I play volleyball. I'm not just a normal teenage girl. But I am going through the same crapola of highschool like everyone else.
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im 14 ...ok i've read like 1000 answers to how to make out and it all seems so weird the whole tounge action and i dont know i never made out before but i really wanna wit my b.f and he did it like 20 thousands times and im really scared cuz i dont no how and the other answers to like" put ur tounge in " really like dicussed me ..so i need some help !!!! and quick (link)
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First of all, nobody is a good kisser. Just because he has a little more experince doesn't mean he's talented at it or something. No need to fret. Once it starts, it'll all just sort of fall into place. Don't worry about where to put your hands or move your tongue. Since it takes two to make out, he'll kinda lead you along the way. Don't try to force anything, believe me, it'll be a little nerveracking, but completely comfortable once you get the hang of it.
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ok i hate my hair. its frizzy and when i wash it its curly and then when it drys its just puffy! now that its summer i cant jsut keep it straight. i use gel to curly it up. i want to amke it curly but gel isn't helping anymore it becomes curly and then puffy after a while. my hair is long its like a little bit under my shoulders. so what product can i use to make it curly. please dont give me a product if you use it and your hair is naturally straight because we obviously have different kind of hair and it might work better on yours. i jsut want a good product one that i can get in wallgreens duance or ride aid you know stores liek that. also, that isnt expensive. thanks (link)
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I have really curly hair too and around the same length, but if I don't put any product in it, I look like a Chia Pet. haha. Anyways, I use something called Curly Sexy Hair, in a blue tall can. It's great for my hair type. It's really light and foamy so that it doesn't weigh down your hair. I spray a reasonable amount into my hands and then flip it over my head and scrunch it. It's a pretty good price and it lasts you a long time. I think it's only $12.00. Hope this helps!
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The other day, my vagina was really itchy, for like half an hour, so I got really paranoid and thought I had a yeast infection, but there was no discharge or anything. The next day, it wasn't itchy, but I'm still really curious as to why it was itchy... I looked at my vagina in a mirror to see if I could see anything, and the skin of my labia was darker color than the rest of my body, but I heard that was normal, that the vagina could be different skin tones than the rest of your body.
Also, if I went to the doctor to see if it was a yeast infection, how would they diagnose it? What procedures would they do?
I'm 17
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Sometimes it gets itchy from irritated pubic hair follicles or if you haven't showered in a couple days. If it continues to itch, it might be an infection, but if it's just a one day thing, it's most likely cleanliness issues. Even if you shower everyday, maybe you should scrub a little harder "down there". You should be okay. I'm not sure about the procedures, but if you think it is a yeast infection, you should see a rash, inflammation, or redness.
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hello there , i have this big problem! ok there is this boy and we have been "talking" If you no what i mean . and well he says he likes me and i really like him , but i jsut found out he goes out with this other girl and i dont no what to do! so i really what to know what i should do please help me ! thank you (link)
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Well if this other girl knows about you, she might be in the exact same position. He's probably just dating around, not boyfriend and girlfriend, you'll know if he likes you when you guys make plans and suddenly the other girl is no longer in the picture. It could just be a friend that he goes out with sometimes. I wouldn't bring it up, because it'll sound a little obvious that you were interested. I would just make more plans to get together, and if he agrees to them, then he probably does like you. But if you guys just stick to "talking" and don't go out anywhere, then he most likely has something with this other girl and wants you two to be friends.
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I hav a friend and she has always been great to me. Ok the story is that I like this guy and she did too. But then she had told me she stopped liking him so me and him were hanging out and talking on the phone and stuff. But today I found out from her sister that her and this kid were swimming together because she was trying to out-do me. She is being a jerk and I don't know why. It's making me so mad and I don't know what to do. (link)
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Girls can be your best friend, until it becomes a competition. She's probably a little jealous that the guy she "used" to like is paying you more attention. If you and you friend have a strong relationship, you should get through this rough patch. Everyone likes to have the limelight sometimes. If it continues, talk to her about it, but I think she's just craving attention.
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How do you prevent cramps in your calves and feet in the middle of the night? (link)
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Try stretching your calves every so often so that the muscles don't tighten up in the middle of the night and cramp.
