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Aloha, Guys.
I love giving advice so I hope I can help you out in any ways needed. I live in Wisconsin and i love hanging out with my friends. I also love movies and stuff too. I'm a normal teenage girl.

*Currently in CD player: A Boy Named Goo (The Goo-Goo Dolls)*

Okay, well ask away!

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i still have not gotten my period and all my friends that are even smaller and shorter then me already got theirs if it helps im in 7th grade and im almost 13

There's absoutely NOTHING wrong with you. Everyone goes through puberty at different times. You aren't your friends, you are YOU. No two girls are the same. So don't worry, it'll come. It's really not all that great, to tell you the truth. Cramps aren't fun!!
*Randy T*

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I have a boyfriend that I've been with for almost two months. I feel that I love him, but I barely see him, and he never openly talks to me. I have three other guys who like me, and I goofed the other day and cheated on my boyfriend with one of them. The guy I cheated on him with I really like, but he's got a girlfriend and can't leave her, or he won't have a place to live. I want to be with the other guy more then my boyfriend, but I can't be. Should I stay with my boyfriend?

Well, if you can't even see him often...Sorry, hun. I'd say no. Plus you cheated on him. I think that was probably because you never see him, like you said. Just explain to your boyfriend that you can't deal with not seeing him and just tell him that you'd rather be frineds. Then find somebody else who you can see more often.
*Randy T*

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when your making out and a guy takes your shirt off does the bra usually go too?

Hey
That kinda depends on the bra, but I dont think that that really happens a lot!!
*Randy T*

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hey uhh we have these monologue things we have to do in my drama class and the one i chose i am really good at and i love it nad everyone says i am a good actor but uhh i am scared to perfrom in front of my drama class cuz there are guys in it that r real jerks and i want to perform really well but i don't think i can cuz i don't want to be made fun of what should i do

alone in the world
p.s. I uhh kinda cut myself and if they make fun of me again i am gonna do it again and my friend gaev me this website so i wouldn't have to talk to an adult and like pleeze help me i am always depressed becasue i am always picked on i don't want to take pills or tkae counseling i can't stand talkin to adults. That was a long p.s. but yea

Hey,
I am feeling for you. I bet you are a great actor. Just do your best.
I use to cut myself too. I had a lot of family problems. I had to lie to my best friends about my bruises and cuts. It never ever ever helps. My advice to you is to wear a rubber band. Whenever you feel like cutting, snap it on the place you'd like to cut. It worked for me. Things will be okay, and the people who made fun of you are assholes. You can always come to me whenever you need somebody. Good luck to you...and remember, you aren't alone. There are millions of people who feel like you do. Remember that, and take care and hang in there.
*Randy T*

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Don't take this the wrong way. I'm 13/f and I'm ok with the regualr sex (WHEN I'M MARRIED) But even though I'm too your to think about it, 69 and oral sex I'm scared of. I just really dont feel comfortable with the idea. I wouldn't wanna lick the boy's thing, and I wouldn't want his tounge "up there" please help me becuase I really am scared.

If you aren't gonna do head or let a guy eat you out, then there is no reason to be scared. So don't be scared, because there is nothing to be afraid of.
*Randy T*

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Okay, I'm friends with my best friend's ex boyfriend.We've always been friends. But I've also always hada little bitty crush on him. He lives in PA and we live in DE though, so boy me and my friend never get to see him. Lastngith he said he missed me and he wanted to come visit me. I asked him why he didn't ever call, and he said he didn't have any minutes, but if he did, I would be the first person he would call. Is that just me or does he sound like he likes me just a little bit? Help me! I rate good!

xoxo

OOOO! Girl, i think somebodys got a crush on you!!!! Just keep flirting, and give him a call every now and then!! Congrats on your crush!
*Randy T*
:)

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Only answer this if you play an insturment please. I play the violin and after school I always have alot of homework and I can never get practicing in and I'm afraid the teacher thinks horribly of me, but I try on weekends to get some practicing done! Does anyone know a good technique to use so I CAN get some practicing done?

First, when you get home after school, do your homework right away. Then practice violin for twenty to thirty minutes. Try to set a routine down or practice before bed. Something like that.
*Randy T*
PS: It's what i did when i played clarinet.

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My sister is organizing a public speaking club, for people who want to improve on their speeches, nervousness of speaking in front of a group of people, listening skills, etc. It doesn't begin until 2 weeks so we have a lot of planning to do, and it last for about 2 hours. Do you guys have any ideas of what we should do at the 1st meeting to make it fun, interesting, and to let people like it?

