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I was saving myself untill marriage to have sex which I thought just meant penetration of penis in vagina. I didn't really know about anything else cause I wanted it to be a surprise for me.
Please dont laugh at my agge. I'm in my early 20s. I've only had one boyfriend but he never did anything to me apart from kissing & outside foreplay, which I was fine with.
I was at a temporary job, my supervisor who is 45 liked me & I started to like him back. My parents were against it from the start. So I stayed with my friend for a while & met up with him sometimes. I stayed at his house one night & he knew I wanted to be a virgin untill marriage. But he asked to finger me. I didn't really know what it was so I asked him will I still be a virgin & he said yes. I said ok & let him, then I started bleeding & he said its ok, its only foreplay.
My friend asked my how it went & I told her what happened and she said I'm not a virgin anymore because of the fingering. We didn't have actual sex.
The guy said when he was at school fingering was foreplay & he didn't know.
Then a few months later anotherr guy did it me but this time I quickly pulled his finger out.
Now I feel sick & disgusting cause I embarrased my family. I cant even look at them without feeling disgusted in what I did.
The bleeding doesn't help. I got over the first guy & thought I could carry on into another relationship but this guy tried/did the same thing.
I don't think I am a virgin anymore cause of this & now I feel hurt & used. I feel sick all the time cause I know this will be with me forever.
I disappointed my dead grandparents on both sides & all of my family. I just dont know what to do because I can't change this. Sometimes I feel normal & sometimes I don't.
I think fingering is losing virginity. So girls, please take my advice & NEVER let a guy finger you. Now I feel like I'm going to be a slut on my wedding night. I've always been a good person & I just dom't understand why this happened. I was weak in saying no. How do I get the courage to say no next time?

Only you can determine if you are a virgin or not. Everyone has their own idea of what a virgin is. I'd say you are still a virgin. Maybe not completely innocent, but still a virgin.

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We had a professor who's in his 40's and is really knowledgeable, though an arrogant *** and sometimes vain.He used to make statements like how only the elite were qualified to pursue education and crap like that.We had all complained against his behavior to the Dean, as a result of which he won't be taking any of our classes anymore.During that movement, the leading guy suggested we register a false case of sexual harassment against him so we could get him removed quickly. We, not being in our senses, did that. As a result, he's to go through a lot.Though ultimately he was absolved of all charges and was re-instated.

But now I realize I'm in awe of him and his knowledge, and want to form a friendship with him. NOT AN AFFAIR OR ANYTHING. I just want to be a liked person. But how's it possible since he's not teaching us anymore and is probably disgusted with us for reporting him? I had once written an anonymous letter (e-mail) pouring out my guilt, I really felt bad for it by then...but all I received was a reply stating it was cowardly to withhold name while writing a letter.

So I was going to write another e-mail, (the same one with my name at the end) and send it to him, but then my mom said that he might use it to file cases against me and/or my friends in court. I wanna apologize badly, but cannot. Please give me advice on what to do.

(I'm from India)

Wow, I am amazed at how cruel your actions were. You tried to ruin someone's life with accusations you knew were false. That is pretty unbelievable!

To answer your question, no. Do not contact him any further. You can't undo what you did and trying to connect with him will not make things right.

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i have a self esteem ,self image problem .i know it effects everyone and everthing in my life but do not know how to fix it.i take evrything said the wrong way and respond the wrong way. i dont trust anyone.i gained weight because someone called me a skinny bitch a few times and over heard a women tell another that they should watch their husbands around me.now 10 years later i am 50 lbs over weight,have now friends,no job,no life.i went to see a counciler and she basically said until i want to change she cant help me, somehow i think that was what i was paying her for?maybe i am just ment to be this sad pitiful person that i am

Aw, I feel for you! Seriously, I've felt down about myself many times before.
What helps me is the quote "attitude is everything." I pride myself in handling things with grace. I rarely ever find myself stressed because I've learned to be optimistic.

You are going to have to change your opinion about yourself to a more positive and realistic one. Realistically, no one is hopeless. If you are alive, you have the ability to change what could be considered "a hopeless state". When you feel better about yourself, you won't be concerned with outside opinions. Wishing you the best!

