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okay so lately my confidence has been dropping more and more. and i just feel like people keep saying crap about me and stuff. and like i always feel like people are staring at me when im walking down the street. and i feel really ugly and fat. so now ive ended up being bulimic and i cut and i pop pills. i dont know what to do though cause i cant tell my parents. and i keep looking for a boyfriend and i cant get one so it makes me feel worse cause i feel like no one wants me. so please help me
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Don't let your confidence dtop! Just always think positive things and say positive stuff about yourself. Also, try not to care what other people think...I know it's hard because I'm the same way(I care too much about what others think)and you have got to stop being bulimic and stop cutting yourself and taking pills..it's not healthy and it's certainly not the answer to your depression...try taking to your friends about this if you can't tell your parents. Surround yourself with positive people and do what you love doing that will make you happy..(what are your favorite hobbies???)..As for the whole boyfriend thing, just don't worry about it, just relax and the guys will come to you!!!;)!!! I hope this helps! Good luck!:D
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Well. Where to begin. (this will be long, so don't read it all at once, read it in sections and let what i have to say rest in your mind for a little bit.)
The Human body is such a fascinating thing.
Answer me this. why do you cut yourself in such a manner? Does is cover up an emotional problem?
given what you have said... Yes. (we'll get back to this.)
People probably are saying crap about you, about the way you look, and and what not, but that is the point. You believe in what they have to say so it holds some form of power over you. Which is the key. The people choose you to be the target of what they have to say because it affects you so, but in truth, the people that say such things truly aren't sure of themselves. I'm sure you have heard something like this speech before, so i'm going to cut to the chase. As you read this, think about what i have to say. the people that say crap about you are immature, and while your conscious says to ignore them, you can't. So what to do. When you walk, walk with your head up high and chin parallel with the ground shows to other's that you believe in yourself, people will eventually realize that what they say won't effect you so.
Why do you feel ugly? Is it because to you it seems that no boy would want to date you? Here is the thing about men. Despite what we say, nothing is more sexier then a woman with confidence. Do not run to men to solve your beauty problems, for i promise you, that you will get hurt and feel worse then what you are.
Now we come to the treatment of your body. Bulimia truly and honestly solves nothing and there is no logic to it. In truth, one would think that it causes weight-loss, but it doesn't. It prevents your body from getting the nutrition it needs and your body will then begin to digest itself for the nutrition it needs. (basically cannibalism of yourself.)
Cutting. a very sensitive topic for most people. but you have openly admitted to the world that you cut yourself. this is a start of showing trust in yourself in that you know that there is something wrong.
The Psychology of cutting yourself...You cut yourself because of an emotional problem, yet it has been established that physical pain cannot ever cover up the emotional torment. By cutting you are merely suppressing the emotions of suffering and letting them get bottled up, after a while the physical pain goes away, and you realize that while you had the physical pain, the emotional pain is gone. but it's not. the emotional pain grows and grow with each and every cut you do. then it turns into a cycle and you have no longer given yourself a solution to your problem. Stop cutting yourself, it makes you hideous to the world. showing how little you think of your emotions and letting them run your life such as they are. the trick with this is simple.
well...easier said then done anyways.
Majority of people that slice themselves think with their emotions. Had i been doing that, i would not exist and couldn't be giving you this advice here and now. Don't think with your emotions, think with logic. The humans' ability to reason and use deductive thinking is one of the most precious gifts we could ever have. Im not saying to completely be devoid of all emotions but rather use your emotions to make decisions and then use logic to justify the outcome. believe me, it works. Having said what i said about cutting yourself...does it make sense to cut yourself and let your problems expand when the only thing you get from it is the possibility of throwing your life away? The same applies to pill popping. Im quite sure that you wouldn't be seeking the advice of teenagers and other people for you to go and commit suicide by means of drugs, slicing, or bulimia for that matter.
Your parents don't need to know what has been going on in your life to drive you to such ends so long as you get yourself under control. Im not suggesting to simply ignore the problem because eventually you will have to tell them something.
