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Hey I am Nicole and I love giving advice. I am great at giving advice about your love life and pretty much anything else. If you ever need a helping hand or feel like you just need to talk to someone I will always be willing to help out.
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THIS IS NOT NORMAL HIGH SCHOOL DRAMA. I'M BEGGING YOU TO READ THE WHOLE THING. PLEASE.
16/F
There's this guy at my school that has been literally obsessed with me for like two years.
He texts me constantly, and I used to text him back and we'd have these really cool intense conversations.
But then it got a little scary. About two months ago, he began to text me every single day like once every thirty minutes until I answered him back. And I'd have to answer him back, because if I didn't, he'd come up to me the next day at school and corner me at my locker and ask me to explain why I didn't answer him back. And he just would have this puppy dog look in his eyes, so he looked non-threatening, but he'd also be blocking my way out with his arms.
He's constantly leaving notes in my locker and on my desk in homeroom about how we're going to spend the rest of our lives together and have a bunch of kids. We are not dating.
I've told one of my friends about it, but it's embarrassing because I don't know what to do. Plus, he keeps telling me in every note not to tell anyone because they'll make fun of our "love" and he doesn't like it when people make fun of him.
This note thing has been going on for almost a month. And if he sees me flirting with a guy in the hall, he just gives me this look and then he'll corner me after school again. I'm allowed to flirt though, aren't I?? Well I can't anymore and I've stopped.
The puppy dog look has left his eyes by now.
And the reason why I've finally gotten up the courage to write this is because I'm all out of ideas. My friend that I told doesn't know what to do about it and she isn't really taking it seriously. And I'm too scared to go tell the guidance counselor about it because I'm pretty sure he'd find out somehow. (He tends to follow me around school). But the thing is that sent me over the edge is that he called me last night after school (today is Saturday), and his speech was slurred so I'm guessing he'd been drinking, but he said that he was planning on killing himself soon unless I:
1) stop flirting with other guys
2) stop talking to other people when he's around
3) have sex with him soon
He's crazy, right? What to I do? I was so scared last night that he was going to come over my house. I locked all the doors and I slept in my brother's room.
I don't want him to kill himself, obviously, but I also want him to leave me alone. I'm scared also too that with everything else that's going on (the notes about how we're going to be together forever) that if he does choose to kill himself, he's going to take me with him.
Please help, I'm so scared right now.
ok you really need to tell a guidance councler at your school this is serious. He has a huge obsession with you and you can't let him control your life. Tell somone now it better to save a life and be embarrased than let someone kills themselves.
so theres this boy in the year abouve me in school an i like him quite alot. at first it was just the usual crush but now as time has gona on i actually love him, but the thig is hes got a girlfriend and no matter how hard a try to forget about him i just cant. i cheeck his facebook 5-6 times a day and even if it just says he friends with someone new i have to look who it is, my friends say im obsessed with him and i al ways use to just tell them that they were wrong but there not i think i have some sort of obsession with him that just wont go away, ive tryed liking someone else but it dont work. what shall i do ?
I know what you are going through forgeting about a guy is not the easiest thing to do but you just have too. I had to forgot about a guy and the only thing that helped was time. I didn't completely cut him out of my life because he is my friend. But I told myself to stop making all these ilusions in my head he dosnt like you and never will. I know that it is so hard to hear this but the only way you can forget him is understanding that you two will never be. There are many fish in the sea so don't
Worry about just one. I promise you one day the right guy will come you just have to wait. Also to try forgeting him join a club do a sport something to keep you busy do you won't be thinking about him.
i feel really empty .. like i have no real reason to live. every day when i get up in the morning i have to think of SOMETHING thats worth living for. i feel like everyone hates me & like everything i do is wrong. i feel like im in this big black empty hole. i'm always alone in my room crying. sometimes when i do talk to someone i feel alright until that person has to go & then i feel like dying again.
i just dont know what to do. dont tell me to talk to people or smth because as i said i have the feeling that everyone hates me and everyone probably does. i have no real friends except one guy who i talk to in philosophie class and another guy who seems to care about everyone so he sometimes talks to me to make me feel better.
my stomach always hurts & the guy i have major feelings for stopped being my friend as soon as i told him ( we where REALLY good friends before that)
all this sadness began after that because he was my only friend ( i just moved here) and ever since he stopped talking to me i'm basically alone. its been half a year now but i cant get over it.
i dont know what to do! am i depressed?
