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hey i an from Limpopo.im in a new relationship.me n my bf we a naw datin for 1month n 3days.i love my bf so much n i try to make him happy but dat doesnt hide de fact dat my bf is still inlove wth his ex who has died.wen he need me i go n be wth him.on saturday it was his bdae n i made a suprise party for him n i invited his friends n ada gals.he was very happy n i was happy to see him happy.but dat dae at nyt he said i shuld not leave i shuld sleep ova n i did so.he started talking abt his ex who died n his ex was buried on saturday on his bdae.he told me dat he is over her n he dnt luv her anymore but his actions was telling me another story.he evn cried for his ex infront of me n didnt wt tu du or wat to say.my heart was heavy wen he was kissing me he suddenly stopped n he said he cant.yesterdae he removed de status on watsap he wrote abt me n write dat he love his ex n he change a profile pic n put his ex.i cried alone n my hurt was heavy realising dat im truly,madly n deeply inlove wth him.what do i have to do? (link)
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Honestly, if he still loves his ex, the only thing you can do is walk away before you get any more attached and it gets worse. You deserve (like everyone else) to be with someone who loves you back. Maybe in the future he will get over her, and you two can be together, but until then, you need to think of yourself and do what is best for you, which would be moving on and finding the one for you, because clearly at this time it is not him. I know this is probably really hard for you, but you deserve better, and you can't be with someone who doesn't share your feelings in return, nor can you wait around for him for ever. So I think you should move on and find happiness else where.
Hope this helps~
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I have a guy that I like and he is moving half way across the world. I have already told him that I like him but he hasn't said anything. Now that he has moved away I can't stop thinking of him. What should I do? (link)
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Honestly, I think you should move on. If you told him how you feel, and he didn't reply, that's just not right. Besides, long distance relationship SUCK. I would never ever suggest it for ANYONE EVER. coming from a person who has been in several, I know what I'm talking about, trust me. I know it sucks to hear this, because I personally don't like to, but there are other people out there, and you can move on. If you two are meant to be, then maybe fate will bring you individuals together some day, but believe me when I say, long distance is 95% of the time NOT worth it.
Hope this helps~
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So I have this huge crush on a boy btw I'm in middle school 7th grade and I don't know if he likes me back, I always catch him staring at me and when I do he quickly turns. Sometimes he doesn't and just keeps staring at me for like 10 seconds, we have everything In common he plays basketball. So do I, we always talk about the things, sometimes he starts it and when it ends he likes to go like "oh wait did u hear what happened", he always tries to make me laugh, he sometimes makes sure if I laughed or not, he even likes to play with my hair and poke me, and once he asked Me if I was single, but what really confuses me is that he likes to make fun of me I front oh his friends, like make fun of my name, but when we're alone he just calls me by my normal name, so does he like me? (link)
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He clearly likes you. He's just being a basic middle school boy, and one of those people that acts differently around their friends, and when you're one-on-one. Which I personally don't care for, but I'm sure there are some people that don't mind as much. Majorly, when you're younger, you be mean to the person you like. Why? IT'S BEYOND ME. I never understood it, but that's just the way it is. Messing around is fine, but being straight up rude is just stupid. Anyway, I definitely think he likes you.
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My dream has always been to go to the ocean and etcc. My family has never gone for two main reasons my dad hates them, and my mom hates flying.
I told my boyfriend (whom I've been with 3 years) that I have always wanted to go there since I was little. Next month is my 23 birthday, and he surprised me by booking a trip to take me there! I am so excited!
However, I am worried my mom is going to be very angry. I told her how I wanted to visit a friend who moved to Texas for a job and she said "oh no I would be too nervous you flying there" she has always done stuff like this. I didn't go to the college of my choice, because it was 2 hours away and that was too far away from her.
I am worried about her reaction when I tell her. Should I feel bad? What should I say? I'm not wrong, am I? (link)
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You should not feel bad. You're 23, you can't be under the influence of your parents for ever. They can't have a say in everything you do. It's your life, and if you want to take a trip, then accept the awesome gift your boyfriend gave you, and don't let anyone have a say in it. Life is too short to not live it.
