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ok im 14/f and im in end of 8th grade..well the big problem is i met this 6th grader in the middle of school year and im not gonna lie his totally hot! The thing is uh is it ok to go out with a younger guy? Cause I think he likes me back because well today one of my good friends who never met this boy was walking with me..so the guy passed by and said hi and what not and after he leftshes like ooooooooooooooh he likes you..i dont know why she would think that but i like it. Why do you think she said that? Was is because of his reactions or his expressision.I really hope this is true. Sorry its long but please help..
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its ok to go out with a younger guy. but if you're like me, next year (for 9th grade) you'll be in high school and won't see him much. so if i were you i wouldn't act on my feelings unless you truly think you'll get to see him and spend a lot of time with him. and as for your friend, it is possible that she honestly does think he likes you. but it also could be immature behavior. not to say that your friend is immature, though.....like how everyone says "yo mama" and they have absolutely nothing against the person's mother. it's just like "oooh, a guy talked to a girl....ill bet they LIIIKKKEEEE eachother!" if you know what i mean. but he very well may like you. decide whether it's worth it...and quick because school's almost out! hope this helps.
-SlushPuppy
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Could anyone link me to a site that has Israeli clothing available for purchase? Not the really conservative type of apparel, however. Modest wouldn't be a problem, though. (link)
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Hi here's a decent website that has Israeli clothing for purchase.
http://www.blueandwhitekids.com/
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My boyfriend doesn't know how to kiss!! It's slobery, he actually licked my face!!! It's so weird!! I don't want to kiss him! I don't want to kiss my own boyfriend! I've tried giving him hints on that he uses too much tounge (i couldn't breathe once!!) But I have never told him directly. I don't want to hurt his feelings, he loves kissing, he even said so the otherday. And I hate it, it's so wet and slobery! How do tell him without hurting his feelings?
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find a good website that says "how to kiss" (just google search it, you'll find tons). Then print it and leave it somewhere where he'll see it. Make sure it says something about "gentleness" or "don't eat my face", lol, so if he decides to read it, he gets the message. Maybe in his locker? I dont know. Wherever isnt an obvious place that YOU did it. Hope this helps
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why is it a bad idea to make guys jealous?
j/w .
thanks in advanceee. (link)
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because it might not work and now you re stuck with whatever decisions that you made in hopes of making the guy jealous.
Example: Stacy and Joe used to be boyfriend and girlfriend, but Joe broke it off. Stacy wants Joe to realize that he's missing out, so she hooks up with Eric (even though she doesn't like him) and makes out with him where she knows Joe will see. Joe honestly couldn't care less and just goes about his business. Uh-oh! Now Stacy is in an awkward situation with Eric, because she USED HIM. Plus, she still didn't get Joe.
sometimes it does work to make guys jealous. Joe could have fallen for it. But there's always a risk of it not working, which is why it can be a bad idea to make guys jealous.
Also, if you don't use someone else to make a guy jealous, chances are you're just gonna look slutty and that's definitely not good.
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This guy and I like each other, and I guess you could say we've passed first base. But the trouble is he doesn't want the people we hang out with to know because of this different story.. so anyways, we would always hang out but then this huge rumor came out and it was bad so after it was settled he said we should take it slow. and then we kind of just stopped talking. So I kinda started feeling like he didn't like me anymore. and then one day he said ..are we not talking or something? and I told him that I thought he didn't like me and he was like no I do like you why would you think that?! and I was like oh okayy..sorry..and that was the only time I talked to him that day. and then the next day we texted at night for like an hour. then the next day we didn't talk at all. And I pass him in school, but he just waves at me. I mean I don't understand if you like someone and haven't seen them in like 3 days, wouldn't you want to run up and hug them? If he likes me, he has an odd way of showing it. I don't know what to do. I really don't like how he just doesn't talk to me and I really want to "break up" (I can't really call it breaking up because we're not even going out.) but I like him too. All I want to do is just be with him and I don't think he really wants to be with me. I'm just so confused. (link)
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I know it really stinks, but i think that he is really getting caught up in just being a guy. He probably has a lot on his mind, like school, family, friends....the same as girls for the most part, except with girls, they tend to be more emotional. Let me try to make more sense out of that though...
