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Q: Ok, so I was just on MSN and this guy (grade 11) I really liked asked me(grade 9) to go to the movies. I asked my parents if I could go and they said no because they don't want me to date and he's too old. What can I say to change their minds? I badly badly want to go with him. Plus, i know I can totally trust him because I work for his parents and I met him through work.
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Have this guy come over and meet your parents. Have him ask them if you can go out with him. Tell them where you guys are going and when you'll be back. Ask your parents if you can go out with a group of friends and have him there too. Get to know him more and tell your parents about him. Have his parents meet your parents just so they know what's happening. Hope this helps!
-Manda
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Q: i always find the wrong guy!my last boyfriend was totally abusive!he would hurt me a lot..now im with this guy Zach and he FLIPS out over every little thing. like we went to the mall and we were holding hands and that, then i saw my friend Joe and i gave him a hug and after zach was like "your such a f**king hoe if you ever cheat on me again ill break up with you"..i guess i deserved that.then i went to go get some big cookies and he wanted a medium and they were outta medium so i got him large and he flipped out..what should i do!?
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Just leave him, you deserve so much better than this guy. He's a total jerk, he needs to respect you and not call your a hoe. He should be thankful to have you because your getting line to pay for a cookie that he wants. You have the right to hug anyone you want, he doesn't own you. There are plenty of better guys out there. You might still have feelings for this guy but forget it because your gonna get over him. Hope this helps!
-Manda
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Q: i have a crush.. A HUGE CRUSH!! but the only problem is i have a boyfriend....and the boy i have a crush on is sits behind me in one of my classes.. and my boyfriend doesnt even go to the same schooll!! but me and my bf have been on and off for over a year and three months.. and just two days ago he wanted a break, then he called back the next day and wanted me back!!! omg!! what should i do??? PLEASE HELP ME:(
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First of all ask yourself how much you care about your boyfriend, do you really love him, what do you like about him. Then ask yourself why you got a crush on the guy that sits behind you, what do you like about him, do you even know him. There are a lot of questions you should ask yourself before you can do anything. If you really care about your boyfriend and really love him then stay with him. You don't want to hurt him and if you guys take a break you guys are probably not going to get back together. Try getting to know this other guy that you have a crush on. After you get to know him you might not have such a huge crush on him. If you think that you and your boyfriend need a break then go for it, take a break and just think about everything. Think about things before you do it because you dont want anyone to get hurt including yourself. Hope this helps!
-Manda
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Q: hello... i really like this foreign student in my history class..he's a korean.. my teacher let him sit in the middle of me and my classmate so that we can help him once in a while.. the problem is... the more we see each other the more i develop my feelings for him.. i'm really trying not to like him because first, he already has a korean gf and secondly, all of the korean students in my school only have korean gfs because it's difficult for them to communicate if they will have a filipina gf. but i really really really like him.. and one more thing, i'm really flattered because i'm the only one he talks to in our room besides his korean friends. i can say that my classmates are jealous of me because most of them likes him a lot and he only talks to me and whenever i enter the class, i see him talking with his friends and when he sees me already, he'll sit beside me but only because he would borrow my notes or to ask something about our lesson..i really like this guy, my other friends told me that maybe he likes me too because we seem close with each other and because they also notice that he doesn't ask to anyone about our lesson but only to me.(i'm not the best in the class) i really hope that it's true but i don't think so. and i'm afraid that i would fall with him because 1 month to go and we'll not see each other anymore because he has different course than i have. ow please help... i don't want to be hurt...thanks...
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If he has a girlfriend already, I dont think he likes you anymore than his girlfriend. If you continue to being his friend then he will probably develop feelings for you too. Try getting his number or email or any other way of communication. Next time you have free time then ask him if he want to hang out with you. Although you guys wont be taking the same course try to still talk to him and still be friends with him. Until he does break up with his girlfriend just get to know him better and build up your friendship with him. Dont worry too much about him because there are plenty of other girls. Not all couples have to be the same nationality and yeah it is easier for them to all communicate, but its more fun to meet someone different from you. Hope this helps!