I don't think your depressed your are just going through a phase. Your heart just got broken and it's ok to feel sad for a while. But life goes on and so must you. When your in class say hi to someone, ask for a pencil, start a conversation do something. Making friends is not hard and if you don't want to talk to people .Then I have the perfect solution for you. Help others out donate your time to a charity. When you stop feeling so bad for yourself and help others out the sadness inside you will go away. If you don't want to donate your time then do something with it join a club or a sport something to keep you busy and away from sadness.
Hope I helped you out.
A year ago I felt beautiful. It was the first time in my entire life that I actually felt beautiful. I had a boyfriend that thought I was the most beautiful girl in the universe. Since we've broken up, things have changed.
About a month ago I looked at my legs, a part of me which I had grown to adore, and saw these hideous limbs staring back at me. It was like overnight they had become fat and ghastly.
That's not even the worst part though.
Two weeks ago I swore I had started to lose weight. I knew I had been eating like half of what I would normally eat a day (I've just finished school and work starts later in the evening so I don't feel hungry till later and sometimes I'll only end up eating like two meals). I put on a skirt I had bought earlier in the month and it was a bit looser around me.
Anyway, over the weekend I went to a bar/club for the first time since I had just turned 18. I went with two girlfriends of mine. When I walked in my hair had been trashed by the rain but I still felt confident and happy. About two hours into the night after my friends had been picked up a few times and I hadn't even been looked at by a guy I still felt good because they were having a good time and I still love my ex boyfriend so I'm not looking for another guy at the moment.
Anyway, this guy who was sort of DJing came over to us and started having a conversation with my two friends. He didn't even look up at me, not even to just be polite. He completely avoided me at all costs. I just stood there awkwardly for like 15 minutes sipping my drink while he chatted them up. It really crushed me. When I go out I don't expect guys to look at me or pick me up, but I have never felt so insulted by someone before. It was like he gave one look at me and because I'm not attractive he just couldn't bare to look at me again. I'm not even overreacting, he didn't even bother to ask my name or greet me in any way, he knew I was with them since he had been watching us talk all night and because I was standing right next to them.
It wasn't that he was picking them up and not me, it was that he found me so disgusting he wouldn't even acknowledge me. I haven't been in a great place since me and my boyfriend have broken up, I just feel ugly and unwanted all the time, and that was just the final blow that has broken me a part.
It sounds so petty and ridiculous but it was just so humiliating and awful. He gave me this look when he first came over and I smiled at him, it was just this "why are you even looking at me" glare before he quickly avoided my eye contact and refused to look at me again. He even followed my friends downstairs when we had found a seat and kept going with their conversation without acknowledging me. I've never met someone who has been so horrible like that, other guys that knew a few friends of mine were there and they were polite enough to even just smile and wave or say hello when they were interested in my friends just out of common courtesy.
Since that night, I can't find anything pretty let alone beautiful about me. I can't imagine anyone ever thinking I'm beautiful again, and it hurts to know that. I feel like in a few short days I've gained all that weight back even though I haven't been eating more, my skirt is even tighter than it was now. Could the change in the way I see myself have changed my physical appearance?
I'm not really sure what I'm asking for with advice, I want to know how my body could have changed so much but then I want to know how guys can be so horribly cruel to women who aren't pretty? I want to know why guys have to be so repelled by me when I'm nothing but nice to them and a happy person. This was mostly because I feel so terribly upset right now and wish I could talk to someone about it.
Thank you to anyone who listened.
yes it is all how you look at yourself. Just because you had a boyfriend didn't make you prettier it made you FEEL prettier. When your boyfriend left you lost his attention and therefor your confidence too.but really you have always been pretty it's just how YOU see yourself. Don't let one night at a bar ruin your life. There are many fish in the sea. Not always are guys going to find you attractive that's just life. I bet you that guys were probably looking at you but they could see you weren't confident. Also you were probably to busy looking at the negative things to notice the positive things. Forget about guys for a while try gaining confidence and self estesm and you will see you will feel great and find a great guy. Always remebed you are beautiful. :)
im 15 years old. and weigh about 165 pounds. i hate everything about me. im fat and ugly. my sisters 19 and i hate seeing her. shes so pretty and skinny. but everyone says we look exactly alike. i think im suffering from depression. i need help. its not normal to hate urself. i hate myself. i wish i was dead sometimes. people call me fat and ugly and i cry my eyes out and i feel like a little baby for it. i need help asap. i barely goto school. cuz im always worried about how i look and i hate it . i hate myself so much =[
I dont know you but you saw you weigh 165 and that's a good wieght. Others can't hurt you without your consent. Don't let people get to you and don't waste your time caring about what others think. I am a girl too so I know how sometimes you just wish you were someone else but life dosn't work that way. The only beauty that counts is the one that comes from your heart. People will criticize and try to put you down all the time but that just means that they are insecure themselves. This is how I thnk about it if somone spends their time watching you to notice what they call your "flaws" then they have no life. Remeber anything that dosnt kill you can only make you stronger.