When i was in 6th grade, i started going out with a 7th grader. We really liked eachother and stayed bf and gf. Then he went away to high school, a 9th grader...and i was still stuck in my senior year of middle school as an 8th grader. I got sooo sad when i finally realized "hey, im not gonna see u in the halls...ever." I mean i knew i wouldnt get to see him much, but it really takes a while before things like that sink in. Now, 8th grade and 9th grade is almost over, and i typically go about 3 or 4 weeks without seeing...or hearing from him. But I've learned to enjoy being a girl and enjoy my friends...there's so much more than just him. I still like him, and am looking forward to next year, but i also like the other side of me that i never would have known if i spent every moment with him. Maybe you can find that other side of you too, and even though you get to see him in the halls, focus on your awesome life...only YOU will be with you every second of your life, so really get to know yourself. Stay friends with him and when you sense he's ready, try talking to him. Say "hi..." and catch up on some old news and stories...go to the movies or something. Just have a great time, and remember, you come before guys, so look at life with a positive outlook, because it will make YOU the happiest. I hope this helps. :-D
Sincerely, SlushPuppy
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okay so my boyfriend and i have been going out for about 2 weeks..and we're going to the movies on friday and he told my friend he wants to kiss me but i dont know how to kiss...and im rly nervous...help!! (link)
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I just asked TheDayTripper a similar question. Here's the URL, scroll down till you see it, it's like the second one or something. :) http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=TheDayTripper
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ha, this may sound weird, but the guy i like is completly untouchable? he, i dont know if thats the word, but like hes not perverted or whatever like the rest of the guys at my school. He's so adorable and innocent lol its really cute, but like no one can seem to "turn him on" haha. hes definetly NOT gay if your thinking that!. Hes just different? is there anyway to like turn him on. hm, i dont know if there is, but i thought id ask anyway. (link)
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Try to appeal to his sensitive side by spending a lot of quality time with him in a quiet place doing something quiet but enjoying all the time together. It seems like he's definitely a bit different...and if you want him so bad, you shoud (NOT change for him, but) show a different side of you. Somehow be crossing paths with him as he goes to something after school....bump into him at tennis practice...that sort of thing. Knowledge is power ;) I hope this helps.
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Ok, so normally I'm the one giving the advice, but right now I really need some advice, so here's my story...
It's been going on all of my life..My Aunt is a Cocaine addict. She has a son who is 2 years older that I am. So, about 4 years ago, when he was 12 and i was 10, my mom and stepfather finally decided to take him away from my Aunt, and he came to live with us. But, during the year after we took him in, my stepfather came down with lung cancer. He went through everything, like chemo, and radiation and it finally went away. Now, by this time which is about 2 years ago, my aunt starts doing a little better. My cousin, John, by now is 14 and we let him visit his mother more. But then his mother goes in jail, and my stepfathers cancer comes back. So, now about 1 month ago, my cousin is now 16, and a junior in high school. He is acting out in any way possible, smoking pot, having sex, and just not listening to anyone. Also, my stepfather is in very bad condition with his cancer. He can barely walk himself and he probably only has a few months, if that, to live. So we have had it, and we let John go back with his mother. But, we can't help from feeling guilty and feeling like we failed.
So, what I'm asking is if you think ther is anything else we can or should do to help? And if we should feel all of this guilt, and feeling of failure?
Thanks.. (link)
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I'm glad that you let him go back to his mother for a little while. Everyone needs their mom. It's some kind of mentality thing. But I would not let him stay there. It seems like his mother has been a bad influence on him. Maybe visits now and then would be enough. As for your cousin, I would say you guys should definitely try talking to him and finding out why he wants to smoke pot and have sex. What is it doing for him mentally? (so he thinks). Because doing those things in reality will not make problems go away and everything will be the same as it was after he isn't high anymore. If he is being unreasonable or refuses to talk, I'd say you should seek professional help. He shouldn't be doing those things, period, let alone the fact that he's 16. Smoking pot is illegal, and having underage sex is also illegal in some states, to a certain age. He could also be depressed- that's another possibility. Just try to figure him out, bottom line. I do not think that you/your family failed. How would you know he was going to turn out this way? Different people deal with problems in different ways. Best of luck.