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Hello everyone, I am having sexual frustration as well is my partner. I am a female and I cannot orgasm. When he plays with my clit it becomes ticklish and feels good but it's almost uncomfortable at the same time. And when I really start going my legs normally spaz and my body jolts and then he tries again and the same thing keeps happening. Can anyone give me ANY advice on how to relax, or to make my legs stop spazzing, literally ANY kind of advice or tips. I want to orgasm so bad and I get in the way of myself from getting there. Also, when a female does orgasm, does she always cum? Thankyou!! (link)
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You and your partner should try testing the waters more. Try to explore more things into helping you climax. Have your boyfriend try different things and see if anything makes you less or more turned on. Music often helps, and I heard keeping your feet warm can make you relax more. There are tons of tips on the Internet on how to get (incertain gender) to orgasm. And yes, usually the girl cums.
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Does going to the bathroom alot help end the period faster??? (link)
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No.. It does not.
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Is it weird for a guy to be more comfortable being intimate with guys (hugging and what not)than with girls? (link)
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If you mean for a straight guy to be comfortable with that, then no not really. (Even though it's definitely not weird for a gay guy either) it could have to do with shyness, like you just are too shy of girls to be intimate, but not shy of guys so it's more familiar. Like, I know I'm a girl, and some people think that's different, but it's really not. But anyway, I am more comfortable with physical contact with girls than guys (I'm straight) and that's probably because I haven't had a whole lot of intimacy with guys so I'm more shy of physical contact with guys. So I don't think it's weird.
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My periods are mostly irregular. I had my last period on April 17. When I first had sex with my current boyfriend,on May 26,the period was already nine days late. I didn't have sex until then. We had sex twice and used a condom both times. But after our first time I've started having cramps in my uterus,my breasts hurt,just like when I'm about to have a period. What are the chances that I got pregnant?
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Wait until you're a week late, then get a pregnancy test. (No cheap ones) if you're still not certain after then, and get symptoms of pregnancy, then you should get looked at. That's the best way to know.
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so i have been dating this guy for about a month. i just left back to san fransisco for the summer and he will be in chicago so we wont see eachother for 3 months. we spoke about what to do over the summer vaguely and i thought i was clear in saying we should end things but then i said we could still keep in touch which i think he took as that we are still dating. he calls and texts me and lot and acts very boyfriendy and i geniunly enjoy talking to him but do not want to be "together" all summer and dont really want to pick things back up next year. He likes me a lot though and thinks things are going very well so im not sure how to say i didnt meant that we should stay together without hurting his feelings. just need suggestions on explanations for the breakup, what should i say? do i say its about the distance? should i say im not into it and hurt his feelings? should i make up something about that we want different things or im not ready for a relationship? please help any advice on how to end things without hurting him but also an excuse that he cant argue with and convince me not to end things. (link)
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I think the best breakup way is to say that you need time for yourself and need to figure things out with your life rn and don't have time for a relationship, ESPECIALLY a long distance one because those SUCK. I wouldn't bring up the previous "breakup" because it might make him feel worse by feeling stupid or something, so just end it on something like that but that you individuals can stay friends. (If you want)
Hope this helps~
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Hi! So I have this friend and I love him dearly, but I'm so jealous of him and his life. I'm jealous of his house and his personality and he has a wonderful family, which I don't really have. I don't have brothers to look to as an example, I kind of raised myself in many ways. Yes, I do have two parents who I was adopted by who provide for me sufficiently as far as material things like clothes. But my mother just yells at me for the littlest things, which has actually caused me to be depressed. She yelled at me when I told her I was depressed because she thought I was trying to make her feel guilty. I know I should be happy with what God gave me because we'll all be rich in heaven, but he's even a better Catholic than I am! I just don't know what to do. He's so smart, and I have two Cs. (link)
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I understand how hard it is when you see someone with a better life. I have a friend that I had been jealous of for the longest time, but eventually I just stopped and let it go. And I think that is really the only thing to do. So it's normal to feel how you feel, but you can't constantly be comparing yourself to other people, because it just won't help your circumstances, or your friendship, or your attitude, or really anything. So you just gotta let it go and accept that things are the way they are. Especially when it comes to spirituality. But besides, you never know what could be going on in his life. He could secretly have a really crappy family life where his parents are really hard on him when it comes to grades or something. No ones life is perfect, after all.
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My friends did the challenge but we didn't know we had to say charlie charlie can we stop? before we could stop playing! Are we all going to be haunted until we die or just the person who first asked to summon the demon?
