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My toes are hairy.. what should i do about that? (im a chick) (link)
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If you're that bothered by it, shave it off. I doubt that it's that bad and you're becoming ape-person. Just relax and if it bothers you that much, shave it off. It isn't that much of a deal unless it really stands out. It'd help to have a little more information about it though.
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me and my best friend have been best friends for a long time and then all of a sudden an old friend of hers comes along and they r spending all this time together. she was supposed to go to florida with me for vacation but she went to her to grand isle instead. i even got her somethin while i was there. i feel like this gurl is takin my best friend away from me. im not gunna lie i am VERY jelous. what do i do? (link)
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Talk to your friend about the situation and explain to her that you feel like you're losing her. I'm sure she doesn't want that to happen. The best thing to do is to talk to her and get it off your chest.
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I'm going to a new school in fall. How can I make people like me there? (link)
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Be yourself. Be nice to people and try and get involved in activities that are going on. Just be nice and friendly to everyone and they're bound to like you.
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alright. my friend recently lied to me about losing her virginity. she told me a huge sob story and stuff, and how it was good. i don't know what to do. she lied to me. and she still wants me to be her friend. would you ever go back to being friends with someone after they lied to you about something as big as that?
P.S. we were BEST friends. (link)
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Ok, first of all, how do you know for sure that she was lying?
Second, talk to her about it. Tell her that you don't want your best friend to lie to you like that. Something that important is something that you shouldn't lie about. It's a serious thing and she shouldn't be lying about that kind of thing. How can you trust her if she's going to lie to you about important things like that? Talk to her about it and tell her how you feel about her lying to you. Especially about such a big issue as that.
I personally don't like being lied to but I still think that you should give her a chance.
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my brother just hit me so bad and it was for like no reason my whole face started bleeading he took a shoe and started hiting me with it and started pulling my hair i hate him so much..i was so close 2 calling the cops but i just couldnt wat should i do i really started hating him! (link)
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Do your parents know? If they don't you need to tell them as soon as possible. Where were they when this happened anyway?
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i just got a pet..its a goldfish..what should i name him? (link)
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You can name your fish whatever you want.
I named mine after seasonings(I have six). There's salt, pepper, ginger, cinnamon, vinegar and of course, Fred. But, hey, whatever. Not all of them are seasonings then :)
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okay. well i just moved out into my own apartment and i'd like to get a pet. the problem is i don't know what kind. i'd like something that doesn't require a TON of care, but something that i can also play with..can you help? (link)
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Cats. Cats are pretty much independent and in my opinion, don't require much care. Feed em, get a litterbox, thats pretty much it. (Besides vets stuff of course) They're playful too. Look for someone whos cat has recently had kittens, go pick one out and you're set.
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this question is kinda complex...but im gonna try and make it as simple as possible...Basicaly i see myself as getting less and less attractive by the day lol, and im getting the idea that the girls are thinking the same thing. See, i used to be pretty damn popular and liked by the ladies, and i still am, but its waring off, and im not getting the attention i used to, which is fine, but im wondering.....is a girl gonna loose interest in me based more on my looks getting better or worse...or are they gonna stick around for my personality????? Thanks, adam (link)
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First of all, everyone feels at some point that they're the most unattractive thing alive but things change. Girls are gonna like guys that are confident and sweet. Personality has a lot to do with it. In truth, looks draw people in but personality is what keeps people there. I don't think you should worry about it too much. You'll get your attention again in good time. Personality is important so don't rely completely on looks and what others think of how you look.
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I wrote a song and i think its pretty good. Im a pretty good singer and I could sing it, but how? (link)
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I've written songs before and I've sung them so I think I can help you with this.
Try reading over the lyrics and putting a melody into your voice. Work with it for a while until it feels right. If you need any other help with it, just ask me
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Hi, my brother is 10 and will be 11 in august. Anyway, my bro is so spoiled that when he doesnt get his way, he starts to get a nasty additude and says he hates my mom and grandma! How bad! My mom tries hard trying to teach him not to be spoiled but it never works. How can we get my bro to be kind and unspoiled? (link)
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I don't think it's anything you can actually do anything about. He's just gonna have to learn on his own. But, you could try ignoring him when he throws his little fits. Don't let him get his way. You can't let him control the house or whatever it is that he's actually doing.
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im 14 almost 15 and i have never had like a real boyfriend should i be worried that im going to go to prom alone because i think about it a lot (link)
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Give it time, I'm sure you'll find someone eventually. But if you're too impatient, flirt with the guy you like. Never hurts to try!
