I am a regular girl who likes making people happy.
I wanna help as much people even if just to give a second opinion or to remind and open the mind to new possibilities. Sometimes we know the answer deep inside of us, we just want to confirm it through others' advice. I am here to listen and help.
I love baking and doing crafts and am easily bored thats why I love this website!
Let us all make this world a better place- be a good example for others and lets empower ourselves by keeping informed and please stop judging!
Big hugs to you all!!! Have a good day!
Gender: Female
Occupation: baker
Age: 34
Member Since: August 17, 2011
Answers: 80
Last Update: April 15, 2014
Visitors: 4378
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Hi i'm from the philippines, i would like to ask how would i change how people perceive me? because a friend of mine told me that the impression or aura i give is that i'm an easy girl like they could bed me easily. (link)
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Well, take the advice as a wake up call, Youre lucky we dont see you so these are all unbiased opinions.
(1) check the language you use, and the tone of your voice, is it too flirty? do you partake in meaningless conversations with guys about not so decent things? (you know what i mean)
(2) check the way you dress. Is it too revealing? is it appropriate for the occasion? does it flatter you or does it just reveal flesh? Under dressed is always better than overdressed. be more conservative, so people will like you for what you are in the inside not the outside.
(3) do not talk to strangers and be too friendly with the opposite sex, or go out with them !!
(4) sorry, but in the Philippines and some asian countries, we have to live with the stigma that girls are cheap and easy so we have to fight and let them learn that NOT ALL girls are like this and we are decent
(5) if you know you are NOT, then let your so called "friend" think what she wants... only you know the truth and who cares what they say? Let them say anything they want! true friends and God knows what you really are!
You only sleep with your husband only if youre married and NOT supposed to sleep with anyone else!! reminder!
take it easy!! remember, this life is just temporary and we have to be good and earn points to go to heaven, so whatever you do should be towards the end goal of afterlife, leave all these stuff to God... he will take care of yoU!
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I am graduating this year and instead of a graduation party, my mom says I can take a trip to the French Quarter in New Orleans and I'm so super excited. For the past two years I've wanted to visit and now I have my chance. However... I don't know how to plan a vacation and I was sort of hoping to attend this trip alone, or at least with just my mother, but I'm not sure. Any tips or suggestions on a vacation? Any hotels within a reasonable price range? (link)
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Congratulations!!!(1) on graduating (2) on a wonderful mom with a nice gift!!
about hotels, jsut check the internet....
about the trip alone, its better bonding with your mom just like what i did!!! it will be the best ever time you will have with her!
check out lonely planet (book and website) and there are so many things to do!!! take lots of photos and make a scrapbook! try all the food!!! have the best time ever!!!
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Okay.. I am a Corporal in the USMC and I am currently over in Afghanistan serving!!! She is 19 and I am 20... I love her as if she is my whole world!!! We have two kids and two dogs!! I just need to know how to not make her worry every time I call her back home!!! I call her as much as I can!! But I don't want to make her worry about me while we are talking on the phone and Web cam chatting!! Could you give me some tips on how not to make her worry about me too much??? (link)
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Good luck and i wish you stay safe in your mission, I myself felt nervous reading your question... its good to know that you chat and call to make her feel secure. Maybe you can ask her to be busy with a hobby, like scrapbooking about your kids and dogs and what happens when youre away and about your conversations? tell her you will check it when you come back home.. or about your favorite foods like a journal of recipe writing, or photography and take photos and do the abovementioned scrapbook... or write and sketch the kids and dogs? keep her busy and tell her it will be a gift for you to look forward to!
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My bf is 16 and im 13 every time we hang out he would ask me if i wanna have sex with him i would say no and he accepts that but what if he brakes up with me we love eachother so much .and sometimes he would kiss my kneck and try to take my shirt off . What should i do o; (link)
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I know you are so attracted and you feel good when youre close BUT DO NOT MAKE THE HUGE STUPID MISTAKE OF GIVING YOUR VIRGINITY TO ANYONE IF YOU ARE NOT MARRIED!!!!!
you are right, you CAN break up, you will be devastated and regret it and YOURE NEXT GREAT GUY WILL COME ALONG AND WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO GIVE HIM THEN?
Sex is a bodily function created by God to make kids, did your boyfriend want to make kids when he takes your shirt of? ask him then!
YOU HAVE TO WEAR WHITE ON YOUR WEDDING DAY TO SYMBOLIZE PURITY, what would you wear then?
youre still young!! try to distract yourselves with activities and THINK FIRST BEFORE DOING ANYTHING!!!!
BE STRONG!!!! I believe you can be strong!!
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Hi!
