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E-mail: Kam98@rcn.com
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Location: PA
Age: 27
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Member Since: November 1, 2005
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Last Update: December 25, 2005
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i need to know what i should do about this. My friend and his gf broke up like a month ago, but theyre still together. I mean this girl calls him and goes over to his house 24/7 yet. Anyways, right after she broke up, she hung out with a guy shes known for awhile. They had sex! My friend is still with this skank because he doesnt know. I want him to know, but i dont want it coming from me. He gets really defensive whenever i tell him stuff about her.(he knows how she is, because she cheated on her last bf with him)the 2nd night.
The guy she had sex with (he now calls her a skank) told this person who told me, but said that i didnt hear it from her.
i need a good way to tell my friend, so that he will listen for 1ce!
i was thinking of making a new s/n and going about it that way. I want him to know that he can ask this guy she did it with (i think he knows his s/n) or a close friend of his.
My friend hooked up with his 1st ex the weekend after his this girl hung out with that guy. He wanted to have sex with her so bad, but she said no. He told her after that he still loved her.
They had a very close and special relationship, and i know he still has feelings for her, but do you think that he only wanted her because maybe he knows his little ho had sex with another guy?
Im not gonna let this slide. i want to somehow tell him because he has a right to know and even if he wont do anything about it, at least he knows!!! (link)
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First le me say sorry for the delay i was not on for 2 days. i apologize.
I understand where you are coming from about wanting him to know and you are a good friend for telling him. I think right now in his stage of thinking he is not going to care about what people are saying about his ex- he needs to realize she is no good and she cheated on him once a cheater always a cheater--if you really want him to know just say look" your my friend and i care about you and your feelings and there is something i think you should know you can do what you want with it take it and run or take it and do something about it but i cannot let this keep happeneing to you..XXXX did something i think you should know about and there are people you can ask to confirm it. See how he reacts and just like you said at least he will know and its up to him to do something about it. At least you know you did what you had to do. if you need anything please let me know and keep me posted. good luck
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Okay, im only 14 and i wanna have a baby SO bad. My parents dont really love me((ive been told)) so i think this would help me alot. i've babysat for YEARS and LOVE children. I wanna feel loved when i come home and a baby would do that, and i think teen moms are closer to their kids. I plan on gettin pregnant in 10th or 11th grade.Am i making a mistake by wanting to do this. (link)
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Oh sweety you are making a huge mistake--you are only 14--if you have a baby how are you going to support it--food clothes,diapers,yah you can love a baby but they need to survive--your parents love you--its called unconditional love--they may not alwyas show it but they do. I have 2 children i love them to death but if i could go back i would of waited until i was ready--i struggle very much and i am single--its not fun and you really need to wait and maybe talk to your parents and tell them how you feel. It is not all cracked up to what you think it is--really. You need to think of yourself first,finish school go to college and have fun--also when you are ready to date-or even settle it is harder to find someone who will accept you have a baby and then you have to worry about the kids feelings if it dont work out with whom ever you are with--i know i am going through it right now--yes it would definetly be a big mistake-
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i'm going to a green day concert in december and i realise there'll be thousands of people there but my friend and i were wondering whether there is ANY CHANCE of getting our cd signed. like, could we leave it with security guards and pick it up later?? or wait around long enough afterwards and go ask the band ourselves?? i dunno, we're not too fussed but we're wondering whether to try or not. thanks.
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Honestly you wont be able to leave it witht he securtiy guard or pick it up later--and as for getting it signed and asking your self is very unlikely--people whi get close u susally have back stage passes-and the band does not take time to just sign cd's BUT hey you neer know unless you try good luck
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a guy that likes me that i'm friends with is always pretending not to know things about me when he really does. For example, he knows darn well how old I am and what day my birthday is but when he's in front of others he'll say, oh your (not my age) right? Or {when is your birtday?) He also treats me really bad when he's with his guy friends. He will ignore me, and when I talk to him him won't give me eye contact. But when he's alone with me he's sweet and attentive.
