You seriously need to tell your "friends" what's up because to me that's straight out bogus. If they're your girls, then they should be loyal to you, and you need to be able to have faith in them. Tell them what's going through your mind. If they don't respect how you feel, or if you can't get through to them, then just don't tell them anything you don't want people to know. After that you can find new friends who will actually be girls to you.

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I'm not really sure that there is an "average" size because every guy differs drastically. But, if he's uncomfortable with his size (my guess would be he thinks it's too small) tell him not to worry because when he gets hard every guy becomes at least 8in before they ejaculate. and just let him kno that ur fine with it. You like it just the way it is ;-)

Girls get their period at different ages. A friend of mine got hers when she was 9!!! Another at 8!!! Yikes I know! But yeah I think I remember getting a spot on my underwear a few months before I actually started my period. Just let her know what's happening - or what's going to happen. That way just incase she does get it she'll be prepared and know what to do when it comes.

I can relate to your problem. The only thing you can do is use some will-power and really keep yourself from eating all that junk. Instead of grabbing junk food for a snack try eating some fruit. I think fruit is the best alternative because it still has sugar - it's just natural sugar. It's also sweet and what's best is that it's good for you. But also keep playing sports. It'll help keep you in shape while you're eating better. Plus sports kick ass! haha

I think that maybe you and all of Nicole's friends should go to group therapy, or teen counseling or sumthing. I'm not trying to be funny here. I seriously think that all of you talking about your feelings with a professional can help everybody through this. You can talk about your fears with her cancer treatment while reminicsing all of the fun times you had together. I think it will help all of you to know that there are other people out there who feel the same way you do. You don't have to go through this by yourself. Try to be there for Nicole the best you can and maybe talk to an adult about starting a fundraiser in her name, and the name of your friend that recently passed away. I think keeping your mind occupied with doing sumthing to help Nicole and other people with her condition and those similar to it can help you work through your fears and restore some lost hope. Good Luck n God Bless ~*K@-C*~

Only you can decide if you're making the right decision. If you truly feel like you're ready for this then just make sure you know all the precautions and consequences. You should also make sure that you're comfortable being with him and having him be the person that you did this with and will remember for the rest of your life. You need to make sure you feel safe with him and that if by some chance sumthing does happen (like if you get pregnant) that he will be there for you. But, in my opinion, it doesn't seem like you're 100% ready because you are questioning whether or not this is what you really want to do. Don't have sex just to have sex and not be a virgin nemore. You should have sex because you're in love with the person you're with and you want it to be special.

The only thing you can do is talk to your friend about it. Ask her why she's letting some perv talk to her that way and see what she says. Otherwise you can always stick up for her and say sumthin to him for her. Do what you gotta do.

You need to tell a trusted adult that you're cutting yourself. You are not the only person in the world with this problem believe me. You need to get help and stop now before this gets any worse. If you don't feel like you can do it for yourself, then do it so that you won't have to lie to your b/f anymore. Please take this advice, because it's the only way that you can help yourself and be true to your b/f.

You need to break up with your boyfriend. If it's not working for you then just go tell him it's over. Then you can go out with his friend. lol ;) ~*CaSSiE*~

If she's your best friend then I think you should be able to talk to her about how you're feeling. She obviously trusts you, otherwise she wouldn't have told you. She is going to need somebody to be there for her through this because it's probably not any easier for her then it is for you. Be a friend to her and stand by her side. It couldn't have been easy for her to tell you, because if she cares what anybody thinks of her it's you. Good Luck ~*CaSSiE*~

You can get one of those nets...i don't know what they're called but if you throw a ball at them then it'll come back to you. Yeah you can pitch against that. Or, you can be like me and use a trampoline! lol...but yeah and there are a lot of ways to improve your performance in softball. Drop a qeustion in my column about what exactly you need help with in your performance ( like hitting, fielding, throwing etc.) and I'll help you out with some drills or something. ~*CaSSiE*~

You shouldn't decide whether or not to play the game you love based on what year you're going to play for. You should play because you love to play the game. I would be happy to play on any team so long as I got to play. I think that playing on JV could have advantages too. If you played on varsity you might not get as much floor time as you will on JV. Just think about it. Play basketball to play and because that's what you like to do. Don't second guess the game because of the team you'll be playing for. ~*CaSSiE*~

The possiblity of you getting pregnant is the smallest during your period. But, there is ALWAYS the possibilty of you getting pregnant. Just make sure that you use a condomn and maybe if birth control if you're that worried. Don't worry about anybody having to find out about the birth control. You can even go to your mom's doctor because you have doctor/patient confidentiallity. Good Luck -N- God Bless ~*CaSSiE*~

Ok, first of all...sex is a very special committment. So, if you feel you are being pressured into it you should tell the person who's pressuring you to quit it. Tell them that you are not ready, and if they can't respect how you're feeling then they should find somebody else to be with. Stay strong and stand your ground. You don't have to do anything until you are ready.

