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Q: My room is purple. I have a couple things hanging from the cieling an a really cute bed spread. I want some more ideas on how i can make it more decorative. Like what kind of stuff i need on my walls mostly. What colors i need, and stuff like that. i have carpet now, but i want hard wood floors. shoudl i get a light colored wood, or a dark? shoul di put a rug over it? a small on in the middle? or just leave it uncovered? I have no idea what to do i just want my room to be really cute. Please make any suggestions, i could use ANY help that you willing to give weather its a little thing or big.-->ME!

instead of just putting random stuff on your wallz, try to think of a theme that you loikle and then make it work with your room. with me, i did a accesories/purse theme in my room and it looks really nice!!

**_Nicole_**

Q: OK, i have a big problem. well, its big to me at least. I fell in love with my friend of 6 years, and he loved me 2. but someone said that i was cheating on him (which i wasnt) and he believed it and me and him broke up. hes now going out with a girl (i know her) that he never sees or talks to. hes talked to her once since they started going out and thats it. and throughout the year before they got together me and him did the whole off and on thing cuz he kept leaving me then coming back and i stupidly took him back every time. then he hears something that isnt even true one time and he doesnt wanna be w/ me ever again. well, thinking about that i started to get over him. and now im falling back for him, i dont want to but i cant help it. i miss him constantly and i keep looking at my picture of him, and it wont work to stop looking at it, ive tried. plz help! and sorry this is long

next time he comes up to you, keep walking. you cant talk to him. give him the cold shoulder like hes been giving you. i know that it is hard, because i have to do the same thing. i just have to ignore him for a lil while, and so do you. dont keep taking him back. tell him that you'll be waiting untill he acts like a man and doesnt drop you because of some stupid rumor; he should have more trust than that.

**_Nicole_**

Q: does anyone knows if Spencer's Gifts does belly button piercings cuz i rly don't want to go to a tattoo/piercing parlour! and i tried going to the website but its like under construction or something. thx!!

you should try a claires or and icing, no matter how much that might hurt your reputation, it does the job. especially since a lot of places havent been keeping clean and people have been getting massive infections. buit thats where i went, to an Icing store!

**_Nicole_**

Q:
My school is starting soon and I want to tell my crush that I like him. The only problem is that I have a boyfriend which I dont like anymore. And I want to break up with him its just that i havnt talk to him in like a month and I dont want to hurt him. If i do break up with my boyfriend should i tell my crush? Ive know him since i was 2 and a half and i dont know what to do its been 10 years since ive know him and well i dont know last time i liked him he found out and it was on my birthday when he found out and well he didnt talk to me for the rest of the year and it hurt because he is my best friend and i dont want that to happen again my birthday is coming up. Im worried im going to his house tomorrow with my twin brother and we are like the three amegos. What should I do i need an answer quick! Thanks i rate

you need to break up with your bf. hes kinda silly if he hasnt already realized that you are distant sinse you havent talked to each other in a month. if you dont love him anymore, there is no sense of stringing him aong. now, with this other guy you like, you want to be very careful that you dont be TOO straighforward with him and scare him off. but dont expect ewverything to go your way- it doesnt always when it comes to love!!

**_Nicole_**

Q: Aight well, I have a friend and she wants to start to see some other people and thinks i am holding her back. But the thing is i am not (not that i relize but inn her eyes it might) anyway i have met a lot of people to no one is holding me or her back. I don't want to lose our friendship but maybe it is too late. See the other day she told me she is gonna start seeing other people. I was sad all night and the next day because i thought this would change our special relationship. I never want to end our relationship. She means the world to me and no one can change that. She is soo friendly, caring loving and supportive. I want her to see other people and i don't have a problem with it but afraid that it might hurt our relationship. I totally freaked when she told me she wanted to see other people because i was afaid of loosing her and now i don't she might be mad i over reacted wat should i do??

Sincerely,
Afraid friend

next time you see her or shes online or something, tell her that you are sorry for over reacting, you dont hsve a problem with going to meet new people, and that she HAS to keep in touch with you because you love her so much-thats why you overreacted, right?

