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intention to commit suicide
I am a 20 year old boy and i don't know why am i living in this world.I am poor at academics,my friends don't consider me and my mom always scolds me for the silliest of reasons.I don't have any close ones either ,both in boys and girls, to tell how bad i feel at myself.I have been having suicidal thoughts since last year but i don't have the courage to commit suicide either.My friends just use me when they need to get some work done.Even if i share my feelings with someone he shares it with everyone in class and next day im the jackass in the class.every night i sleep thinking that i dont wake up the next day.I dont think my life is going to be successfull and just want to die as soon as possible.please advise
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Ok Firstly: your friends are assholes get away from them.
Secondly: your mom loves you NEVER dout that. Shes just being nitpicky, My mom does it too it means she cares about you enough to do it to you. It's when she's silent is when you should be worried 'cause that means that she doesnt care anymore. just remember that she loves you VERY much, enough to keep you as her son.
Thirdly: When people make fun of you for having sucicidel thoughts, well you need to report them thets just wrong and cruel.
lastly: dont just give up just 'cause life is getting a little rough..
live to prove that your strong enough to survive in this hellhole.
Bye ^-^
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Unfortunately we receive to many letters like yours. Letters like your are really a cry for help which is what your is.
You're 20 years old an adult. You may be living at home while still going to school that does not mean your parents get to treat you as a child. I'm a parent I know what I'm saying so please listen to what I'm writing.
As parents we forget or don't see our children growing up. We have to remind ourselves that our children become adults and when they do our positions change. While we are still your parent, this never changes, we become more of an advisor than just parent. My son is 35 years old a paramedic and a volunteer fire fighter. When he goes off to work or the fire station he does so to saves lives. Still I have to remind myself that he is no longer my little boy that I need to give direction to and correction too. We now have wonderful conversations about different calls that he runs while at work.
You need, as he need to do, to remind your parents that you are not 10 years old. You are an adult now and while you value their advice constant scolding is not their responsibility. Exception: you do live in their home if the scolding has to do with making extra work for mom like leaving things laying about, then that is reasonable. But is it has to do with who your friends might be or what time you stay out to. Then no that is wrong on her or their part and you need to have an adult conversation about this.
As for the other things you wrote about. If you know people are using you then learn to say no. When someone asks you to do something for them say no. When they say he were friends and friends do these things. Your reply should be ; No were not friends you use me and then you abuse me to everyone. So from now on if you want something from me you cannot do yourself it cost money. Then put a reasonable price on whatever their asking of you. Reasonable to you for your time and effort for the project.
Once you finish school and go out into the working world, today's friendships will drift away. You or they may relocate to other parts of the country or world. So don't worry about these guy their still acting as if their still in high school.
Your writing show a reasonable amount of depression for which you should seek treatment. Working with a skilled therapist should help with the depression and other problems you have written about.
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I'm 20, also (female). Not everyone our age has close friends. Personally, I don't. I just have acquaintances.
There are so many things that I'm not good at, but I try not to let it blind me of the things that I am good at it.
Everyone's mom yells at them for silly reasons. Don't let it get to you.
To change your life, you are going to have to adopt a better attitude about your current situation or work towards changing things in your life.
Suicide is not the answer. It sounds like you're just feeling down, but so many people feel that way. You are not doomed to a life of sadness. Your life is full of choices and you can choose happiness. Seriously, I hope you see how you can go on and that suicide won't solve anything.
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I don't even know where to begin. Well, i kind of do. My friend callen me over the summer saying she was going to commit suicide. She had gone through some of the same things you stated. I talked her out of it and now she's fine. Sadly, you don't seem to have anyone like that. It's okay if your not great at school. Some people just aren't. You can simply try harder, get a tutor, or find a trade you like. I'm sure that at least some of your friends like you the way you are, for the "real" you, and would not want to see you lave life this way. Evemn, though i hate to say it, suicidal thoughts are common. I had them, my friends had them, my family, well don't even get me started. The friends who use you are not your friends. Forget them. They aren't on your level. And the guy who shared with your class, well he is a complete tool. I would go and tell an authoritative figure because he did impede on your privacy by telling everyone about your prooblems. Your life will turn out fine as long as you keep trying. As soon as you give up, you've lost. Dying won't do a thing besides make your family and actual friends extremely upset. You just need to find real friends, study hard, and do the best that you can. You will NOT commit suicide. Even if you think no one will be upset, and there will be trust me, I will be upset.
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