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He turns 18 today!
IM 15/f and i really like this kid who has a gf and turns 18 today. i've practicaly changed part of my life to win him over. I think i;m going to give up b/c he has a gf. i talked to him a while ago. i was stupid last month and told him i loved him. he said he kinda liked me but he has a gf. she is 17. I started to dress different and listen to different music and like different things. do you think i should give up on him and just stop thinking/talking to him/seeing him. or should i act like everything is fine? he is going to help me this summer to helo me join the basketball team next year. im rly excited. i dont know what to do though b/c everytime i see him or talk to him i fall in love with him again. he flirts with me and everything and i love it. but, i dont know if i can do it anymore. so do you think i should forget all about him and move on or should i just continue getting my heart broken when i see him and just wait for something to finally happen? i rate good answers.
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ok so say you win him, he dumps his current girl for you etc. well whats to stop him from doing it again? He could drop you like a hot coal for the next girl who professes her undying love to him. Also, a big warning sign in your head should go off when you begin changing yourself to make someone like you. Don't conform to what he likes, be your own person. Don't you want him to like YOU! What is going to happen when you decide your sick of pretending to be someone your not, i'd focus more on finding i guy who would love you for you, only have eyes for you, and who wouldn't want you to change for him. Your probably more attracted to this guy than in love with him anyway. There are plenty of fish in the sea, find one who will love you, respect you, and take care of you. By the way stop going after guys who you can't have (aka involved, dating, married especially) you only set yourself up for dissapointment, and how would you like it if a girl kept throwing herself at your boyfreind. You can tell a lot about a guy from his past realationships, and how he treated his other girlfriends, if you don't want the treatment he gives his current girl why would he treat you differently. Is he polite, does he open the door for her? or walk down the stairs infront of her incase she falls... think about it a little.
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Girl you need to move on. This guy isn't worth it because he got a girlfriend and if he flirts with you it doesn't always mean he likes you or wants to have a relationship with you. Dont change yourself just for a guy because no matter if you change to be the girl that he likes he isn't going to like you. Just be yourself and don't try to compare yourself to other girls and dont try to be like them. Be orignal. There are plenty of better guys out there and I know that age doesn't matter, but if he's 17 he's going to want to be with girls his age. Dont wait for him just keep going and meet new guys. All girls love to have guys flirting with them so your single and you should mingle. You dont have to stop talking about him, but you should just become more friends with him. Hope this helps!
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Yes, you really should give up on him. You stay this way and things are going to get messed up. What if he leaves his girlfriend for you? You may think it's great for you, but put yourself in her position. I've seen it happen many times--the guy leaves his girlfriend for another girl, the other girl is hurt, all out war between the friends of all people involved. I've also seen my best friend struggle trying to get an unavailable guy's attention. You have no idea how much it hurt me to see her hurt like that. You are not going to be happy with this guy, especially since you had to change part of your life for him. NEVER, EVER change yourself for a guy. I cannot stress that enough. If someone doesn't like you for who you are, they are not worth your time. I'm not saying he's a horrible guy, but he's not the guy for you. If you don't think you can be friends with him without falling in love, tell him you can't be friends, and walk away.
Also, a side note (but an important one): the fact that he's flirting with you, though he KNOWS a relationship isn't possible, shows that he's not a great guy. He wants to have his cake and eat it too, as they say, which means that he wants his girlfriend, but he wants to fool around with you on the side. Don't let guys use you like this!
Oh, and if he ever did end up going out with you, he'd probably do the same thing behind your back.
I know it's hard, but you have to get over him. And in the future, you have to protect yourself, or you're going to have more than your heart broken. A bad guy will ALWAYS tell you that he's a bad guy, you just have to be paying attention. This guy has bright yellow warning lights all over him.
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no. don't wait, he's not in to you even though you changed half of who you are for him to like you and still he doesn't budge and flirts with you. he's a stupid player. tell him if he doesn't like you don't flirt with you or talk to you. aight
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My advice is don't totally give him up, just take a break from him. Leave him alone for the next couple of months, maybe even until basketball season next year. That way, you won't get your heart broken or feel bad that he doesn't love you the way you like him.
See him as little as possible, and when you are near him, be his friend. No flirting, just act casual.
But don't change yourself for this guy. He could turn out to be really different then what you thought. Be yourself, and soon enough, a guy will come around and like you for you.
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