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Q: so i like this one dude "bobby"
butt so does this girl "molly"
he sat next to me at church.
and we held hands.
then.. molly started crying
which is totally stupid and pointless to cry over something like that.
but then today at school he was huggin her and holding her hand cuz she was upset or somethin?
is he even worth my time?
honestly, no.
i don't think he's worth your time, he sounds like a player. and plus, anytime you get a chance to get closer to him "molly" is gonna go throw her pity party, and he's gonna feel bad ya know?

Q: howwww do you give a hand job and/or a blow job?
disregaurd the last two advice givers.
but yes we are not allowed to give details about sexual acts, so try googling it.
and i don't agree with the whole 'if you have to ask then you shouldn't do it'... because of course, if you're nervous about your performance then you're gonna ask how to give the best one.
so like i said, disregaurd them.
but i must say if you're not comfortable with doing it, or are even a little uneasy, then wait until you are compeletly ready.

Q: 15/f
Whenever im with my boyfriend he always tries to put his hand down my pants. and i wouldnt mind it but i have pubic hair and im scared it would gross him out, so talking to some friend we were all going to go skinny dipping. and they were like ugh i need to shave first. and me being curious was like shave what they were like my vagina its prickly. i was like oh yeah haha. so that night i went and shaved my vagina. and now it just looks weird and not normal... and i think i made the wrong decision. but i cant go back now. was i suppose to do that?
guys when your going to finger a girl do you expect hair or no?
and girls just please help with the whole situation of shaving down there.
usually guys might feel a little weird with it being completly bald, so some girls just trim it real short or leave a "landing strip"...
when you said it doesnt look normal, do you mean by the way you shaved it or just the fact that it's bald?
since this is your first time shaving it will look a little weird at first because it's the first time you've seen no hair on it since before you hit puberty.


EDIT **
no it's not bad that you shaved it completely, it will grow back faster than you'll realize. and a landing strip is where you shave every where except for a small patch directly in the middle

Q: i recently asked a question.. i had some unprotected sex.. although he didnt *** in me or anything well i took the morning after pil..

today im experiencing stomach aches and cramps but i dont know if this is my period i went to the bathroom and there was a little bit of blood there but its not what my usual period looks like it was a little bit more gooey.. i know gross but i dont know why.. and i wiped and it was veryyyy light and i put a pad on to see later on if its my period but i checked and theres really not anymore blood coming out... what was that was it my period or just some random blood? and when iw ent to go pee some blood just pours out but yet again when i wipe theres nothing there ...wtfff im so scared

this isnt implantation bleeding is it !?!? im so scared i usually get my period the 21st
since you took the morning after pill i'm almost positive that it's just side effects from that.

it can cause mid-cycle bleeding and can make you sick from taking it, it can also induce something like what you're experiencing

Q: I am flying for 8 hours on a plane with my 20 month son on my lap in two days. I have flown with him before but he was really little and slept a lot. Please give me some tips on keeping him occupied/help him nap. I already am bringing lots of books and he doesn't really like to just sit there and play with toys. he is (obviously for his age) very high energy and I am afraid that he will squirm and try to run around the whole time and if I do not let him the other passengers will be mad if he is crying. thanks
a lot of times doctors suggest giving the child benedryl to help them fall asleep ... also bring things from home that he is used to falling asleep with, like a blanket/stuffed toy and give him something warm to drink to calm him

Q: i had sex on July 19th and i took a pregnancy test on August 5th it came out negative.. was it to early to take the test?.. should i take another one?
That should have been a decent amount of time, are you expecting your period with in 5 days? if not then wait until 5 days before your period to take it.

Q: Whats the best way to get rid of static electricity in your hair? Or to stop it happening in the first place?
static gaurd is amazing!!
i also love herbal essence frizz control
it smells soo good! and works wonders.

Q: ok. just wondering, but is it dangerous if you take like 10 advil in a day? i didnt take them at the same time, but all within 24 hours, like 4 hours between. Is it still dangerous to do that? Or is it only dangerous if you take them all at once?
And if you dont do anything to help overdosing the day you took all the advil can it still affect you for awhile??

thnx.
i dont think it will effect you if you do it once, i've done it and had no side effects. but if you constantly do it then there will definitely be damage to your kidneys and liver.

