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HEY THIS IS HAILEY! I AM 13 AND I'M IN THE 8TH GRADE. I'M ALSO ON THE BETA CLUB, EVEN THOUGH I NEVER HAD STRAIGHT A'S; I GUESS THEY JUST LIKED ME. I HAVE 1DOG, 2CATS, AND 1PARAKEET. I LOVE TO GIVE ADVICE BUT IF I DONT UNDERSTAND THE PROBLEM, OR WHAT U WROTE, THEN U JUST MIGHT HAVE TO ASK SOMEONE ELSE. NOW U KNOW A LITTLE BOUT ME, SO START ASKING AWAY!
~~~~~~~~~HAILEY~~~~~~~~~~

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Hey yall. Well, I'm 14/f and I'm not so good on the whole introduicng yourself thing. If anybody could tell me the good way to introduce myself to someone, what to say, and what topics to talk about in a conversation so that I don't sound stupid would be great. I really want to make good friends this summer, but I just need the right start. Thanks!

I went through the same thing the other day. When you meet someone just say 'Hey my name is ---.' in a cherry voice. And then do a quick once over without the other person noticing and without moving your head. If they are carrying a book ask if its interesting. If you like their shoes say so. If their hair is shiny or bouncy ask what they use. That type of thing.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~

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so theres this guy who i really felt something for..
like i was in love with him..
and we did something for love like sexualish.
then he went off with another girl in a different state..
so.
and hes moving on we werent going out yet but he sure did make it seem like we were..
always talking about it and stuff..
and now i learned he does what he did with me with every other girl..
anyways..
i had sex for my first time with this one guy im not sure if he got it in it was painful but not supersuper painful like everyone says..
but i did it because i wanted to feel what i felt with the other guy..
so my question is..
should i go back to the other guy?
and not be mad at him
and talk to him instead of ignore him because im pissed?
what do i do?
I RATE 5S.

Forget that lousy mother ******!!!!! You don't need him! Go on with your life one way or another. He might even ask to be forgiven later, do not accept. He'll just leave you, and I'm not saying that because there's something wrong with you it's just how all of them are. So find someone else that's worth your time and forget him.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~~

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ok well me and my "bf" want to go somewhere special and we dont want to go to the movies been there done that to many times! and not my house b.c heres the thing i want to tell him i love him for the first time!! and he has something to give me and things like that so not my house to many people, there is like 8 people there. not his house his mom is all over his kids when girls coome over, well thats what he said. so any ideas its tongiht or tomorrow but i need answers quick thanx!

A resturant or a beach, if there's one nearby. Pick either one and it'll be a romantic night.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~

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Okay this is really embarassing....I went to the movies with my boyfriend last night and we decided to see Nacho Libre...well halfway through the movie I had drank a large soda and I really needed to go ut I didnt want to miss the movie. So then this really funny part happened and I laughed until I peed my pants...I was SO embarrassed and I couldnt get up because I was afraid he would notice to when we went to leave the movie I just rapped my jacket around my waist. On the car ride home he put his hand on my thigh and squeezed...I was so happy! I've never really be touched by a guy (I know I'm a weirdo) and I'm really excited and like a a crazzed fan touched by their hero I'm not sure if I want to wash the pants. I know its gross...but would it be too weird to not wash them and keep them for sentimental value? I wanted to ask my friends but I was WAY to embarrassed to ask people I know. Oh my gosh pleaase help!

If you don't wash them they'll start to smell like something died and then you'll have to throw them out. So wash them, it won't wash out the memory.
~~~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~~

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My 12 year old son has been bullied by a boy in our neighborhood for several years now. My son has a lot of friends, but of course all his friends are around his age and scared of the bully.

The bully (Gary) is 15. A few years ago my husband and I talked to Gary's parents, because he stole a toy from my son on the school bus. Gary claimed not to have the toy, and his parents protected him--and said we were in the wrong. This only child is perfect according to them. I have given up on going to the parents. The attitude of the police is "boys will be boys" (we live in a small town).

I caught Gary in the act a couple of weeks ago. He jumped on, and broke a ramp that my son and his friends built for their bikes. I told him he was acting like a 6 year old, and that someday someone bigger and meaner will come along and "take him out". He rode off on his bike in a hurry! However now he harasses my son about telling "Mommy". Last night he threw big rocks at my son's bike, causing some damage to paint. Apparently it even makes things worse if I interfear. Usually I do leave it to my son to settle disagreements, but this boy has crossed the line.

My 21 year old son, is 6'4, 240 lbs but If I use him to intimidate the 15 year old, this would be no different than a 15 year old picking on a 12 year old. Although...I doubt Gary has paid much attention to big brother. He'd probably be scared of him, we all know Gary is a coward in disguise.

My son does not want to walk away, because this means he would have to leave his other friends behind, plus he wants to "look tough" Any tips on dealing with a neighborhood bully?

I'm about your sons age and I know how it is with bullys. Boys like to fight fire with fire and win, girls too, and not seem like a chicken who can't stand up for himself/herself. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't help your son. I bet if you found a way to scare Gary then he'll steer clear from your son. Maybe he's afraid of a certain animal or bug. If so tell your son about it more than likely he'll think of a way to use it to his advatage. Then if Gary's parents think it was him say that your son would never do something like that. Just like they think of Gary. Or move. Not far, just far enough to get away from him. Act like you just got a job promotion somewhere. That way it won't look like your running because of him, because it'll just make him think more highly of himself.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~

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Hey i have a friend. That won't let me read a book that she reads it's a special type of book i want to read it but i don't want to hurt her feelings what should i do.

