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i read in one of your answers that you have scoliosis. I have it also. I was just wondering how bad yours is. i had to wear a brace for 5 years.. and then last year. i had surgery..
sorry if its so random lol.

ooh. mine's not that bad. I've had it for ... four years I think. Its only a 5-7 degree curve. just enough to be excruciatingly painful when I stand for too long. My doctor told me that if I work out my abs doing pilaties (I spelled that wrong)or anything of the sort just to strengthen them it will take 1/3 of the pressure off of your lower back. and my colorguard insturctor had me improve my posture.. and holy hell you would not believe how much standing entirely upright and poised makes a difference.

I'm 22 years old. Pretty much all throughout my teen years I had a flat chest. Around 19 or so, they started to grow a little bit. If each bra cup could be a different size, one cup would probably be a training bra size and the other cup maybe an A. Is it normal for them to be so small and so differently sized? I was also born 3 months early, December instead of March. Could my prematurity have anything to do with it?

Thanks.

Its very normal for one to be bigger. I also have a cup size difference. my left is barely a B and my right is tight in a C. mine is partailly because of scoliosis which makes it drastic. but there's never anyone with real ones that are exactly evelny sized. to try to even them out. work more with the arm on the same size as the smaller one. its helps a little.
and your prematurity has A LOT to do with being a late bloomer. but boobs are annoying. be glad you have small ones.

i really want to get a smaller waiste size. Right now my measurements are 31.5 26 33.5. I want to get a corset to push in my ribs and eventually give me a tiny frame. the corsets at victorias secret are suppose to be sexy not frame building. does anyone know where i can get one?

corsets are really unhealthy. They push in your ribs. but they push them into your organs. then your organs move into other organs and its just a train wreck. In the end you can't walk up a flight of stairs without fainting. Honestly. Just don't do it.

To slim your waist do cross crunches or cockroaches. Or even hula hooping.

I went in a hot tub in my new bathing suit, which is white with a hot pink paisley design on it. I put it in a plastic bag, and forgot about it for a week or so.

I did laundry, remembered my bathing suit and tossed it in, but now the white is kind of yellowy.

Does anyone have any ideas as to how I can fix that without ruining the pink pattern?

Clorox 2 or OxyClean :]

Well my brother's computer has been running slow and it's not a virus because all our scans were clear and he barely saves anything.

What could be wrong?

Have you defragmented it lately?

If you don't know how to do that, most computers with Windows XP or similar go Start: All Programs: Accessories: System Tools: Disk Defragmenter.
Open that program. (or if your computer is different search for "defragmenter" on your hard disk) run that once and you should be good.

or the humidity or temperature may be getting to the hard drive. try putting a fan next to the tower.

So ive had a few grlfriends over the years, and i feel like each one has taught me something diffrent about what i like and dont like about relationships.

But what i can't figure out is,
why do i always get broken up with?

Im a good boyfriend!! I remember dates, i bring them flowers, i call to see how theyre doing, i do my absolute best. i really do. but they always end up breaking up with ME! i dont know whats wrong with me!

Like my last one, broke up with me RIGHT after i told her happy one month and gave her a ring. right after to my face! am i ugly or something? i dont think so. i like to think im fairly good looking.

this is probably just me rambling and ranting but id like some advice as to what i should do diffrently :)

thanks

Dude, I would kill to have a boyfriend like you.

but anyway, It sounds like your girls are extremely shallow. But It takes practice to find the right person. Just don't give up on it. You'll find the right one soon enough :]

Excluding prices for food and equipment and stuff, how much does it cost to purchase a Samoyed puppy? How much does it cost to get the puppy out of the shelter alone?

And for rescue puppies, how much do rescue puppies cost?

Most rescues are priced low to none.
If you go to a breeder, they can cost a couple hundred dollars.

Pro-shelter: If you adopt from a shelter, you're saving the animal from possibly being put down. Also you're giving it a friend as opposed to just staying as one of many animals being cared for. Shelter life is very unhappy for animals. He/She will be very grateful for saving him/her. Also, all medical problems will be known at the time of adoption. Most shelters will also spay or neuter them, and provide shots.

Pro-Breeder: You know that it is truely a pure bred. not that it matters entirely. A nice dog is a nice dog, unless you're going to dog shows. then it matters haha. but You also know the breeder's reputation, and you can get a list of any kind of genetic diseases that run in that particular pedigree. and You know that its not coming from an abusive or neglective household.