Sincerely, SlushPuppy
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ok so my gf had a weird dream where her best friend died, then later on in the dream her best friend came back, in her dream she had to go through shcool tellign everyone what had happened to her and where she was and that she was dead, then she came back to life and said she only thought she had been dead, it was weird. she had a diffrent dream where we broke up and she started dating my best friend, then me and her got back togeather but we didnt tell her and we were like making out right infront of him and he was like, "is this a joke?" it didnt phase him, and in the dream she was talking to him on a bed and it was weird. anyone got any idea what any of this means. don't leave a response if you don't know what your talking about, and if you feel the need to tell me you dont, if you do please tell me where you get your info. thank you (link)
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It may not be such a complicated message. I know that it sounds really strange and ironic, but it could just be that she has a lot of different things on her mind and may also be kind of unsure about things. Sorry if you don't think I know what I'm talking about, but I really just think that dreams are clusters of everything that stresses us out and things we are constantly thinking of and trying to figure out. Ask her if she has ever pondered what might happen to her (or someone else) after they died. That, for example, might explain the dying thing. Try to find explanations, because I'll bet there are some. But dreams can be really weird, I'm definitely not doubting that.
Sincerely, SlushPuppy
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So, i have been in this relationship for about seven months. And i was wondering what are signs when enough is enough and somebody should end it. I mean i love him with all of my heart, and i know he feels the same for me but it's getting old. I mean i think after six months it gets old for couples, and that the true test. I`m not sure thats why i am asking for advice?
Also, What are some things to not be as bored because i think thats what we need.
Thankk youu alll :]
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It's ok to break up with someone, even if you still love the person. It may have turned more into an "I love you like my brother" type of thing. But if you're looking for something fun to see whether you can have a great, loving relationship again, try working a summer job together, going to a dance, having a party, going sledding (in the winter), going river-rafting (in the summer) and doing other fun seasonal activities that require good communication skills and are enjoyable. Hope this helps!
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this summer, i want to start babysitting, but i dont really know how to start. i dont want to put up flyers or anything like that bcuz i heard this one girl got like raped doing that. if anyone has any good ideas for me, i'd appreciate it. thankzz!~ (link)
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Ask your parents if they know any people or have any coworkers that have little kids that might need a babysitter. Or ask people at your church, temple, or mosque if you go to one of those places. Any public places where you feel comfortable talking to some people would also be a good idea to find out who might need some help. Good luck!
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Let me start of saying that I am a guy. Well, me and this guy are going out and I really like him, but I havent ever met him in real life. But he has a webcam, so I know that he really is the age he says he is. I am supposed to see him this summer, but I don't know how to act. I mean, hes a year older and a hell-of-a-lot more mature. I mean, I love him a lot, and I don't want him to think I am totally imature and too clingy this summer when he comes down here. Any advice? (link)
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I'm wondering...do you have a webcam? If you do, and he sees you (but doesn't know your maturity) then I really don't think you have much to worry about. He's watching your every move, and probably approves if you guys are going out. ;-)
If you don't have a webcam, then I'd say just try to "comb your hair everyday" and most importantly just show him who you truly are. I mean, don't be like stocking him EVERYWHERE, but you can certaintly spend a lot of time with him this summer so both of you get to know the true you's.
