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Q: this girl that takes Buddy Icon requests is going to make me an icon. I already know what kinda doll to use, but I wanna cute saying for the icon. Does anyone know any saying about missing a guy? I was thinking about "Your first love never really dies" But yeah any ideas would be great..I rate 5's!

I still miss my ex, but my aim in improving!

Q: i need help, there's this guy i met online and he keeps stalking me and im getting scared. it all started out when he asked me to invite him to my webcam and im like sorry no bye, then hes like im gonna hack into ur computer, and hes sending me messages saying i know where u live, ill send ppl to ur house and thell rape u, well get it on tape and im starting to get scared. is that possible? could he have hacked into my computer from yahoo messenger? can someone help please

There are several programs that can allow someone to hack into your computer. There are viruses that allow back door entry to your system, especially if you're on a continuous broadband connection, like DSL or Cable. You need to tell your parents, save everything he sends to you, and maybe talk to your IP. They will be able to determine whether or not he's genuine. Just saying he knows where you live sounds like crap to me, though. If he really knows, why not just say the address to you? That would scare you good, right? Because he's full of shit, that's why not. Tell someone, maybe get a firewall, and make sure you don't ever give out personal info.

Q: i just recently had sex and im worried im pregnet...what are some signs that your pregnet?

Signs and symptoms of pregnancy do not normally show up until after you have missed your period. You will just need to wait and see if Aunt Flow shows up or not. In the future, always use spermicidal condoms and you won't have to worry about it. I used them for 6 years with my husband and we never got pregnant. First month we stopped using them BAM pregnant! They are very effective. Be safe and take care of yourself.

Q: Can I Give My Kitten Infants Tylenol?

No. Tylenol is poisonous to animals. You CAN give them aspirin, but it needs to be a VERY TINY amount, like maybe an 8th of a tablet. You need to call the local vet and ask them about it. They can give you an appropriate answer.

Q: Ok so I want to change my make-up. I have very very pale skin, grey/blue eyes and quite dark brown hair. I look almost celtic. I really want to start using more dramatic make-up like black eye liner and stuff but I'm not sure how to start, any tips?

I have a huge tip for you, because I have the same colouring that you do! I found that I immediately got a very dramatic look by plucking and sculpting the shape of my eyebrows. Show off those piercing blue eyes by getting them waxed into a nice, angular shape and then maintaining it with tweezers every few days. I also recommend dark, smokey make-up colours for your eyes to make them show, such as greys or browns.

Q: Hey, is there any way to get rid of a cold/sore throat quickly? like by the weekend? If there are any remedies or things anyone can think of to help me that'd b greatly appreciated! thanks so much

Gargle with warm salt water and drink tea with honey. I know it sounds generic, but I have done it before singing tryouts when I had an atrocious sore throat and it cleared me up for a few hours. Have a fun weekend.

Q: im 18/m. I had a gay realtionship about a year ago, and it went on for about 6 months. Im now tired of guys and im with my girlfriend. I really should tell her that i was with this guy, she has no idea that i was. She even knows the guy. How can i tell her w/o her finding out who it was, and will she leave me if she finds out?

I really believe that your sex life needs to remain private. It is not necessary to tell your current partner about your past ones unless there is a health risk involved. If you have been tested, after ANY relationship, boy or girl, and are disease free, than it really isn't any of her business, to be honest. How would your friend feel, anyway, if you tell her about your past together. He may want you to keep that under wraps. I find it is always best NOT to discuss your past partners.

Q: That symbol in your column looks so familiar...hmm..what is it? i think my friend has a neckalace of that...weird!

It is a pagan symbol for the power of three. It is used in the TV show Charmed as the symbol of their power.

Q: okay i have a big problem! i was all excited because i just got my cartlidge done! but i came home and told my best friend! and she asked what ear i got done and i told her my right one! and she said that if a girl gets just her right cartlidge done...that means shes a lesbian?! omg i'm all upset now! is that realli what rumors say?! because i'm definitly NOT one!
i'll rate you a 5!

That's bullshit and tell your friend she's a retard. There hasn't been a "gay" or "straight" ear thing going on since the 80's. She's just jealous.

Q: I'm 14, and I have yet to wear a tampon! All of my friends do it, so I just pretend I do!.. I mean I've stuck one in there before, and it worked and it sticked, but I'm afraid like its going to go further, or I'm gunna try and pull on the stringy thing and its gunna break lose. Do you think any of those things could happen? Pllease help!