Con-Shelter: Kennel flu. other germs from being around so many animals. Also you don't know what kind of home they came from, so you don't know if they're afraid of a newspaper cause they used to be beaten with them. ect.

Con-Breeder: Some breeders breed their animals too much, this can cause serious defects to the puppies and parent animals. Some will rip you off too. big time. also they cost WAY too much, and normally haven't had all their shots yet.

hope I helped!
~Webby

I'm going to Six Flags in a few days with my friends. I'm usually not the type to ride roller coasters, but now i really want to ride some. The problem is, I don't know if i have motion sickness and I'm scared I might get sick. I've gotten sick on rides before, but that was because they were rides like the tea cups in disney world/land. My question is...what do I do if I do start to feel sick on a ride? Is there anything i can do to even prevent from possibly getting sick at all, like taking a medication? And last, if you're nauseated, what are some tips about how to feel better?

typically, if you don't get car sick, you probably wont have a problem with coasters.

Teacup type rides are different, cause its all circles, and basically makes you dizzy as hell. That happens to me too.

If you're worried about it, take a non-drowsy Dramamine, they work wonders for my sisters.

If by any chance you do start feeling light headed, nausiated, or what else, get something like Ginger Ale, or fruit punch and/or crackers or pretzels. These types of things settle stomach acids. Also, sit down, it may also be heat, or exhaustion getting to you. That's the worst. So stay hydrated and cool while you're at an amusement park

Have fun!

Hi.
I want to know if there is a way to straighten your hair easily with no stress without being a freaking millionaire that goes to the salon every day. sorry it just makes me mad how you have to be rich to look good. I have a conair straightener and i looked up straightening tips on the internet and it just gave me this shit about buying really expensive stuff. is there a way I can make my hair look wow without frizzing with a conair straightener and some straightening cream and gel??
you don't know how many thanks i have if you can answer this 1 for me :))

Try getting a shampoo and conditioner that are special for straight hair. I know Herbal Essences makes one that works very well.
Blow dry your hair, using a round brush. dry it in small sections from root to tip (if you finish by using the cool air button or settin on your hair dryer, it seals in moisture, reducing frizz) then use your straightener, straightening only VERY small sections at a time. And when you're done, apply a small amount of frizz-ease syrum or similar product, they're fairly inexpencive.

~hope I helped!

this summer, i want to meet a lot of people from my school and get a lot more friends. i also want something that pays over $7 an hour and is relatively close to my house if possible. anyone have any ideas? i want to meet guys mainly. so no girl clothing stores or whatever.

If I were you I'd go for the grocery stores or fast food/subway type things. Also, find out where a lot of concerts are or dances, or where people like to chill, and head there as much as you can and just, talk to strangers. well not complete strangers, thats kind of a little dangerous. well more than a little, but talk to kids you've seen around your school or that your friends know, yeah, become friends with your friends' friends.

Does anyone have any ideas on how to deal with Emetophobia?? Its a pretty gross phobia if u kno what it is.

fear of Vomiting?
Stay away from things that will make you sick, (i.e. uncooked meats, rotten eggs/fruits, other people who are sick...)
Or if it really bothers you, visit a shrink.

how can you make them fade away? what can you use ? i have been useing alivera but does that really work?

cocoa butter lotion and/or mederma typically work very well.

i have alot of acne scares. is there any medicine i can use to make them disappear. or any thing that i can hide them with. thanks :]

try getting maderma. its a regular scar product, but it should work well. I mean, a scar is a scar. If they embarass you a lot, or if there's an important formal event and you want to look good, just any ordinary cover-up will do the trick

my (first) boyfriend of 2 days asked me out on a (first) date. i dont want him to "make a move" so should i::

1. tell him that i already had plans with my friends to go to the mall, but he can come and bring friends

2. tell him that my parents wont let me see a movie with him alone, so tell him that i need to bring friends.

3. other

((also, will there still be a chance either way that he'll make a move?))

cause i dont want to have to tell him that im not ready.

im so stressed. HELP!

