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Hello. My name Is Solemnstar.I'm a fifteen year old (assumed) male-to-female Transexual.
I want to help, plain and simple.
I like plain and simple, I like to catergorize people, ptu them into nice little boxes in my head.
and I LOVE figuring out the ones that don't fit.
Chatspeak annoys me, It takes an extra two seconds to type the real words.
I don't anwser advice as often as I should. Mainly because of School.
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There is this Jack Black movie where he is a wrestler in Mexico (I think). Can you tell me the name of it? He always seems to be in funny movies.
Thanks a lot! :D
NAcho Libre.
Ah yes Jack Black. I love that guy.
Okay whenever me and my boyfriend are messing around and i like touch him or poke him down there...he always tells me im making him hard?? im not sure if this is a good thing or a bad thing or even what it means..haha cause hes comeing over tonnight soo pleeasee help! thanks :]]
It means your turning him on. His penis is getting hard.
He likes what your doing, it's a good thing.
Solemnstar
okay so me and my bf were going out and we wanted 2 kiss me but im like ew gros (it was 6th grade at the time) and so then we broke up but then we got bak 2gether (bcz of major flirting on both our parts) and so hes like i had dreamz of us kissing blah blah blah so im like fine meet me in the stairs il make ur dream cum tru. so i madeout w/ him w/e. but heres the thing. im only in 7th grade! is that so extremely horiable? and every1 found out (bcz 1 of my friends cant keep her mouth shut!) and every1 thinks im a slut. HELP ME!!!
People are just stupid, they spread gossip, and care more about other peoples lives because they do not ahve one of their own.
You are not bad or wrong. They are.
THEY however are not YOU, so it's none of their buisness what you do.
And the Friend that Told is'nt really much of a friend for doing that.
Hi,
My name is Carosita and I'm 22 years old and heterosexual.
I had an experience with a lesbian friend one night where we both drank too much and we ended up dancing sensually to the song as long as you love me by the Backstreet Boys and that my other friend taped it.
Also, we went me and her to drink coffee and since we were really drunk, she ended up holding my hand all the way.
Ever since that night, I had dreams of kissing her and sleeping with her but I know that I'm not her type and I'm heterosexual cause i still like boys but haven't found the right one.
My question is that whether that experience that night with my friend could have a repercussion on me on whether I could be a lesbian or not
carolina
umm. it's never that simple.
You could have always been bisexual or Homosexual.
Or maybe you are straight and just are attracted to this one person.
Don't discard the thought, it may be you are.
I stumbled across this site by accident. I seriously doubt many of you have the qualifications to give real people proper advice. After reading some of your responses to people's inquiries i was quite astonished as to how teenagers find they are able to give quality advice and information to real people in need with such little life experience. If you ask me you are not in a place to give your "personal opinion" when people truly believe you are giving them the right answer simply because you claim "people think i give really good advice". (eg. i am still at a loss as to how a 17 year old girl thinks she can give advice to someone regarding conceiving a child) I know you try to come across as a "godsend" to poeple who are in some sort of personal crisis and need a fast easy answer but the truth is, in the cases where it really counts, there rarely is one; at least not from you.
wow. finally someone says it. No I doubt there are many of us who are qualified. Do I really have the right to give people adivce on their problems when just last week I attempted suicide because of mine? no.
But i try, because the people who come here withe serious problems want help, and we are their first step. We are (for the most part) kind people with morals who some can better relate to, or feel better talkting to. we are just people, even professionals can offer bad advice.
Why isnt chat speak allowed on advicenators? can i speak in 1337?
well, technically you could, but we'd all consider you a complete idiot, and not worth our time.
I've thought a lot about death lately, and have found myself very freaked out about what it would be like to not exist and that this is my only life. Dying and being nothing and not even knowing for forever scares me a lot.
Any advice or reassurance would be nice. Anything concerning Jesus will automatically get your question rated a 1 and your face ripped off.
Death is.. the end... it's nothingness not like sleeping... no awareness, no dreams... it's the end.