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my friend atdance brags all the time. she say how good she is and shows off all the time. if i get complimented and she doesn't, she tells ME i'm a show off... what can i do to tell her to stop?? (link)
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Talk to her and tell her that she needs to stop trying to be a show off. The world doesn't revolve around her and she needs to let other people get the spotlight once in a while.
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hey yall i jus found out that my bf is probly cheating on me and this stuff happens to me all the time i always get used at and it really sux and wel i jus dont no how to deal with it cus wenever this stuf happens i get really depressed and shit and i think about cutting and stuff but i never actualy do it i jus need sum way to get out of this place or idk i jus idk (link)
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You don't need to deal with that kind of crap. If a guy is cheating on you, dump him. No one is worth your time that isn't going to want to be with you and only you.
Don't get so down though. Your life shouldn't depend on whether a guy likes you or not. Just go back to the feild and find yourself someone new that will care about you and won't cheat on you. Don't settle for what you think you deserve. Everyone deserves the best.
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my boyfriend is moving to new jersey at the end of this month..we're both 13 and we really like eachother but i dont know if i should break up with him..right now we live on long island..but should i break up with him since hes moving to new jersey? i have NO idea what to do!!! please help!! (link)
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If you think that you both can maintain a long-distance relationship, go for it.
However, you're both young and you'll probably meet someone new. You probably won't be able to see each other as often as you like and it might just be easier to break up and stay friends. Other than that, I don't know what to say so I hope I helped!
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I need help because i dont kno if i should call this guy to tell him i like him or if i should just keep it to my self???
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You have to gather up your courage. If you think you can handle it, go ahead. Be sure that you're ready for anything though. I say go ahead and do it. You never know until you try.
I wouldn't exactly blurt out that you like him the first time you talk to him though. Get to know him, then lay it on him.
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I'm 14/F n im goin out with what some people call a 'player' everyone is telling me that i should break up with him right away. but i cant! he makes me so happy and i really like how he makes me happy if im upset or anything. i feel i can really talk to him about anything and everything. my friend (who is a guy) is telling me now that my boyfriend has hit his past girlfriends! i dont know if thats true or not. everyone seems to be against my going out with him and i dont know what to do anymore. they're telling me that he is going to ruin my life and im making a huge mistake by staying with him! i dont know if i should break up with him or stay with him. but he makes me soo happy and thats why i dont want to break up with him! i just dont know what to do. if anyone has any advice please give it to me, id really really appreciate it. thank you.. (link)
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You don't want to be with someone who isn't going to be faithful and trustworthy. Sometimes the majority knows more than it seems. Do a little research, talk to his past girlfriends about what you've heard.
If he really makes you that happy and he seems like the kind of guy you want to be with, go ahead and try it but if you're still worried about what people are saying, do what I said before and ask his past girlfriends about it. You might be able to talk to his friends, too.
Let me know how it goes
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Okay so i have this friend that we will call David. He's my best friend, but I think i like him and he might like me, im not sure. I can't get him outta my mind. I'm going crazy. Should I tell him that I like him or just keep it to myself? I mean I tell him everything and he came to my b-day parties and everything. I really don't know what to do. I hope someone can help me soon.
Signed,
Confuzzed (link)
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It's funny, I was actually in your situation not long ago. If you and him are really close, I suggest confronting him about it. Ask him how he feels about you, if he'd ever want more to your relationship. If he seems nervous or distant, back off and leave the subject alone. At least a little while. He might not like you more than a friend or he could just be embarassed because he DOES like you like that. If you're too scared to confront him directly, you could always try dropping subtle hints (always seeming approachable, try and be "accessable" whenever he might need you(but don't let it seem like you have nothing better to do with your time). Smile at him a lot(don't over do it!)
Let me know how everything works out :)
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ok i went out with this guy i regret it and i made a mistake by breaking up with him. we still like eachother things r good we r still friends and i want to go out again (he doesnt kno that tho). he just told me how he thinks we should be friends with benefits. do you think this could lead into a relationship or does he want to keep it this way? help. thanks xox (link)
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Well, you really need to talk to him about this. You're only going to get yourself hurt if you want more in the "relationships" and he just wants to be friends with benefits. Talk to him about it, and regardless of how scary it may seem, tell him how you feel. If he's really worth your time he'll stay your friend or maybe go out with you again. Maybe he likes you the same way that you like him and he's just trying to make it seem like he doesn't? Take a little time to talk to him about it and find out if he really does want more to the relationship. Don't settle for anything.
To answer your other question, it may or may not lead to a relationship. This could be his way of staying close to you or he may only be looking for fun. You need to talk to him about this.
Tell me how it all worked out! Good luck!
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