This is a question that I please want ONLY the GUYS to answer...
So,
Do you care if a girl has a lot of body hair? (like arm hair, lower back hair, stomach hair)would you still like/date her?? please explain.. =)
Thankss
as much as it sucks, girls are under much more pressure to make sure their skin is smooth. a little leg stubble in between shaves is acceptable if they are wearing jeans..shaving/nair/waxing is still very much required.. even guys are discouraged from being hairy nowadays, so don't feel too bad.
(peach fuzz doesn't count. just ask a friend if they think you should shave something, they will be honest)
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over vacation i met a guy we both liked eachother then became bf gf. then we loved eachother an would say it alot. then outa nowhere he stopped talkin to me an wont answer his phone or a text. then he blocks me on myspace n erases all my comments. hes a jerk an i get hurt to much but i just cant ever get over stuff. im pretty much over him but what can i do. but i did send him a new friend request on myspace with the note sayin what did i do an why are u so pissed please call me. stupid i know, i have no way to talk to him. i know hes a jerk but we both loved eachother soo much, what can i do? he lives to far away
you need to let him go because if he cut you out of his life there is obviously something very dangerous going on in his mind. think of it as a gift that he is removing himself from your life. don't even worry about why he did what he did, you are better off devoting your attention to someone who deserves it! :)
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what is a quote that says something like those...im not gay or bi but ill date any one i care for...it ssays something like that.will someone please tell me the quote and/or other ones
"I'm open." is my favorite. let them figure out the rest. Kind of cool because the alternative (people sticking to strictly hetero-norms) would be called "closed."
[open... to suggestions? fun? ideas? love? meeting new people?]
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Okay, I have this friend and she's driving me nuts. Well actually, first I should probably tell you she's an Internet friend of mine. But we're really close, we've known each other for years and we've talked on the phone and such. (And I love her like a friend I know IRL.)
Well anyway, back to the problem. She found this online guy who she's decided to start 'going out' with. She's *TOTALLY* serious about him and completely infatuated. The thing is that he's 17 and she's 14. Not only that, but he is SO creepy. He calls me a bitch a lot, even when I haven't done anything. Like once I was talking to him on YIM and I stopped for a second because something else caught my attention, and he was REALLY mad, he cussed me out and everything for 'ignoring him'.
I've tried to tell my friend that she's being stupid and everything, but she won't listen and tells me I'm the one being stupid instead. So basically she's chosen him, some creepy-ass guy she met over her friend who she's known a lot longer.
What do I do? They're even talking about meeting in real life! I'm scared for her!! EVERYTHING could go wrong... I mean, I've heard the stories of girls getting like raped and murdered by guys they meet online. Scares the crap out of me and I don't want that to happen to her at all. But no matter what I tell her she just yells at me!
first, you need to make sure that the reason you don't want her to continue her relationship with this guy is a good one. if you have reason to suspect (more than a gut feeling) that he could hurt her, then you definitely need to let her know. If you are afraid for her safety, make sure you are on the phone with her when she meets him, or something to that effect.
If, however, this guy just doesn't seem right for her, then she has to realize it herself and you need to be there to support her decisions. fighting this will only cause a rift between you and your friend. Nothing says you have to like this guy, but you don't need to voice your complaints to her (as difficult as that is.)
..in the long run, she will appreciate you for sticking by her through it all. (even if you have to fake it a bit)
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I’m a senior in aerospace engineering and my boyfriend just graduated then started his masters degree work in ocean engineering. We’ve been dating for almost a year now and I love him... but he’s boring as hell. We spend time together, but we do almost nothing during that time (well, except at night...). It’s hard to get him to participate in intellectual conversation; I much prefer bouncing ideas off of other friends, or even people at Mensa gatherings whom I’ve never before met. It’s nearly impossible to get him to do anything active; I live to swim at the beach, ride my bike, rock climb, etc., but it seems that the most active thing he does is walk to and from campus. When we’re together, we mostly just play cards or watch bad movies.
Also, I’ve been away for most of the summer. I was in China on an engineering tour for a month, then I spent a week at home, and I’ve spent the past couple months in Chicago. The distance has made me more frustrated with him, partially since I can have much better long-distance conversations with other male friends than with him. Also, my time at the Chicago Pride Parade and the Dyke March tested my faithfulness to him (I stayed faithful, but, in the presence of so many beautiful women, I really didn’t want to).