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ok my friend likes these 2 guys can she CANT pick who to choose so would u please help me. 1 man is evan- whos 2 years younger, hes a cutie and he asked her out twice and she denined him and wishes she didnt and ever since then she loved him for like a year but hes in florida now but hes coming back in middle of july. the only thing is she hasnt seen him in a year and she doesnt kno if he likes her. ok next guy is kevin- who just met her and hes in LOVE with her and obsessed. he cares about her alot and hes a year older. hes a cutie and they just started hanging out. shes torn between both of them and i doesnt know what to do. please help! any advice!? ill love you forever
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I think she should wait a little longer until making any final decisions. Just because she likes both doesn't mean she should feel pressured to choose. Maybe she should wait until Evan comes back and start talking to him again and see if things are still the same. But meanwhile, while he's gone, she can get to know this guy Kevin a little more before she just dumps a year's worth of affection for Evan for a guy she barely knows.
Maybe she should date for a little. NOT GO OUT BOYFRIEND AND GIRLFRIEND. but see one boy one night and the other another night. There's nothing wrong with that.
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my life is going go so good right now. everythings perfect, ive got the perfect bestfriend, and i have the perfect kid.
but, hes not mine. hes someone elses, and they fight constantly, i dont even think he likes her anymore. and him and i have always liked eachother, and he came over yesterday, and we were having like, 45345x of fun. we went to the park, and well, when he said goodbye, he said "i love you" and gave me a big hug, that like picked me off the ground. :P
and wouldnt ya know it... his girlfriends brother was there to pick him up. :[
they are fighting again, but becuase of me.. and well, i dont know. he always says sorry to me, and says he does love me.
but, he wont break up with his girlfirned, becuase his friends are her friends, and her brothers are his bestfriends. :P
:[ should i stick around, or just give up on all of it togehter. ? (link)
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If his relationship is bad, he should break up with her regardless of the connections made or if you're in the picture at all. You can't hang on to a realtionship based on the same friendships. This is a battle he has to fight on his own. Let him know that if he really loved you, he wouldn't be with the other girl right now and being a little pussy and backing down from the truth isn't going to solve anything. You can wait, but don't wait forever.
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well, ever since i started to like guys, people have told me i have very "weird" taste in guys. Because of this, i've had this habit of concealing (very well i might add) who i like (by not looking them in the eyes, etc.). Now people are thinking i'm bi or a lesbian, and it's very obnoxcious because sometimes they don't believe me when i say i'm straight. And on top of all this, i've started doing these habits with guys i don't even like! I really need some tips on how i can stop this, because this weekend i'm seeing this guy i really like at a party and i want something to happen between us and i don't want to look like a freak with all my weirdish habits. Thanks in advance! (link)
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Don't worry if other people say you have a weird taste in guys. People like who they like and sometimes we can't help it. We're drawn to who we're drawn to, initially, and if it's not the person that other people would consider liking, then it's not their business. Girls shouldn't have to follow a trend about who they're attracted to. Because in the end, the ones who don't, end up with the best guys. Now that you're self conscious about who you like, you just need to get back into that groove where you're comfortable around them. There's no need to avoid them because of other people, because then the person you like won't notice you! Be their friend before you pursue them because then it'll be easier for them and yourself to get along and think of each other as more than a friend. Hope this helps!
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Somebody give me tips to lose weight that will I will not turn down. I dont like veggies and working out is a hassel sometimes. I want toi be fit and skinny. I need to lose weight. I am 13/m (link)
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Only eat when you're hungry and not when you're bored. You don't need to work out vigorously, just walk around your neighborhood a couple times a week. Make a chart of all the foods you eat every week, then at the end of the week, you can decide which foods you need to cut out more.
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ok well basically i have no friends. and i have a major eating problem where i eat and eat and eat until i feel sick then i make myself throw up. i want to cut this out of my life and lose 10 pounds. so what are some things i can do when i feel a binge coming on? (link)
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Go to a camp, any camp, anything you enjoy doing, over summer so you can make some new friends. Only eat when you're hungry and not when you're bored and have nothing to do. At times when you have nothing to do, don't substitute it with eating, talk a walk around your neighborhood or ask your parents to take you to the gym. Put yourself in a reality check and really try to turn your life around. You have to commit to it. If you're really having trouble doing this alone, try one of those "Weight Watchers" things to keep yourself on track. If exercising really isn't your thing, then just keep ot simple and take your dog (if you have one) around the block. Don't skip meals and definetly don't make yourself throw up. Just learn the correct proportions. Instead of making a huge long term goals, take it week by week. Make a chart of all the food you ate and how often you exercised. Then at the end of the week, you can choose which kinds of food you can cut out more and how much time you can devote to exercising. Summer is a great time to do this, because next year when everyone sees the new you, you won't have a problem making friends.