SCARED PLEASE HELP! (link)
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Don't worry. Charlie Charlie is a fake game created by some troll. The trick is that when you get close, you may not realize it, but your breath, or some other quick movement causing motion, moves the pencils. There is not supernatural activity going on in this game. So either your friends moved it on purpose, or accidently. Now the ouiji board.. That's still up for debate.
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Hi...I am a 15 year old brown -skinned girl. I have serious skin problems. Large pimples, tiny ones and blackheads since i was 9. I tried many skin products recommended by my mother's doctor but nothing works. The pimples are causing my pores to enlargen and it is really fustrating . I cry everyday and do not socialize at all or rarely do. Snacks, chocolate and many other food products have been cut out of my diet to improve my appearance but it is still horrible. I think the chemicals from my skin products worsen my skin so i have tried only home made remedies. Please!!!!Anyone!!!!Help!!! (link)
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I used to have really bad skin, and so did my brother, but then my doctor recommended getting something with Benzoyl peroxide in it. So we got Clean & Clear's continuous control acne cleanser, and their Persa-gel acne medication. I highly suggest these items. It has highly improved both of our skin. What you do is you wash your face twice a day (one in the morning, one at night) with the cleanser, and then after the one at night, put on the cream medication on the acne parts. (It doesn't need a lot, but you need to get it directly on it) When you wash your face, use a soft wash cloth with warm water to get the cleanser off. Also, tanning (naturally or at a tanning bed) can help acne. That helped my other brother. The less sugar you eat (and carbs can turn into sugar) the more it'll help your skin. I have also noticed recently, TOUCH YOUR SKIN WITH YOUR HANDS/FINGERS AS LITTLE AS POSSIBLE. when you do that, you are practically inviting acne on to your face.
Hope this helps~
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I'm so worried about dating. I'm 18 and in university and I haven't dated anyone or even kissed a guy. I do want to eventually settle down and I have had crushed on guys but it's just so hard for me to talk to them and I feel that sometimes it's just not worth the effort. Then there is a the whole virginity thing, in my culture it's expected that I will only lose my virginity after marriage and I want it to be that way, but it seems so unlikely that someone will want to wait that long! I don't know how to find out if they would or not! Even guys from my culture aren't interested as far as I know! I'm not really sure what kind of advice I want but anything would be helpful I guess! Have you experienced anything similar? (link)
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Don't give up your standards for yourself, for anyone. If you want to wait for marriage, then stick with that, and eventually you will find someone who will accept all of you, which includes your standards. I believe there is someone out there for everyone, so don't worry about never finding someone or anything like that. I definitely understand where you're coming from, though. I know how it is to talk to guys, and I am trying myself to push myself out of my comfort zone and talk to guys more. It's a work in progress, and I believe it could happen for anyone.
I hope this helps~
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I have not given my older brother a gift in forever. We both have been through alot, it seems like its something all the time. I don't want give him anything cheesy I want it to be the best gift ever. I am almost 15 and he turns 16 in a few weeks. He deserves something nice. One time I felt bad because he bought me a phone with his game money. I was thinking about buying him the game and a picture frame, but I think that is a little to girly.... (link)
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If what I think you're saying is, that you want to buy your brother a game that he wanted but instead used his money to get you a phone, then you should Definitely get him that. Honestly, I feel that the best gifts are ones with sentiment. It doesn't have to be something big or expensive, but as long as there is meaning behind it between the two of you. Maybe everyone doesn't feel that way, but that's how I see it.
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How long after a perm till i can wash my hair (link)
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48 hours, usually.
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theres this guy from my school and he's pretty hot and popular. he finds me attractive and he said he'd hook up with me.
I want to kiss him but I've never kissed anyone (I'm 16. I swear im not ugly or a nerd lmao).
Should i tell him before hooking up or just let it happen? I don't want him to think that im a bad kisser.
Im just so scared cus i want this to work and everyone says we've got some short of connection. (link)
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Nah you probably shouldn't tell him. If you guys get into a relationship and get somewhat serious, then you can tell him later, like, "hey so ya know something? You were actually my first kiss" and it'll be a cute story and then he knows so yay.