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My dad all ways tells me to do every thing and when I forget them he get really mad and when he tell my small bro and he forgets them he don't get mad at him why?why do I all ways show like I am none child why? I don't understand please help me pleaseNour this is my name Please give me advice please
And thanks
. Please Help me I really need advice

Maybe your dad just expects more from you. It could be a compliment, actually. He believes you are capable of doing the chores he gives you, so when you don't do them, it frustrates him. How much younger is your brother? That could make a difference. The younger child always gets away with stuff. It's the older child's duty to be the responsible one :)

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I need to know where I can post a babysitting profile on the internet for free! Can anyone help?~

Don't do it. I posted an ad on Craigslist and this guy invited me over to meet his wife and child. I'm not a total idiot, though...I looked him up on Facebook and he had a daughter the age he described, so I believed him. When I showed up, he told the guard at the gate that "He didn't need me anymore" I was so confused...

When I have children, I will never look on the internet for a babysitter and I don't think any parent in the right mind would.

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Hello, so I'm the type that thinks a lot about the future..and I worry a lot to haha. Okay, so I'm a Sophomore and I'm worried about college.. my brother who's started college tells me that I have to take a math class, which is needed..and that's my most TERRIBLE subject, and I don't want to flunk out of college 0_0 I want to be a lawyer or a writer..nothing with math.. really..

I'd just like to know if anyone who has trouble with math, did you do alright in college?..
I know this is a real stupid question since how young I am right now, 16. I'd just like to know..

Thank you!

Academically, I feel that college is so much easier than highschool.

There is so much support for when you need extra help on assignments. The teachers at college are really passionate about the subject they are teaching and will usually give you individual attention on assignments if you let them know that you're struggling.

Also, my college has a "Math Lab" and people that are really good at math help me with my work.

You will be fine :)

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I want a cupcake that easy. Like for kids or something. I say this because I not a very good cook(but I love cooking.)

Here is a recipe for Wacky Cake:

http://allrecipes.com/recipe/wacky-cake-viii/detail.aspx

I made it once as an 8x8 cake and it was great! Some reviewers made it as cupcakes and said it turned out well.

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Does anybody know any songs that have the same sound to them like When I Look At You by Miley Cyrus?

Thanks!

I did a Google search and someone mentioned that it sounds like "Mighty to Save" by Hillsong.

The lyrics are similar, but it doesnt sound much like Miley's song.

Check it out anyways. That might be it.

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I had been going to private school my entire life and when I got on the bus in the mornings for the first time on my second day at my new public school I got lost because I had no idea where to go. I ran through a bunch of hallways and then asked a teacher for help (I know who the AP Calculus teacher is now!). But when I found my way back to what looked familiar, I realized that I was late for History. I got to class five minutes late, but my teacher marked me absent and it showed up on my report card! I had been so confused! Is this fair?

Your teacher must have taken attendance before you arrived. Your teacher probably didn't see you walk in late. Next time you are late, just let them know, so they can mark it correctly on the attendance sheet.

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I had oral sex twice, and before you say anything hear me out. I was 16 years old and very naive. During that time I was going through an emotional and mental roller coaster from abuse to suicide. I'll admit at the point in my life I wasn't 100% there. Even when I did oral sex it wasn't sexual for me, i panic and reacted to the situation. I was always panic when I'm around guys because i was abuse sexually. Anyway, I feel in my heart that I am a virgin because what I did honestly wasn't sexual at all. Am I still a virgin?

In my opinion, I believe you are still a virgin. Of course, there are going to be people that will tell you otherwise, but what matters is what you think.