So, in short, he’s boring. I don’t know if I want to stay with the man I love, start looking for a man or woman who can make my life more interesting, or just be single. This might be an age thing (I’m eighteen and he’s twenty-two), so it is possible that I won’t be bored as easily in a few years.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
-L (18, female)
I wouldn't give up on ocean boy just yet. you'd be surprised how much you probably don't know about each other. try taking some time to go out on a date (maybe a double?)
the problem is that we get so comfortable around the people we date that we forget to go out and have fun with them too. I would make one last effort to spark the fire, but if you still find yourself bored, it might be time to let him know, and start searching for someone that can meet you intellectually and socially.
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So I found the girl I know I want to marry, shes basically me in a beautiful female form. But she goes to UF and thats kind of far; I don't do long distance well. Here though I met a guy and he is the most genuine person I met and we could just talk for hours and he keeps my interest so well. I'm just so stuck between the two, I could see myself with either. I just don't have a clue as to what I should do. In the future I want my own kids and not a surrogate mom so that means I should choose her?
i'm going to guess you are a guy, since "having your own kids" would require a surrogate mother.
(although they would still be YOUR kid, since it will be your sperm..and the technology available 12 years from now will be twice as advanced, you never know what may be possible)
so without knowing either of them, it sounds like one offers immediate happiness, but a potential compromise in your longterm goals.. while the other has just a promise of what could be. It seems like you have put a lot of thought into which one you think you SHOULD choose, but what about the one you WANT to choose?
long distance is hard to do, i've been there before, and personally, i don't recommend it for more than a few months especially if you don't have plans to move closer together soon.. it is also scary because a long distance is a different relationship than a non-long distance, even if it's with the same person!
the most important thing is that you care about both people, that you realize that you are going to have to make the decision between them as carefully as you can to make sure you still have both of them in your life.
If you would like to tell me more about each relationship, i could give you a few more things to think about :)
Otherwise, i hope you find whatever you are looking for.
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there's this boy at my school (Let's call him Scott). I started talkin g to him around march. but we started off myspacing then AIM then texting. All in like a week and a half. Ever since then we text alot & can talk about alot of things with eachother. But we barely talk in person, we are both shy. We just hug and "hey" here & there. When I first started talking to him I noticed he was really sweet. Like no other guy that I had ever met before. As time went by I told him I thought he was a sweety & he told me that I was a sweetheart, (we would have our little "no your sweeter" "no you are" competitions) & he would call me things like love & sweetheart. Like when saying goodnite, he'd say "ima c u tommorow ok? Nite love =D" & I felt like he listened to what I said. one time I told him that my cousin had gotten a text from a guy just saying goodnight. I thought that was sweet so I told him. And later that day he did it & put in love. so a couple of weeks ago (like 3) he told me he liked me. I told him I liked him too. bit school was coming to an en. (It ends tommorow actually). And we are both going to go to different schools next year (by the way we're going to be seniors). And I was telling him tonite "you better not forget me" he said "y would I? How? we'll keep in touch trust me =)". I want something to happen though. I wanna be his girlfriend. I have a best friend named Clare,& she's really good friends with him & she said that he was going to ask me out but then he realized the school year was almost over. how do I figure out if he still likes me? And what do I do about the different schools?
Thanks
-emily
Emily, sounds like you guys have had a pretty cute relationship! Keep in mind that the relationship you two have now would not be effected by being at different schools since you mostly only talk through AIM and text. that is the good news. it is for that reason that i would discourage you from asking him for a commitment (especially with a new school year starting)
but, if you ask him if he wants to keep things how they are now or if he wants to be in a relationship, then you should definitely consider it, because being at different schools means that no one is in your business because you will have seperate friends. good news!
I wouldn't try to "find out" if he likes you, of course he does! it's just a question of whether he wants to be in a relationship right now. hope it works out!
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how do you masturbate and feel no shame?
for me, it is two simple pieces of knowledge:
First, that our bodies naturally produce things like semen and testosterone, and masturbating helps to regulate these things. even if you didnt masturbate, you would ejaculate in your sleep to accomplish this.
