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my own self esteem and how it effects everyone else in my life
i have a self esteem ,self image problem .i know it effects everyone and everthing in my life but do not know how to fix it.i take evrything said the wrong way and respond the wrong way. i dont trust anyone.i gained weight because someone called me a skinny bitch a few times and over heard a women tell another that they should watch their husbands around me.now 10 years later i am 50 lbs over weight,have now friends,no job,no life.i went to see a counciler and she basically said until i want to change she cant help me, somehow i think that was what i was paying her for?maybe i am just ment to be this sad pitiful person that i am
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Aw, I feel for you! Seriously, I've felt down about myself many times before.
What helps me is the quote "attitude is everything." I pride myself in handling things with grace. I rarely ever find myself stressed because I've learned to be optimistic.
You are going to have to change your opinion about yourself to a more positive and realistic one. Realistically, no one is hopeless. If you are alive, you have the ability to change what could be considered "a hopeless state". When you feel better about yourself, you won't be concerned with outside opinions. Wishing you the best! <3
Edit: Yes. I believe that audio tapes could be helpful, although I've never tried using one. I like to read books that help me to become positive, such as "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle. It is not religious, but it's spiritual and very uplifting. Here is a link to Amazon: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
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If your therapist isn't helping you then you need to find someone else who will. Solid was right, Don't ever trust someone who doesn't have a degree in mental health. Things are conquerable as long as we take the right steps, If you gained a few pounds then work on loosing it. It's never too late to fix things and anything can be done. Dieting and exercise is a start and with winter approaching something as little as shoveling is great for the mind and body. A psychiatrist can help you also maybe prescribe you some medication to help you cope with your daily live. Everything comes a step at a time but can be done, If you have no friends maybe you could look to volunteer that will give you the opportunity to get out and meet new people as well as helping your self esteem.
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Never trust a councilor or therapist. They don't have authority to deal with a psychiatric issue which this certainly is. Such a mental-health specialist will know where your anti-trust issues truly stem from, self-esteem issues etc. and the proper course to take. They see this issue daily.
If you can't work or function normally due to this it's a mental health emergency where you can go to an emergency room. It's this type of professional you need and visit. While the therapist was clueless he/she has ONE valid point.
If you expect a doctor or therapist to see you and suddenly "fix" all your troubles you're i wrong. Therapists and lack of qualifications in mental health can be dangerous especially if they plant the seed that you need certain medication.
Psychiatrists can only do so much such as prescribe medication, counseling, and monitor you so you don't wind up in hospital and can function in life. The rest of the leg work and putting what they tell you or suggest to work is solely on you. If unwilling to do the leg work you'll remain where you are now. That said go to an ER or get a referral to a mental health professional from a family doctor and work in tandem with the psychiatrist to overcome this.
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No one deserves to be a sad or pitful person!
I know it maybe hard to believe but everyone has a problem with themselves some just cover it up better than others. I always question myself in everything I do and I always analyze things it drives my friends crazy. I usually get over it but it always seems to come back once in a blue moon. I would say try seeing another therapist because that one sure as hell doesn't know how to do her job. It's best to talk things out with someone or to even rant once in awhile that way you aren't holding it all in. I sometimes hold things that are bothering me in because I just do. Eventually when I talk it out or I say something to someone about it I feel a lot better and I have a huge sigh of relief.
As far as your weight, if you're unhappy then you need to change. Maybe start exercising more and maybe start making healthier choices.
As for people talking, you're always going to come into contact with that because unfortunately some people in this world didn't leave high school. I was recently on a train and there were two women (both in their 40s or 50s) and they talked about me right infront of my face. I couldn't believe that women at that age would do such a thing. Normally it would bother me but I go the strength to stand up for myself so I got up out of my sit said "Excuse me" and than "I hope you ahev a great day". That pissed her off so much but it made me smile and it made me so proud of myself. It's all about standing up for yourself and not letting other people walk all over you. If you're not going to stand up for yourself who will? And if their going to talk let them talk it's makes them look immature.
I have been through a lot but right now I'm staying positive and thinking positive because I know my worth. Keep your head up and if you ever need to talk please feel free to email me at: ohthatgirl1987@yahoo.com
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Don't be sad be happy. You have your own opinion of things which is a good things. You should have a good self esteem and a good self image. Dont listen to what other people say or think about you. If you like yourself just the way you are then stay the way you are. If you think you skinny eat more than you use to, but if you think you are more that skinny that try dieting or just simply watch what you eat and what your intake is. I'm just trying to help you by saying that. Be happy with yourself and don't worry. Everything will be fine later on down the road. I don't know what it feels like without a job because im only 14 but try pursuing something whit your interests. If you like painting try finding a painting job. If you like people try going into the medical field. If you like babies try working at a daycare. There are alot of options out there for you, but it all depends on what your interests are.
Hope I helped.
Hope you get your self esteem back to its normal self.
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