Why is he so afraid of what his friends think? Is it that he's embarrassed that he likes me? (link)
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Well it seems t obe that he cares more of what his friends think---he has no respect for your feelings--or you--and if he cant treat you with the same sweetness and attentivness when his friends are around you definetly dont want to be with him--those are all red flags hun and if you were with him and something occurred and he needs to believe you--doesnt seem lik he would-also if he like you he shouldnt be embarrassed --his friends are more important--and thats typical guys for you but he has no repsect--you deserve better
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I have a coworker that didnt get any shifts for two weeks. I found out that she had been extremely rude to a customer (we work in clothing retail) so her hours were cut back. Well the boss decided to give her two shifts this week and guess what she was a NO SHOW both times!!! Me and the other girls think she did that because she was mad at the boss for not giving her any shifts for two weeks. Either that or she didnt know she had any shifts because she had two weeks of no work. But either way it was her responsbility to know if she was working or not.
My question is would that be grounds for her termination? I have a theory that after she was so rude to the customer that they didnt want to fire her but were hoping she would just go away, and by not giving her any work she would get mad and quit. I was actually surprised they gave her any more shifts at all. I asked if the boss was mad that she didnt show up and they said no.
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I am a manager and yes not showing to work is automatic termination--its called no call no show-granted they did not give her any shifts-it is her responsibility to see what her schedule is. She proboly found a new job and instead of properly terminating herself she went about it the way she wanted--but yes it is terms of termination.
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I'm 25 shes 19, known each other for 3yrs. Get on really well always laughing and flifting etc, lately shes split with her ex. We've done stuff before but no sex which is fine thats not the initial aim here, spent fair bit of time together recently, few kisses etc but then thats it. I'm sure she knows I really like her and she must like me too, but I fear if I lay it on the line with her she may clam up but if not then she'l certainly find someone eles soon, annoying thing is I'm a great guy and definately have qualities her ex's didn't she knows that too. (not meant to sound big headed). Which way should I go? We also work together so I always know when she's seeing someone and I think thats gonna start to do my head in, and if she isn't interested why is she leading me on!? Help please! (link)
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Ok lets see you said she just split with er ex--and you have done things before--is this while she was with someone? b/c red flag if it was-if she messes around while she is with people you dont want to be with someone like that--she proboly does like you however--you dont want to ruin a friendship and she may be thinking that way--she may like the attention she gets from you but tshe is only 19 and doesnt seem like she wants to committ to one person. She wants her cake and eat it to-thats why she is leading you on--you dont deserve someone like that even if you do like her b/c say if you and her do get into a relationship--howwill you know then if she is for real or leading you on until she finds someone else--she may just be keeping her options open--she may not know what she wants--is this someone you want to be with? another flag is never date someone you work with--thats a no no--thats like big rule number 1--and that is for all the obvious reasons. I would just go withthe flow and ask her what she wants to do in life--what are her priorities--make sure she has a good head on her shoulders--you need a strong person--good luck if you need anything let me know hope i helped
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I am writing this because I don't know what to do. I am really scared that my use of alcohol is out of control. I feel pressured by my friends to be part of the drinking scene. I see people in the media using drugs for pleasure. When I'm drunk, I forget alll my problems and school is unimportant. I've dropped out of sports and I o what I can to get money for my alcohol. I bring little bottles of it to school because I can't going the day without it. Can you help me? (link)
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The first thing you need to do is sit back and realize your life..is this what you want for the rest of your life? your not going to go nowhere--if you are that bad off you do need help--go to AA meetings,rehab,something and get your life back on track--none of your friends should pressure you into anything and if they were true friends they would help you not pressure you. You may wantto consider a new group of people. But you need to take this one step at a time and you already took the main one--admitting you know this is out of control. Now you need to step up to the problem and defeat it and know you are better than this. Have you tried to talk to your parents? i have been through this sitution with n ex of mine except his was drugs and he now is passed away(my baby dad) 1yr ago today--hunny you need to get on track--if you need anything please dont hestate to ask--good luck and keep me posted
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okay, you probably don't remember me...i have the friend who used me to get his girlfriend and all that other stuff....well, now i've got a bigger problem. his girlfriend keeps saying stuff about me to others. like, my sister told me that she told some people i was trying to hook up with my best friend which is so not true. then she said something about me always hanging out with him. okay, before we had this whole situation, yes, i did hang out with him. we went to see a movie every once in a while and we talked on the phone for hours. but why does that matter? he loves her, not me. i'm not bothered that they're together. i'm annoyed that she makes stuff up about me. and now my best friend won't even tell her to stop. he defends her and says i'm lying about everything. how can i be lying if she posts the crap she says about me online and everything? what do i do? he's always been a good friend, but lately it's just not worth it.... (link)