Second, that our minds can sometimes be so distracted by sexual thoughts that we cannot give our full attention to other tasks. whatever chemicals are released after [your release] can actually improve your functioning. I have friends that swear that it is an essential part of their study routine.
you shouldn't feel guilty about doing something that everyone else also does. a healthy sex drive is nothing to feel ashamed about! (unless your thoughts wander somewhere that your conscience does not approve of.. but that is a completely different topic!)
feel free to share your thoughts
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Can you give me step byy step instructins on how to drive a stick shift?
the only way you can learn how to drive a stick is to get a feel for the gears, and unfortunately, every car has a different clutch, but i will do my best:
in an automatic car there are two pedals: brake (left) and gas (right).. and hopefully you only use your right foot for each since you should only need to do one at a time.
in a manual car, there are three pedals: CLUTCH (left), brake (middle), and gas (right). same as an automatic, you should use your right foot for brake and gas as normal. the part that gets tricky is engaging gears (especially into first gear).
two things to keep in mind: depressing the clutch disengages the gear from the gas, which means you can floor the gas and all you will hear is engine noise because the gear is not engaged. so, this is pretty much the equivalent of being in neutral (the shift-stick being in the middle area instead of forward/back).
when engaged in first gear (shift-stick should be forward left) you need to slowly press on the gas while lifting your foot off the clutch. it's like a pass-the-baton game that will make the car jerk and grind if you get it wrong. work on making the transition as smooth as possible-- the result should be your left foot coming completely off the clutch and your right foot using the gas as you normally would in an automatic. don't feel bad if you stall out (which you will). just turn the car off and start it up again (WITH THE STICK IN NEUTRAL and your foot on the clutch!)
good luck!
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me and my boyfriend live in different states
im still young and i know everyone is probably like youre an idiot and its not worth it
but if you really love someone, everything is worth it.
but idk lately. the past couple of days he does realllly seem like he cares cause i got sad and he started crying on the phone and i felt bad and stuff and like he always spills his heart out for me
but then today i got online and he earesed his heroes part (it was a cute paragraph about me) and in his intersesnt he put my baby (me) and then some other girls name an im like okk.. and then the girl was infront of me on his top and i like questioned him about it and he said dont worry were just really good friends i promise.
and he has this blog that like you answer questions and she did it and it said she has a crush on him.. and another blog where you put your name and he will tell you honest thing about you and he said all i can say is your perfect. and he commented most of her pictures and kept saying shes cute
i really dont know what to do becuase he tells me he loves me and we talking on the phone from like 12 at night to 5 in the morning every day and like hes perfect when it comes to us
but i odnt know what to think about that girl and everything..
i need help!
:) you are right, that when your heart is in a relationship, it can be the most powerful thing in the world. the key to enjoying a long distance relationship is to make sure that you ALWAYS have something to look forward to--even if it is a couple months away (but keep in mind, there is a limit.. you are only human.)
as far as this other girl is concerned, if you love and trust him, and he says that it is just a friend, then you need to trust that he is telling you the truth. the love that he might have for her is different than the love he might have you for you, or the love he has for his family. I know it is hard to feel secure in a relationship that is long-distance, but that is the key to being happy, especially when you seem to have a boy that can express his feelings openly to you. If she is an important part of his life, you might want to get to know her-- i'm sure you will feel better about the whole thing once you find out for yourself that she has harmless intentions.
:) i hope everything works out.. please let me know if you come to a resolution, but remember no matter what happens you still have your memories and those are worth the most.
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14/ female.
okayyyy, so me and my friend like six months ago smoked a blunt at my house and took pictures doing it.. i know dumb idea, lol. so yesterday she saw them on her photobucket and decided to put them on her myspace. well, my brother has her as a friend and he saw the pics of me and her, and he copied the pic and sent it to my mom!
so my mom told my dad to loook at my friends myspace, but me and her had deleted it, but we didnt notice it was on her album cover, soooooooo we got screwed.
my mom had a talk with me and told me that she was upset and hurt that i did that but that she wasnt mad, but i did have to be grounded. ):
it wouldnt bother me much to be grounded but at the moment it does, cause the guy i like is gonna leave to Jersy in 8 days, and i wanna see him before he leaves, and now since im grounded idk how im gonna do that.
so, can you help?
how can i get my parents to unground me asap?!
and/or how can i do it to see this guy before he leaves even if im grounded?!
thanks so much!!!!
p.s NO im not a druggy or none of that, im a goooood students and i behave very well (:
First, you need to make sure that your myspace profile is private, especially if you have such a reckless friend (this is much BIGGER than your parents being disappointed.. incriminating photos can haunt you forever).
I think your best bet is to make some sort of compromise- suggest a different punishment that is more productive than staying inside on the computer. hopefully in exchange for this, they will let you see your boy. if you sit down and get them to understand that you made a mistake and learned from it already, they will be more receptive. good luck (and in the future, make sure you are the one to hold on to the pictures!)