16/f
This guy Brian and I used to be really good friends but I'm pretty sure he liked me and I didn't like him back last year. We are still good friends but not as close as last year. Since I didn't like him he moved on to another girl but this girl, Alyssa, says she wants a relationship but doesn't want it to be official. What she means by this is she wants someone always there and around but she doesn't want it to be official because she'll have the pressure of having to do stuff. She is really prude, her and Brian had a thing for months and they only hooked up for a second the other night. I don't mean to bash on her but there really is nothing good about her, no personality, not very attractive, plain bitch, and prude. Now that I realize that I like him and want a real relationship how do I show him that? I am never good with showing people I like them, I always get really shy. But I am really serious about this and feel like we would have such a good relationship and my friends think so too. I think he is really just settling for her because there is no one else that he knows definetely likes him. So give me any ideas, suggestions. Thanks!!
hey I'm stuck in the same situation except I can't win him over because he is dating my friend and they seem happy so I know exactly how you feel My advice to you is talk to Brian about how you feel you have nothing to lose. If he tells you he wants to be with the other girl tell him that it's ok and you hope you guys can still be friends.if you truely are meant to be together than destiney will put him in your path again. Hope I helped you out.
Well u see ive been talking with this boy,I really love him,like he is everything i need & wand there is just something about him. But he has a girlfriend. But we still talk and fool around. it kills me but i want it so bad i know im selling my self short so what do i do.Tell him its me or her? because i feel if i do that ill like be crushed. He tells me he doesn't like me as a girl friend number 2 but yet he calles me babe and he treats me like that so like what gives. The other girl doesn't even talk to him,ever but for some reason he still wants her..i just need some advice to see what i should do.
I am sorry to tell you but yes you are selling yourself short. Tell him what you think and tell him that you don't want to be the second girl. If he truely loves you like you love him and you guys are meant to be together then things will work out. Think of this as a test to prove his love after you talk to him you gave to wait and see what he does. If he stays with his girlfriend then he isn't worth your time. Hope my advice helped.
Okay i weigh aroung 160 and I'm thirteen. now i know what your thinking but just wait. I look like i weigh 120 lbs, the reason i am 160 is that i have very large breast i wear a 38d and my mom makes fun of my weight, she calls me names and it really hurts me. How should i deal with it when it's not me that's causing the weight?
First of all you need to talk to your mom. She is not suppose to be making fun of you she is suppose to support you in everything. I think you should talk to your mom and tell her how you feel when she makes fun of you and that you don't see it as a joke or funny. Love yourself for who you are and don't let anyone bring you down :) not even your mom. Hope my advice helps.
what are rich brand names? like juicy couture.. victoria's secret...
hollister,American eagle, fendi, prada hope that answers your question
okay (this is a little long, just a warning. sorry.) so like I'm a freshman in high school, (I'm also a girl in case you were wondering LOL) so I know I shouldn't be taking relationships too seriously yet, but this is my first boyfriend so I really don't know what's going on.
I met him in october, and we were good friend, online at least. we talked on AIM whenever we had the chance. then near the end of october he asked me out. we got along well, but the problem was we never really talked a lot in school. we usually said hi to each other or ask how we did on tests, and I sat with him at lunch once, but that was before we were dating. he said he felt bad that he couldn't take me out becaue he didn't have enough money, and I offered him that I could pay but he said that's not right.
so anyway its been almost a month that we haven't spoken and my friends are bothering me about it. I don't wanna end it with him because I think we have something, but maybe it was just too rushed since we've only known each other for like 3 and a half months. and also, he's never on AIM anymore, and he's barely on facebook, so I can't even talk to him like that. and I have 3 classes with him at school, and sometimes we just give each other these blank glances, but not in a bad way. and sometimes when we say something funny we turn and laugh at each other. otherwise, we don't say anything, so I have no idea what's going on between us. just say what you think, as long as it doesn't pretain to punching him in the face and dumping him like a total ass. :P
so yea, thanks if you answer. :)
Before you do anything I suggest you talk to him first You never know what could be going on in his life. If after you talk you see that things are just not gonna work out you will know what to do next. Hope my advice helped.
