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OK, everywhere I go people always want to give me their programs on gaining weight. So I sit there and read through all that stuff come to fin dout that it cost money. Now I really don't mind paying but I don't have a credit card because I am to young and I hate credit cards. So can anyone tell me a few websites that offer detaled program for weigyt gain and are free?

www.sparkpeople.com

That's the best site ever!!!


=)
Good luck hon.

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what fast food, mcdonalds, subway, taco bell, any other one there is.. is the healthiest? i haven't eaten fast food in a long time since i eat healthy now but which one is best? is subway really healty or is tehre some kind of trick

The 5* (or Superstar, not sure...) burger meal thing from Hardee's is known to be the healthiest junk food meal.

=)

Subway's also healthy.

KFC...ew. I don't even want to start. It's plain crap.

=) Hope i helped.
Kay

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if your best friend told you that they like you and they are the same sex as you. will you stay friends? or not? please explain.

if they ask you this question "why did you seem okay when i told you how i felt about you?" meaning when the best friend told you how they care and love you more than a friend, why didnt you responed to it. do you like me back or afriad to tell me you hated it when i told you?

this happen to me, i told my best friend that i like like her. she didnt responed to it but very surpized. this happen 3 years ago. now i cant stop thinking about the talk. why didnt she answer my question when i send her the note that read:"why did you seem alright when i told you how i felt?"
i was expecting for her to not talk to me or not be my friend, and stop being close too. but till now till this day she is still my friend and we are close too. (but not in that way)

Why?

Because it's simple. There's nothing to respond to. It was a confession. That's the end of it.

And why is she still with you and so close?

Obvious: she's a true friend. Hang on to her tight!...She's a rarity in this world.

=)
Kay.

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well for some reasons I can't sleep. I wanna talk to someone new or someone other than my friends. .. a stranger.
my sn: shietitzvy
I'm N0T desperate. just need company.

Hey,

I'll talk to you.

If you're still bored, send me something to my inbox. k?

=)

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I have been dating this guy for over a year. I have 2 girls and we all moved in with him. We have a great relationship. He is in the Army and left for 14 months for training and as soon as school gets out me and the girls are going to move out of state to be with him. He has been nagging me to get my password for the bank acct. I told him as soon as he gives me his, I will give him mine. He blew up. He's the type to always be in control. There's alot more to the story but he said we are breaking up over a password. We love each other but..come on. Am I standing my ground and we may lose each other over something as stupid as a password?

Hey,

Let him know it's not worth it...Maybe he thinks you don't trust him or something.

Think of a way to let him know that you do.

I lost the love of my life over a mobile phone charger...Nothing's worth the loss of a loved one.


Best of luck hon.
Kay.

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Hi, i'm 14 years old, female.

this one's reaaallly long. just to let you know in advance.

i used to go to a small middle school. everyone there has known eachother forever and everyone was very cliquey and i had a good amount of friends, but a group of "popular" girls completely despised me. i never knew why. my friends said it was because they were jealous of me but i really have no idea. i don't see whats to be jealous of. but anyways, they hated me and made my life hell. i managed to be friends with all the "popular" guys though, without being a slut. and dated a few of them. (maybe thats why the girls didn't like me?)but there were always rumors about me that those girls had started. so a couple guys i dated thought i was a slut. and that's why they were with me. i really liked them a lot and got hurt pretty badly a few times. it was odd too, because usually i'm really good at reading people and sensing out what's on their mind. i think sometimes though, i let what i want to sense get in the way of what i really sense. i used to give everyone the benefit of the doubt, not because i was really that gullible but because i wanted to believe them. ever since those failed relationships, i've had a lot of trust issues.

this year however, i'm at a new school (we moved across the country for my dad's job) and i LOVE my school. it's HUGE (like 600 kids per grade) and i'm friends with almost everyone in my grade. i get invited to every party, i always have tons of weekend plans, i don't have any enemies, and a lot of guys like like me. a few girls i'm friends with described me as "that girl you hate out of jealousy until she wins you over. then you're still jealous of her, but love her too much to care"
it's the weirdest thing ever.

people are always saying i'm 'gorgeous' or 'perfect'. i'm not either. at all.

i hate the way i look most days. i'd say i'm average at best. i don't see whats so great about my personality either. i guess i'm a good listener? idk i just try to be nice to people and pretend i don't care what anyone thinks about me.

i care what they think. so much. too much. it's not healthy. and even though i don't have any enemies here, those girls from my old school practically stalk my myspace and like call my cell phone and IM me all the time just to be mean. i've only told my bbf how much what they say hurts me.(bbf = boy best friend)when the girls are talking to me i just outwit them and pretend i find their pathetic attempts to bring me down amusing-- like i know i should.