Just calm down and realize that he's probably just as nervous as you are. If I were you I'd just go to the movies with him. Play by ear you know? I mean if he puts his arm around you, thats nothing its like a hug. and anything further just ask him nicely to stop. He'll listen.

or if you really are losing sleep over this, go on a double date.

my girlfriend was over one time. and i asked her if she wanted to have sex and she said no. which i figured since shes waiting for marriage. then i decided i didnt care and i sat on her and forced her clothes off. shes really tiny and week she weighs like 91 and i weigh 156 so it wasnt hard. she tried to get me off of her but we both knew she couldnt. so my friend who was coming over to hang out with us came. and he held her down while i fingered her. she was screaming and telling me to stop but i didnt. then he sat on her and held her legs apart while i stuck my dick in her vagina. she was screaming and crying for us to stop she said it hurt.so my friend told me to punchh her so she will shutup so i did. i didnt mean to punch her that hard but she passed out. so i finished up and my friend left. and i just stared at her. i didnt mean to hurt her. i love her soo much. and i couldnt believe all the bruises all over her shoulders,legs,arms,colar bone and her face was dripping blood. so i got a towel and wiped it off. then when she woke up she couldnt move so i helped her get dressed and carried her home. i kept apoligizing but she didnt say anything to me. when i see her in school she looks scared and runs away from me. how cdo i get her to tlak to me thanks.

Yeah. buddy, thats called rape. Its a crime, She's going to be afraid of you, and will probably never want anything to do with you. Legally she could sue you, get a restraining order, have you arrested. Your friend too. You violated her space Big time. sorry but there's nothing you can do to get her back except respect boundries. Give her space, and dont go talking about it.

Ok I need to go grad dress shopping. I have a flat stomache but when I eat it's huge whether it's a big bite or small.

Should I get a loose dress or a dress that fits tight to show off my curves?

When I go looking for a dress, should I go with a full stomache to see if you'd see my tummy would show if I ate before I went to grad or not?

go with a full stomache.
even though it wont make much of a difference, a lot of times the whole bulging gut thing is a figment of an imagination. but for the sake of being self consious, go with a full stomache.

and get a form fitting dress. Loose dresses look weird.

so i'm a ballerina and i go to a really strict ballet school where you can't wear any type of chiffon skirt or shorts or anything with your leotards and tights- and i've always worn underwear under my tights.

yesterday my ballet teacher saw it and she got so mad and told the whole class that you can't wear underwear with a leotard. Well, here's my problem. My vagina leaks a ton of vaginal discharge all over the place during ballet, and so if i didn't wear underwear it would get all over my leotard and tights. Also- right now I'm about to start my period so I'm afraid i'll get it during ballet tonight.

What can I do about my vagina???

should i tell the ballet teacher this?

help thx

for the discharge, just put a pantiliner on your leotard. and if you really dont feel comfortable wearing no underwear. you can buy seemless thongs, I know they sell them at Kohls, but you can probably get them anywhere. and they're really hard to notice, so you should be good.. and on your period, just use tampons.

everytime i hit the ball it's always a grounder where i can get out. is their anyways to practice getting it up higher like a line drive NOT a popup? (besdies batting cages) thankss!

I'm pretty sure this has to do with where you hit the ball. Kind of like when you're playing pool and you hit the side of a ball instead of dead center then it goes to a different side. so if your balls are going down you're probably hitting the top of the softball. If you hit the bottom of the ball, it'll pop up. So Try working on getting a more level swing and aiming for dead center of the ball.
Also, you probably do but just in case, make sure you have a tight grip on your bat. if the bat rolls in your hands it effects the ball differently.

There is an odd purple lump growing on the bottom of my foot. I don't know what it could be! It itches like crazy and I cant walk on it, cause if I put all of my weight on it, I pass out for hours at a time. Could this be bad? Should I see a doctor?

Its probably a fungus, or if you had recently, or not so recently hurt your foot it could be a bacterial infection. And yeah. Doctors would be a wise choice if it makes you pass out.

im 13/f and ive had sex with 14 different guys. i know how slutty that it. i was kind of neglected buy my family so i needed a way to be loved. i know regret all of it. i realize how lucky i am to still be not pregnant and std-free. ive been going to church every other day and confessing. what can i do to get my life back together????

Very good going back to church and such. Join your church's youth group. or any group for that matter, dedicate yourself to something productive. Athletics, academics, community service, arts, anything. and realize that what's done is done. Its in the past and You don't have time to waste regretting things. But yeah. having something to dedicate yourself will help bring your life into focus. or even, get a dog, Love it. Dogs love back unconditionally. Cats too. or rabbits, and spending time taking care of it, You can learn a lot form animals.

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