A friend of mine attempted suicide, and was dead from blood loss for about 4 minutes. She told me that is how it felt... it felt like nothing.
I am also afraid of not knowing death
16/m
I'm so sick of being alive. Everything is so hard. I can't stand it. It's like I'm doing something wrong. I have few friends, but it doesn't matter because I don't like them. I don't like any one. People don't meet my standards and they never will. And when it comes to girls I have no idea what I'm doing. It's like there's some secret technique that every one but me seems to understand. My problems with girls contribute the most to my loneliness and depression. I'm unmotivated in school, because I care more about trying to find a place I belong, trying to find some one who understands me. I can hardly sleep because I'm always worrying about all this. I'm scared I'll never have friends. I'm scared I'll never have a good job. I'm scared I'll never have my first kiss or have sex, and if I do it will be with some one I don't want to do it with. Somewhere between now and the next few years I 100% sure I'll be dead. I can't take it anymore. I've been to therapy and they even locked me up like a criminal in a mental health ward, but to no avail. I hate life. I hate myself. I hate every one, especially if they're happy. I don't see things ever getting better. Please help me. And don't post anything about God, Jesus, or religion of any kind, it will be an automatic 1 on your rating.
then live for yourself. if the others don't meet what you need. care about yourself first, them second.
Death will not make you stronger. it will please them, make them glad you are gone... or they will miss you, if only because they are good people with morals.
I'm nto going to lie to you. Odds are with this kind of thinking, all those things you predict, you will cause them. kinda a self-fulfillign prophecy.
Now you can die, and please them, or you can live, because you want to.
There is no point to a life for others only.
Solemnstar
Okay...this is Haley...again! lol but me and my boyfriend as i have said before have been dating for about 5 months and we're defanitely in love! and he's told me before that he's never felf this way about anyone!! but he dated this girl before me for 3 and a half years.....!!!! and she ended up breaking his heart and they talked about getting married and stuff like that! Now the girl is a really big whore...like believe me I know!! And me and him talk about when we get married and he says that im the one hes been waiting for and that everything about their realtionship was a lie bc he couldnt trust her...But i always feel like im being compared to her or that he still wonders about how things wouldve been if she hadn't have turned out like that! And we've talked about it but i just cant get HER out of my head! and im driving myself crazy!!! And what really sucks is that the girl is pretty! I just dont know! and everybody remembers his as the popular quarterback who dated Charity...???? What do i do someone please tell me!
The cold truth is, people never stop loving their Ex's. What they do is find somebody else whom they love more.
If it's being called into question in your mind, you shoudl really tell him how you feel. besides it may prove to be better. i've seen people lead others on for years just to take for all their worth. and even after the ;ead onstill feel that they were truly in love.
What's that one movie with Jim Carey where he meets God or something? PLEASE LET ME KNOW!
Bruce almighty. great movie.
15/f. is it weird that i don't shave my entire "pubic" area completely off? i just shave around the edges but not all of it.
in a guys opinion is that weird?
I don
t think so, but i'm pretty open minded, so i'm nto sure if ym opinion amtters in this case. it's all up to who you ask to decide if it's weird.
i was wondering if anyone had any ideas for some quotes i could put in my AIM profile? they can be about anything, really- funny or serious. thanks!
"peopel say nothin is impossible, but i do nothing everyday"
Ok I heard of sayings like "bite me" and "I got laid" and "Someone got stoned" but I heard different meanings from different people about them and it just makes it confusing. So will anyone tell me what they ACTUALLY and REALLY mean???
"bite me" is pretty much saying "leave me alone" ina paticularly nasty way.
"i got laid" "i had sex" usually from a male.
"stoned" is under the influence of drugs, but i forget which one.
okk...so i'm a Christian and i know the Bible says not to like go out with the same sex..and stuff but i like another girl and i don't know how this happened!!!! Soo..I'm not a lesbian i only like one girl am I gonna go to hell or anything??