It can't go in too far. Your vagina isn't a bottomless pit, well at least I know most aren't. Your vag in only about 6-7 inches deep, so don't worry about it. Experiment with using them and don't fret over problems. In my years of nursing, the only tampon problems I have seen are when people forget to take them out and get toxic shock syndrome. (eewwwww)

Q: Hey, i am 15 and weigh 150 lbs. I'm not "fat" but i feel that way. I dont look it or anything, but i have no idea where the weight is going. I have been taking birth control for like 4 months, and that might be the reason for gaining all this weight, but i dont know how to get rid of some weight. I have tried the south beach diet, i dont eat that much.... never really have, i drink only diet drinks since forever, but i still dont know why i am gaining all this weight. It worries me a lot... Hopefully you can help.. thanks

You have the same problem I do. The only way I can lose weight is to excercise. Don't buy into those fad diets, they're crap. Just eat healthier foods and join a school sport. I played tennis and ran track and it kept me slender. As soon as I graduated *POP* fat girl city. You gotta move.

Q: Sorry... this is a sex question and there are somewhat graphic content. Not really bad but if you're young, you might not want to read this. Please only OLDER columnists answer this. I don't want advice from an inexperienced 13-14 year old. Someone who knows what I'm going through would help. And so... here's my question....

Hey, I'm 14/f and my boyfriend is 16. Yesterday I was at his house and we were doing sexual things and then I told him to go get a condom. (he uses them normally for self pleasure so it doesn't get anywhere...) So he went upstairs and got it but when he came back down I was crying. I don't know why I was crying. I really feel like I'm ready to have sex with him. We've been together for 2 years and we love eachother very much. It's weird though, I know that I'm physically and emotionally ready to do it it's just that, whenever we are about to, I get scared. Is this normal? Can anyone help me out?

PS- I'm a virgin and so is my boyfriend and we both want to lose our virginity to eachother.

It's normal to be terrified of your first sexual encounter. It takes awhile to get used to having sex, especially with all the social stigmata attached to it. Even after this guy, you may experience similiar feelings with your next boyfriend. I'm glad you are making safe and healthy decisions about condom use. Don't get discouraged; you'll be there in no time. It will be a very emotional time for you both, but that's normal!

Q: last spring, i did 69 with a guy i dont even know. i know his name, we go to the smae school, but we havent talked since. i am embarrased everytime i see him, becasue i was drunk when we did it so i didnt really realize what i was doing. he stares at me alot, and his freinds say that he likes me, should i stay away? hes not my type.

Just avoid him, but don't be weirded out or ashamed. Everyone experiments sexually and you were just having fun. In the future, carry some condoms with you in these situations in case things get any hairier than just oral sex. Be safe.

Q: I'm searching for a good birth control method to use. I have taken Ortho Tri-Cyclen, and Depro Vera before, and would not be incredubly unwilling to try them again. The problem is that I have a very hard time remembering the pill each day, and I have heard bad things about the shot. Such as: weight gain, increase in discharge... and I find it hard to believe that it is healthy to go through your life without having your period.

I know that this should be a question for my gynocologist, but I could not get an appointment for another month or so. I was wondering if anyone could give me some pointers on a good method of birth control. Perhaps some good and bad experiences you have had?
Of course, older columnists prefered.

I prefer Mircette. Depo Provera shot can cause several problems and can often take a long time to get your system back to normal after taking it. Mircette is a pill, much like ortho tricyclin. I have tried several different pills and Mircette has caused me the fewest side effects. There was no weight gain with it, and it cleared up my complexion! Also, when I got off of it, I didn't have any withdrawal symptoms, my period got right back on track.

Q: I have a (suposivly common) Problem with my ovaries in which pin head size cysts on them cause irregular periods. I havent gotten my period in nearly 6 months. I had several MRI's done, and i saw a OB/GYN. Next week, I am going to a specialist at the hospital to consult about the problem, but I'm scared that they will give me an exam, and if they do, they will find out that I am no longer a virgin like my mom thinks! I'm incredibly scared, especially because my mom would killll mee if she found out. I regularly engage in sexual intercourse, and I'm afriad that if she knows, my trust will be ruined, and all hell wil break loose. Please, any advice would be greatly appreciated.

They can not tell if you are a virgin or not. The hymen, which is the indicator of "virginity" is not usually intact on women these days because we are so physically active. Running, riding a bike, horseback riding, all contribute to wearing down your hymen. If you are to get an exam, you should ask your mother to leave the room because you aren't comfortable with her seeing your yaya. They aren't going to say OMG YOU AREN'T A VIRGIN, they are very discreet. Good luck with your cysts. I have read that they are caused by eggs that did not develop properly. Is that what you have?