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14/f
So,
i met this guy at this dinner party for my parents, and he is as old as me [ i could tell ][we were the only kids there, other than some 2 year olds] we didnt really talk, but he was SO GOOD LOOKING!! anyway, he kept trying to make eye contact [i did sometimes to though] , he would always turn towards me and then "look at the sky", so, if we met again, would there be hope?? like by the way he always tried to make eye contact and im talking always! so, yeah, could this mean anything?
There is always hope! as long as you are confident and stay true to yourself, you have nothing to lose!
I've learned that American society almost discourages something that the French (and many other European countries) call "the look"-- this is the connection that two people can share, even a passing glance on the street, that shows potential interest. you never know when the love of your life may be standing next to you. don't be afraid to take a chance!
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Hi, ive been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and a few days ago his friend got on the phone calling me nasty names.
and i figured out my boyfriend got wasted and madeout with another girl.
i love him but i dont trust him.
i am misrable without him. should i give him another chance?
"you figured out" that he made out with another girl?
does this mean he did not tell you himself? if that is the case, then he does not deserve to be forgiven because he has not learned anything.
if he was the one to tell you, then you just have to ask yourself if you are ready to forgive him. if you only want to forgive him to stay in the relationship, it will haunt you. sometimes bad boyfriends are like infected legs.. sometimes you just need to cut your losses before it consumes all of you.
PS- if you do decide to forgive him.. "another chance" = one other chance. just one. promise yourself that and don't ever break it.
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I started dating this guy about a month ago. We met at a bar and hit it off right away. We just became exclusive this past weekend, and I was really happy.
Unfortunately, a bundle of shitty relationships has got me paranoid about everything in a relationship. I've dated many guys, but always hesitated when it came to having an actual boyfriend.
If he doesn't call, I assume that something is wrong. Not even about him dating other girls or whatever-- but more so, the fact that he could change his mind at any moment, and I'll be back to nothing. It's clear that we want each other, when we're with each other. But, any time in between I spend wondering why he's not calling, and if it's because I did something wrong and it gave him second thoughts.
I don't want to push him away, or sabotage the relationship like I have in the past. I like this guy a lot and I want to make the most out of it and not worry about what he's thinking all the time.
So to my question.. what is it that keeps a guy from waiting so long to make a call? If it takes more then a few hours, when is it okay to just call him? It feels new, and awkward. But it mostly feels like maybe we rushed into things since I'll still too uncomfortable with my security.
Help?
here's a tip: get your calling schedules synced up. more likely than not, the reason he is not calling is because he's busy! call him whenever you want, but you can't expect to be able to interrupt his life every couple of hours when he isn't doing the same.
take a breath, and instead of wondering where he is and what he is doing and why he hasn't called, try reading a book or doing something productive! being independent is more fulfilling for the whole relationship, otherwise you become too dependent and insecure. when you DO call him, suggest making plans for the near future (not that same day.. a time that works perfect for YOU.) this is called taking charge of your own life, and you might be pleasantly surprised that he wants to be more involved now that he sees you have taken an interest in your life more than his.
you're feeling rushed because you're already getting possessive of his time, and you're feeling insecure because he isn't as possessive of you as you are of him.. this solves both! try this for a week and you will see it's much easier than worrying your brains out!
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i have been dating this guy, Jay, for about 3 months now. im not really counting, but anyways...
before we started going out? i was having second thoughts about the whole thing because he did something with another girl. i dont know the whole story. his mom grabbed me aside one night and told me what he told her, but none of it made sense. i have a lot of questions about it but i dont want to ask him because its a very sensitive subject for him. (he was basically raped...and then for some reason the chick told everyone that he raped her. i know, its awful) well, at least by what his mom said, he was kinda raped. he only told me they had sex. i havent talked to girlie girl yet cuz i never talk to her. but. ok, im getting confused....
i know i should just kind of get over this and move on? but its all i ever think about anymore. its giving me nightmares and i keep picturing what it might have been like in my head and i want it to STOP but it wont! i just have to know! its one of those things...but can someone either tell me HOW to get over it or how i can ask him without...i dunno...making him CRY???? (i asked him before and he was close to tears)
he obviously feels guilty about whatever happened. often rape victims will blame themselves for what happened, but you also need to be open to the idea that he is just ashamed of what he did consensually.
