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I have a bunch of friends, but I feel like since I am not in the same classes as some of them, we are sort of drifting apart. We don't have that much in common anymore, and honestly I don't always have the best time when I occasionaly do stuff with them (I used to enjoy spending time with them alot). I don't want to deliberatley end any friendships, but I just don't know where they are going. Is it worth doing anything over? Also, I am kind of annoyed because I don't really have a specific group of friends. I know it is good that I am friendly with alot of different people, but I kind of long to have a group of friends like alot of people do. (For instance my sister & her 3 best friends are all 4 really close, and there are alot of other girls who have groups where they are all really close.) I know that's not necessary, but I am just wondering if there's anything I can do about this? Thanks!
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It's a sad fact of life that as we get older, our friends come and go like yo yo's. Basically, what you are describing is completely natural. You change a lot over the years and as you get older, you may find that the person you become and the people your friends become are just too different to maintain the same friendships you had when you were younger.
I expect if you look at your friends, they have very few friends in their social circle too. It's really just one of those things. It doesn't mean you will be lonely and friendless forever, it just means that you and your friends have sort of outgrown each other and it's time to make some new friends.
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well i have a best friend who i dont see very often but i also have a like 4 person "group".. drifting apart from friends is a normal thing to do and you and your friends are going to become very different people one way or another, the best thing you can do is stay the way you are and still be friends with lots of people rather than a little group. reconnecting with old friends you might not have much in common with anymore can be hard, but if you REALLY want to be friends with them again, you need to start talking to them again, in the hallways or at lunch.. even over AIM or myspace. whether you think so or not they probably will want to be friends with you again and will put in as much of an effort as you.
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