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hunny let me tell you something first...besides yes i do remember you :)....he is not that good of a friend if he used you to get anuone--and if i was here i would be offended that he could not get her himself and had to "use" someone else to get to it--if he does that in somehting like this he is most likely to do it in reality to other things....now she is talking about you to other people and i know it hurts and sucks but you dont have to defend yourself to no one--if they want to believe her and not approach the situation then they are by no means friends either or good people. She does not seem to be very mature either b/c she is talking about someone else. So what if you did hang out with him and go to the movies or anywhere else--seems like she is jealous of you and is now trying to get you out of the picture. People who are jealous talk about other people to make them selves feel better. Now if your b/f is defending her its b/c he likes her and is going to listen to what she says,and you know what he is not worth it either. If he eas a good friend he would say something,she will proboly get mad but thats b/c again she is jealous. So what i would do is tell him exactly what you feel. Tell him he has been a great friend and you have had many good times together and you feel that now that he has a girlfriend things are different and that you are not walking away from him but the situation b/c you dont need the drama and lies and if he ever realizes whats its like to lose a good friend look you up. If he lets you walk away with no words said give him alittle time to think about it--if he still does not realize it then you dont need a friend like that. Keep me posted and if you need anything im online. Good luck sweets hope i helped
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ok so this guy i like and i are really mean to eachother.. i know thats a way of flirting but i mean REALLY mean to me. he tells me he wants me to die and stuff like that in front of his friends but when hes only with me hes nice.. i dont know why i like him, and i have tried to be nicer but nothing works..
aaahhh what should i do!?! (link)
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Someone who is mean to you like that you should not even want to be with. Seems to me lik ehe is concerned at what his friends would think if they knew he liked you --thats not good-if he liked you he would be not be mean to you no matter what--being mean is not a way of flirting unless you are jokingly being mean and laughing afterwards,but even still it should not be just in fron of his friends. you dont derserve someone like that and never settle for that either
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Okay, so I've been talking to this guy for awhile. Lemme point out the majority of my friends are guys. I just like them better - they're easier to get along with.
So this guy is kind of a jerk, but he's not really mean. He just like, teases and makes fun of me a lot. I was talking to him the other night, and I said something about talking to much and joked about him "probably want[ing] to duct tape my mouth and hands" (we were talking on line) and he said "you know, I might just have to take you up on that," and we went into a whole conversation about like, tying me up and he made it like, really sexual.
Then last night I was talking to him and I asked him what he wanted (I meant out of life) but he turned it into a discussion about what we wanted in relationships, and then he asked why I was so curious/interested, and I answered honestly first, saying it was "just something to talk about, and gets me into your head a little." and then said (obviously sarcastic) no, it's because I want you. And he thinks I seriously like him! I can't convince him otherwise, and I totally don't. I mean, I like him as a friend, but that's honestly it.
I don't want him to go around thinking I like him when I don't. So how do I fix this situation? I've tried talking to him about it and calmly explaining that I really, honestly don't like him like that and that I was totally kidding, and he said something like "You can lie to me but you can't lie to yourself."
Yeah, he's kinda arrogant. But like...what would you do?
It almost sounds to me like he likes me, but he specifically said he didn't.
So I ask you, what the heck? (link)
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i know exactly what you mean. The majority of my friends are guys also and all you have to do is blow his words off. you know that you really dont like him and thats all that matters. Let him think what he wants its really not as bad as you may think. just play the game and keep up the conversation but let him think other wise. All that matters is YOU know the truth. You have told him time and time again you dont so your not lieing to either you or him--he is lieing to himself-good luck
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hey everyone me and my fiance' had sex with out a condom and we used the withdrawal method but i want to know what the chances are of getting pregnant and what i should do in the meantime when i dont no like before it kicks into making a baby i really dont want to confront my mom atall right now and im really confused and i dont no what to do for now should i just wait and see what happens or what i dont think i can get ne pills unless i tell my mom but yeah please help thanks bye (link)
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there is always a possibility. the best time to get pregnant is 2 weeks before your period or 2 weeks after your period. do your calculations and see if your anywhere close. if your still not sure then you may want to take a pregnancy test if your late--however if you worry about it that can cause you to be late--or you can go to your obgyn and get blood work taken and that tell you earlier. good luck
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I'm bi and I decided to tell my mom but now I really regret it because I think she thinks I am weird now. She acts really different around me. What should I do? (link)
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well you already told her the hardest part--the easiet part is talking toher to find out why she is acting different towards you. If you can talk to her about that ou can talk about anything..good luck
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Im getting my hair dyed professionally and its going to cost me about $50. Assuming the hairdresser does a good job, how much should I tip? Thanks. (link)
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anywhere from 15-20 dollars would be sufficient.