so yeah there's that issue with those girls and then there's the fact that i don't trust anyone. the lack of trust thing i think has lead to me feeling lonely.. because i never let anyone in all the way. i hate that i always silently question anything anyone tells me.

no matter how many friends i have, no matter where i am, i always feel alone. always. and i know i shouldn't, because these people are REALLY there for me.. only i won't let them be.

i'm so afraid to get hurt again.

ok so now that you have the background information [I TOLD YOU THIS WAS LONG ;]here's my current situation:

i'm determined to prove to myself that i can be in a good relationship that actually means something. therefor, i want a boyfriend- SOO badly. i've dated only one guy at my new school and he cheated on me. it was in the beginning of the year before i had so many friends. and yet, i still reaally want a boyfriend. my biggest problem with that though is that i don't know how my lack of trust will affect the relationship. i really want to be able to trust someone. anyone. people tell me things like "you could have any guy you want" but that's not true. i've liked plenty of guys i couldn't have.

i just want a nice boy who really cares about me. that's all. !@#$%ing middle school relationships.

but anyways, theres this guy i have a crush on now and i think he's genuinely a nice guy. he could totally be a player if he wanted to be but he's not, at all. my bbf is pretty protective of me, and he said he'd approve if i wanted to date my crush. so that's a good sign. and it seems like the guy feels the same way about me.

just one problem with that, he has a girlfriend. but she's breaking up with him soon. and i think he knows it. and doesn't care.

ok so if anyone has any opinions or advice on any of the essay-length "question" i just typed in here, i would greatly appreciate it.

thanks y'all (:

=) i heart long questions. here goes my answer.

Hon, if you don't let anyone close to you...how will you get hurt? You're in a new place now. Move on. Create a new myspace account. Ignore the other girls. It's a fresh start for you and it looks to me like you can get any guy you want!

Sweety, don't let the past build your future...Past has passed. Leave it alone. Look at it and laugh, giggle, smirk. But never let it to bring you down or cry.

One thing though: after your crush is dumped, give him some time then give him hints and stuff. He might need some time alone even if he starts acting all manly and not hurt...we're all like that =).

I hope I helped.
Kay.

Stay strong!

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I'm going to college soon and I have scholarships for tuition, but how do you get scholarships or your future college to pay for room and board?

The campus should have applications for room and board scholarships or something...I guess you apply for them once you're settled in.

Did you try to ask the college?...I'm pretty sure they have some financial aid thing. Or the cost could be included in the tuition fee thing. Check again.

Have fun at collegeXD.

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i have a dsc-s650 digital camera by sony...and it works fine its just that the red light doesn't appear how do i get it to appear when im going to take the picture? i had another sony digital camera before and the red light did appear when i was going to take a picture ... the red light is locate next to the flash bolt

I'm not sure, but it's the infra red thing if you're shooting during nighttime - it basically turns on to find an edge somewhere in the frame if it's dark and focuses on that.

If you're using flash, it might not turn on.

Don't worry, this is a diff. model. Might be normal.

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What are some symptoms of pregnancy?

Besides the period thing.

Thx.

This is really important for me...I'm scsred. I need serious help.

=(

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you answered one of my questions about a crush recently-- great advice btw-- but then i noticed that your advicenators name was faerie, and your bio said you like the paranormal.. so i was wondering, are you wiccan?

Well I used to be into witchcraft and spells but one day I lost control and something bad happened..I never practiced it after that.

I still do it sometime, simple things though.

In this country, they'd burn me if they found out...heh.

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hi! i like these boys that r in my school and in six grade but im in seventh but they r so cute me and my friends even made nick names for them (small one and tall one) should i ask one of them out or not and am i to old for them r they to young for me (im 13 not sure there age )please please answer me i need to know
xoxo,
love ya,
katie

...I'm not sure if it's a good idea but if they're the same age as you, it'd be better for you. Think of the things you'd talk about with them "How's life?" -"Play station?"....

You know what I mean. In my opinion, it's just too strange...it's still your choice though.

Good luck.
Kay.

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hi, ill be 15 in a few days and female. I have a crush on this guy in my jewish youth group, but he most likely doesn't see me as any more than a friend. how do i change that?
I feel that i have a shy, but SOMETIMES outgoing personality, and can look really pretty when i try. When i am with this guy, we don't have akward moments when we are talking, its just smooth, casual, talk (even though i try to flirt). I don't know what to do to get him to ask me out....we're the same age, get along really well, and both fairly attractive.....i just don't get it.

Thanks!!

Hey,

Give it some more time. It's a great thing that you feel comfortable around him and stuff. Same goes for it.

I'm sure he'll ask you soon. Just be patient...the days will seem like years but that's the only way it will happen. =). Maybe in 7 years or so XD. Or even one year...Or a few months...