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My boyfriend and I have been debating about whether or not sperm is still active when it hits air. Recently we've had sex (we use a condom) sperm will be on me or him and we have been really really worried (paranoid) that it will travel into my vagina and make me pregnant. I've recently heard that once sperm hits the air it's dead. True? (cant stop thinking that i could be pregnant!)
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Fact:
You can get pregnant if ejaculation(release of sperm) occurs near, not inside the vagina.
So you have to be really careful, even if you do use a condom, if it's on you, you can still get pregnant, because sperm can still manage it's way into your vagina and impregnate you.
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ookaaay so i got my period on the 25th of april. now im ussaully on a normal period cycle. i had sex with my boyfriend on either the 2nd or 9th of may. we used a condom. and i wasnt itchy down there. but i havent had my period since. and im having horrible stomach pains. its been 41 days since i got my period. does this sound like im pregnant?... and are there any signs i can look for? (link)
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Take a preganacy test. If you've been regular with your period, it's likely that you are pregnant. Condoms aren't always 100% effective. They expire and sometimes they break or one gets through and you might never know it until you realize your pregnant.
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okay well i have this friend who had been my best friend fot the past 3 years now. 6 months ago she found herself a boyfriend who she has liked since 6th grade(3 years ago)in the beginning he was the better of her ex boyfriends but now he is a total jerk. all he wants to do is makeout and go to 2nd wherever they are. when she isn't around or not paying attention he makes these really annoying/hurtful comments either to me and my friends or to someone about someone else and i hate it. all of my friends and my best friends friends hate him and know where i am coming from. Jess(my bf) really likes him. i dont know if she likes HIM or the IDEA of having a boyfriend. we have been fighting so much with any little thing i say about him. when he is with her she forgets that my friends and i are there. her boyfriend bobby will randomly walk up to her while her and i are having a conversation and start making out with her. i have come to hate him and i cant stand to be around him. i have told jess all of this a ton of times but she claims she loves him. and her and i never get alone time. i just dont know what i should do because she likes him and knows i hate him and still no progress with anything is being made.(ex. trying to not forget im there) what should i do? ps sorry this is so long (link)
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Let her know that there is a time for friends and a time for boyfriends. She's not being a very good friend and you need to let her know that, it's not only about her awful boyfriend, it's about her. Not only do you need to talk to her, you need to talk to him. You need to tell her, "I'm not okay with you blowing us off for your boyfriend especially when he treats you and us like crap. The least you could do is tell him to be nice and courteous and that when we're talking, let us have our alone time. I know you "love him", but I was there for you way before he was, and you should respect that." You need to tell him, "I'm glad that you and (put friend's name here) have found each other but just because you're her boyfriend doesn't mean she should forget about her friends and that is what you are munipulating her to do. We obviously have our differences, but considering how much we have to see each other when you're with my friend, we might as well be civil. I don't want you to come up and make out with her when we're having a conversation. Just lay off a bit." That's what you should say.
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okay so i have this friend,and we were really good friends in the beggining of the year, then she started being a bitch and talking about me for no effing reason!(i was hanging out with a different group that week) and so my point is,its like she thinks im stupid.like she thinks i steal like all my ideas from her,and like i cant think for myself. you know?ugh shes a bitchhh!what do i do??and no i do not want to talk to her about it,bc that will start another fight and it will be myyyy fault once again.omg please help.
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I hate to say it, but you have to confront her. Who knows, maybe she's just PMSy, or she's got something really shitty going on at home and she's taking it out on you. You never know, and it's not fair, but wouldn't you rather know and be content with the answer then just leave and spend the whole time guessing? Just be like, "I don't know what the hell is going on with you, but you've been treating me like crap. I have done nothing to deserve that. If you are honestly mad at me for something, let me know, don't talk shit behind my back and leave me confused. But I'm letting you know that this crap better stop because I can find much better friends." That's exactly what you should say to her.