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I feel as though my parents are mentally hurting me. I don't know if it's abuse or not but my dad probably figured out how to stay away from that. My dad is okay sometimes except that he sides with my mom even if she's wrong. She will say something extremely rude that I don't believe you should say to a child and if I say something remotely similar it's all me fault. Apparently from my mother I'm a terrible child. I can deal with that since I have for a few years. Now lately they're talking about how I am not good at the sport I do. How other people are better than me while they do the same practices I do. Last year my mother told me, quote on quote, "your getting heavier". I almost become anorexic because of her. I was able to try and forget what she said to keep myself from starving. Now I'm a skinny, semi athletic (I have terrible balance), I have amazing grades in school as in 97 for a total average. So I know running away or even trying to argue back is just silly. But I can't even stay with anyone. My friends are all angels so they would find it weird. All my family is spread out and my closest relative is two states away. I really don't want to talk to the guidance counselor because my mom is a teacher and actually knows her. She went to a teacher party with her once. I just don't know what to do. Running away is dangerous and girls who do just end up dead and that is NOT going to be me. What should I do? I just feel so sad because I guess I'm not good enough or something.

Tell your mom what you told us.

Let her know that her words almost lead to an eating disorder. Tell her that what she has to say influences you and that you would like her to be more careful of how she expresses her thoughts around you.

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I'm 5'5" and 145.
If I eat 1200 calories and work out can I lose 20 pounds by December 25?

1200 calories is not enough. Especially if you're working out.

Eat 1500 calories and if you're working out, you'll probably need a little more than that.

If you don't eat enough, you can stall your weight loss.

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Ok 1st of all I would like to say that I am overweight and hunchback. I tried doing a diet with my family and it went well for about 3 days. I just cant do it because I love sweets and other stuff but I dont like veggies other than carrots and celery but they have to be in soup!!!!!... I dont eat salads.... I go camping every week in the summer and I told everyone that I would be half the person I was 2 weeks ago. If you have any siggestions of dieting and getting rid on my hunchback problem please help. Thanks for everyons support!!!!! :D

just to let you know I will tell you wat I do eat and what I dont eat....

here is what I eat chicken, pizza, steak, clams, ham, burgers, carrots, celery, spegetti, rigatoni, garlic bread, roast beef, fish but only at certain resturants, soup, subway, mcdonalds, burger king,mr heros, and alot of resturants.

here is what I dont eat veggies other that carrots and celery, rice, shrimp... There are lots more things that I eat and do not eat but I cant think about them right now. Please help if you can.

The bright side about losing weight is that you don't have to give up the foods you love. If you don't want to change any of the foods you are currently eating, that's okay. Just eat less of these foods and you can lose weight.

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Hey there I am a young adult, I have been vegetarian for two years, I love animals and I really support the movement. Well I started getting sick all the time and I always felt week and tired, I went to my doctor and he told me it's probably because I don't get the protein and amino acids I need. I started eating these special meals for vegetarians which were kind of expensive. Well those didn't help even though I ate them for 3 months and started eating a lot of rice and beans. Nothing really helped, so after a long time of debating I broke my fast and ate meat, I felt really guilty and felt sick for the first day or two, throwing up and stomach pains. well now I am fine and I seem to have more energy and I am starting to get my muscles back. I really want to continue to be vegetarian, I know I can't undo eating meat, but I feel so guilty, every time I eat meat I think of the animal. I know it for my well being, but is there anyone that knows vegetarian alternatives that can help and won't make me unhealthy? I was so proud that I was supporting something and standing up for things I believe in. I feel lousy for going back on my personal morals. If I could find a proper effective diet with alternatives where I basically wouldn't starve it would be nice.

I was never a vegetarian, but I have tried veganism before. Reading some personal stories online scared me out of a vegan lifestyle because so many people talked about being nutrient deficient, but some of them found out too late.

Being a vegetarian seems a lot safer and more do-able than being a vegan.

If you are protein deficient, what about drinking more milk and eating more cheese?

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Hey I'm 13 and thinking about taking my life. I don't know where to get help from. In scared to go to my parents so somebody please help. I feel worthless and nobody wants me in their life anymore. Any advice?

Please don't! When I was 13, I had the exact same feelings. Pretty much everyone feels this way at some point.

You have to reach out to people. You have to want to make friends. Being alone at such a dark time can make life even lonlier.

Do fun things whether you want to or not...such as going to the movies, the mall or a sports game. You probably aren't motivated right now to do those things, but getting out of the house will certainly help.

