Hey evryone! My name's Stefana and I love giving advice and helping people!!! You can just ask me any question you have about love, friendships, and family problems...and I'll do my best to give you the best advice I can!!!!!!
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E-mail: stefana3@hotmail.com
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School's starting soon, and I have insomnia.
On top of that, I screwed up my sleep schedule so that I can't fall asleep until at least three in the morning, and I can't seem to fix it.
Any suggestions? (link)
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I have the same sleeping problem...I also stay awake until 3 or 4am, but just try sleeping earlier...you should start practicing going to bed earlier before school starts...
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Okay so I've been talking to this guy for about a month over the phone and like he is soo sweet and he told me he loves me. Okay well thats not the problem, the confusion comes from him telling me he'll call me and never does or that when he doesnt call i get all "he doesnt like me" and ive never in my life liked someone this much and i havent ever met him in person. Why do i get so upset with myself when he doesnt call? I'm scared i'm going to mess this whole 'relationship' up before it ever gets started and i have commitment issues and i know i do, but i want to be with him. Does age have anything to do with this cause he is 24 and i'm 18? this has got me all confused and worried and upset. any advice would be gratefull. thanks so much.
xox Kim (link)
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Well maybe he just forgets to call you or he's way too busy, but just don't worry that he doesn't like you. I know it's hard because I'm the same way, but he told you that he loves you...so that should mean way more than wheather he calls you or not. When that happens, just try to stay calm and maybe you could try asking him howcome he hasn't called. Oh and I don't think that age should matter because if he really cares about you than age shouldn't matter...
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how do you shed fat from stomach? im thirteen (link)
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Try doing sit ups/crunches...and eat healthy
*Good Luck*
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are squats and running the only effective way to loose weight on your thighs?
What are other ways?
Thanks XD (link)
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You could try leg lifts(I think that's what it's called)...It's where you lie on your (left) side and lift your (right) leg (about 10 times to start of with)...than you switch sides...I hope this works because running is more for loosing weight all over and squats are for losing weight on your butt area..lol..
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is it normal to feel depressed sometimes, without any reason...you just feel depressed, and sometimes, you cry but you don't know why, you just feel like crying sometimes, and you get very depressed... (link)
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Yah! I think it is normal because the same thing happens to me sometimes too. I think you should try talking to someone...like parents, doctor, counselor, and even your friends can help...now that I think about it, maybe there's something deep down that's bothering you, but it's just too deep that you don't even know what it is...
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okay im freaking out about freshman year.
all my friends are going to different schools.
i have like one really good friend thats going
to my school. so how do i make new friends in a
weird enviroment...or atleast ensure that i wont
be not liked??
i cant imagine what its going to be like going
to school with older looking people....
it just seems scary. (link)
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I used to feel exactly the same way! Now I'm going into gr.10 and I realized that gr.9 wasn't a big deal. I remember as soon as I got into that school, everything was fine...and making friends was easy. Just don't worry about it because it's not as big a deal as you think. To make new friends, just talk to different people, smile alot, act friendly, and give compliments and you're good as gold!:D...It's a good thing that one of your friends is going with you...so than if she makes new friends than you can also try becoming friends with her new friends!
*Good Luck*
~HottStuff
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Im a girl & i am 13 years old. I really really like this guy. Im head over heals for him, and i feel so good when im around him. heres the problem: he's taken. I know i need to just wait my time, but I feel that if i wait any longer i will BURST! School starts in one week...and him & his gf both go to my school. I would just avoid him, but i go to a private school with only 10 kids in my class. I like him so much, but i know better than to tell him i like him when he is dating a differnt girl....but when hes with her & im there i pretty much dont exsist. please help me. :(
-heartbroken
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Dear heartbroken,
Well if you don't wanna wait any longer...and ofcourse it wouldn't be right to tell him how you feel, when he's with another girl. So right now you could try just becoming friends with him. Get to know him better. Than when he breaks up with his girlfriend than you could tell him how you feel.
*Good Luck*
~HottStuff
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I REALLLLLLY want a talent show at my school. but my school dosnt have talent shows. what do i do??? (link)
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You could try going to the principle and suggesting a talent show...I'm sure he/she will accept!:)
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so theres this guy who lives next to me and we talk all the time and he said i was pretty and he always trys to impress me but idk if he likes me. what do you think? (link)
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I think he could like you, by what you said here...maybe you should try just getting to know him better and see where things go from there.
