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Q: my underarms get sweaty a lot! and ive heard secret is the best brand to use a lot but it doesnt work well for me.. i need something stronger..do you guys think using babypowder would work? why or why not.. thanks!!

well this is going to sound weird but id wear mens deodarent if i were you because men sweet twice as much as us and the odor is twice as bad so ya it would work better try it.

Q: Theres this guy named Jack..and well..my best friend's bro is friends with him. They both go to my school. Well the other weekend me and Jack hung out..with my best friend and her bro..well he was flirting with me the whole night..and me n him were just talking to eachother and no one else. So..Joe (his best friend) thinks he likes me and he keeps making fun of Jack for liking me. He does it non stop to me and him. It was funny at first but its getting old. Well..i like Jack..and i really want to hang out with him but the thing is i dont think he will because some of friends make fun of him..what should i do? move on or what?

ask him if hed like to hang out 7 tell him that you really like him and you want to hang out with him if he is going to let a little teasing get in the way of you guys hanging out then yes move on he dosent deserve your time.

Q: so lets call her summer.

me and summer have been friends for a couple months. but now summer is being mean and is really annoying and i just DONT like her anymore. the problem is i half to sit with her in health and i HATE it. shes really chubby and the boys tease her all of the time but she was mean before that. and im popular and she trys to fit in but shes not bcuz well shes MEAN. and now shes hitting on my boyfriend and its annoying. and shes extremely 2 faced and gossips all of the time. and im sick of it. so how do i tell her i dont want to be her friend? silent treatment? i rate high.

well it sounds like shes tired of everyone being so mean to her so shes taking the additude fuck everyone. tell her that you dont like the way shes been treating you and that you dont want to be her freind until she gets a major attitude ajustment and to leave your boyfreind alone!

Q: 13/f

First of all, not to brag or anything, but a lot of people, including me, think I am pretty. Because of that a lot of guys fall in love with me. Which is the problem, I mean I like getting attention, but not this much attention! I like being pretty, too, but I can't stand a lot of the guys that fall in love with me.

In my school there are 20-35 kids in each of my classes. I have 6 classes. 5 or less guys per class fell in love with me this school year.

My question is: how can I maybe tell them off so they stop throwing themselves at me without being too harsh?

just tell them that your fladdered and everything but not interested. that you need your alone time to consitrate on school and family and freinds sports also if you have any.

Q: Female,16
The guy i like is really shy about girls, hes never had a gf before, and we are really good friends. ive liked him a long time, and i figured it was just time to tell him. I guess he really had no clue.. yesterday i talk to him alone after school, and said you know i like you and he was silent scuffing his feet and half smiling and he said THANK YOU.. tell me what is that suppose to mean? thank yOU!? and then he said wow this really caught me off guard i i.. and his friend walked by and siad lets go, i need a ride home, so hes said well i guess ill talk to you later and left...do you think maybe he jsut didnt know what to say, usually he'd say oh well lets jsut be friend or somthing like that but he said thank you, and its such a neutral comment... plus most people i know think he likes me.. so do you think maybe he was jsut caught off guard and didnt know what to say or what?

lol it sounds like mabey he thought you met i like you as in just being nice something you would say to someone you know like the little girl down the street who has grown on you and you say you know suzy i like you. or mabey he knew what you met but was shy and super nervouse and didnt know how to react or what to do. see how he acts towards you tomorrow or the next time you see him.

Q: How do I start a conversation with a guy I barely know? I know some things about him, but how do I start talking to him without sounding like a complete goof-ball. I just want to be comfortable, so that I can talk to him. Please help me!!

well if he plays sports ask him when one of his games are coming up & say you hear they have been practicing really hard this season and are thinking of going out and seeing them. if hes in one of your classes then ask him if you can borrow his notes or for some help with your homework. find out about something he likes and bring it up in a conversation some how like asking him about it so the conversation will last longer.

Q: How can I make myself cry? I seem to have such a hard time with that. And I also have problems with showing other types of emotions. Can anyone help me by giving me any tips. :)

well if its for some kind of play think of something realy sad or poke your eye alittle bit or push alot of presure at the corner of the inside of your eye. but if your eyes arent producing enough tears you should go see your doctor about some eye drops.