I figure, The bible was written a very long time ago, God's view must have changed a little. Or,being that everyone sins, it should'nt be a problem if you like someone of the same gender. I think it's all a part of god's plan. there has to eb homosexuality, and people will diablities, and birth defects, and Transgenders, and all those other things people get worked up about. they exist, and god created them, so obviously, it must have been intentional.
I would'nt worry about it. I'd sort of start to worry about it if you put faith before personal happiness, if you decide you are a lesbian.
This comes up alot. in fact i read a story about a man who hated being gay, and went to god for help. god helped him, obviously.
I myself am not christian, nor very religious. I believe god exists, but that is my only view on faith.
Iwoudl say, live life for you, not for a god that may not exist.
But that is just me.
Solemnstar
okay well this guy that i like and i know he likes me is all of a sudden hugging a bunch of girls in front of me and does he not like me anymore or what. i dont know whats going on
most likely? he's trying to make you jelous. unless he's just friendly.
Okay What are some "turn off's" girls do on like a regular basis?
Because I want to know what I should STOP doing lol
Thanks guys.
by the way im 13.
I'd say the nuber one thing that turns me off is anythign to do with past BFs.
also, (but this is probably just me) i look for someoen who is willign to just slow down, stop for a bit, and just s[end soem time holding oen another.
i don't usually like anyone who is all
"go,go,go!".
I woudl say, avoid being overly serious. huys are idoits, proven fact. jsut let them enjoy themselves.
there is a boy his name is sam and i like him how do i tell him that i like him without acually talkin to him
through the womans network.
It may sound liek i'm mocking your question, btu i'm not. quite simply, leave a note with firat and last anmes in a class, adn hope someone reads it. hopwfully, someone who gossips alot. it shoudl reach his ears by the end of the week.
However i do much more reccommend tellign him face to face, as it means more.
Solemnstar.
I DESPERATELY need a way to clean out my closet and my room, and keep it that way. Right now its SUCH a war zone. Clothes fill it, just laying in a heap on the floor. They all need to be cleaned and I need an organized way to do this.
wow. it's been a while scince i've done this.
Well, me personally liek to think of ym room as "an orginized mess".
It's how i find everything.
To start. make you're bed. it helps to have somewhere to ptu things whiel cleaning. have some garbage bags nearby.
throw out anythign you don't want/need/use.
AFetr that, decied what you use most.
put it in the most easily accessable place.
repeat for thing you us a bit, onyl a little. and throw out anythign you don't use at home.
If you have clothign you don't wear, give it to a charity
If god loves every one then why dose it seem that being gay is wrong. im a big gay rights person and i dont understand how in most religions its like one of the bigest sins
according to mot christian faiths, god created humanity to be man and women, but because we have free will, we can fall to satan's lies, such and bisexuality and homosexuality.Satan wouls try to corrupt God greatest creation by changing them against what god has made them for, and thus, the serve another, and cannot enter heaven..
So it's seen as wrong to keep us out of hell. however it's much more likely that that was just spread because the dominat religion before chrianity, paganism, accepted( muc more than the new faith) such behaviour, and that would keep many things too simaler.
christmas, is celebrated as jesus birth, which was in april-may(i'm not sure exactly when) because that was the time of the week long hoiliday Yule. Easter was a hoiliday celebrating the awaking of the goddess. it was jsut to make the transition to the new faith eaiser on some.
When i reach a orgasm i feel sick is this normal?
let me quote the TV show "house" for this one:
Dr. Cameron: Sex could kill you. Do you know what the human body goes through when you have sex? Pupils dilate, arteries constrict, core temperature rises, heart races, blood pressure skyrockets, respiration becomes rapid and shallow, the brain fires bursts of electrical impulses from nowhere to nowhere, and secretions spit out of every gland, and the muscles tense and spasm like you're lifting three times your body weight. It's violent, it's ugly and it's messy, and if God hadn't made it unbelievably fun, the human race would have died out eons ago.