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My ex got a summer job at the same camp I'm working at. Last week was our first week working together and he kept flirting and said to me "you know you want me back" right in front of other counselors. He's been calling me at night but I've been avoiding his calls until I figure out what to do. I like him so much. We were together eight months and we broke up in March. We met at this camp last summer. He knows I go out with someone else now and he keeps asking me what he can do to make me like him as much as I like my current boyfriend. So far I've just smiled and gone on about my work. The guy I go out with now is great!!!! Almost too good to be true. We don't argue and he treats me like a princess. Life with my ex was drama filled. My current boyfriend knows we are working together and he has no problem with it. Should I stay with this guy that is wonderful? or should I follow my heart because my heart is telling me to get back with my ex? Either way the rest of the summer is going to be hard...seeing him everyday. Yesterday he started flirting with some other girl but made sure I was around to see it. It hurt so bad but I didn't let on like I cared. What should I do? How do I sort this out? (link)
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I wouldn't break up with your current boyfriend. I have a great boyfriend now and I love him with all my heart, but I'd be lying if I said that when I see my ex, sparks don't fly. I'd be a hypocrit if I said, I wasn't attracted to other guys while i'm with my boyfriend, but it wasn't enough to make me pick up and leave. You might always have a little thing there for your ex because of all the memories you shared and such. But is it really worth to let a good thing go for something you're not in 100% with. It seems like this other guy is just playing with your mind and is a jerk. Your boyfriend sounds great, but if your ex is the only thing in your head, you need to be true to yourself and your feelings. It sounds like these feelings only appear when you're with your ex, and thats okay! If when you're with your boyfriend, there is no one else on your mind, then I think you'll be fine.
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I've been with my boyfriend since October 23rd 2005, i'm 15 almost 16 and he turned 18 in March. [ if that helps ]. He started living with me about 6 months after we met. We fight sometimes , but when we do fight he sometimes gets abusive. We got in a fight like a week ago and he grabbed me by the back of my neck forcing my head down in the my bed. My first thought after he did it was " well i don't feel the pain now , but i know in a couple days my neck will hurt ". and so it did.... i really love him alot and i wish he would change. is there anything i can change about myself for him to stop this , because i know in the future if this keeps happening , we won't be together.
thank you so much.
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YOU DONT NEED TO CHANGE! HE NEEDS TO CHANGE! The reason you won't be together in the future is because he's gonna end up in jail for killing you if you don't stop this now. You need to put him in a serious reality check and stand up for yourself. You might love him, but you sure as hell won't love him when he hurts you harder. Let him know that if he ever lays a hand on you again that isn't a gentle touch, you will retaliate and you will end up leaving.
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my best freind haley is going out with a great guy named steeve but shes so weird with him she will be in love withhim then she will break up with him or cheat on him and liek idk i feel really bad bc i tlka to steve al the time adn he used to love her like relally love her but the worse their relaionship gets the less he caresadn that scares me bc my best freind is starting to give up her player ways for him.. for example he always used to call her and tlak to her every night as long as he could now he avoids her cals and alwaysd calls me .. also when hes on the phone with me he only tlaks shit about her to me .. thne when they are with eachother if she isnt hoooking up with him enough then he will just leve and be pissed at her .. and im always the one stuck in the middle
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Don't get caught in the middle anymore. Invite him to your house and her to your house and have a serious intervention. She needs to make up her mind and he needs to tell what he's feeling to her face not to you. Tell them you're not gonna be "the messenger" anymore. The only way they can work this out is on their own.
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What do boys like in a girl
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Don't be slut, don't be dirty, and think you need to impress them by being naughty. You can still flirt and be down to earth. Don't wear excess excess amounts of makeup. Be confident and secure about yourself! If you have an flaw you're really insecure about, don't let it show. If you have an unseemly mole, don't spend hours putting foundation on it, just let it go and call it a "trademark". :) If you have huge thighs, don't think of yourself as fat, love the curves you have! Be sure in what you say and do, don't be hesitant and leave them confused, be headstrong, and leave them memerized.
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ok my ex bf who i broke up with about 2 months ago, has recently asked me out. He said he loves me and he needs me. So he asked me out again today and i rejected him nicely. I told him that I wasn't ready for a bf again and he said ok. But now he is telling everyone that he is going to kill himself. I feel terrible, its all my fault. So I feel pressured into going out with him again. But then I can never break up with him cuz he will kill himself, so i will have to like be with him forever. WHAT SHOULD I DO!??? (link)
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If he's serious, you need to tell him to get serious help and DON'T keep it a secret. If you think he is dead serious about it, sit him down and have a talk. Say you don't feel the same way, but you love him as a friend, and he should accept that as a good thing. Say you cherish the thing you guys had, but think it's just not going to work out again. Let him know that the more he tortures himself over you, the more turned off you are. You want a guy who is confident and strong. If you think getting back together with him will solve his problems, DON'T, because if he's willing put his life in jeopardy after only a two month relationship, being his "girlfriend" is the least of your problems and I doubt it'll make him feel better knowing the only reason you went out with him again is because you didn't want him kill himself.
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