I just wanted to know what i could use an old house for instead of just a house. I inherited an old house and its really nice and i don't know what to do with it so i'm asking you. Ron 777 (link)
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Thats right, you can turn it into your place of business, a factory manufacturing something, a school or day care, or for pets while their owners are out (like a hotel for dogs) or a B&B is really nice, all depends on your location, business rules, permits and your interests.. have it for rent... lots of ideas... it will come to you, whatever you do make sure its legal.. if its nice, rent if out for movies! good luck!!
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Hi!
I have scholiosis and I was wondering what exercises could i do without hurting my back? I have growing rods in my back, and that limits my physical abilities. I am 35 pounds overweight and I need exercises that I can do that will help me lose weight. It is so frustrating because I can't lose weight and my mom won't buy me an eliptical because she doesn't think I'll use it. Please help!!!
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hello, i have scoliosis too!!
just do things that are balanced left and right of your body. swimming is perfect for losing weight as well! cycling has helped me lots, BUT depends, Road bikes hurt your neck, MTB is too jarring to the discs. just regular biking will do. Pilates and yoga is really good, it seems like its relaxing or too easy but you feel the stretch and it keeps you agile. do not go for bowling, tennis, golf, baseball.. all are one sided... walking is good but you gotta have good shoes to cushion your heel and knees..
try swimming! its the best and cool too!
hope i was able to help! a physical therapist can recommend some exercises you can do in bed too...that will keep your back muscles strong.
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hello, this question is actually for a guys. i've been with my boyfriend for a year and half. we love and care for each other. but sometimes when we quarrel or argue he becomes really really stubborn and he starts saying,' it worries me that we have not much in common'. what does he mean by we have not much in common? is he thinking about breaking up or what? he never says sorry but he does talk to me and comfort me afterwards. help guys. thanks. (link)
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Well guys or girls are in a relationship to get to know each other and you have to be thankful for this opportunity that you are learning a lot about him.
Would you wanna be with someone forever that "never says sorry?"Even if he comforts you and talks afterwards, these things shouldnt've happened in the first place.
How would you deal with his stubborness in the future?
By saying "it worries me", He wants it to work out between you two, but he is discovreing stuff about you that is gradually opening his eyes ...
you have to talk about these differences because there will really be, since you 2 are unique individuals) but you have to draw the line which are acceptable and which are not...issues that would affect your future as a couple and as parents perhaps...good luck! enjoy the adventure!
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Which way is the best way to commit suicide which hurts less and is quick (link)
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NOTHING CAN BE TOO BAD TO END YOUR LIFE!
if you commit suicide you will go to HELL that is a really really terrible state...
you are alive for a reason, it is wrong to take your own life!
Pray and Remember this:Lord, when I loose hope because my plans have come to nothing, help me to remember that your love is always greater than my disappointments and your plans for my life are alwyas better than my dreams.
Please take time to think of the many blessings you have and that so MANY MANY others are so unfortunate who need your help...
i will pray for you... hang on there!
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Hi I really want to get rid of my dark circles under my eyes and my "hooded eyes". The top part of my eyelids are drooping over the rest of my eyelid, if that made any sense.
It's not from old age, I'm still a teenager, it's just genetic. My mom and dad have dark circles, my brother and sisters have them, and I have them. Are there any natural ways to get rid of them? By the way, I don't have the money to buy hydrolyze or something like that, I was wondering if maybe you could use something like oatmeal (that was random) to get rid of them. Thanks! (link)
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well, i suggest you take enough water and sleep.
then dab concealer that would balance the color of the eye area to your skin and finish off with a high coverage powder to even out your make up..
check out also eye creams you can use at night and use regularly, its a lot better than expensive eye creams that promise fast results because its the frequency of use and length of time that is much more significant than "miracles".. :)
i guess keeping the eye area cool would help too, like slicing cool cucumber pieces to rest your eyes at the end of the day.
also use sun glasses during the day because when we dont, and the sun is hot, we squint and use eye muscles that forms eye bags and dark circles too..
good luck!
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I don't eat anything when I go to school because I don't like the food. I cabnt pack a lunch everyday, I just wait to go home and eat. Sometimes I feel sick and sometimes I throw up liquid when I haven't eaten anything. Why do I feel like I have to puke when I don't eat? (link)
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both advices mentioned are correct and I would just like to add that
1) start with your favorite food- you HAVE to eat something or else nothing will enter your mind in school it will be useless...no energy.
2)what do you eat at home? bring that to school.
3) i was operated on before and i was advised not to eat the night before and after the operation and i vomitted GREEN YUCKY STUFF. it was stomach acid. thats what is left when there is no food or drink in the stomach and it tastes bitter and yucky. thats the bottom of the barrel. that is the lining of your stomach that helps break down the food we eat and its not supposed to go out. but there is nothing and it creates acid and it (sort of like a science experiment) bubbles and goes up as vommit. that is really bad!
so YOU HAVE TO EAT please!!! crackers and cheese is good. milk and cookies are good. chocolate drink is good. just eat.good luck!