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ok so i was wondering if there was a type of contact that works for perscription needs, but does the cool color changing thing too...it sounds stupid but hey i like it, so deal hah (link)
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there are color contacts that are prescription but you have to ask your eye doctor to order them so that the contacts fit your vision--good luck and there are nest colors and designs that are also imprinted on contacts
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I am suppose to be getting Contacts I have brown eyes and brown hair and an upside egg shapped head (haha). So what color would look best? I wear black eye liner and black clothes ALOT! So... (link)
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you can go blue,,i have brown hair and blue eyes(natural) and it looks good--the only thing is b/c you do have brown eyez already you may have some interferance withthe blue and brown--you can also try hazel green that may blend better--good luck
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well my friend i think lied about being pregnant and after a while to get her way out of it she said she lost the baby which i think is an awful lie. but if you do lose your baby when your say 3 to 5 months pregnant do they like have to take it out of you? or does it just like go away? i feel like an idiot :/ ill rate any answer (link)
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if you lose a baby when you are pregnat you have to have what is called a DNC not a c-section. when you lose a baby its called a miscarriage and you already lost the baby and in order to have it taken care of you hae the DNC-its a sad thing and to lie about it on top of it for attention is worse. I have 2 children and i love them...people who are young shouldnt make up stories if thats whay she did...hope i helped
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ok so todayi got my purse stolen. I dont know who stole it but i kinda want to find out who. I was running to the locker room becasue i had to go to the bathroom so bad and i put my purse down next to my gym locker. No one was in the locker room besides me n two other people. When i got out of the bathroom their were tons of people in the locker room so i had no idea who could of taken it. I called my cell becasu eit was in my purse and my answering machine picked up on the second ring. I looked in the offcie but they didnt find it and they told me to go back in the morning. They asked the janotor bu he hasnt seen it. What can i do to get it back. I dont have money for another cell. (link)
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first thing you need to call the cell phone company and report the phone stolen so this person does not run up your phone bill..do that ASAP. as for the rest of it--well unfortunelty you maynot be able to gain it back--you will have to replace the items in it-NEVER leave your purse nattended--never trust no one--you will know this now but get your phone reported stolen right away
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Im like addicted to the computer, and i really can't stop. Is there a way to get me off of it? Please help. (link)
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well depends on what your doing while your on the computer--are you in school? do you work? what are toher hobbies you like to do? i sed to be addicted to the computer but eventually it dies off--hang out with your friends...no matter what you do at first you are gonna be missing the computer but you have to just keep busy doing tohers things and again eventually you will lean off the computer..good luck
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I haven't got my period yet. Im kinda scared about getting it. What if im in school? what if im in the middle of class and i have to get up and someone sees? what are some signs when i get it differnt from just an itch. Gimmie info (link)
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ok people vary on this..you may feel some cramping in your ovary area,you may feel like you are more hungry than normal,some people break out in pimples, take a pad with you in your purse usually when you first get it you only spot alittle and you will know it is coming...hope i could help..if you need more just ask..
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Hi. I like this girl alot and she wont realize how much we are meant to be. Yes i am only in highschool but i know she is right. I told her several times but she just keeps saying not now or i cant see you as more. I need to know how i can tell her that we are meant to be. Please help.
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you can tell her until your blue in the face that it is meant to be--she is the one qho has to see it for herself-you cant make her see something she doesnt want to--i know this b/c i have been trying to get my ex-fiance back and i cant do it no more--if she says she cant see it as anything more than that means she is not interested in you. its a shame but im being honest you may feel it is right but it takes 2 to make a relationship and it seems only you want to....good luck
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