Q: ok, so i shave my legs, but i always get these really obnoxious red bumps and pimple-like bumps on my thighs. (i know, its gross!). i use shaving cream, shave at the end of my shower, and use lotion. oh, and a good razor. i am running out of ideas. help!
try changing the shaving cream, instead use conditioner. make sure you apply a little bit of pressure when you shave so it doesn't irritate your skin.

Q: my friend has a golf cart and she gave me a ride in it and i thought it was really cool
she drove it on roads
i was wondering what the price range for a used electric golf cart with a backseat is?
also do you need a license to drive it on the roads?
thank you

oh and where are some websites you can buy them?
i'm pretty sure that in most states it's illegal to drive them on the road and i'm not possitive about needing a license but i think you need to be at least 16

Q: I'm not sexually active. By the way. I'm fifteen..
But recently, and this is so embarrassing haha but, I found these bumps just above where my vagina starts. Like, in the pubic hair "region". They looked like whiteheads so my first instinct was to pop them, and when I did they popped just like a zit.
It wasn't really near my vagina, if it was I wouldn't have tried popping them. It was like in the middle of my pubic hair.
I'm not sexually active, so what could these possibly be?
its just like a regular pimple, they don't just appear on your face, it's possible for them to be almost anywhere on the body.

if you dont think that this is the case i would talk to a dermatologist at see what it might be.

Q: i dont know if this is weird but i love talking to random people. not like, aol chat rooms where you talk for 2 seconds and then someone ims you wanting sex from you but just casual conversation. are there any websites that are safe and let you talk to people your age (16-18years old)??

p.s. i really love talking to foreign people. like from england, ireland or france (i speak some french)
there is this game called the palace, it's something you download, and there is a whole hugee web of palaces and sooo many people.

it's great fun, you can chat and a bunch of other things.

you can download it from www.thepalace.com

Q: Ok, so here's the deal...im a 21 year old female and i live in Winnipeg,mb. Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 6 years and we have a beautiful 2 1/2 year old babygirl. in the beginning it was great we went out and did stuff(movies,dinner ect...) now we stay at home and do nothing, like im totally fine with staying at home and watching movies and playing video games. heres the problem i think he may be losing interest in me, he doesnt show no affection towards me(hugs, kisses, cuddeling)....sometimes i think about breakin it off but i dont want him to hate me, i would stil love to be friends with him ad hang out and stuff..i dont know what to do im sooo confused!! somebody plz help me!!
i definitley think you should kindly confront him about it. if he is still true to you and the relationship he will turn it around in an instant and apologize for it if not then mention it again and do what you need to do for you to be happy.

Q: I go days without pooping. Sorry to be gross.. but it's definitely not healthy.

Any suggestions on regulating my digestive system?
i agree with viva, activia works wonders, i had no problems with stomach pain, they taste amazing and it helps!

Q: Okay, so any of you that havent read about my pregnancy scare, here goes.

I used a contraceptive film, and allowed my boyfriend to get off in me...saturday

Iv been on Birth Control for 2 years.
& Sunday night I took my pill to start my period.
But I'm also having to take antibiotics for Staph infection =/.

My mother says, antibiotics kills your birth control.

So. Sunday night I took my pill to start my period. I didn't expect to be on my period by morning monday, or even after noon because thats always how my cycle works.

So when I wake up TUESDAY morning, no blood.
I come home from school tuesday, and there are a few spots. So I change my tampon.

Then later that night, I change it again, a few more spots, but more.

Then this morning I wake up, and I'm bleeding regularly.

So.. do you think I'm Pregnant?
Certain antibiotics can interact with birth control pills, making the birth control pills less effective and pregnancy more likely. Spotting - or ‘mid-cycle’ bleeding - may be the first sign that an antibiotic is interfering with the effectiveness of your birth control pills. Since you still got your period with in the week it was due, i wouldn't be too scared. It could be stress, or it may possibly be because the antibiotics made you irregular because it is interfering with your BC. But you still used your contraceptive film so if used properly it should be effective.
Are there any Planned parenthoods near you? You should get the Emergency contraceptive pills if you're afraid. If you don't have one by you they do sell them at walmart but they can be pricey, but a lot cheaper than any child would be.

Good luck!
Hope this helps!

