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ive been really upset lately
hmm, where to start? Well, im a 13 year old girl. Everyone thinks that im this perfect girl, with a smile on her face everyday. But, on the inside i want to cry. No one knows that im feeling the way I am. I am so fake, that that makes me upset. Im like a prep. But, once I get home, I go upstairs and just cry. I dont know why this happens, or why im even crying. It might be because my friends are mad at me? That i got in trouble with the law recently and am going through that? That my parents dont trust me? That im failing school? hmm, im not sure. But I know the outcome is very upsetting. I cry myself to sleep, i've tried to cut but stopped. How though, im getting addicted to snapping hairbands on my wrist. And, ive wrapped my scarf around my neck tring to choke myself. No, i havent talked to anyone about this, I want to, but I just cant. The only person I thought about going to was my school counselor. but, i think that its because I dont want anyone to know whats happening on the inside.
I really am not sure what to do, but I need advice as soon as possible.
Thanks.
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first off i am so sorry. it sounds to me like youve gone through ALOT lately, and i promise you it can all be solved. talk to your friends and try your best to make everything okay with them, soon theyll get over it anyway trust me, and as far as school goes..i know how it feels..but the good news is that i turned it around and its not as hard as it seems. it all starts with finding happiness and finding yourself and finding confidence. i'm sure youre very smart, if you wanna truly do better in school just remind yourself of how smart you are and try as hard as you can to do everything you need to do and remember how good youll feel once you do. but anyway, DO not resort to cutting, i know the hairbands may seem like they help, but truly, youve gotta stop inflicting pain on yourself. and this is important: talking to people about what youre feeling is CRUCIAL. we all suffer pain, and pain can be eased by the love and support from others, but the only way you can find that is by finding someone you completely trust and telling them exactly how you feel. i promise that theres someone out there who can help you turn everything around, whether it be your counselor or a best friend. and one more thing: just be YOU. labels are stupid and i knwo youre only 13 but i bet youre an amazing person with so much to offer, dont be afraid to let your true self shine. theres always sunshine after rain..just talk about this with as many trusted people as possible and let everything out..and remember how loved you are and that every day is a new day and a new chance to be happy and start all over. enjoy the little things in life and try finding something youre passionate about, such as music or art. you will heal in time, have faith in yourself and God and the love people have for you & advice theyre willing to give to you to help you. i promise it'll be okay.
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The first thing that comes to mind is clinical depression, but when I read on, it sounds like you are dealing with a lot of shame. Depression nevertheless, but this seems to stem from your beliefs about yourself. Regardless of what you are going through, you should give yourself permission to love yourself and be proud. There are plenty of 13 year olds, who feel that their parents don’t trust them, have gotten into trouble in the community and experience conflicts with their friends. The number one way to cope with these stressors is to talk to some one about it, or maybe join a teen group meeting in your community. Once you hear about others going through and overcoming similar struggles, you will be motivated to address your issues with an optimistic attitude. Bottling things up leads to self destructive behaviors and god forbid you try to choke yourself again. I would encourage you to talk to your school counselor; if not have your parents get you a therapist of your choice in your community.
About the hair bands; from my experience, people who cut, and make an effort to stop, (which is always good) tend to resort to rubber bands or in your case, hair bands to snap at their wrists. The problem with bands is that most cutters feel they don’t provide the same degree of pain and tension relief as cutting, and as a result they end up resorting back to cutting, which leads to more secretive behaviors, in regards to hiding the scars, feelings of shame and possible infections.
I strongly encourage you to seek counseling.
Good luck.
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i know how you feel. So worthless like nobody wants you, like your your only freind. That the only person that could understand you isnt here, or gone. If your freinds are mad at you, why do you think this may be?
Stop cutting yourself first of all, your only 13. You can have worse problems. . . Go talk to someone, anyone, i mean, you have to feel close to SOMEONE.
If not, think happpy thoughts and try to have some 'you' time. Go shopping by yourself, do yoga. Brething excorsises
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save yourself before its too late. trust me dont get involed in cutting and all that it destroys your life, completley talk to someone before its too late- get help, and be happy your still young youve got know reason to be sad. good luck to you.
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hey ive felt like this before... you know everyone thinking your a happy person but deep down you feel the opposite and noone notices. so i no wat your goin through. you should talk to your school counselor since you cant talk to anyone in your family... and you deffinatley need to talk to someone about this. it will be really hard at first but you need to talk to someone before it gets worse, and after youv talked to someone you'll feel so much better trust me.
keep your head up gorgeous!
hope i helped xxx sally
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