17/female
i've been going out with a guy for a little over a year. were best friends and have an amazing relationship. the only problem that i have though is that his mom is really overprotective. i haven't seen his room..ever and he has a relatively early curfew. it's frustrating for me because i hate to see her treat him like he's in 5th grade. she's really nice to me and loves having me around, but i think what she does is ridiculous. what should i do?!
Just try to understand she is a mom so she obviously is going to protective towards her son. Try talking to your boyfriend about it so he can talk to his mom and they can figure things out. I hope my advice helped
im a 16 year old girl and recently got in trouble for sneaking out of my fathers house. I went to hang out with a really good friend of mine...when we were hanging out my dad called his cell phone...my friend immediatly took me back to my street...when i walked up to my drive-way there was a cop sitting in it...i walked inside to see my step-mom, father, and lee county sheriff. The cop left...and the lecture began...but it was my step-mother yelling...my father just kind of stood there. So i was told to pack my things and get ready to go back to my moms house...then my step-mom called my friend(kyle) nd yelled at him and told him to get back over to my house...before he arrived 2 lee county sheriffs showed up...after they questioned kyle they let him go...nd i returned inside...my stp-mother said that i would not be returning to their house...i went home the next morning after church...a few days later my mother was talking to my father on the phone...he then said the same thing my step-mom had said..."she's never coming over again" Now hearing it from my sob step-mom is one thing...but hearing it from my dad is different...im his only blood related child nd his "little girl" nd he turned his back on me for breaking one rule at his house! i have never done anything like this at his house before...but for him to basically shun me cut deep. I havent spoken to him since sunday which has been almost a week...my father usually calls me 2-3 times every 4 days...i have not received one phone call...i love my dad soo much...but i dont know how to deal with the fact that he doesnt want to be in contact with me...please help...i need my father in my life!
call your dad he probably is just trying to teach you a lesson. Your dad was probably worrying a lot about you and he is mad be aide he trusted you and debt expect you to do that. Call him tell him your sorry and wot do that ever agian. Hope my adivce helped.
This is a long story but I will summarize as much as possible.There is this boy ,who I've liked for probably a little less than 2 monthes.He liked me back right away and I began to show lots of interest ,considering he is shy and kinda geeky and i wanted him to realize I liked him and i wasn't gonna turn him down. We talked for a while until he slowly lost interest,probably because I became to easy.... But one day I brought my best friend over his house and he had the nerve to beg for her number and talk to her on facebook,etc. Which upset me,but she had no interest whatsoever with him .She thinks he's ugly and just wants to be his friend.Turns out ,he begins talking to her daily,he asked her on a date,tried to kiss her,all this stuff and she didn't know how to tell him she didn;t like him.She finally told him,and he thought the only reason she didn't wanna go out with him was because of me (since i like him and shes my best friend) ..which isn't true! Now I THINK he hates me and he won't even talk to me or acknowledge me.He used to talk to me nonstop and we were very close until she came into the picture. He told another one of my friends that he likes girls that pay no attention to him,which I did the opposite of when we first started talking.He told my best friend (the one he likes ) that he would never like me again and it'll never workout between me and him so he's gonna wait around for her.I want to say something to him to clarify that I AM NOT the reason she doesn't like him and I want to be neutral with him but I don't know if I should talk to him first or if I should leave it alone...help!
Leave things how they are trust me.This happened to me and I kept going after the guy all I got back was a big reject that hurt me a lot. Make yourself hard to get that will get his attention. He didn't pay attention to you because he thought you would always be there, prove him wrong. Even try talking to other guys and fliriting this will get his attention back to you. Also if he thinks it is your fault tell him once if he dos'nt beleive you than tell him when you want to talk to me again tell me ok? Trust me it always works. This will leave him thinking about you. Hope I helped you out
how can you get over someone? and how long does it usually take? some background info is: we dated for 15 months (broke up for 3, realized we couldn't do it then got back together), and were each other's first loves, we didn't have sex but he's the first guy who's ever seen me naked and i've ever been sexual with. i want to know an estimated time it will take to forget him.
we broke up a few days ago and i have this huge hole in my heart and i want it to just go away...(or at least until we start hanging out again in like a month) we agreed to hang out in a month and try to be friends and see where it picks up from there....so what can i do to just get him out of my headdd? :/
Getting over him is going to take a while because it seems like you two were really close. You can get over him by directig your focus on someone or something else. Try getiing a new hobbie or somethig that will keep your mind off of him. I think that you seeing each other again on a month
Wasn't the best of ideas but if you think that in a month you will be ready than go head. Hope my advice helped.