Q: I read that the pregnancy success rate is over 85%. Is it common for most couples to have difficulty getting pregnant, because I am. I should have been pregnant over 50 times by now, but I guess we might not be doing something right. Even when we have sex while I'm ovulating I still don't get pregnant. I don't think that I'm incapable of having children. The both of us are young, healthy and in great shape, but I don't know what the problem is. Could it be that he shoots blanks? How do you even know if a man is?

If you have had children or have shared my problem, please let me know what I can do to increase my chances, whether it is eating or doing certain things, anything. Thank you!
A lot of times it's hard to get pregnant when you're stressed out... Take a nice relaxing vacation and while there get at it. In vitro fertilization can be expensive (not that having a child isn't) and can lead to multiple babies. Did you recently go off birth control? It can take up to 6 months for your body to go back to normal after getting off birth control, thus making it harder to conceive. Here are some other tips

Start taking at least 0.4 mg of folic acid each day two to three months before you start trying to conceive.

After intercourse lay down for a while and relax, this can keep the sperm date last longer.

Try conceiving before bed because it can take many hours for the sperm to reach the egg, so if you're lying down it may make it easier.

Start having intercourse 5 days before your ovulation time about once every two days and through out the ovulation period.

Cut caffeine out of both of your diets.

Avoid vaginal sprays and scented tampons, lubricants, vegetable oils, and glycerin, saliva and douching because they all can kill off sperm.

Remember that it can take around 2 weeks for your levels to show that you're pregnant so if it has been a while and you take all of these things into mind and nothing happens then see a specialist.

Hope this helps and good luck!

Q: what does it mean when a guy blows in your ear?
well i'd be afraid to find this one out lol.
it may be blowing air into your ear.. to turn you on or it may be blowing a load (cumming) in your ear, to get a reaction.

let's hope it's the first one..
hahaha
hope this helps

Q: i like doing cute things for my boyfriend as in hunts and cute little notes in his house. (we dont live together) i want to keep doing cute things any ideas?
aw the idea of the hunt is real cute :] i wouldnt have thought of that. i just thought of an idea like making him a note out of numbers, make it a decent length, not something he'd figure out by just looking at, and not something so long that he doesnt wanna bother figuring it out anymore. what i mean by a note out of numbers is you have a line where the letter goes on and the number under it and the key will have which number is which letter like this

Key:
A=1 B=2 C=3 and so on

Letter:

___ ___ ___
1 2 3

Haha i thought it's cute at least.
Or you can also make up symbols for each letter and have him figure it out that way.

you can also make a lunch consisting of his favorite snacks and sandwiches and go on a picnic with him!

You can do a scavenger kind hunt thing, and buy him some cute little gifts and have him find each one :) and then at the end of it have his favorite dinner cooked for him with candles and some sweet romantic music

Q: Okay I have a physical on Monday (in 2 days) at my family's doctor. Every year I go for physicals so that I can play sports. I always have to pee in the cup. If the last time I smoked weed was yesterday (FRIDAY) .. do they even take the pee for a drug test? Or do they just check for other stuff that could be in there and not for drugs? I've been having to pee in a cup since I was little, so I'm pretty sure that peeing in a cup wasn't for just a drug test. Help.. I'm FREAKING out.
haha i had this same fear :] i simply just said that " i did not have to pee i forgot that i'd have to pee in a cup and went before i left for the doctors and i havent have any problems or pain while uriniating" and they were perfectly content with that answer. I'm not quite sure what they look for actually but i didnt want to risk it.

Q: i found my old toy chest (actually, it's been sitting in my room for the last few years and i never bothered to clean it out!) and i just cleaned it out. it doesn't look like a toy chest so i can keep it in my room still.

it has no drawers obviously; it's just a big open box except the top doesn't open all the way even when you push it (it's the type where you push up the top -- it never comes off fully). i wanted to know... how can i store stuff in it? like should i buy bins? it's pretty shallow but reasonably wide, so idk how that helps. i can't put drawers in it... i honestly don't have a big storage problem but i was just curious. i put it at the end of my bed, and i DO NOT want to store clothes in it. any ideas of how i can organize it?
you can buy wooden boards and stain them to the color of the chest and just kinda make dividers with it. Although the idea of your bins will probably be much easier and possibly cheaper

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