-Manda
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Q: IM 15/f and i really like this kid who has a gf and turns 18 today. i've practicaly changed part of my life to win him over. I think i;m going to give up b/c he has a gf. i talked to him a while ago. i was stupid last month and told him i loved him. he said he kinda liked me but he has a gf. she is 17. I started to dress different and listen to different music and like different things. do you think i should give up on him and just stop thinking/talking to him/seeing him. or should i act like everything is fine? he is going to help me this summer to helo me join the basketball team next year. im rly excited. i dont know what to do though b/c everytime i see him or talk to him i fall in love with him again. he flirts with me and everything and i love it. but, i dont know if i can do it anymore. so do you think i should forget all about him and move on or should i just continue getting my heart broken when i see him and just wait for something to finally happen? i rate good answers.
thanks!!
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Girl you need to move on. This guy isn't worth it because he got a girlfriend and if he flirts with you it doesn't always mean he likes you or wants to have a relationship with you. Dont change yourself just for a guy because no matter if you change to be the girl that he likes he isn't going to like you. Just be yourself and don't try to compare yourself to other girls and dont try to be like them. Be orignal. There are plenty of better guys out there and I know that age doesn't matter, but if he's 17 he's going to want to be with girls his age. Dont wait for him just keep going and meet new guys. All girls love to have guys flirting with them so your single and you should mingle. You dont have to stop talking about him, but you should just become more friends with him. Hope this helps!
-Manda
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Q: My friend told me that I was a natural flirt, meaning that I flirt with almost every guy without knowing it. He said I do this thing with my eyes that gets guys to come over and talk to me and flirt back with me.I don't recall ever doing that, but how can I stop? Because a lot of girls hate me because of it because the guys do flirt back, so what can I do?
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There really isn't anything you can do from stopping yourself. Try to have your friends let you know when you do this. If a guy comes over and tries talking to you then kinda let him know that your not interested. Maybe also think before you speak. Hope this helps!
-Manda
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Q: there is this guy that i really like. the only problem is that he's too nice. how this is a problem you may ask? because i never know when he is sincere. a while ago my friend liked him, so she had her friend ask him if he liked her. he didn't like her but he said he did anyway because he didn't want her to feel bad. see what i mean? and aside from that, he barely knows i exist. what should i do?
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Just start talking to him and get to know him better. He'll be more of himself after. Try to find things that you have in common with him. Ask him what he thinks about you and how he feels about you. But ask him to tell the truth. Then maybe tell him how you think about him and how you feel about him. When you tell him about what you think about him just let him know that you think that he is way to nice and sometimes people dont know when he is being honest. Hope this helps!
-Manda
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Q: I'm 16/female... Me and My boyfriend have been dating for 2 months, and everything is great and I like him alot but, when we talk on the phone he is always quiet and i'm like if you dont want to talk i will just let you go, and he's always no i'll talk and the continues sitting there quietly... How can I get him to talk or start a conversation that he will talk in, because i like him and all but i'd rather hear him talk than breathe... please help i'll rate high... Thanks in advance... Sorry so long
ALIX
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I think that all guys dont really like talking onthe phone and that they are always quiet. Guys dont always know what to talk about. Next time you guys talk try to get him involved by giving his opinion and asking you questions. You could tell him about your day, maybe ask him some questions that you would like his opinion on, and you could tell him a story or joke. Dont tell him a million stories in that one hour or two because he will get bored. Hope this helps!
-Manda
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Q: Hello my name is Rachel. I am 13. I met this guy named Bret recently. Hes amazing and exstremly hott. We've been talking and he told me he likes me. But theres a three years age diffrence you see hes 16. So I dont know if were gonna date. Hes past girlfriends have been models and exstremly pretty..Its not that i'm ugly but I cant compaire to them. He tells this girl Mellisa that he loves her so much they talk all the time but they are just friends. I guess maybe i'm getting jealous easy. But I dont know what to do cause I really like him but i'm not sure if i have a chance or anything. Help Please?
