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Q: One of my female student recently (after spring break)decided to start wearing skirts just because of a boy she likes, unfortunately she has no idea how to flirt....
She wears skirts but she covers her legs with a sweater eventhough it is 100 degrees...
she needs help
hahah so whats funny is i read this and realized your mr. zias, and your so talking about brittany and she is so stupid for wearing it! hahah i think its a girl thing though, she is very self conscious, as to most girls are! so im sure she will realize it by next year i mean there are only 4 days left of school and by next year its a way to start a new beginning but im sure me and sam can get her out to not wear her sweater when she has skirts :) p.s. this is shenaye,
brittanys friend,

Q: I'm pretty shy, and quiet unless i'm with my good friends. Well this summer i'm moving and will be a freshmen and won't know anyone. I just wan't to start over and not be the shy quiet girl people at my school know me as. What are some good ways to make friends? It's pretty hard for me since i'm so shy.
wow i know how you feel this happend to me too! the best thing to do is be heard if you want something show ppl ur not afriad to go get it or go after it.when you get into class, find someone to sit next to that you look interested in, the ebst thing to do is let people know your there dont stand in the corner sit in the middle and let people recognize you

Q: okay so i really like this guy and everyone thinks that he likes me. And i am not really sure but it does seem like it sometimes. Like if i act like i like him or call him he is okay but he kind of acts like whatever. And then the next day i will hardly say anything to him and he will be all over me like hugging me and throwing food at me and stuff. And i knoe the saying 'all guys want what they cant have' but i really dont get it. What can i do to make this guy like me always???he tells people he doesnt want a gf so does that mean he is one of those "player"types?? please help!
Thanx
it dosnt mean that he is a player, it could just mean that he wants to date and mingle and have fun i mean alot of guys do that in fact alot of people in general do that it could just be because they are afriad of getting in a relationship or comittment! he probably dosnt flirt with you the days you flirt with him becuase he wants you to realize he wants to make the first move, and that hes man enough to do it!
well the best thing to do is, dont listen to what your friends are saying rather its true or not, cause you will only know if you personally ask him or get him to let you know some how. maybe he dosnt want people in your buisness ask him you might be suprised

Q: I love you shenaye darling who wont even go to my birthday par tay!
im sorry kid

Q: okay....... so i really like this guy but im not sure that he likes me back. I mean i have given him everything. He knows i like him and that he can talk to me whenever he wants. (My friends thinks he does like me btw)but the problem is that he doesnt tell ME that he does. when anyone asks him how he feels about me all he does is stammer and say uhh-uh-uhhh idk. Does he say that becuz he doesnt want to hurt my feeliongs? pleezze help
thanks
well he probably likes you, but he is shy or he just has alot on his mind i mean most boys are conffusing(sp) right?anyways just give it time, things dont happen in an instant no matter how bad you want them to it takes time, so give it that!
hope i helped

Q: That would pertain to me having a dick!
alright,alright so lets not play army, how about......coins,if i flip it do you think all get head.ahahahah :)

Q: I dont have sex with strangers.....
hahahaha

well baby who said sex lets play army you lay down and all blow you up ;)

Q: *spoken in a retard voice* nooo I Do Not!!!!
*papapa please dont do this to me :(

*lisp voice*haha wells ahh how bout we go back to my place, i mean i may not me elmo but you can tickle me any time :)

Q: My girlfriend and I would like to know why she smell so bad down there (her vagina). :/ It smells like fish. She says she showers and uses soap and I know cause most times Im with her. But yeah.... :/ We just would like to know why? And if we can change that...
well...........

maybe she has vaginitas...
or the soap is moldy!
tell her to spray. perfume the end!

Q: I met this girl awhile ago. She is my sister's neighbor and I was atrracted to her. She said she just wanna be firends but something can happen. So the friendship is going great, we hang out, talk all night on the phone just as friends then last week she said she wanted space but she was laughing when she said. While she said that, she said she wanna do something we me that she could not say over the phone, what was that about? I been giving her space, but how much space should I give? Should I call and say hi or just wait??? This started about 6 days ago and when talked once on the phone for 5 mintues?? Is this a game? Does she like me?? We do stuff friedns wouldn't do and she calls me all these nicknames that usually isn't her???
well it definetly seems like a flirty kind of thing im not gonna lie and i mean if you really want to know if she likes you just ask her! she dosnt have a reason nto be dis honest so go for it ! and about the whole she needs her space thing im sure if she was laughing it was joke i mean just remember sometimes ppl do need thier space

Q: I am a 19 year old girl. I have always been a really skinny girl. Lately I noticed that my pants havent been fiting me well, and that my thighs are really large. I used to always be a size 1-3 and now they no longer fit me. I walk/run everyday but I do not know what to do in order to get rid of my thighs. Im getting really stressed about my relationship I have been in for almost a year and problems at home. Do you have any good advice for me?!
well the best thing to do is not get stressed and try not toworry so much. umm you can possiably try squats or launch si do that and they work real well i hope that anwsers . and try eating cabbage i know it sounds wierd but it burns off your calories and stuff :) hope that helped

Q: Okay well my best friend and i have been best friends FOREVERRRR and she just recently got a boyfriend... and i like him. i told her that i liked him.. and shes fine with it. and she knows that i will NEVER do anything to break them up. But i dont know what i do.. do i wait??? should i tell him?? or what.. please HELP!
well first off dont tell him because then your bestfriend is just gonna think your trying to put moves on him, and if it helps just see if he has friends or see if there is anyone else your interested in. dont wait becasue that will just mak eyou upset and jealous. try lookin for someone who is single :)

Q: i feel so uncomfortable when i make out because my mouth gets veeerrrrryyyy dry, and my tongue feels really rough when this happens. like i have very little saliva in my mouth.

most of the time i do have saliva in my mouth, but its like really watery (not like kinda thick and almost mucus-y like, so it coats your tongue and makes it slippery. hopefully this makes sense)

i try to drink as much water as possible, but i think i still might be a little dehydrated. i am also on a swim team and my mouth is exposed to chlorine. i know that it can dry out skin, but what about your tongue? like my tongue always feels really rough after practice.

any ideas?

thanks
well i know your not gonna want like a bucnh of flavor and tsuff in your mouth when you makeout but try like juice or something cause the more water you drink it may make your body not dehydrated but it drys your tongue out.