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Help!! what should I do if my ex-bf says were going out but were really not??? but he thinks were together though. but I told him that were not and he still doesnt get it. what do i do??? (link)
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He is so childish and am glad you realized that sooner not later and he is an EX now..
Just leave him think what he wants, do not worry because people will not see you with him, they will see you with your friends, and the good friends you have will believe YOU not him...
let him dream of having what he can never have ever again! :)
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My bestfriend says Im naive in relationships (link)
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It means you dont have enough knowledge about relationships ...
It is not a bad thing though- since relationships are for 2 or more to experience and learn together.. how else will you learn if not in trying... No one is supposed to know everything at the same time and that is the beauty of life- learning and growing.
like relationships with your parents, your brothers, your classmates... all these kinds of relationships need work and give and take and we learn from all thses. :)
enjoy life and remember- to look at the bright side... when you think something is said about you that is negative, you can turn it around and make it into a good thing!
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i am 15 teen years old and i need a job too save for new shoes, and i wanna work a t mcdonalds how old do i havee to be? (link)
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Al you gotta do is go the shop and ask the manager!
But seriously consider selling homemade goodies! you will enjoy it more and learn a lot from selling. Perfect a batch of your favorite cookies and sell it to your classmates and nneighbors- im sure they will love the smell coming from your house and you will earn lots!
good luck!
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i work at a fast food resturaunt, therefore, i never get to sit. i'm very skinny but i'm so out of shape. when i get home, my legs are killing me and my abdomen and back are aching like hell. this happens after EVERY SINGLE SHIFT AT WORK. and now, they are short staffed so my hours are going up and i know i can't do it. this is giving me extreme anxiety and depression and i don't know how to fix it, besides looking for another job (which i am). i have two 9 hour shifts coming up and i don't want to have to leave early if they need me but i don't want to get sick at work and end up being a drag instead of a help. furthermore, i just don't want to go to work. i hate being in pain and i hate being sick and every time i come home, i'm sick and in severe pain. what do i do? (link)
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I had the same problem as you are, and it seemed like sitting to pee was the only sitting i got during 8+ hours... (well I quit my job eventually)
Here is my advice:
1) I dont know if you had cramps every night during sleep cause i had those too, and I took Crampeze its just extra vitamin B to help the nervhes... so take Vitamin B.
2) I hope youre using really good work shoes or rubber shoes (trainers) because it provides much needed support for the ankles, the padding for the ball of the foot, and the protection against slipping on oily or wet work floors. Use thick socks too.
3) You do need to exercise- i cycled to and from work and it gave e the extra mboost of energy- I didnt feel as sluggish as when i took the bus..Think of it as a warm up and cool down from work..
4) try to wear a back support bra or undergarment?
and avoid heavy lifting SERIOUSLY! dont take the heavy jobs- the boys can do those- it will damage you FOREVER! you need your back!
So, try to think of something else to do- in the long run it wont do you any good. Health IS INDEED Wealth what good are you if youre in a hospital bed?the above pointers are just remedies, but not for the long term. I have a very small frame too and there are other jobs for our body type- I had to realize that the hard way- you can check out other jobs..
good luck!
Only resign when you already have a new job! ;)
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Every since i have had sex with this boy i want to have sex everyday and when i see him and his beautiful eyes i want it even more i dream about him all the time i think i adicted why is this happening.? (link)
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please do not forget about LOVE. dont be too addicted to sex and forget about love. .. so you will not get confuse and hurt in the future.
Also , do not forget that the purpose of sex is to have children brought to this life- if that is your purpose then fine go ahead. If not, do not abuse the purpose because you might need to have kids one day... you dont want anything going wrong when the time coes.
take care.
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Does anyone have any advice for falling too hard too fast? I always think I like some guy really quickly and totally obsess over him and tell myself I'm in love when I'm really not. I just don't know how to control it. Any advice? (link)
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Oh wow I am like you!
I think we are in love with the idea of being in love...
and when we find that the other person is not like what we expect we find out it is not love...
so just try to get a grip on reality.
know what you want, be observant on what is the real deal, do not give yourself or too much information to the other person... just dont act crazy ...
try to be busy with something or distract your emotions... actually this advice column is therapy for me because I realize that I can help other people so I wont obsess on my life..
get a hobby or try a new sport.. fill up the idle time you have...
hope that helps.. you will be alright, love is an emotion and its normal. You just gotta control it if it controls your life and youre not thinking straight anymore! :)
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Um hello i'm 13 and normally hang out with the older kids.Well one day i was at my friends house and me and him were playing video games.he is 16.he looked at me and said you have pretty eyes so we started to kiss.He kept trying to unbutton my pants i tell him stop, he keeps trying.i push away and i say i'm leaving he grabs me and throws me on his bed.he goes on top of me and he takes off my shirt and pants i say stop.he just told me shutup and that day he took away my virginity whether i liked or not.he raped me.i don't talk to him,but sometimes he comes to my house and makes me have sex with him if my parents aren't home.please help me he keeps using my body.i can't stop thinking about what he does to me.i really need help.