Just ask her what's so important about it that she won't let you read it. I mean you are friends and friends should be able to show and tell eachother anything. But, honestly, if she doesn't want you to see it it might be for a good reason, or just personal.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~~~

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My face complexion is always changing because either, i have a tan & then I don't, etc. And I get and lose tans easily and it makes things hard when it comes to face makeup and chosing the right color. What should I do?

Get a variety to your constant changing complexion. That way you are always prepared.
~~~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~

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I have a secret crush and she dosent know it, or at least i dont think she does, she has a bf and she really likes him, i have had a crush on her for awhile even before her bf but i had a gf at that time, should i try to go for it or leave her alone?

I think you should let her notice you. Talk to her some and always look her in the eye. Don't try to hard or to fast. Let her decide who she wants.
~~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~~

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do girls like it when you look them in the eye when you talk to them

Everyone I know do. But some shy girls feel awkward.
~~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~~

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I'm a married man. I used to have a group of female friends in high school and they recently contacted me. I want to see them, but my wife would probably not want me to. Should I see them secretly, ask my wife and respect her wishes, or tell my wife and do as I please? We are just friends.

Well are your friends married? If so ask your wife if she wants to come with you to see some old high school buddies of yours. Maybe go out for dinner and a drink.. But whatever you do don't go behind her back and see them. She'll find out one way or another and think it was more than a reunion.
~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~

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as you guys all know.
the school year's starting soon.
and i want to be a whole new me ! :)
i want to get highlights.
& have a new found style.
i want to decorate my locker.
& i want your help. :)

any ideas:
on styles, locker decorations,
nice highlight colors for dark brown hair?
[i'm thinking a bit blonde or red].


helP. :D

I know what you mean! I've been going all out for the new school year. Anyways... With your hair light brown highlights would go well. For makeup light brown eyeshadow, and of course lip gloss (lipstick is overrated). By the picture it looks like you don't really need maskara or eyeliner. For the locker a mirror, pencil holder, magnets for your pictures, and if your lockers are big enough maybe an organizing shelf unit (if you know what the heck it is). But I can't help you with a new style, you like what you like.
Hope the new school year goes well for ya!
~~~~~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~~

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Ok...I have this issue...I am SOOOO bored... I mean..I am basically a loner so I dont go anywhere...now I am dog sitting so if i do go somewhere I have to take hte puppy with me...I just got a new cell fone but ive already explored it to the fullest and i have nothing to do. I cleaned my house yesterday and I am dead sick of the computer...does anyone have anything on ideas of what I can do...??? Plz help!

Well I'm kinda a loner too so I know how you feel. Lets see.... You can read (newspaper comics, books, magazines, etc.). Go on goggle and find some hot pictures of your favorite bands. Go to freewebs.com and start your own site. Play with the dog. Go for a walk, with the dog. Answer questions on here. Go to bored.com look up the jokes. Maybe you have some barns up where you live and you can help out. Watch the cooking channel and make a wonderful meal for the family, puppy included. I'm running out of ideas...
Hope these helped.
~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~

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i'm 12 and i started my 1st period june 15. i heard u were supposed to get it every 28 days and i'm about a week late if that's the case! could i be pregnant, i mean i havn't had sex, but could i be? plz help!

Don't worry you're not pregnant. Some people, like me, just have periods at different times. If I were you I'd have a pad with me all the time. And I've heard eating pizza will hurry it up, or something of the sort. Drink a lot of water!
~~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~~

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i am goin into the ninth grade and i still hav like no chest. its sooo embarassing. Is there like any chance that ill grow more befor school starts? its weird because iv already had my period, but i hav no chest.

I don't know why you care but cause you do get a padded bra.
~~~~~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~~~~

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My neighbor asked me to mow her lawn for $25. I mowed the front yard and the sides of the house and got $15. Now all that's left is the back yard.

I tried to mow it today and I looked down at my feet and ants completely covered my feet. So I took off my shoes and ran home, slapping my feet to get them off.

Should I tell my neighbor that I won't mow her backyard anymore?

15/f

Tell her this word for word.
"There are huge ant hills in the back! If you throw in some extra money though I'll kill them for you. I assist."
Then you get some ant killer and shoot away.
~~~~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~~~

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my cat wont stop pooping in the corner! what do i do!

Thats why there are litter boxes. All ya gotta buy are three things. A cat box, litter (I suggest multiple cats), and fabreeze. If its all around the area of that corner put newspaper under the box. If it's like a room, (bathroom, bedroom, etc) close the door.
~~~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~~~

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I am like the only person that doesn't have a boyfriend. And I have never actually had a kiss i mean i just turned 14 but it is so embarrassing. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!

Ok calm down.. A lot of people about 14 never had a bf (for instance= me). There's no reason to be embarrassed. So what if everyone else has a bf?! So what if you haven't had a real kiss?! Enjoy being a teenager while you can! You can worry about handling guys later (no offense to the other people out there). And if you don't have a guy out there who you like then think about this... if you go to a party you can flirt all you want, you don't have a bf.
~~~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~~~

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ima 14yr old female and i just broke up wit my bf, and that same day my friend asked him out. I kno im the one who dumped him, but i still like him a little, and it sorta bothers me that their goin out. and she is 2 yrs younger than him, so it seems weird to me.

Ok... First of all lose this so called 'friend'. And why did you break up with him in the first place? Was it cause he flirted with other girls? Did he say something about the way you are? Did he think he was always right? Or maybe you had an argument...? Either way forget him and find someone new. It might take some time but remember.. over time scars always heal.
~~~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~~~~
P.S.
The same thing might just happen to this 'friend'.

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