Hope this helps~
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Hello, I'm a 15 year old girl so obviously I'm starting to explore my attraction boys (and girls) at this point in my life, but I need a bit of advice on a few questions that I have. So this first question could just be the effect of growing up with a father who's kind of racist, but I'm going to ask anyway: I'm a Caucasian girl, so is it strange for me to prefer people of other races over other white boys? I know that the not-so-playful teasing would be endless if I ever brought anything other than a Caucasian boy home. My second question: Is it unusual for me to like more than one person at a time? I'm not attracted to ALL the people at my school obviously, but is it strange to have 4 or 5 boys/girls that I would consider dating instead of being set on one or two people? Thanks a bunch! (link)
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No it is not strange. You should be allowed to like whoever you want, regardless of race or anything like that. People just have different preferences, it's normal. And no, I don't think that is strange either. It happens. What is NOT okay, though. Is if you are in a relationship, and still feel that way. So as long as you're not with someone, then liking multiple people should be fine.
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Hi,
I'm usually pretty good at giving advice, but this I can't help myself with. I'm 13 and I just got transferred to a new place. I've been here for two months now. As many people here are teens they love to act all grown up and I'm not comfortable with the kind of things they do and the language they use, so I'm not friends with anyone, I tried to adjust and get used to them but without a friend I just can't manage. I'm kind of shy but I can make friends easily, but no one is like me (a little kiddish and crazy) everyone loves to act all grown up. I'm having a tough time making friends, please give me some advice on how I can adjust or I'll end up a lonely girl who talks to herself (link)
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Well what you definitely SHOULDN'T do, is change who you are to fit in with everyone else. If sticking out alone is what it takes, then so be it. But Never change for someone else. Only for yourself. I personally don't think that Everyone in your school-or whatever your social thing is-acts that way. There are always different groups who act and do different things. So I suggest you branch out and try to find the few, or many, different people out there. Even if certain people seem a certain way on the outside, doesn't mean they aren't different on the inside. Because that happens a lot. So you should try to get to know people on a deeper level, and look into different groups of people. If you can't find anyone in your school, then get into other things like camp, music groups, sports, church groups, paint classes, etc. If all else fails, then you could always get online friends. May sound lame, and it can be, but I have found a few great friends online. I have also found a LOT of bad ones on here too, however. So be careful with that.
Hope this helps~
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It's gross, especially when it's overt and/or persistant. I thought a relationship was meant to be between 2 people? Why do some couples try to get other people's attention? I noticed yesterday at the mall. There was this interracial couple all over each other, as we stood in line at this food place, and i'd focus on other things but they'd sometimes look back with this look on their face line they want their relationship to interest people, incite anger or jealousy, etc. it was awkward for me, directly behind them, and others in line. I have no problem with any couple, interracial, gay, lesbian, transgender, one young and one old, etc. I'm happy others can find love and be in relationships. I'm not jealous either, it's just uncomfortable to essentially be viewing foreplay without consent. There were children in line, too. Some people seem to get a sexual thrill out of people seeing their pda and that just seems sick and self centered. It makes me understand why there are countries that ban it. (link)
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Hm.. I can see why you feel that way. When people get like WAY into each other like making out in public, that's kinda gross. I think people should be allowed to give affection to their significant other in public, like holding hands, kisses, hugging, etc. but not like that. That's especially lame if they are doing it JUST to annoy people, or for them to watch or something like that. I mean, that is just stupid. So I definitely see what you're saying.
Hope this helps in some way~
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ok so my question was it a bad idea that i bought something yesterday i work with this lady yesterday was a mothers day in the restaurant its our busy day of the year ok so i know that when you guys are not official its a bad idea to get somebody with a gift it just puts you on a friend zone ohhh your a nice my thinking was ok its not gonna hurt to get her a small bottle of water that water cost me $1.45 my thinking i wanted her to think that i care lately she has been asking me to hangout with her i have never given her a direct answer yes lets go my strategies was i have all the time in the world to surely build attraction patient.discipline.selfcontrol is the key to lady heart do was it a bad idea that i got her a bottle my strategies wa how is she gonna react in the freindzone or you know what i mean so when i gave it to her she seems very happy (link)
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No.. I don't think it was a bad idea to get her a water bottle. That is like totally harmless. If someone did that to me that would just make me feel like they care. Unless you did it in like a super creepy way, it should be fine.
Hope this helps~
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