER EVER put up with somebody saying that to you..he is obviously disgusting and just wants action and ALWAYS stay true to who you are and if hes THAT much of a jerk to try to change you then he has serious serious problems. he doesnt respect you, dont put up with him. definetely time to find someone else, i promise youll be better off without that jerk.

all the ones about having a friend call are great. also you could try faking you feel REALLY sick or say some stuff is going on at home and you really need to get back and be with your family.

suicide is NOT the answer..i cannot stress this enough..please PLEASE do not even consider that..youre only 15..the same age as me..and you have so much life ahead of you..you have a soulmate out there who youre gonna fall in love with..you have dreams to make come true..you have best friends that love you and obviously if alot of people know you you are a very likable person..my best friend happens to be bipolar and he doesnt take medication for it and hes actually learned how to handle it and still be happy. plus you dont even know for sure if you are yet, and if you are it really isnt a big deal. i have mood swings jsut as bad, and im not even bipolar! i know you may think this is the end, but it's not..this is only the beginning of your life..and all of your friends will come back to you after a simple apology and explanation..trust me will they understand..it sounds like you may be falling into a depression or just having alot of confidence problems, or honestly it could even just be growing up. being 15 comes with alot of crazy moods and i promise it WILL change. you need to talk to someone right away though..someone who will truly listen and be able to help you..and try talking to your mom because i know for a fcat moms love their daughters more than anyone in the world and she will listen if you tell her youre serious and she will be able to help. it's all in your head..if you start to feel truly great about yourself that right there will help so much..remind yourself youre beautiful and can do anything you wanna do..youre young and things happen but it doesnt mean your whole life is going to be bad..you could end up being the happiest person in the entire world..just please please do not give up hope..so many people love you and you can show the world how strong you are by turning everything around and living your life unafraid. your options shouldnt even include either of those two things. happiness comes from within, help comes from others, and i know you CAN be helped for this. please just consider what im saying and know im praying for you and that this is only the beginning, everything can only get better from here.

it has to go in the about me or who i'd like to meet cause the code has to be in one of the sections so the closest you can get it to your comment box is having it in the who i'd like to meet.

if he isn't willing to have a relationship with you, then he has serious committment problems and im sorry to say this but hes probably just telling you that he tells people your his girl so you wont leave him because he wants the action. if he truly liked you he would be willing to have a relationship and he wouldnt just be hooking up with you, he would take you on dates, talk to you alot, etc. you dont deserve a guy like him..i say you should leave him alone and move on unless he is willing to change. try to meet new guys..truly nice ones who want a relationship and dont just wanna hook up and i bet youll find a really great guy and then youll look back and be like "thank goodness i left that guy" hope i helped!

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ive been on mine for 3 years and never had cramps. we are definetely just among the lucky ones! nope nothing is wrong even my doctor has told me not everybody gets them.

why would that be bad? that's having a heart. having hope & truly caring about him. praying helps..a miracle could happen dont lose hope! and you shoudlnt hate giving pity..pity is something that shows youre a good person and care about others.

first off i am so sorry. it sounds to me like youve gone through ALOT lately, and i promise you it can all be solved. talk to your friends and try your best to make everything okay with them, soon theyll get over it anyway trust me, and as far as school goes..i know how it feels..but the good news is that i turned it around and its not as hard as it seems. it all starts with finding happiness and finding yourself and finding confidence. i'm sure youre very smart, if you wanna truly do better in school just remind yourself of how smart you are and try as hard as you can to do everything you need to do and remember how good youll feel once you do. but anyway, DO not resort to cutting, i know the hairbands may seem like they help, but truly, youve gotta stop inflicting pain on yourself. and this is important: talking to people about what youre feeling is CRUCIAL. we all suffer pain, and pain can be eased by the love and support from others, but the only way you can find that is by finding someone you completely trust and telling them exactly how you feel. i promise that theres someone out there who can help you turn everything around, whether it be your counselor or a best friend. and one more thing: just be YOU. labels are stupid and i knwo youre only 13 but i bet youre an amazing person with so much to offer, dont be afraid to let your true self shine. theres always sunshine after rain..just talk about this with as many trusted people as possible and let everything out..and remember how loved you are and that every day is a new day and a new chance to be happy and start all over. enjoy the little things in life and try finding something youre passionate about, such as music or art. you will heal in time, have faith in yourself and God and the love people have for you & advice theyre willing to give to you to help you. i promise it'll be okay.

gather all your confidence, and one day just start up a conversation. a compliment is the best way to get her attention at first! us girls love a simple one like "you look pretty today, or "i like your outfit" just be brave and talk to her any chance you get, ive become friends with SO many guys because theyve simply introduced themselves. and trust me she'll be open to getting to know you..you sound like a genuine nice guy and so just make small talk and then day by day get to know her more and more. then you could try getting her screename or myspace. and dont be afraid to let her know you wanna get to know her, girls LOVE to hear that. "hey we should hang out sometime" is a perfect thing to say. i hope it all goes okay and dont worry about who she hangs out with, by the end of highschool were all friends anyway

well, youve gotta get in tune with your thoughts and what you truly care about and want, and that helps alot because it gives you stuff to talk about. also, try meeting more people and just completely letting go..dont even think about what people think about what youre saying..speak your mind no matter what comes to mind..finding true friends who always listen can help SO much..dont worry..it could just be a phase but it all starts with finding yourself and finding passions & interests and happiness and connecting with your thoughts.

hey all you pretty people out there.my names susan but i love to spell it Soozin..im passionate about helping people and making people laugh and just being weird..i believe that anybody has the power to change the world and love really is all we need. ask me anything you want i love this site its kickass!

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