So, i am a teenager, 14 years old. my mom's age is 64!!!! I CANNOT BELIEVE IT :'( this is too old for me. i cannot stop worrying. all my other friends have moms who are only 38 or who just turned 40. :( so unfair. my moms like old. this is hurts me. I AM ONLY 14 AND MY MOM IS 64. what do you think of that????
Age is just a number. Your mom loves you and always supports you an that's what counts. Trust me lots of kids would love to have a 64 year old mom that is there and loves them than a 38 yea old mom that dosn't care about them or even worse no mom at all. Hope my advice helped.
19/female.
So i'm not going to lie, i always get attention around guys, i'm use to it and love it. I'm an outgoing girl, i just love to have fun and don't care what people think about me. My best friend, she is okay looking, but every guy always tells me how i'm hotter than her and nobody really thinks she is pretty. I do feel bad for her, but obviously i don't tell her they say that. Well anyways, there was this cute guy that she was interested in and i didn't think anything was going to happen with it because she is a really shy girl, she's never kissed a guy before or anything and never had a boyfriend and this guy is the exact opposite. Well we ended up hanging out with him last night and he was giving her all the attention and texting her all night. I get it, me and my cousin were trying to hook them up. I was jealous though, that was the FIRST time ever that i wasn't getting the attention and i hated it. I was soooo bored. And when my friend texts him, she always asks me what to say so its basically like me talking to him? DUMB. But it's like my friend is rubbing it in my face that he thinks she is cute because she is always like "OMG he said this, he said i was cute .. blaaa." Now i'm not trying to sound selfish, like a bad friend or anything but i'm not use to this. And i don't do that to her at all, i don't say "haha yeah all guys think i'm hot" obviously i'm not like that to her that would be just annoying. But what am i suppose to do? I'm getting pretty annoyed of this situation, she is always talking about him and now we're all hanging out again tonight .. great. I know i sound like a self centered person but i'm just use to getting so much attention because i'm an outgoing girl and i guess guys think i'm hot, that when a guy doesn't pay attention to me and pays attention to my friend .. i get jealous. I really do want to be happy for her, but i don't know how without being annoyed.
ok my advice is to support your friend. She needs your support she is doing this obviosly because she trust you and wants you help. Try not to feel annoyed for once your friend is getting attention let her feel good about it. :)
hi im katlyn... there are dese girls at school they dont like me for no reason and dey are really buggin me they love to talk about me and they love to messs with me every time i walk past dem they study me hard and dis one girl always comin by me telling me to give her candy and if i dont she said she gon do somthing which aint gon happen ....i think its because im pretty and she is ugly real ugly and dark as hell to and she always pushing me arond and she hate me to fo no reason....i dont even kno da bitch and the girl actin real hard in front of her friends tryin to make me hate myself and she keep on touching me and pushing me which i dont like and yes i do do something back and if she do it again on monday we gon be fighting cause i aint about to have dis little ass girl pushing me around hell no ... now are dey haters ????
phsss yeahthey are hater but really you don't have to fight them. The same thing happened to me with this girl and all I did was tell her that obviosly she has no log first of all secondly if you spend soo much looking at what I do it is because you got nothing better to do and that I was flattered someone spend all their time looking at me :) hope I help but seriously don't spend your time fighting with them ignore them the most possible. If you fight them you will show them you care enough about them.
so me and this guy have been talking for a few months now and he says that i never show that i like him. how can i show him that i like him?
You cam show a guy you like him by fliriting with him text him and be yourself! Guys don't like girls that are fake. Hope by advice helped! :)
14/m
So I like this girl and we talk a lot on facebook and she said she kinda likes me. She said she noticed I was shy and I admit I am because I don’t really talk to anyone new epically girls in particular. My reason for not talking to girls usually is because I don’t know what to say. So I guess im asking is there a way I can get un-shy?
I am a girl and I use to be just like you I am still a little shy but not as much as before. What did I do? Well I simply had confidence in myself and don't never ever ever change your personality to empress someone. If they don't like your personalitiy then they are not worth your time.hope my advice helped! :)
im getting the ipod touch and i was wondering can you get facebook on it and do you hove to pay to use facebook on it ?
yes you can go on facebook by downloading an app and no you don't pay it is free but you have to have wifi at your house