Q: I have sex almost every weekend, with the same person Ive been with for almost 4 months, we usually use a condom & we've used 2 different brands, lately durex & we use the ky warming lubricant, I started my period a week early Idk if that has nething 2 do w/ it but my labia itch & feel raw, soap doesnt burn but when urine touches it it does would that be from too much sex or an allergy to the condom or the lubricant an infection or what??

that sound like an alergic reaction. you should definatly see your gyno. and if you dont have one you definatly need to get one every girl needs one after the age of 14 to make sure everything is working well down there and excpecially if your sexually active. if your too stuborn to get one go see you doctor and tell your parents you have this teroble rash and you dont know how you got it and your doctor will probably just give you some cream. it might be an std but dosent sound like any std ive ever heard of.

Q: ok well my boyfriends are going through some stuff right now and im pretty upset. The other night i had like a nervous breakdown and i started saying how i should die because no one would miss me and my firend said that he would miss me and i got reallly upset again because i turned him down for my boyfriend. Then me and my friend kissed somehow and my supposidly best friend told my boyfriend and now he's really mad at me and i just feel all upset and like crap and he wont answer any of my phone calls and i just dont know what to do.

just say how upset you were and that you dont even know how exactly you kissed & how sorry you are & tell him how much he means to you. and tell him how you dont like your freind that way and you were very vulnerable at the moment.
if you are going through a time in your life where you belive there is no end then you should mabey see a counsouler and mabey take some medication i fought depression for a while & got help its worth it & you would be suprised how maney teenagers fight depression and you will feel so much better.

Q: i like a kid, and like he is mean to me, and my friends asked him why he didnt like me, and he said cuz i'm stupid. but i'm not, i just say a lot of random stuff.but like everytime he talks to me hes all smiley, but the problem is that two other girls in my grade flirt with him. so i feel like i have a competition and then my other friend likes him, and she is closer with him, and i really want to go out with him.

well how old are you? you sound like your mabey in elementry school. and boys are very inmature during these grades. if hes mean to you then mabey you should just move on. and remember girls are about 3 years more mature then boys their age so mabey look for a guy whos 2 or 3 years older then you.

Q: well in technology my friend and i were talking about our 'love life' and i was like"what if roger asked you out what would you say?" and shes like i would say heck yes. we dont know who he likes but i think its her and she thinks it me but i was like who would ever want to go out with me and shes like a lot of people would want to go out with you. and then i started laughing because i thought it was funny because i think some one was actually saying a compliment to me, and saying that some one would go out with me. which i dont think its true because people always talk about how pretty my older sister is and i dont think they refer to me. and in a way im kind of getting said. because i see how other girls my age and see how pretty they are and then look at me. i have no clue what to do? i know you might not know what im talking about, like what i should do. like i just dont know why guys wont go out with me,and yes i know your pretty in your own way but is it really true?

everyone is unique and as long as you are nice to people and smile then you shouldnt have a problem. you sound like you have low self esteem mabey your low self esteem is getting in your way. walk with your head up & know you are worthy and pay attention im sure your getting all kinds of signals from guys but dont even know it! I'm not the most attractive girl in the world but have always had guys falling over me left and right because I smile and laugh and show interest which puts me above the snooty girl in the corner who looks like a super modle. trust me.

Q: my friend and i like the same guy. i knew him first and ive liked him since the day i met him. he doesnt go to school with us but we both know him now. i havent talked to him or seen him in about a year.. but for some reason i still think about him a lot. well now i found out that she knows him.. and that they are really good friends. now since shes friends with him im sure im going to be seeing him sometimes. i know she likes him because shes told me. would it be wrong for me to try to get him to like me over her... or would i be being a bad friend? ... do i even have a chance if i try? please help me

ill rate you a 5 for anything that helps

yes that would be bad because it would be hurtful on her part think of it this way. how would you feel if you found out that she found out you knew this guy & liked him & she was going to fight for him & try to get him to like her over you. if they arent dating and you like him romatically then you still have a shot. but dont put her down because guys dont like that when girls have such low self esteem that they have to put other girls down to make themselves look better and no one else likes it either. tell him how you feel be honest with both him and your freind and be straight with her that you have liked this guy for a long time and to please not get in the way. but remember unfortunatly you cant control who likes you and if he dosent like you and likes your freind and she likes him then be happy for them and move on chances are there is someone more suited for you out there good luck.