Q: I heard that atkins is better for men than women, is this true?

Atkins is actually a healthier diet than what most americans eat, but only if followed correctly. So many people think it's all about eating steak and chicken. Most of the Atkins diet consists of vegetables. It is probably true that men are not affected as badly by a high protein diet as women because their BMI is lower and they have more lean muscle. The truth is, the healthiest thing you can do is cut out crap, eat lots of fruit and vegetable, and drink plenty of water. There, I just invented a new fad diet.

Q: hiii...umm, can anyone help me? i need to train my jack russell terrier (hel be one year on the 22nd) to stay away from my dad. every time he gets close to my dad, hell kick him, or hit him, or punch him, etc. I've watched this for too long and I can absolutely take it no longer. i mean like, my little dog means the world to me! i just love him alot and i want him to be happy. last time my dad hit him he stayed in the other half of our house in the corner all day, and he was crying. it will be hard to train him to stay away and this is gonna be hard. jack russells are very active, and mine loves everyone, unfortanitly. :-\..does neone have any advice? thank you

I hate to sound pessimistic, but if getting kicked isn't enough to teach the poor thing to stay away, nothing will probably teach him. Have you taught him to respond to the word NO. That's probably to most important thing you could teach a dog. When he begins to approach your father, tell him no, back, down or whatever command you decide to use. Don't use several words, that will comfise him. Just pick ONE word and use it as a command to intervene when he gets close. Your dad sounds like an abusive *expletive* and when you turn 18 you need to take that dog and RUUUUUUNN!

Q: My cat has a bad habbit of tearing up the toilet paper rolls. I have tried putting the rolls on backwards so the paper won't roll off when she plays with it, but she is still tearing it up good. I end up thowing away 1/4 of the roll when I go into the bathroom. What can I do to prevent my cat from doing this?

Close the bathroom door? hehe, maybe you should just take it off the roll and learn to keep it on the back of the toilet. You may also thing about taking the dispenser out and moving it up higher where she might not be able to reach, if the hardware isn't too complex. It's USUALLY just a couple of screws, but not always.

Q: Everytime i leave my 1 year old puppy alone, like when i take my brother to work in the mornings, and there is nobody up to watch him, he always gets into things. Like this morning, he chewed my clock, and my medicine *was way out of reach* was in the floor chewed on. Thankfully he didnt get any of it though. My question is, 1. how can i stop him from chewing on things that he is not suppost to, and 2. is there other way other than locking him up in his carrier?

You need to get a kennel, period. Not his carrier, it is too small, but a larger cage. I used to lock my pups in the bathroom with food and water until one rambunctious one ate my linoleum! I had two bassett hounds who were able to get the trash off the top of the refridgerator, even with those short stumpy legs. Puppies are clever, and the only thing to hold them will be iron bars.

That aside, they make a special spray called NO CHEW that you can usually pick up in WalMart. I really recommend training him. You need to put the item to his nose and spank him with a rolled up newspaper and tell him NO. You need to give him plenty of chew toys and praise him when he uses them. I recommend purchasing a book on training a dog or looking it up online. There are probably several sites with great training tips. Good luck! I've had my share of devil dogs, too!

Q: Hey, theres this girl in my pe class and I think she might like me. Well, I kinda like her too though. She acts kinda like it and gives me hugs sometimes and stuff and jokes around with me and stuff, and she seems like she always brings the topic of Homecomming up to her friend, lets call her Jenny. Anyways so she always says to Jenny that sits next to her when we sit on numbers for role call that she needs a date for Homecomming. But... I'm kinda scared to ask her to Homecomming because I don't know what to do.. I mean I know you go out to dinner and stuff and the guy drives the girl... but I don't have a car yet do I have my dad or mom drive us to the restaurant and then to the dance? I know to get her flowers or a corsage... ugh I don't know what to do! Someone tell me what to do about this and what should I get her and pretty much walk me thru the date! I mean like I could go with my friends or her friends because she says to her friend that all her friends are going to this fancy restauraunt with their dates and she wont get to go unless she has a date... so who drives and stuff? What do I do.... Help, I'm 14/m.
Sorry if this was a little long.

You'll probably need to have mom or dad drive you, hehe, though my mother drove me and my boyfriend to homecoming until I had a car. I usually dated younger guys and had to be the one picking them up, lol! There is no set way you have to do things. Just ask the girl, believe me as one girl speaking for another, she wants you to ask her. Maybe she can come over for dinner at your house before going to the dance, since you don't have a car. The important thing is to just have fun. If you enjoy yourself, and maybe get a kiss, than that would be a good time to ask her to be your girlfriend.