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I was thinking about throwing my first boy/girl kinda party. I'm 14/f and I have a pool, so I wanted to have a kind of pool/summer party. I need advice about how to exactly organize the party so everyone will have fun and what to eat and drink. How long should it be? What are activites boys and girls both enjoy? Do I just invite the people, they come, and do their own thing? Help; I've never done this before and I need advice!!! (link)
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What a great idea! I'm sure you guys will have a great time. I'd say ask your friends what kinds of snacks they want, like maybe pretzels and chips and dip or whatever...maybe try mozzarella sticks for a meal (because people don't really need a plate for them...save a tree, lol) and just try to keep yummy hand-held food near your pool so people can be in the pool or out of the pool but still all be in talking range. Maybe 2-3 hours would be good....races in the pool are always fun (and if u like one of the guys you're going to invite, maybe try piggy-back races in the pool? That could be fun for you. Also it's fun in general even if you don't like that person). Marco Polo? Monkey in the middle (but put more than one person in the middle?) I dont know. Whatever you guys are into. I'd say don't send out invitations, but mention it to the people at school, or if you want, type up a really brief invitation. But dont buy those ones that say "You're Invited!!!!!" on the front because that's kind of young. Either way, relax, because a pool party is ment to be relaxed and fun...and refreshing. I hope I helped, and have a great time!
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So theres this guy Im talking to.He says hes likes me but hes soooo shy. He puts his arms around me, we cuddle and he kisses my forehead. but hes so shy to kiss me...we talk like everyday, but he hasnt called or texted me in like three days, and i feel weird. dont know why. I know hes really shy, and i want HIM to make the move, but im guessing i have too. Im confused cause weve been friends for like a year, but he knows ive liked him for like 6 months and so has he...should i make the first move...but the problem is, is that hes really shy and might hold back his feelings. (link)
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Well a really good plan for your first kiss would be to hug him (not around the shoulders, but like a chest-to-chest hug) and then take your chin off his shoulder but keep your arms around him. This way your face is like an inch away from his face. Smile....then blink kind of slowly, then all you have to do is move your mouth forward an inch, no room to turn back. It'll be a great first kiss, especially if your kinda shy. Or else he could kiss you 1st when you're an inch apart, if he gets a little burst of confidence. But either way it doesnt require a whole lot of confidence....just a well thoughtout plan. Go for it, I really hope it works!
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16/f ok well i used to date this guy (who i'll call gilbert) gilbert. and we dated for like 2 weeks and (this was a year and a half ago) he broke it off b/c we "we're more like siblings". and just recently i've come to remember why i liked him in the first place and we flirt alot but i don't think he realized that we do. and i have no idea if i should say something or if i shouldn't, b/c i think i'm starting to fall for him again and i don't know what to do (link)
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I'd say that instead of coming right out and saying "Hey, I LIKE like you again, so what do you think?....." that you should ask HIM first. Ask him what he thinks of the two of you, and whether he still wants to be just friends. That way it's like an "I asked you first" type of thing and you can respond to what he says, allowing you to not have to prepare what you're going to say as much and just go with it.
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Guys at my school are just weird. Like they're either too cocky [like ooh look at me] or to nerdy. I finally got the rep i wanted and i just know i'm going to loose it next year [high school] but anywho i recentlyy kinda started crushing on this guy but i've never really talked to him. He's cute but i don't really know him. --i'd really like to though. People say he's a jerk but i dunno i wanna find out myself i guess. Well, i think he thinks i'm a big humungo fake prep or something because the class i'm in i get realllly hyper... but it's just me. I'm not shy i would go up to him i just don't know what to say. The problem is; i went out with his friend for about a week. and apparantly he likes me again - i feel bad but i just don't like him like that. Now, i bet he thinks i'm a even bigger "prep" - sometimes i really hate that title but people who know me know i'm not like that. I think he overheard me talking to a friend about his friend liking me again...it slipped but i said he's got chicken legs and he's really annoying. Yes, i know its kind of weird. I guess the main question is how can i start a convo with him with out him thinking i major prep or a mess. or weird. i really kind of want to go out with him sometime or something. Help? thanks a lot!!
