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talking to his friends
Ok so me and my bf of 4months had our first fight a few days ago and part of it was about me not talking to his friends when we're hanging out with them. Im really shy and i just find it hard to talk to people i dont know that well. So if i dont talk to his friends they end up thinking i hate them but i dont. it just takes me a while to open up to people. So my question is how do i start conversations with these people and get to know them better, like join in conversations when i dont know what or who their talking about.
I just dont know what to say to them.
Love, Jess
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
~Always ask open ended questions(the question isn't answered with just yes or no)
~You could try giving compliments, to get on their good side..lol..everyone loves being complimented!
~If you don't know what or who they're talking about..ask them! That way you'll seem interested in their conversation and they'll know you wanna join in the convo
~If you know what they like to do(fav hobbies)..ask them about that...
*Remember: The first convo is always the hardest...also, you might wanna try talking to your bf and telling him that you don't hate his friends, you're just a shy person!
~Good Luck!
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There are two approaches that I would take;
1) Talk to your boyfriend about his closest friends, fund out if theres anything such as a certain sport, video game, book, or something that plays a big role in thier life. Then ask them about this thing. They'll open up to you, which will make you more comfortable, and you'll most likely be able to engage in further conversation because you no longer feel like an outsider.I t'll make them think you're paying attention atleast, and it will make your boyfriend feel like you're taking an intrest in his life.
2) Just talk. Who cares about what? Just open up and say whats on your mind. Even if its something totally random. "Wow. The sky looks so blue today." "Oh Andy, I love the color of your shirt." Just any old thing.
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I am shy my self too, people say it can be rude but I say its hard to think of what to say and not say something wrong that will defended them.
What I do, I smile my hello or wave and I ask them what they like to do for a hobbies, career, work and school (major) those are great topics for any one to talk about.
Once you know what they like or dislike then you might know if you and your bf friends have in common.
And if you can’t think of something else to talk about then join in the conversations.
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