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Dont worry so much about this other girl Melissa. He is probably just really good friends with her. Everyone has a chance for anything and everything its just that you can't wait for it to come sometimes so just make your own chances. Try getting to know him more. Flirt with him and ask him to hang out sometimes. Dont compare yourself to his past girlfriends because that was then and this is now. Everyone gets jealous so its normal. You dont have to worry about the age difference. Make your own chances and take chances, dont let them pass by. Hope this helps!
-Manda
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Q: Im new at a school, i met a girl and i think she likes me but i dont want to risk rejection and embaresment and a new school.
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Get to know her more and maybe ask her out on a date. You could talk to her friends and ask them some questions about her. If you want just ask her how she feels about you. Do whatever you want you just dont want to regret not knowing if she likes you. Dont let the chance pass by. If she does reject you then fine your just gonna have to move on and there are plenty of other girls. Hope this helps!
-Manda
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Q: I HATE my best friend. She just gets on my nerves. She NEVER listens to me and she crys alot and she says I make a big deal out of everything. But honestly its her.
What should I do?
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If you really hate her that much just avoid her and move on without her. If you dont want to lose your best friend then you should just tell her straight out that she get on your nerves and she isn't such a great friend. If she try to interrupt just tell her to wait or and keep going until she stops trying interrupt. Give her examples of when she get on your nerves and how she get on your nerves. Hope this helps!
-Manda
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Q: There's a guy I REALLY like. Let's call him "Shirt".
Shirt has called me hot on a few occasions, sometimes to my face, and sometimes not.
Today, one of my friends was hounding me about who I like, and when she said to tell her, Shirt looked over.
The thing that confuses me is that sometimes he doesn't even acknowledge me.
I don't really know him that well. We have a Sadie Hawkins dance coming up, and I was wondering if I should ask him. I rate!
I'm 14/f, and he's 17/m
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Hmmm...I wonder why you call him Shirt? lol
Well you should get to know him more. Talk to him and flirt with him. Once you guys get a little closer then ask him if he's going and then if he says yes then ask him to go with you. If he says he isn't going try to convince him to go and let him know that you are going. You dont want to regret not asking him so just ask. If he turns you down, dont stress. Dont feel awkward when your around him and just have a good time at the dance. Hope this helps!
-Manda
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Q: I have trouble communicating to people about problems and I don't like to complain. Well my boyfriend was an awesome guy and I liked him so much but with our busy schedules we didn't get together a lot. Even on days when we were both free we just didn't hang out. I didn't want to say anything about it because I didn't want to seem clingy but it was really bugging me. I wanted to be with him so bad but every time I called him it was always a "bad time" to talk. I got really frusterated and tired to fix the problem, I dumped him. Yeah, I think my definition of fix is screwed up. 5 seconds after I dumped him and knew I'd made a mistake. I tried to talk to him about it and I never got the response I was looking for. I told him how I felt about him and he told me what I'd done had made our friendship awkward. I don't know what else to do. I want him back so bad. Please help me.
-TroublesomeGirl
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I'm sorry, but I really think that you should move on. I know that it's hard, but sooner or later you were probably going to break up with him or he was going to break up with you. Your going to learn to move on. Everyone that just go out of a relationship will regret everything and feeling really bad and guilty so dont stress. Give some time for yourself and him. If you really want him back just give him time and still let him know that you go feelings for him. Hope this helps!
-Manda
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Q: i am 13/f, and i think my boyfriend has a crush on my bestfriend. he is always hanging out with her. he actually spends more time with her than me. when i talk to her she says that she'll try to stop but she never does. the worst thing is that she has a boyfriend already. ive talked to him and he isnt comfortable with it either! what should i do?
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First you should get them all together in a group and let them know how you feel. Dont let them hang out alone or without you and her boyfriend. If that does work then hang out with her boyfriend and then she'll get the point sooner or later. Hope this helps!
-Manda
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Q: I know that people say you are too young to be in love. But does that mean I can't tell my boyfriend that I love him?
13/F
Thanks so much !!
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Age doesn't really matter at times as long as you guys really care and love each other than its fine. You can say that you love him just to please him, but dont say it if you dont mean it. Let him know that you care a lot about him. Saying I Love You is suppose to be special and you can't just say it and not mean it. There are other words and sayings and ways to let your boyfriend know that you love him and care about him. Hope this helps!