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okay my boyfriend broke up with me and i cried a lot, i was really hurt and then when i told my friend about what happened she was really shocked and sad and then she keep asking me if i was okay and she gave me a a lot of tight hugs and she said call me if you need anything and when we were chatting she sended me a couple of RnB love song that relates to me and also she send me a card online saying feel better and cheer up and she told me shes gonna buy me a chocolate when ill see her soon and after that she came to my house and bought me a chocolate and gave me a hugs what do you think about my friend?
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WOW! She's a really great friend! Wish I had a friend like that...although I still don't know why you'd ask this when it's obvious that she's so nice, but I guess you just wanted to hear other peoples opinion about her...
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Ok so me and my bf of 4months had our first fight a few days ago and part of it was about me not talking to his friends when we're hanging out with them. Im really shy and i just find it hard to talk to people i dont know that well. So if i dont talk to his friends they end up thinking i hate them but i dont. it just takes me a while to open up to people. So my question is how do i start conversations with these people and get to know them better, like join in conversations when i dont know what or who their talking about.
I just dont know what to say to them.
Love, Jess (link)
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~Always ask open ended questions(the question isn't answered with just yes or no)
~You could try giving compliments, to get on their good side..lol..everyone loves being complimented!
~If you don't know what or who they're talking about..ask them! That way you'll seem interested in their conversation and they'll know you wanna join in the convo
~If you know what they like to do(fav hobbies)..ask them about that...
*Remember: The first convo is always the hardest...also, you might wanna try talking to your bf and telling him that you don't hate his friends, you're just a shy person!
~Good Luck!
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So my boyfriend plans to come over to my house and I guess meet my parents...but see, the thing is, they don't know I have a boyfriend.
I think that they suspect it because I've never brought guys to my house before, because I've never wanted to have to deal with it.
Anyways, I want to tell them he's gay, so they think that I just have a gay friend so he can come over all the time.
And it would be totaly believable that he's gay, cuz he is kinda metro haha. (link)
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I think it would be better if you told your parents because sooner or later it will get found out anyway...
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Ok this is going to be kind of long because I'm going to sort of rant. But anyway all my life I've gone to a Catholic School and my family is like really religous and filled with good wholesome morals. I was raised and taught to be the same my whole life and up until now I haven't hesistated at all to play the "good girl".
But lately, I don't know what happened to me. I've taken a complete 180 degree turn and I'm sort of ashamed at who I've become. I'm sixteen and about to go in my senior year of high school. I've been drinking like a LOT and partying. I've been sneaking out, lying to my parents and everyone around me. I never go where I tell my parents I go, and usually end up driving out of town in the middle of the night (which I'm not allowed to do AT all) and sleeping at my boyfriends house, and with people I really don't even know. Now I started smoking cigarettes and been smoking those a LOT. (about 7-8 a day) and now I'm also starting to smoke like weed too. To top it off, my parents are HUGE on abstinence and I just set up an appoinment at a clinic to go on birth control.
It seems like I'm losing who I was, and I'm not strong enough to stay the way I was.
Too be honest, I'm really scared. I mean I love doing what I do, but at the same time I'm scared of how much I changed and the kind of person I'm becoming. I'm doing things that I always used to be against, and if my parents ever found out they'd literally disown me. Also, my religion prohibits all these activites and I'm also scared of how quickly my religous and moral being are deteroriating.
I don't really know what advice I'm asking, but am I like a "bad kid"? I do keep my grades really high in school and plan on attending a high rate college, but I feel like thats not enough. Basically, I'm just really scared. So any help would be appreciated I guess... (link)
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You are definatly not a bad person! You're just probably lost and confused...somewhere along the line you forgot who you really are and what your morals and beliefs are. Maybe this is all due to peer pressure or something that you started acting this way...or there was something in your life that was bothering you that you wanted to change. Whatever it is, the first step would be to remember who you were and what you believe in. Once you know that, than you need to decide wheather you want to go back to being how you were or stay how you are or just start acting a little bit better...but I think the best thing to do, that will relieve the guilt that you're feeling, is to tell your parents...now I know this will be really hard and you probably think I'm crazy for even suggesting that..lol..but I believe that it will make you feel better and feel like a better person. So if you want, you can ask your parents if you can talk to them about something really important and I'm sure that they'll set apart a time for you to talk. Than just start telling them slowly and hope they understand and you could appologize...I hope this works!!! Good Luck!!!:D!!!
