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Whats wrong with her!!
I'm 25 shes 19, known each other for 3yrs. Get on really well always laughing and flifting etc, lately shes split with her ex. We've done stuff before but no sex which is fine thats not the initial aim here, spent fair bit of time together recently, few kisses etc but then thats it. I'm sure she knows I really like her and she must like me too, but I fear if I lay it on the line with her she may clam up but if not then she'l certainly find someone eles soon, annoying thing is I'm a great guy and definately have qualities her ex's didn't she knows that too. (not meant to sound big headed). Which way should I go? We also work together so I always know when she's seeing someone and I think thats gonna start to do my head in, and if she isn't interested why is she leading me on!? Help please!
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I think you take the chance and ask her out. She may be waiting for you to do so.
Like you mentioned, if you wait, someone else might just ask her first.
If she likes you she says yes and everyone is happy. If she says no she just wants to be friends, well, you'll be sad for awhile but at least you know where you stand with her.
Don't waste anymore time thinking and worrying about it. Find out for sure. :)
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I think you should talk to her. Girls have a funny way of getting to guys. Maybe dating other people is a way to make you jealous and want her even more. Tell her you like her, and be honest with her. Make sure whatever you say is sweet, but not "demanding", like she has to be with you. See what she has to say, maybe it will get you two together.
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Ok lets see you said she just split with er ex--and you have done things before--is this while she was with someone? b/c red flag if it was-if she messes around while she is with people you dont want to be with someone like that--she proboly does like you however--you dont want to ruin a friendship and she may be thinking that way--she may like the attention she gets from you but tshe is only 19 and doesnt seem like she wants to committ to one person. She wants her cake and eat it to-thats why she is leading you on--you dont deserve someone like that even if you do like her b/c say if you and her do get into a relationship--howwill you know then if she is for real or leading you on until she finds someone else--she may just be keeping her options open--she may not know what she wants--is this someone you want to be with? another flag is never date someone you work with--thats a no no--thats like big rule number 1--and that is for all the obvious reasons. I would just go withthe flow and ask her what she wants to do in life--what are her priorities--make sure she has a good head on her shoulders--you need a strong person--good luck if you need anything let me know hope i helped
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don't worry about it. let things unfold over time. the longer you wait the more chance you have at saving yourself. if this relationship turns out to be a hoax then move on. remember a queer can be found in any relationship at any time. good luck!
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This sounds like something my friend went through.. He was like a last resort when she had nobody around and he is a good guy and everything.. I`d ask her out and if she rejects you then move on hun.. But don`t let her play games with you either and lead you on and get your hopes all up for nothing.. ♥ Dez
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First of all, you really do need to slow down because I think right now that you're just going a bit too fast. And when you go so fast, you become overwhelmed and insecure and doubtful. I want you to feel and think positive, but I want you to be prepared for the possibility that she may not want to go out with you. Always prepare yourself for it and I mean really prepare yourself for it. First, approach her. Ask her in a calm, steady, and slow voice. Ask her and tell her what you feel. And look her in the eye and tell her how you've been feeling for the past three years that you've known her. And if you can mention it in some sort of way, say that you'll treat her right. Oh and tell her that you'll understand that if she doesn't want to go out with you; even if you don't understand it because it's a good thing to assure her. But you know, I think you have a good chance and I think you should go for it. And IF she does reject you, then that's her loss not yours. She'll get over it and with time, you'll get over it. Don't let fear stop you, this is an amazing opportunity. Don't miss out on it.
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Well first of all, she's a little young for you. She may not be as emotionall mature as you are and probably is not ready to make a commitment(did I spell that right?) But still, it is always best to tell her how you feel and see where it goes. Sounds like you're falling into the "great guy/friends" trap. And once you get in there, theres no getting out.
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