To let people get to know eachother, play this game called Two Truths and a lie. Let's say you and I were playing, I would say two true things about myself, like I have my drivers liscense and I have one cat. Then my lie could be like, i love anchovie pizza. The people playing the game have to guess what the lie is.
You could also give everyone a piece of paper and ask them to write down what they would like to improve about their own public speaking. You can also have a snack and just try to get to know eachother.
*Randy T*

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I care a lot about what my friends think of me. I was preppy, and I want to go punk. I got some cloths liek element shirt and volcom and stuff. But when my friends get mad at me they call me poser, even before I got this new stuff. They also say I hav real bitchy attitude. And this past summer a lot of family issues happened, and my friends know that and still call me a bitch. Do they really mean it when they call me a bitch and a poser? Or are they saying that just because there mad? I told them how when they say that it hurts and they dont seem to care. And me and one of my best friends just got into this big fight! She has been ignoring me and calling me bitch and poser. But were friends again.... Do you think she styll thinks that? Or was she talking out of anger? PLease dont sey get new freinds cas i dont want new ones! wat do i do?

Wow, that is really rude of your friends. I hope they don't mean it. You can wear whatever you want. Remember, you are your own person. You should talk to your friends and explain to them that you don't appreciate their comment. Tell them that you were looking for a shoulder to lean on, but they didn't give you that. Tell them to remember that you love them, and just talk. Things have to get better...I bet they will. It takes time for good friendships to stay fun. Just work at it, talk to your friends, and think of old times. Tell me what happens, and hang in there.
*Randy T*

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is it ok to flirt with guys if ur goin out with someone?

I think it's okay. Just don't go too far on the flirting.
*Randy T*

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Hey, I have a gf, and she says she loves me, and we have been going out for about a week. The only times she says "I love you" is on the computer. I even say it when we are in person and she doesn't say it back... she has told me her feelings and she says she really loves me, and she is like crazy about me, but my question is: How come she won't say it back?

Slow down! You've been going out for a week! It takes a lot of time to make a relationship work. Maybe thats the reason why. Just dont say it for a long time. When you really really really feel like you care about her tons,like more than you can imagine, THEN say I love you. Because thats when you'll mean it.
*Randy T*

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Were can you get those Yello livestrong bracelets? thx! Love-Andie

Go to www.ebay.com!
*Randy T*













































































































































































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ok, I was 12 whenever I first had sex...( I know Kinda young but...I was turning 13 soon) Well...it hurt SUPERSUPER bad but they say that after it hurts it's supposed to feel godd...but it didn't...it never once felt good...then the second time (i've only done it 2 times) it still didn't feel good..it kind hurt..adn once again NEVER once felt good?!?! whats wrong with me?!?!

To make sex not really hurt, you gotta really get in the mood. Kiss your boyfriend and do little extra stuff like that while you're having sex. That way you can ignore the pain and it's okay. Nothin to worry bout.
*Randy T*

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Ok... I am 14/f and I weigh 100 lbs. My friends think I am anarexic and last year my teacher turned me in for anarexia. I eat, alot, do you think I should she a doctor about my weight.

NO! You are at a perfect weight. If you really really want to know go to www.am-i-fat.com
You are totally fine and if you know you don't have anoxeria, you got nothin to worry about.
*Randy T*

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what is the advice column where i can ask the administrator a question?

Go to search columnists. then type in Adviceadmin and click enter. That should do the job. :)
*Randy T*

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Everone says that 'puppy love' is just when younger people say they're in love but 'real' love is proper love. So is it possible for a 13 year old to be in real love?

I dont really believe that, because middle schoolers always go out with somebody and five minutes later say I LOVE YOU and then break up. You can believe it...but i need to know more about you. Like how long you've been goin out with the person and stuff like that. You can belive what you want...just follow your heart.
*Randy T*

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Hey whats up? is this Caydee?

You know the truth...I ain't telling...Just because of the stolen identity. Peace out!!
*Randy T*
(Marshmellow Puff Man!)

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i'm in middle school and we have the popular cheerleaders. Everyone tells me how thin and beautiful i am. And the popular girls aren't that pretty, but all the boys love them. I'm not a cheerleader but i think i'm just as good as those girls. why don't the boys notice me?

Those boys are jerks. Most guys are at the middle school age. They WILL come around. Girls mature three years faster than boys. In my middle school, the same thing happened. The cheerleaders are all extremely ugly, and the "cool" people love them. I'd say you are pretty and cool, i dont know you, but you sound like it. So just wait a few years. They WILL come around. I promise. I thought the same thing, and in highschool, WHAM! Lots of guys had crushes on me.
*Randy T*

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I'm in seventh grade and it's so hard! You guys help me! We just had a science test and I got an F! I usaly get all A's and B's. What are some tips, I'm strugging and don't want my good grades to go down.

Read "HELP! I have to...take a test!" It helps tons of people out. You can prolly check it out at a library or something.
*Randy T*

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im inlove with a lady that is older than me for 13 years. she's inlove with me too. but were both married. any advice. thanks

You should NOT even think about getting together with this woman. You are married. I highly doubt that your spouse would appreciate you cheating on your marriage. You took the vows, you stick with them.
*Randy T*

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