**_Nicole_**

Q: This guy told me he likes me and he knows I like him, and I asked if the only reason he likes me is because he knew that I liked him. and he said no. So he really does like me, so he says, and he told me a week ago. Even before telling me he never called me not even once, and he never got online, now that i know he likes me , he gets on once like every three days but NEVER calls me. I dont call him very much because I dont want him to think im suffocating him, and I mean, I havnt talked to him on the phone for 7 days and he doesnt talk much online to anyone, and so I called tonight and he told me he was watching a movie and would be on in 30 minutes ...well. its been 2 hours, and all i want is for him to SHOW that he actually has interest in me...is there any reason why he would be doing somethign like this??? PS: His sister knows I like him too...and shes my friend.

is he shy? that could be it, that or he isnt exactly comfortable with the ideas of having a girlfriend. talk to him more, and dont worry to much about suffocating him. he may be tqaking advice from someone to treat you like this and he thinks that your not supposed to call often?

**_Nicole_**

Q: Well, the KC metro area...
I go to the movies often enough,
Not much of a drinker or Dancer - don't really like smokey rooms so Clubbing and bars aren't usually my thing.
Anyone have any good suggestions as to how to kill time with friends or with a date here in the Kansas City / Overland Park area?

Try and be a lil more flexible. take up dancing or sumthing.

**_Nicole_**

Q: There is this boy at skool who is really hot, and he has a twin brother, and his brother is going out w/ my friend. I think that he is going out w/ my other friend, but I don't know. I also think that he may like me. He is always smiling at me and when he walks by me he slows down and at luch he is always looking at me, and i know that I don't have food on my face. Do you think he likes me? What happens if he does will my friend be mad at me? I'll rate high.

he may like you!! if you find that he likes you and you like him back, explain it to your friend. if you are that close, she should understand.

**_Nicoel_**

Q: Ok, so like everytime I try to take a livejournal Icon from some random place it always ends up being saved as bmp. But I can't put bmp files onto my livejournal. How do I change that stupid little bmp to gif or anything else! Please help! Im 14 f thanks..you have NO idea how much it would be a huge thanks. -Adrianna

you cant save it to wherever your saving it, or maybe what you are saving is not a jpg or a bif. you always have to check your sources!!

Q: ok im 13/f and im goin out w/ a 12/m...yea i no its werid but im one of those ppl that says age doesnt matta lol. so we started goin out a couple of days ago but hes liked me for a long time. the only prob is when im around he doesnt treat me like his gf...i dont know wut to do cuz i really like him but i wanna be treated like his gf...not jus a friend.

you gotta confront him about it. if he really wants to go out with you, he should act like it instead of being inconsiderate.

**_Nicole_**

Q: i just met this boy and hes 18 and hes wicked gorgeous and nice and he let me borrow his cd and im gona be burning cds for him and possibly chillen with him sometime..but the thing is i like him, alot and i cant get him off my mind..but he has a girlfriend. and i dont wanna do anything with him even though i was gonna make a move on him the 1st time i met him..but then i thought, if i was his g.f and another girl macked up on my boy..and i found out, how i would be hurten so i didnt do anything..but i just cant forget about him aand how i didnt do anything to show him how i feel..yeah i told him but idk..do you think i did the right thing by controling my urges and just tlken to him?

if he has a girlfriend, then it is best that you let him be. you can hang out with him, but its not the best idea to try and hook up or tell him exactly how you feel until they break up or until he expresses those same feelings.

**_Nicole_**

Q: I just moved back to my hometown, and I've seen all my old friends. One in particular, my "best" friend as she said, thinks that we're still "best" friends. She said to me before.." get on with your life...", and " you dont like rap". It seems like shes trying to mold me into the "perfect" best friend. I love any kinds of music. How can I stop her from controlling me? And to tell her we aren't friends anymore?? 15 F same as her.

be honest. tell her that time has changed and that you aren't close anymore. its best to be frank. don't let her control you or your life!!

**_Nicole_**

Q: Theres this boy I like, Josh. I have liked him since the school year started and we've been flirting like crazy. My friends say that he's really crushin on me because when other guys flirt with me, he gets all bothered and defensive. All my friends keep asking me if me and him are going out yet and even my TEACHER(gym class, only class I have with Josh) asks me and Josh continually if me and Josh are boyfriend/girlfriend. He even told us to get married over the weekend. Everyone thinks me and him like each other and are either going to, or are secretly going out. Now, even after all this, I was and kind of still am unsure of his feelings. I know he flirts with me a lot and he acts differently around me than around girls. Since the beginning of the year, too. Thats about 4½ months. We talk on the phone and he's just sweet and funny and goofy around me. Now, what I want to do is ask him to the dance coming up but I don't know how to exactly ask him so that I won't be directly letting him know I like him but still letting him know I do, in a way. If that makes sense. I mean, in a way, where, if he doesn't like me like that, I can easily deny it and be believable. Im really confused about all of this and I really want to go out with him. We danced at homecoming and we already act like we go together already..I just want my daydreams to come true but I don't know what to do. How can I "test" and make sure he likes me without him getting any idea? What "signs" should I definately look out for? Any advice would be strongly appreciated. Thanks.

