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Conversation trouble
I'm 16/female... Me and My boyfriend have been dating for 2 months, and everything is great and I like him alot but, when we talk on the phone he is always quiet and i'm like if you dont want to talk i will just let you go, and he's always no i'll talk and the continues sitting there quietly... How can I get him to talk or start a conversation that he will talk in, because i like him and all but i'd rather hear him talk than breathe... please help i'll rate high... Thanks in advance... Sorry so long
ALIX<3
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My boyfriend used to be the same way just tell him that you like to hear him talk more cuz you feel like you're the only one talking and I'm sure he'l listen to you and talk more often. hope I helped.
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Some guys hate talking on the phone. Some girls, too. A lot of times they don't say anything..But they don't want to get off the phone either, and you're like...Ok, WHAT? lol. Sometimes they just like to hear your voice. My boyfriend calls me sometimes and says nothing. And I tell him the same thing, if you don't want to talk, I'll let you go. And he says no, that's ok. Eventually I get sick of talking to myself and let him go.
Start asking him about things that interests him, like say he's into football or something..Ask him football-related things. Or ask him questions that require more than a couple word answer, things that'll help you get to know him better at the same time. Like things from his childhood, or his embarrassing moments..Anything that'll get him talking. Don't expect him to just pick a topic and start talking. You gotta pull it outta them sometimes.
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Questions seem to work best. Ask about people. He might like to learn more about you.
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I think that all guys dont really like talking onthe phone and that they are always quiet. Guys dont always know what to talk about. Next time you guys talk try to get him involved by giving his opinion and asking you questions. You could tell him about your day, maybe ask him some questions that you would like his opinion on, and you could tell him a story or joke. Dont tell him a million stories in that one hour or two because he will get bored. Hope this helps!
-Manda
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Good question! One thing to remember is that guys for the most part are not phone talkers.
He doesn't want you to "let him go" off the phone as you put it, because he likes you and feels like he's close to you while on the phone.
Guys at that age for the most part, just havent learned communication skills with a woman yet. If you want him to talk Ask questions. Find some of his "hot buttons" Find what his interests are and asq questions about them. Believe me you get a guy talking about his favorite hobby, sport or whatever and you'll have a hard time shutting him up! Then start telling him about your favorite things and get him to ask questions.
If you need more specifics or have any other questions you know where to find me! Id love to hear how things turn out as well.
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I had this problem, as in I was the one not talking as much. Try asking questions. On or off-topic questions. Tell him something about your day or life or anything that you would want to hear his opinion about. Get him involved, where you would actually put him in the position to require a responce. If after he responds he's still quiet, then keep it going.
Try to find something he is comfortable talking with and that you know about too. Like if he does crew [rowing, which is what I do], he might like to talk about that a lot, but then again you probably don't know much about it anyway - so while that would be a good idea sometimes, it wouldn't be good all the time. Catch something on tv? Something happen in the news recently? It's always a good idea to debate or just talk and share feelings about topics that are usually arguable; try to get his point of view on things that you might share or have differently. If it is different on a topic, persue it, and just keep asking questions. Hopefully after time he'll get used to it - talking on the phone with you that is. He's might be [I know I was] just not used to talking on the phone for more than five minutes or just to take/leave a message.
Tell a few jokes! Tell some stories! Ask about his day and tell him about yours. Try to get back out of him whatever you just told him: like if you told him about your last birthday, ask him about his. He'll come around soon. Also...have you mentioned that to him? Definately say something - 1. that will be something you could talk to him about from and hear from him; 2. since he is your boyfriend you should make an effort to keep things open between you too, both ways that is. Hope that helped and good luck.
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