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GRAB YOUR PARENTS RIGHT NOW AND YOU ALL GO TO THE POLICE AND REPORT EVERYTHING!!!! NOW!!!
DO NOT LET THIS DRAG!!
HE IS WRONG!!! HE RAPED YOU!!! DUH!?!
YOU ARE SO YOUNG!!! HE TOOK ADVANTAGE OF THAT AND FORCED YOU TO DO THINGS YOU DONT LIKE!YOU ARE NATURALLY CONFUSED BUT THATS IT- GO GET HELP!!
DO NOT WORRY! HE WILL BE PUT TO HIS PROPER PLACE!
DO NOT LET ANYONE FORCE YOU TO DO ANYTHING YOU DONT LIKE!!!
GET TO THE POLICE AND THE HOSPITAL TOO (God knows what diseases this disgusting guy has that is now in you!) SO PLEASE GO NOW!!!
WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR, STOP THE INTERNET AND GO GET HELP!!!
IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT.... HE SHOULD HAVE RESPECT FOR GIRLS!! GO GO GO!!!
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I'm a 13 yearold girl i'm a blond and blue eyed.A lot of guys ask me out.Anyway my boyfriend is 16 and he changed me into someone i'm not.When we started dating he told i should dress more “slutty”.Then i started waring “slutty” clothes. Our relationship started from a little kissing and making out to being in a sexual relationship.My friend saw the change of my personality, even i saw the change.i turned from a blond who did the right thing to a blond who is a slut and does anything right.i want to change but i don't want to end my relationship with my boyfriend.Please give me advice.i can't stop thinking about my situation. (link)
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Hi! Try to answer these questions:
1) do you like the girl who you have become?
2) is she more at peace with the world?
3) does she have more friends ?
4)will this change make her a successful person in the future?
5) if you had your own kids, would you be agood example for them?
If you answered no , then you really have to change!!
you have LOST yourself, your identity and DO NOT LET ANYONE TELL YOU HOW TO DRESS OR DO STUFF! especially he is just a boyfriend!
only listen to advice that is going to BENEFIT your future!you have to believe in yourself (get to try different sports of get into a hobby, try baking etc..) and be a secure and be a happy individual! you dont need another person to make you "complete" or happy because you are a complete girl! you have to get the control back!
be the best that you can be and do not let anyone tell you otherwise!
get the respect back!hope that was helpful!
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I really don't know what to do.
My boyfriend doesn't know I'm pregnant, and we
broke up about 3 weeks ago. He asked me out again.
My friends say I should tell him. How do I tell him?
I honestly don't know if I want to be with him.. (link)
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FOrget about him! you said you are unsure, you are probably right.
You will find a guy who will love and respect you -with a baby or not and this irresponsible guy will be irresponsible in the future and you dont need him. so.... move on and take good care of your baby, he doesnt even have to know.
You broke up with him 3 weeks ago for a reason i suppose and just hold on to the memory of that. you are stronger and know better than to be friends with him again after how he hurt you.
You dont need this stress especially right now so... move on and you will be alright with your family and true friends.
dont bother with this guy. It will be better i promise. good luck! )
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i want 2 know how to make home made peanut butter cookies (link)
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Hi, since youre a peanut butter lover like I am, I guess even if this recipe is late you would still try it! Please do!)
its really fool-proof, I have made it a LOT of times and it always end up perfect. Even people who i have taught have made it perfectly good!
you will come up with about 50 cookies.
Aside from an oven you need a big mixing bowl, wire whisk and rubber scraper, a fork and baking sheets. (if you have an electric mixer that would be better, but mixing this by hand is fine)
Please use standard measuring cups and spoons and level the ingredients so it will be accurate! and we will have the same yummy results!
Ingredients:
2 1/2 cups of All Purpose Flour
1 teaspoon baking soda
2 teaspoons baking powder
1 teaspoon fine salt
1 cup crunchy peanut butter
1 cup unsalted butter, at room temperature
1/2 cup white sugar
1 cup dark brown sugar, packed tightly
2 large eggs
Procedure:
Pre heat your oven.
Mix all the ingredients until blended well.
Form into balls.
Put on Ungreased baking sheets. Make sure it has a space of an inch apart.
Flatten with a fork making a criss cross pattern.
Bake at 350F for about 12 minutes.Let it cool on a wire rack.
Enjoy!
Reply to me about the results!
Good luck!
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