Q: okay so i've liked this guy for a really long time and we've been friends... friends with benifits... we tried to start a relationship... and that's where the confusion started in. so he was really into me.. but he was really moody... and i'm not sure why but he stood me up... so i've been mad at him for like a week and i haven't said a word to him... but today i just... went up to him and hugged him... but it wasn't a pelvic hug like usual... it was a hug... and just that. i'm still kinda mad that he stood me up with no explanaintion and no call... but i want to be around him sooo bad *sigh* so i'm not sure what to do cuz our relationship was the best when we were "just friends" but i really want more then that... what should i do? please help! o 16/f and he's 17/m by the way. and thankyou in advance!
well the best thing to do would be perhaps talk to him and see what he wants to. i mean it would probably work out better if both of you new what eachother wanted. because if you want him but he dosnt want you it wont make you happy at all i promis. and wait it out i mean if you guys both want the same thing tahst great just make sure you want it at the same time dont push it, if it were ment to happen it would :)
tell me how it goes

Q: i submitted this question once already but it like didn't go through so i fixed it up a bit..

alright well..

one of my friends has very strict parents. so they were looking at her search history and found her myspace. they also found mine.

i'm not aloud to have a myspace. my parents made it very clear that if i had one, i'd be in deep trouble. i wouldnt be allowed on the computer for a long time and when i am allowed to my parents would watch my every move. so on AIM, i cant talk to anyone about private stuff.

i deleted my account already but i dont know what to do. my friends dad said hes going to tell my parents. her dad is going to say he saw it a few days ago so there's no hiding that i actually did have one.

i really don't know what to do. i don't want to get in trouble and loose my computer rights. last resort would be to come clean but i don't want to have to do that. i need to get out of this situation. i really need help, and FAST!! please, does anyone have any advice?

thank you sooooooooooooooo much. you dont know how incredibly bad i need advice.
ok the ebst thing to do is just be like yeah i "had" one but it was emty and i didnt do anythin gon it, tell them you just had one so that you can look at other peoples. and that should work or at least help.

Q: 14/f
So i know this story may sound selfish but i cant help it! My bestfriend( known her since 2nd grade got closer in high school) is bestfriends with this other girl(name=chy) she meant like ONE MONTH ago and i dont mind that but everytime i make plans with my bestfriend shes like ohh sorry im hanging out with chy. im like ok .. then like in school ill ask her to hangout when shes free and she will say CAN CHY COME ill be like umm i cant go and like i make it obvious i dont like chy because chy never liked me( and ive told my bestfriend this but shes like oh) ughh.! and my bestfriends computer is broken so she tells me to go check it for her and i do and i realized that her top is :: HER COUSIN, CHY, HER SISTER,ME
i didnt tell her this cause i think its stupid.
and i just cant stop but be jealous of their friendship. How do i get over this?
=[
so i know how you feel the best thing to do is try something that helps you calm down like a stress free thing. take time to think about everything and it will help. make sure even if it's something stupid you tell your friend whats wrong because if you dont it will just keep bothering you, and trust me when you tell her it changes alot and you will feel alot better.

Q: Does anyone on here wanna be pen pals? caus for a chool project we have to... its just gonna be for a couple weeks i guesss.....

or could someone tell me how to find a pen pal/someone to write to?
do you have myspace?

Q: does anyone know a websibe that has myspace stuff (or a myspace layout site) that has just more than layouts and icons?
you can go to whateverlife.com thats where i get mine :)

Q: ok so i got this new layout, and you know how some layouts are meant not to show your top friends? well my new layout is doing that, it just is blank where my top 12 used to be. is there any way to make it show my top 12 on my layout without actually getting a new layout?? thanks so fricken much!!
there is you, you have to go t oa site and post in like all of your top friends, id number s and stuff , you can go to google and typ in top myspace friend editing and just find a site there.

Q: Well im 14 and i have been with my boy friend for 9 months. and lately he hasnt really been talking to. kinda like avoiding me. i dont know what i should. i mean i call him and try to talk to him. and normally we talk for a couple hours. but he tends to be like "i gotta go bye" after like 15 minutes on the phone. i dont know if its something i did.

what should i do?!
well just dont keep calling him, i mean guys hate being bugged about things like that. i know you wnat to because you feel like you need to fix the problem, but just let him have his space for a bit, and soson he will relize that he miss's you! and everything will work out,
let me know how it goes :)

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cheney232
ok lets see well my name is
Shenaye and im 16 years old.my life is'nt perfect but then again not alot of peoples are.i guess you can say i care about things way to much but i just like to say im sensitive. I'm very emotionally attached to people but I rather love then never know the feeling. I love giving people advice, I learn to listen to people's problem's more and more each day, My friends say I'm really good at it. It may not always be right but at least its something to fall back on if nothing else works right? anyways I've been through alot more in my life then alot of people can say they have: family,love,friends,abuse,drugs,suicicde attempts. and many more I dont like to really talk about it but I know its made me a way stronger person then I once was.
My friends are my life you mess with them i'llpull an operation beatdown on you

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