why do you care? he obviously likes you, so you should ask him. just be casual about it, and if he turns you down, be like 'ok, ill jus see you there-save me a dance' he'll get the point

**_Nicole_**

Q: i want to gain more confidence and have an attitude that gives the impression that i don't give a damn what they say! anyone have any advice that would help me obtain this attitude?

start by not caring what we say...and then when you hear someone making a doragoatory (sp?) comment about you, act as if you didnt hear it, and after a while you WONT hear it anymore.

**_Nicole_**

Q: OK so me and my Best friend have been friends since like third grade...we live by eachother and we would hang out all the time....In Elementary school it was great..then when junior high hit we still hung out but not as much...we talked all the time and we were still very close...but then highschool happened....it seemed that she became friends with alot of the cooler crowd and would only talk to me when it was conveinent for her....Now we are in the same church group so i see her every sunday and she talked to me there....I kind of feel like i am her second wheel...like if no one better is around she will talk to me...or if all of her "cooler" friends were gone all weekend then she wood call me....is she just using me? I dont know what to do.....HELP!

i think she is using you. just be like 'hey-bye' and walk by. dont feel bad if you start to act breezy with her. if she tries something about 'how you are supposewd to show love', then point out that she hasnt been showing much love when she ignores you.

**_Nicole_**

Q: Hey i was just curious about dreams. Are they meant to predict the future, or are they just your brain's way of sorting through everything that's going on in your head. Is there an actual purpose for them or what?

they are to rest your brain. sometimes while in your sleep you get flash forwards, where you see something that will happen, but other than that, they dont really have a purpose.

**_Nicole_**

Q: ok i just broke up with my ex-boyfriend..and i was going to ask him back out, but then i find out that he likes my best friend,a few days ago my best friend was like freaking out and was like what if he ask me out what if he tells me he likes me what should i say and so on. I was pretty upset bout it b/c she is my best frined and before i went out with my ex she used to liked him..so how do i know if she doesnt like him or how can i tell she is lying bout liking him..thanks and i hope this makes sence
-me

you just have to level with her and tell you how she feels. but dont get to excited if she goes out with him anyway; you have to be fleexible and think that maybe them going out is good. shes your friend, and you have to look out for her too.

**_Nicole_**

Q: i was looking at a list of sumone elses favorites that made me a favorite... and i click on my name n i got this messege "No column was found with the specified username, or there was an error in the username specified. If you'd like this name for yourself, register at Advicenators.com and start your own free advice column! " what does that mean?

its called a 'site hiccup'. you just have to work around it. sometimes computers or sites do that sonce you are already logged in as that user.

**_Nicole_**

Q: How do you make icons? I know that you have to make them on sites and stuff but i dont have animation shop so were do i get it nd what do i do? PLZ HELP ME!

if you go through google and then specificaly ask, then you can get it.

at least, thats what i did. or you can take some of the aim icons and use them.

**_Nicole_**

Q: im always sad inside , but no body knows cosz i dont show it... how can i get the emptiness in my heart to go away... signed , confused and lonely.

no one else can really answer that. you have to figure it out. the next time you see people doing something that you dont usually do and it moves you to want to do it and you figure you could never do it, maybe that is it. or you might need to get a religion. =)

**_Nicole_**

bio

Hi. Im Nicole. Im here to help, so ask me a question and i'll answer it in all honesty. Im not gonna try to belittle you are anything, because that is totally uncool. If you dont like my advice, then dont even rate. I love to hang out and do a lot of shopping, as the average girl does. I live in florida, and it is kinda hard now that it is the year of the hurricane.. but im not here to complain. Im here to help you, your friend, and whoever wants it. Power to ppl who need help!! (haha, that didnt come out exactly right...) If your question is incredibly stupid, i will delete it. Ask away!