This is a tough situation to be in. I want you to know that since you started a relationship with a close friend, ending it could and probably will damage the friendship you had with him before you guys started going out. However, there might be hope for a friendship yet because depending on the guy, he might totatally understand. I think that you can tell him something like this. Say "We've been together a long time and it's been going really well. Before I got together with you, you were like my best friend. As much as I love you, I don't want to damage the friendship we had before our relationship. I would love it if this would work out, but I'm starting to realize I need you more as a friend than a boyfriend." See what he says and explain to him that you will still always love him and you will always be there for him when he needs you. Tell him it's breaking your heart to have to do this because you care about him too much, and you don't know what you would do if something bad went wrong in your relationship further down the road. If you say that he might honestly believe that your intentions for wanting to end your relationship are reasonable, instead of just saying it like "ok well you know I don't like you as a boyfriend after 8 months I like you as a friend more." Tell him that it is more important for you to have him in your life as a friend, than as boyfriend. If you are still in need of some more advice you can IM me on AIM at BaShBaBe1435 or e-mail me at sallygurl4eva@sbcglobal.net I wish you all the best ~*CaSSiE*~

I think that this guy might like you. I mean he asked you if he could put his arm around you. i don't know why he'd ask a stupid question like that if it didn't mean anything. Now, if he had just put his arm around you without saying anything than that might have been just as a friend. I think you should just tell him what you're feeling. Be like "Hey I know that night probably didn't mean anything to you, but I like you and it meant something to me." See what he says and take it from there. Let him kno that you're kool with just being friends if that's all he wants. If he gets all freaked out about it than tell him not to trip cause you're not like heart-broken or anything. Good Luck ~*CaSSiE*~

haha...ok 1st of all gurlz who play softball kik ass! I play softball 2 and I had the same problem you do. When you hit dinky grounders to the left side then the pitch was probably an outside pitch. There are three positions the ball will cross at the plate. Inside, Middle, and Outside. If the ball is an inside pitch you want the bat to meet the ball right at the front inside corner of the plate. That way you pull the ball. If the ball is up the middle make contact when the ball is right at the heart of the plate. Then you should drive the ball right up the middle. An outside pitch is the trickiest because everybody wants to pull an outside pitch. If the pitch is outside you have to keep all your momentum going toward right field(if you're a righty)or left field(if you're a lefty). Throw your hands right toward the ball and make contact when the ball crosses the back outside corner of the plate. That will help you to not pull the ball. What you can do to see the ball better is hand eye coordination exercises. You can write #'s or color all over the ball and have somebody pitch them too you. Then watch the ball all the way in across the plate and try to tell what number/color was on the ball. What you can do about keeping your body in place is make sure you go shoulder to shoulder with your chin when you swing. That will help you keep your head in place. You're looking for the ball before you hit it which might also be causing you to miss the heart of the ball. There is a saying that might help you with your swing. It goes "STRIDE"(getting all your wait back)"GLIDE"(bringing the bat back into ready position)"HIP AND FLIP"(throwing your hips while you punch the ball with the knob of the bat and finish your swing while piviting.) Sorry if that was a little a bit confusing. That's really all I can think of right now, but I'm sure you can ask your coach what's going on and without a doubt he'll be more than willing to help you. Otherwise you can go to a hitting clinique. Get back to me if you need more advice or wanna talk softball. You can IM on AIM on BaShBaBe1435 or e-mail me at sallygurl4eva@sbcglobal.net Good Luck ~*CaSSiE*~

PS. How old are you? Do you play travel ball? Who do you play for and where do you live? get back to me if you can. good luck with softball

There's a bone just below the eye and if you hit it with your knuckles it;ll hurt pretty bad. I don't recommend hitting in the mouth cuz you just damage your fist pretty bad, but at the same time you could do some serious dental damage. Ummm, if you hit the nose on an upward angle it can break. Right in and/or below the ribs might work. Also if its a guy you could hit him...well you can figure it out. Also if like somebody grabs you from behind you can elbow them in the stomach and/or face. Also if you have something thick in your hand, like a highliter, and you make a fist around it, it should even out your knuckles and fingers and make them really hard. Good Luck ~*CaSSiE*~

I would seriously end it right now becuase if it's an internet relationship this guy could really be like 40 or 60 or sumthing. Even if you exchange pictures he could be giving you somebody elses. I think that internet dating isn't right because the whole thing could be one big fat lie. If he's hesitant to tell you too much that could also mean that he's hiding sumthing. He could also be worried that you're 40 or 60 too! But, still, I think that you shouldn't waste your time. Internet romance doesn't have the greatest chances of working out. I think you could find somebody better and your own age around you that you can actually see. Good Luck ~*CaSSiE*~

Hey! My name is Cassie and I'm 21 years old. I live in the suburbs of Chicago where I like to spend time with the important people in my life, play softball, and volunteer in my community. I am currently a junior in college. Throughout my years of schooling I have been involved in activities such as: volleyball, basketball, softball, theater, poms, choir, band, foreign language club, science team, and academic achievement programs. I am a Secondary Lutheran Education Biology Major with a minor in Spanish Education.

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