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My dad turned me away! warning long!
im a 16 year old girl and recently got in trouble for sneaking out of my fathers house. I went to hang out with a really good friend of mine...when we were hanging out my dad called his cell phone...my friend immediatly took me back to my street...when i walked up to my drive-way there was a cop sitting in it...i walked inside to see my step-mom, father, and lee county sheriff. The cop left...and the lecture began...but it was my step-mother yelling...my father just kind of stood there. So i was told to pack my things and get ready to go back to my moms house...then my step-mom called my friend(kyle) nd yelled at him and told him to get back over to my house...before he arrived 2 lee county sheriffs showed up...after they questioned kyle they let him go...nd i returned inside...my stp-mother said that i would not be returning to their house...i went home the next morning after church...a few days later my mother was talking to my father on the phone...he then said the same thing my step-mom had said..."she's never coming over again" Now hearing it from my sob step-mom is one thing...but hearing it from my dad is different...im his only blood related child nd his "little girl" nd he turned his back on me for breaking one rule at his house! i have never done anything like this at his house before...but for him to basically shun me cut deep. I havent spoken to him since sunday which has been almost a week...my father usually calls me 2-3 times every 4 days...i have not received one phone call...i love my dad soo much...but i dont know how to deal with the fact that he doesnt want to be in contact with me...please help...i need my father in my life!
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You need to talk to your father. Apoligize to him tell him you are sorry for sneaking out and you know he was worried about you. Tell him you are sorry for upsetting him you didnt mean to up set him you just weren't thinking about that and let him know you love him and dont want him to be so mad at you.
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call your dad he probably is just trying to teach you a lesson. Your dad was probably worrying a lot about you and he is mad be aide he trusted you and debt expect you to do that. Call him tell him your sorry and wot do that ever agian. Hope my adivce helped.
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Everyone makes mistakes and does things that they wish they hadn't done. I am sure this is one of those for you. I can tell you that with time, the harsh feelings will soften. You scared them to death by doing that. If your dad will answer your calls, you should ask him if he will meet you somewhere for lunch or something (or just talk over the phone). Tell him that you want to talk to him and apologize. Tell him how much he means to you and how important he is in your life. You can't take away what was done... but a heartfelt apology can go a long way. Parents also really love hearing how you feel and hearing that you appreciate them. If he won't answer your calls yet (he may just need to calm down a bit more), you could try writing him a letter. Sometimes it is easier to express yourself in writing anyway. If he is used to being so close to you, it is probably eating away at him to NOT talk to you, too. Just remember... parents are just people and no one is perfect. Don't worry... it sounds like he loves you very much and you will get him back soon!
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You didn't just break a rule.
You terrified him.
He imagined you raped, drugged up, kidnapped and murdered. He imagined you mutilated. He saw indentifying your body with the cops, and everyone crying at your funeral.
You didn't just break a rule.
You ripped his heart out.
You being missing was probably on of the worst experiences of his life.
You owe him an apology. A big one. For frightening and terrifying them both. For all the stress and pain you selfishly ‘caused them.
You owe him a promise that you’ll never ‘cause him such a pain again.
Sure, it’s tough to hear your father say something like that. He was probably exaggerating and it wasn’t an appropriate thing for him to say.
HOWEVER, your behaviour was also inappropriate. The place to begin the healing for you both, is with a heartfelt apology and a promise to behave better in the future.
As harsh as it is: You simply don’t deserve to be spending time in their home if you cannot abide by their rules and pay them at little bit of respect by not scaring the shit out of them like that. If you can't show your love for your father with that kind of basic respect, then you'll need to find ways to have your relationship with him which don't include visiting his home.
Either way, start with an apology.
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