-arehjdklaf
p.s. i promise i'm not as big as a prep as it sounds..lol i'm a cheerleader but i just made it this year i'm just really hyper and outgoing a lot. --do guys really like that and what do they like in a girl??? (link)
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I'd say just be careful when you talk to people. You never know who might hear. Also, try showing a calmer, sweeter side around him. Like you said, once people get to know you, they know you really are not a "prep". So once he gets to know you, he should see that too and be able to appreciate who you are. I'm sure you're fine being hyper, but he may not be into that. Some guys are and some guys aren't. It wouldn't really be fair to steriotype and say that all guys like a particular type of girl. I hope this helps!
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I have an amazing boyfriend, who treats me great & is a typical 'good boy'. I've always been attracted to bad boys, but my bf's humor & innocence hooked me. I find myself fantasizing about one of his bad boy friends, even though there opposites. I can't help it, bad boys bring out my passion. Is it normal for me to have a tiny crush like this? I'm in love with my bf, but this bad boy's charm & cockiness gets to me. (link)
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Its ok to like someone else even though you have an "amazing boyfriend". Remember, you aren't married to this person and you're still young. It's normal for you to still want to flirt and check out other guys and even have a crush on someone else. It's also ok to have a crush on more than one guy at once. If you ever find yourself liking one guy more than another, you can always get back to being single and start over with someone else. ;) That's the beauty of not being married yet.
Sincerely, SlushPuppy
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So when I hang out with my boyfriend, his friends are always with him. Always the same select few. And they basically make fun of me a lot. And my boyfriend will just laugh or something and i'll get mad and he'll be like "baby, i love you" and sweettalk me out of being mad. And i don't want to go whine to my boyfriend about it, because that will just piss them off even more. And when i talk to them about it, they just say "Well I do like you, I mean I don't hate you" and just laugh and keep doing whatever. And I don't know what i'm supposed to do. Help? (link)
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This is kind of tough, but you might want to reconsider whether your relationship with this guy should continue. If his friends aren't going to accept you and treat you respectfully, then there's something about the people he hangs out with isn't too great. It seems like whatever it is, it's gotten reflected onto him. He should listen to you better. If something is bothering you, you should tell him, and if he gets pissed, then it's over. You don't have to put up with someone who won't respect you or stand up for you in front of his friends. Here's a neat little quote you may want to go by: "Men should be like good bras...supportive,good-looking, and never let you down!" I hope this helps!
Sincerely, SlushPuppy
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Well, I'm going to start writing a new book centered around the game "Freshman Five" For those of you who don't know what that is, here's a general gist, because, well, that's all I know about the game. It's where seniors [guys] pick 5 of the hottest freshman girls and tries to have sex with them. I really would like to know more about this game and I was wondering if anyone knew about it? Like are there rules, qualifications? Is it a competition or what? What are they trying to prove/achieve?
Also, there are those sex games played at parties. One is the rainbow game where girls wear different colored lipsticks to give a guy bj's and at the end, the guy with the most colors on his penis wins. Does anyone know other sex games played commonly at parties? Well, I shouldn't say commonly. But, anyways, can anyone help me? Thanks very much =) (link)
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Seven Minutes in heaven, possibly. That's when a girl and a guy are selected at random at a party and thrown into a closet together with the lights off. They aren't let out for seven minutes. They do whatever they want.
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14/f well just yesterday my bf dumped me..this is how it went. We were online and lately he hasnt been talking to me and seemed really quiet.i asked him if he still loved me. hes like ive cheated on you since last saturday.i was like but do u love me and hes like of course not i cheated on you, you stupid little ass bitch and just left..but there is more to the story..does anyone wanna give me advice. ill tell you the rest if someone kind enough is willing to give me advice.
heartbroken girl...
ps i have AIM if some one wants to chat on there. (link)
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I feel soooo bad for you. That is the rudest thing a guy could say (i should hope!) You need to find a guy that is loving and will not treat you in such a way. If you are 14 then are you going to high school next year? (so will I, because I'm also 14). At high school, you will meet tons of new people and probably will meet a nice guy that will like you for who u are. If you would like to chat, I have an AIM too....
Sincerely, SlushPuppy
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