-Manda
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Q: I like this guy, and we get along great, but me and his best friend just do not get along! I want to eventually date him, but i'm afraid that his friends may influence him otherwise... what should I do?
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Maybe you should try talking to his best friend and try to work things out with him. Get to know him better to be more of friends. Try your best to get along with him. If this guy doesn't want to date you because of his friends move on. If he does want to date you and his friends influence him otherwise ask him and talk things out with him. All guys and girls get jealous when they friend is being taken away by the boyfriend or girlfriend. Hope this helps!
-Manda
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Q: ok im 15/f. my bf now we have been dating a little over a year, and i love him with all my heart, i would do anythin for him in this world we'll call him FRED.well we broke up for like 2 weeks and i dated a boy (bob)and i broke up with him because i couldnt stop thinking about fred. my dad dont let me see fred or talk to him but now that we are dating again i have been in such a good mood and everything like that. me and bob got along good and were good friends now but the other day he asked me to go to prom with him what should i do??? is that considered cheating if i would go with him or is that wrong or what(going as friends)?
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Well wouldn't Fred want to go to the prom with you? Okay I'm guessing Fred or Bob doesn't go to the same school or you dont go to the same school.
You should really talk to Fred before you decide on anything. Ask him if he minds you two going as friends. Let him know that you only care about Bob as a friend. Definitely make sure Fred is okay with everything, but also let him know that you should be able to go to the prom with Bob because he is one of your friends. Make sure Bob knows that Fred is your boyfriend. And that when you guys go to the prom you guys are just friends.
No its not considered cheating if nothing happens between you and Bob and you guys are friends so its just like hanging out, but its at the prom. Hope this helps!
-Manda
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Q: Hi, I have this really great boyfriend and we both are really into each other. I am 14 years old and was just wondering, is it slutty if I let him finger me and if I give him a handjob?
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It doesnt matter about other opinions because its you and your boyfriends relationship. If your ready to move up a step then great and just go for it. Its not like your telling everyone that you gave him a handjob and he fingered you but if people do know it should matter to them because its about you and him. Hope this helps!
-Manda
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Q: Does proactiv really work and get rid of all or most of your acne? A girl told me it was great for her and her friend, but other people say its junk. I just wanted to know cause I always have acne and i want to know if this stuff really works.
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I've only started usin it for a week and I notice that my acne is startin to get better. It makes my skin less oily and feels much more softer. It might make you break out just a little but if you keep usin it that pimple will just get better and wont come back. If someone you know has used it and it didn't work for them dont think that it wont work for you because my older siblings all used it and it didnt work for them. But it's workin for me. You should really try it! Hope this helps!
-Manda
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Q: O.K. there is this boy who is a friend a my brother and is in the 10th grade. He has a girlfriend, but was feeling on me and kissing me. I liked it. His girlfriend stays in my are, but I don't know her. I really want to go with him. I am in the 7th greade suposed to be in 8th. Should I stay with him?How do I know if he is just using me?
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Sorry to say this but he is probably using you. Dont get involved because its not worth it. There are plenty of other better guys out there. If he did care about you then he would break up with his girlfriend. He's probably experimenting to see how many girls he can get with even though he has a girlfriend. If his girlfriend does find out about you guys doing that then she's gonna be pissed and wanna fight or whatever. By then his girlfriend will probably break up with him and then if anything else happens he's gonna complain to your brother. It could ruin their friendship and then your brother might get mad at you. So hopefully you dont get involved. Hope this helps!
-Manda
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Hey everyone! So I've been away from this website for a few years and I've recently stumbled upon it again. I feel that I'm more experienced to give mo and better advice. I've grown and developed so much these past few years that I have a completely different mentality from when I first found this site.
Enough about that, well it's nice to meet you all and my name is Amanda! I hope to really help by giving the best advice I can. I'll always be free and open to help anyone out so don't hesitate :)
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E-mail: Gender: Female Location: Quincy, Massachusetts Occupation: Student Age: 21 Member Since: July 10, 2005 Answers: 174 Last Update: April 19, 2007 Visitors: 10199
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