If you cannot forget about what happened, then it is not fair to yourself or to him if you do not try to resolve it. if it bothers you that much (which it obviously does if you are dreaming about it) you need to tell him that you are feeling uneasy about the whole situation. don't feel bad about trying to communicate with him. after three months you should be able to talk about this stuff. try, "i want to talk to you about something that's bee bothering me.. i need to know what happened that night. i know it's hard for you but it's hard for me now too and this is something i need to know if we're going to make this work"
if this does not help, or does not go very smoothly, you need to decide if it is worth the stress. you need to forget about it or forget about him, because you will never let yourself or him be happy if you cannot let it go.
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f/17
My bf (18) does the cutest things for me. during school, he filled my locker with a bunch of balloons and chocolate and stuffed animals and confetti and when I opened it, everything came pouring out and a sign popped out that said i love you. Another thing he did was write cute little messages on a million rose petals that led to my front door. I constantly find little love notes in random places whenever he comes over or in my car. one time he wrote all over his body, supposedly to support his sister's soccer game and there was ink alllll over him and then at midnight we rode our tandem 2-seat bike to the lake and we swam and when he got out of the water, everything washed off except for I love you on his abs. He wrote everything but that in washable marker. The first two months we went going out, we climbed into a treehouse in his friends neighborhood and he took out his guitar and sang to me. He does cute things like this all the time and it just makes me feel so special and all i do is cook him food and give him back rubs sometimes. I love him so much and I feel bad like he does so much for me and i can't think of anything creative and cute and I really want to. I really wanna show him I care as much as he shows me. Nothing sexual, either. Any ideas??
the key is to listen. next time you are together really listen and watch what he does to get a hint of something to do. things you would normally miss when watching a movie or TV, "oh man that action figure looks awesome!" or if you notice that he needs a new wallet, etc. sometimes it's as small as offering to do a favor or a chore if you know he is going to be busy. anything that you put extra thought into will be the perfect idea because it came from you. he likes doing those things for you not because he expects stuff back, but because he likes letting you know that he cares. just keep that in mind and you'll be fine!
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So I know this guy.
We used to like eachother
and then all of a sudden he freaked out and stopped talking to me.
and then a couple weeks later he said he wanted to be cool with me... we were both at a party and we got drunk and he coaxed me into his bedroom and made out and some clothes flew off and I asked him I was like why are you doing this I thought you hated me?
and he kept saying over and over again I like you I like you...bla bla bla
soo I beleived it at the time.
And then after that of course he didnt call me or anything.
But then like a long time later after pissing each other off a bunch. We finally see eachother at a small party at my friends house.
He says hey to me in the beginning and we talked and laughed (when sober)
even when he was with another girl...
So we are getting drunk having fun playing beer pong. And I put in tech 9 and he's like telling me to danceee and im like okayyy so i do
and he's like omg I fuckin love you
and later we are laughin havin a frikin blast getting more drunk takin pictures
and he was like treatin me like we have known eachother forever
and everytime i did or said something funny he would be like i love her everyone i love roxie
and he wasnt even trying to take advantage of me he had another girl with him
and before I thought he like hated me cause he used to talk shit all the time...and then he started being nice to me again...idk if thats a way of covering up his tru feelings or what
but i wanted to know if someone like that could lie when drunk?
after that he was passed the fuck out throwin up...
sooo yeah just wondering
if maybe his thoughts might be covered up
until his liquid courage brings it out
or if he is a liar sober and an even bigger one drunk?
kay this may sound confusing but please try and answer it thanks :D
Alcohol is a social lubricant, it lowers inhibitions, we know that for sure, which is why you both were more willing to get along better even though you've had a rough history. the effects of it as a truth serum are a lot less evident, though. "the drunk tongue speaks the sober heart" probably shouldn't be applied to binge drinkers, because (atleast in my experience at one of the top party schools in the nation) someone who is wasted is a completely different person (mentally/emotionally) than their sober half. call it bi-polar or alcoholism or whatever you want, but if you can't make it work SOBER to begin with, then it is time to move on.. because even if his true feelings are that he likes you, his sober self will not let himself come to terms with it, and there is nothing you can do about that (i know, it sucks). just try to cherish the memories you made, and maybe he will be ready some day in the future.. until then, it's time for you to move on!
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Is Azula older than Zuko or it's the other way around?
It seems that I heard from the commercial (that talks about Azula) this Line:
"Dreaded Elder Sister of Prince Zuko"
But when I search in the Internet it says that:
Azula is 2 years younger than Zuko.
Was what I heard was wrong or the info in the internet was wrong?
Even though Azula is a fire-bending prodigy, she is actually younger than Zuko (which explains his frustration).
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