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Im 23 and over weight. I was 145 thru all of high school and as soon as i got pregnant with my first son my weight went thru the ceiling. I didnt try and lose weight after his birth due to being a "single" parent and not having any time, energy or help. i got married and had another baby and now im looking to lose some pounds. My husband is VERY into thick chicks but im uncomfortable with my body. I used to think I was sexy as hell but now its hard for me to even get undressed to shower let alone have sex with my husband. I have tried starvation diets, atkins, slim fast, weight watchers. i cant stick to diets i just cant do it. I have two small sons which makes it almost impossible to exercise. Someone help me find a balance to lose at least 20 pounds. I have to feel sexy again my sex life is gone, im unhappy and i need help. I eat as healthy as possible. Im so unhappy and depressed with myself altogether that i eat because im bored, upset, angry. I eat just to eat and i cant stop. SOMEONE HELP ME PLEASE!
btw i do not to be critisized or mocked. If you plan to lecture me or talk shit dont even bother. im looking for real advice!!!!!!!!!

Losing weight comes down to burning more calories than you take in.

This doesn't mean that you can't work a donut into your meal plan. Depriving yourself of favorite foods can lead to over-eating, so I would work on creating a calorie deficit. Try to eat 500 calories less than the level you maintain at.

Edit: Counting calories is easy. Promise! :) On any packaged food you eat, you will see a a nutrition label on the back. Look for the number of calories and add that to your daily total.

If you are eating something without a nutrition label, such as an apple, just google how many calories it is and you will find an answer right away.

Try to eat about 1500 calories and maybe 1600 if you are doing a little exercise.

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No. You're really pretty, but this picture doesn't show it well.

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I am a 20 year old boy and i don't know why am i living in this world.I am poor at academics,my friends don't consider me and my mom always scolds me for the silliest of reasons.I don't have any close ones either ,both in boys and girls, to tell how bad i feel at myself.I have been having suicidal thoughts since last year but i don't have the courage to commit suicide either.My friends just use me when they need to get some work done.Even if i share my feelings with someone he shares it with everyone in class and next day im the jackass in the class.every night i sleep thinking that i dont wake up the next day.I dont think my life is going to be successfull and just want to die as soon as possible.please advise

I'm 20, also (female). Not everyone our age has close friends. Personally, I don't. I just have acquaintances.

There are so many things that I'm not good at, but I try not to let it blind me of the things that I am good at it.

Everyone's mom yells at them for silly reasons. Don't let it get to you.

To change your life, you are going to have to adopt a better attitude about your current situation or work towards changing things in your life.

Suicide is not the answer. It sounds like you're just feeling down, but so many people feel that way. You are not doomed to a life of sadness. Your life is full of choices and you can choose happiness. Seriously, I hope you see how you can go on and that suicide won't solve anything.

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i just feel so alone. i mean i have felt like this before but not as much. i think i know why though. it's just that i have 5 close friends right? 1 of them let's call her Sarah (my best friend) doesn't have time for me anymore because she recently got a boyfriend. the other double faced one: Stacia. she's a snob. she has a boyfriend and everyone seems to love her. she's more of a frenemy than a friend. the third: Kristy. she's stacia's shadow. and she and even sarah sometimes end up hurting me when they're around stacia only. then there's lara who's really nice and all. she just got a boyfriend and as you can see i'm not the most popular with the guys... or girls for that matter. i just want to know how i can make a new group of friends. i want to be more outgoing and forget my the friends i have right now. but how? i just end up getting hurt when i'm with them everytime.

Join a club of some sort. The whole point of a club is to bring people with a common interest together. You are pretty much guaranteed to make a friend if you go to one with a genuine interest in what the club is about.

This does not have to be something held at the school. If you want to meet people outside of school, maybe you can join a religious youth group.

Volunteer work is also a possibility.

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I have never been to USA, so I just wanted to know. How's the life in USA ? People's attitude, Government's attitude.... Anything you wanna tell about the lifestyle of people in United States. Thankyou.

I have lived here my entire life (In Florida) and compared to other countries, I would say we have a lot of freedom here. We are a democracy which I happen to like.

People are good-natured. Of course, there are going to be some crazies, but in general, people mean well and are kind as well as helpful.

I'm not sure what else to tell you, except that I appreciate the life I have here.

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