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okay so lately my confidence has been dropping more and more. and i just feel like people keep saying crap about me and stuff. and like i always feel like people are staring at me when im walking down the street. and i feel really ugly and fat. so now ive ended up being bulimic and i cut and i pop pills. i dont know what to do though cause i cant tell my parents. and i keep looking for a boyfriend and i cant get one so it makes me feel worse cause i feel like no one wants me. so please help me (link)
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Don't let your confidence dtop! Just always think positive things and say positive stuff about yourself. Also, try not to care what other people think...I know it's hard because I'm the same way(I care too much about what others think)and you have got to stop being bulimic and stop cutting yourself and taking pills..it's not healthy and it's certainly not the answer to your depression...try taking to your friends about this if you can't tell your parents. Surround yourself with positive people and do what you love doing that will make you happy..(what are your favorite hobbies???)..As for the whole boyfriend thing, just don't worry about it, just relax and the guys will come to you!!!;)!!! I hope this helps! Good luck!:D
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okay so like ive moved recently and i met this guy ((no names)) and i think that i like him, there is a problem, i am a sophomore and hes a senior...i mean hes not the hottest guy i noe but i like him bc he can make me laugh. and like hes not afraid to b himself. but i dont know if he lieks me back bc i never really talk to him, but when i do tlak to him he seems like he wants to talk to me back, so i supposed that he does. and i was just wondering like should i take the time to like talk to him and like get to know him, or like just forget it bc it wont work out?
please help!!! (link)
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Well I think you should definatly talk to him and get to know him!
If he doesn't like you in that way than at least you two can be friends...
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why do i always make my friends the people who i want to go out with? like i see a hot chick i make friends with her i want to date her but i never get the courage to ask "you want to go out with me?" and then they become my friend and it would b just weird why oh why??? (link)
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The best relationships first start of as friendships. So don't be afraid to ask out a girl that's your friend! Also, you may wanna try flirting with the girl first to drop some hints that you like her more than a friend and if she likes you too than she might flirt back, but if she doesn't like you in that way than she might ignore your fliting..good luck!..
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ohkay next year im going to be a freshman at highschool and im so worried. i know no one i moved here two years ago and i didnt make anyfriends with the 8th graders so i lucked out. and the boys situation is really bothering me. like its all about sex and making out and such,and i dont knwo if i m ready and it seems like if you are in a relationship then its pressured to so that kind of thing by everyone! and i guess this really started bothering me when i saw girls younger than me, like tlaking to the guys (and the guys where interested) to me it seems like i wouldnt be able to do that. im not one of those big flirts who hang all over guys. i have ppl ik that live further away who go got highschool (they are freshman) and they are telling me stories like how her a group of people went to a guys house and they were all hanging out until late. i mean it seems like its a big deal to me. my parents would have to know the parents and such, and im not willin got sneek out for that but i want to. i dont even know what im asking really, i just want to be able to hang out with poeple and not have such a hard time having a date and being pressured and crap. im really frantic about this. i would really like a boy to comment on how they are with girls. im jsut not ready for that...im scarred out of my mind. ik i muct sound stupid, but how did you deal with it.. the pressure of drinking and smoking adn drugs... yea sure now i can say i wont do it, but when it happens... i dont want to be one of those people you have to drive home, and i would hate for my parents to find out about it. alot of this is coming from what i wouldnt want my parents to see me like. i dont want to change, i dont think of myself as a goody goody by no means and it might sound like it but what am i suppose to do? please someone who is in highschool HELP and have experience (f/14)
ps sorry this is so scrambled. and thanks in advnaced (link)
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Right now I'm going into gr.10 and I know exactly what your going through. I also used to be all freaked out about being a freshmen, but once I actually got in that school, everything was fine! You'll see that it's not as big a deal as you think...and you'll make new friends in no time. Just try talk to a few people, be really friendly, and nice, give compliments..just don't stress about it too much and everything will be fine...as for all the pressures, just don't even think about..just be yourself and when you stop worrying about everything, that's when you'll really live life happily and carefree...so don't stress, that's all I can say...good luck!...
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ive been with my boyfriend for about 9 months and in the beggining i really didnt tell my paretns cause i didnt know how they were going to react to it. Now they found out and give me nothnig but a hard time about it. They like him and all and let me see him when i want but i hate hearing bout it afterwards. I really dont know what to do. i love him but im so sick of hearing it from my parents =\ (link)
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Your parents are probably trying to purposly bug you because you lied to them at first and now they're trying to get back at you...you should try talking to them...
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Yeah so I'm like the only one in my grade who thinks Corbin Bleu is hott and stuff. I'm in 8th grade. Everyone thinks he's a fag, and yeah I'll admit he does kinda act gay but I'm still in love with him. Do you guys think he's hott/gay? I wanna see if I'm like the only one my age who's obsessed with him! Haha. (link)
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I'm 15 & I don't think he's gay, but I also don't think he's hott..he's alright...
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