And if you happen to be a little over weight, there is no matter there. Simple fixes to you showering habits and food intake.
Examples.
Drink water. not soda. water cools down the body's temperature. The body uses calories to keep the body temperature constant. By drinking water, you are dropping your body's temperature, thus causing your body to burn more calories to get the temperature back up to the constant it was at before. You will be tempted to eat because of your dropped temperature, but don't. eat when it is appropriate. you body get's it's extra calories from fat. thus your body will instead of eat the fat for survival (bulimia) your body will dissolve it and place it toward your temperature.
The same basic principle applies to cool showers.
Cool showers lower the body' temperature and will thus work harder to keep up the temperature to a functioning level.
Food.
Eat foods with High citric acid. the acid will dissolve fat.
Grapefruit
Oranges
Strawberries
ruby red grapefruit juice
and Cranberry juices and fruits.
Vitamins.
for more energy through out the day, use vitamin b-12. it works. it increases your metabolism thus generating more energy for your body to function, this way, you aren't eating so much simple carbs to which cause acne, rotten teeth, loss of senses and what not. Caution, take with lots of water and a banana. or it will hurt you, i promise.
I hope this advice will lift up your spirits.
Remember nothing is sexier to a guy, then confidence, and a sense of self worth.
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I think you shouldnt care what any one thinks cuz if they dont like you then there not for you and some one special will finally come around and youll be happy but until that happens stop abusing yourself and go on a healthy diet or something. Look up on the internet stuff like "How to lose weight fast" and read some articals. Im on a diet too and my cousin told me about a diet that you lose 20 lbs in a week just by making smoothies for every meal made of nothing but fruits and veggies. I am not doing that cuz it doesnt sound healthy but i am doing the hard way and eating when i absolutly have to like usually i just eat when im bored and when its a certain time and that was my problem. You never want to be dangerous with yourself.
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iv been down that rode but im a guy i was a druge and a smoker and and theive and they all looked at me like i was hated but talk 2 some 1 like your good friend cousin or onlder sibling u can even talk 2 me just seend me a question or i can im you on my space im but ignor them trust me cause i was all that and i was a satinist if your a christin and even if your not read the bible it helped me alot and there is no point in cuting your self i know i did it and no reson for popong pills or comiting suicide iv tried4 times the last time i had a loded gun 2 me head timm my best friend ran over there and took it away from me she was crying trust me people care about u what your doing will hurt people just message me for more idvice my name is hunter thornton on my space email Thornton@our-town.com message me il help
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Hun...you've got to stop popping pills and cutting. But I'm glad you know that you aren't helping yourself by doing all that. Babe, you don't need a man to make yourself feel beautiful. And you should tell your parents, they can help you. I bet you are amazing and wonderful. Everyone in their own special way is beautiful.
If you want to help your confidence get higher, you need to know that people aren't talking about you, and you need to love yourself. People can tell when you don't have confidence, and boys love a girl that love themselves.
Talk to your best friend about how you feel, when you see yourself in the mirror, tell yourself that you are dam* beautiful and how perfect you are. Maybe get some books that can help you get your confidence up. Try to laugh and smile more, it can really help. Trust me on that, I used to hat ehow i look, I thought that everyone hated me, and I thought I was the most ugliest person in the world. And I thought that since how I was sick all the time (I have an illness, Chronic Lyme Disease)...and yeah, I don't want to get in too much detail. But when I started to love myself, and see how amazing I am, I started loving life more, and my confidence started getting higher and higher.
I wish you the best of luck, and I hope I helped. If you want, send me a preivate question, and I bet I can give you more advice.
~Vera
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Well If I WasyouI Would Stop Cuttin Ive Been There Done that & I Know How It Feels But It Not Make Things Better Only Makes Em Worse And If I Was youId Stop Doin Pills They Can Kill U..Just Releax I Know Its Hard But you Will Find Someone God Has Someone For Everyone Out There He Will Come To you..
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