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i love him.. but hes my best friends boyfriend.
Okay well my best friend and i have been best friends FOREVERRRR and she just recently got a boyfriend... and i like him. i told her that i liked him.. and shes fine with it. and she knows that i will NEVER do anything to break them up. But i dont know what i do.. do i wait??? should i tell him?? or what.. please HELP!
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here is my advice you can't like your best friends boy friend he is off limits to you, if she's really your best friend then she's like your sister and you should have respect for her and your self. friends are for ever boys and men come a dime a dozen.....
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The real problem here is that you think that you can like only one guy at a time, and that if this guy is taken, then you are doomed. This causes girls in particular to either try to steal the guy away and usually make an ass of themselves for his attention and losing them both, or to feel alone and sad and jealous. Don't do either of these, please. He is cute and nice and funny, and so are a million other guys. He is also just a guy with unseen flaws which your best girl will eventually find out and pass on to you. Every guy looks fabulous at first, but the warts eventually come out. You may like him for the duration she goes out with him or stop suddenly when you find out some of his yuckier qualities. Don't think he is perfect and worth risking a great friendship over. Seek out other guys to date and hang with so you don't end up the third wheel all the time or feeling left out. Go on some blind double dates with some of his guy friends. Couples generally enjoy setting their single friends up. You will get over this guy sooner than you think, and keep your friend forever most likely, so start looking elsewhere for potential hotties.
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well first off dont tell him because then your bestfriend is just gonna think your trying to put moves on him, and if it helps just see if he has friends or see if there is anyone else your interested in. dont wait becasue that will just mak eyou upset and jealous. try lookin for someone who is single :)
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Okay well its good that you told your friend.
and its also good that you guys are still friends and she knows that you wouldnt do anything to break em up.
if they break up and you still like him..see if he likes you..and if he does..talk to him..dont date him YET..i have had my best friend date my ex right after we broke up and it sucks...so not right away..
wait a couple weeks..and if all the feelings are the same..go ahead and date him..just because your best friend dated him doesnt mean hes off limits..alot of people tell you that the guy is off limits..but you cant just not like someone you cant help who you like.
hope i helped
lemme kno how it goes **
<3 Megan
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i would wait. i think your best friend would get pretty pissed at you if you told him. because then that might make her think you're trying to break them up. that also would give the guy a reason to dump your best friend. then if he asked you out.. yeah you can see where this is going. so yeah i'd just wait.
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okay now that you told me she knew you liked him before they started going out.. i would have to say your friend's a bitch. that is really mean for a best friend to do something like that. i would tell him you like him. your friend should not have done that to you. tell him. screw your friend. she's a bitch for doing that to you.
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my suggestion is to just wait it out. because if you tell him right now, it will be awkward between the three of you. and it's not a very high probability that he will dump your best friend, who will then dislike you, and go out with you.
i think, after they break up, you should talk to your friend about it first, asking her if it would be okay if you asked him out. if she says, "it's fine; i'm over him," then go ahead! but if she is like, " : / ... idk i still kinda like him" consider the gains and losses of asking him out. will you lose your friend? what if he doesnt like you the way you like him?
you may even stop liking him by the time they break up. problem solved! but the worst thing to do is tell him now, have an awkward relationship with the both of them, and then have them break up, only to not go out with him later.
this is just my opinion. although i have been in your position. that is my strongest suggestion & the smartest thing to do. just wait for them. if you get seriously jealous, talk to your friend about it. if she was really your friend, she would understand how you feel.
one question: after you told her you liked him, did she go out with him? cause that's not very friendly. or did you tell her while they were going out?
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Wait, your friend KNEW you liked him, and she still went out with him? If my friend & I liked the same guy, I'd have the both of us give up to prevent jealousy & anger.
Talk to her about it, she's obviously not clear on that.
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I personally thing that telling him may just be inviting problems. Your friend obviously trusts you a lot if she's fine with it. I think telling him how you feel may just put him in an awkward position and it might come across to your friend as a way for you to try and steal him away from her.
Best thing I think you can do is just leave them to it and to get over it or just wait and see what happens (like if they break up) but then if you do decide to wait you could be waiting a long time. Best bet is to just move on and find someone else. Plenty people out there and it shouldn't be hard to find someone else you may like equally as much, if not more. :]
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