Q: i've been exercising almost everyday before i sleep but i haven't seen any change, would it be better if i exercised in the morning instead? i wanna lose inches off my legs and my stomach. what would be the fastest way to do that? and how long would it take for me to see a difference?

well i dont belive it would matter as long as your getting your heart beat up enough to be burning fat. the fastest way would be to go to your local gym & to get a personal trainer thats what i did & lost alot of inches but if u dont have the money to do that and also cant join a local gym that has classes like tibo, pilottes, kick boxing, cycling, ect then you can buye a tape that you can do at home. good luck.

Q: how do you get over a broken heart?

well you just have to give it time to heal & start dating as soon as possible! dont rush into another relationship or anything but start seeing other people & move on. start doing things & being active so u dont think of it alot! and it takes alot of time sorry to tell you.

Q: hi, well i have been very confused lately on my sexuality. i've always been dating guys and shit. but this year, i think i've been atracted to girls as well. i mean, im still atracted to guys, but i think i am to girls too. i've made out with alot of girls, but that was for like fun and shit. but now i really think im attracted to girls too. am i bisexual? and if you have rude comments, save them for your self.

you may in fact be bisexual. or bicuriouse. do you get horny when you kiss girls? if not then you probably are just curiouse or just like looking at girls.

Q: when u have sex and ur hymen rips does it hert??

is that wat the painfull part of sex is??

it dosent hurt that bad if your bodys mature enough like little girls i suppose that would hurt but when i lost it it was unconfortable the first time & sore but still enjoyable it hurt for the first few times but as i got looser it got better.

Q: ok, i have a BIG problem. i am the one with the pink sparkley dildo involving the cap. of the football team. so that whole thing is passed and know me and the cap. are going out. we have been dating for a couple weeks now and he wants me to quit using my dildo cause it interferes with our GREAT sex life. but i don't want to stop cause it's so enjoyful. what should i do about it. pleaz help asap!!

thanx

pleaz help

lol.. umm well if hes worth it u wouldnt be asking this question. so obviously your dildos more important. but ask yourself these few questions
1. can it hug u?
2. talk to u
3 be there for you when your having trouble?
4 love you
5. take you out places

Q: im leaving town for about 2 weeks with my best friend and ive had a boyfriend for about 6 months and im gunna miss him so much while im gone what should i do before i leave with him to make sure we can make it through the 2 weeks without seeing eachother easily .. we havent really done anything to much we've made out and sbugggled and a lil bit more but nothing major give me some helppp please im leaving friday 7-30-04

2 weeks isnt that long spentd the last few night with him before your trip doing things you both enjoy doing together & make sure to call him often during those two weeks so he knows you havent forgoten him. im sure everything will work out fine & dont forget to have fun with your freind.

Q: i feel like everyone around me has a boyfriend. i feel so alone and i really want to have the feeling of a boyfriend again. i feel as if everyone around me is moving so fast...one of my friends just did third base wih a guy. i am 14 and still haven't gotten my first kiss. i wish i could just find a guy.. what is taking sooo long!

dont worry just be patient the right boy will come your way when your truly ready. dont rush things.

Q: ok i just got pro-active and i was wondering how long does it take 2 start seeing results?

and everyone always tells me such good stuff about it.. but has it NOT worked for anyone?! has anyone had any bad experiences with it. thanks!!

ya i went on it & the problem with proactive is that it works for the acne already there mostly and it dosent completly eleminate acne. I went on acutane a 2 years ago for about 8 months i took the pill once a day & it worked I havent had another pimple since not even on my period & i have really oily skin also.

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my name is Alex i love fashion, movies, chocholate, fairys, hanging out with my freinds & family. animals, the beach, being with my boyfreind. I'm very outgoing an basically your tipical teenage girl. I have a myspace account my url is http://www.myspace.com/princessalex. if ive given you advice id greatly appreciate it if you would please rate my advice it dosen't madder if you thought it sucked or if you thought it was great & id love some feed back.