Okay I'll stop before I confuse you! (7 years = 1 week, do the math).

Best of luck,
Kay.

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hi, im a 15 year old female and i have a question about grinding. i recently grinded for the first time this weekend at my youth group's dance party. When i started grinding, we were rubbing against eachother........going in different directions. Are you supposed to go together in the same direction or rub in different directions?? thanks

Doesn't really matter. If you think about it while doing it, you're more likely to mess up.

Just keep a wild eye contact while doing it. There are no mistakes when it comes to grinding.

Note: don't think about it and it'll be awesome!

=)
Kay.

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Ok, I don't mean to sound all baby-ish and be like "oh u should feel bad for me" but nobody notices me. I have depression and I have done stuff in class I shouldn't do, and nobody has noticed. My friends tell me they would notice, but they never do. I want people to notice me. I'm ugly and i feel fat compared to everybody else, but my friends tell me i'm not. I don't believe them. In a way I want to become popular, and I know I want to have ppl and guys like me. Any suggestions? Without being to harsh please!

Popular? Why?...

If you're the quiet type, people might feel intimidated by you or something, since they'll think "oh, she's too cool to talk to us" or something. If you're the loud type (not a bad thing really), they might've heard enough of your voice, so much that they can't hear it anymore, know what I mean?

There's no such thing as ugly or hot or sexy or beautiful. You're you. So what if you're fat? I bet you anything you're much better than everyone else. Don't let these things put you down hon...We were all fat at one point (unless god created a Barbie doll with a heart and lungs and all).

There's one thing perfect about everyone: the fact that they're imperfect. Popularity won't do you any good. Attention? Recognition? Trust me dear, you'll live without those.

I'm 18. I still live like that and I'm lovin it.

Stay strong. No one can put you down.

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please will some one be my girlfriend

=) How old are you?

Send a reply to my inbox. We'll sort things out.

Kay.

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I was wondering which cruises or ferry boats you recommend to take in Greece, and how to go about finding one? Thanks so much! I'm so psyched about the trip that I fantasize about laying out by the sea and seeing all the beautiful architecture.
Oh, and which island did you go to? what did you do there?
Thanks!!

Well, i haven't been to Greece -- I wish! But I know a lot of people who've gone on the cruises and really liked them. Thing is, you have to go one from a place around the Mediterranean...Cyprus, Lebanon, Italy...somewhere around there.

You can find info about that from the tourism company or something...im sure the airline you're using has info about that.

I'll check and let you know again. k? I'll just answer after this one as soon as I find something out.

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female- 14 years old.

i'm guessing this will sound annoying to those more soffisticated than i. and it's longer than i intended it to be. just to warn you.

Basically I want opinions on what I should do about this little crush that i keep fighting.

i know i shouldn't fight my feelings but he has a girlfriend and i'm friends with her. she's actually planning on breaking up with him soon though, and i'm 95% sure that he knows shes going to dump him and doesn't really care.

i sit near him in one class and we always end up flirting the entire time (which apparently he doesn't do much of with anyone else). he doesn't say anything extremely sexual either, just adorably flirty [not common among 14 year old boys.] it's all just light and cute and sweet and things like doodling pictures on eachother's notebooks, talking about life, etc. my friend says that when i'm not looking he's always staring at me "in the CUTEST way". haha i guess what i'm trying to say is the boy's just all around adorable. and he's not a player at all, and he so could be if he wanted to. my best guy friend (who's fairly protective of me)said that my crush is a genuinely nice guy, and he would approve if i wanted to date him.

i hadn't really thought about dating him until my bff said that.

well, i mean, i had... but like i put it out of my mind until that point.

so that got me thinking. what would it be like to date my crush?

and after playing out the scenario in my head over and over again, i admitted to myself that i really do like this guy. a lot.

and i think he feels the same way.

BUUT back to the girlfriend issue. that would be awkward even after they broke up. and i know i can't let myself become the rebound, and i won't.. i just really do want to be with him. and it scares me because i have MAJOR trust issues, and my past relationships weren't so great.

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ok that was probably more than you needed to know, but that's what is going through my head and it would make me feel so much better to get some clear, blunt opinions and/or advice. i really don't know where to go from here.

i should probably wait out their relationship though, right? before i let it be known that i kinda like him..

i've been down on love for a while now, and i'm scared that by getting my hopes up that there could be decent guys at my school, i'm falling too fast. (falling for him.)

thanks to anyone who took the time to read my little rant (:

i'll appreciate any advice very much!

thanks again!!!!

=) I love long questions.

It's best if you waited after they've broken up. That way the guy will see that you respect him by giving him some time at the same time, you'll get a chance to get closer to him. You know, this way a little flirting won't make you feel guilty since he's not your friend's boo anymore.

I think he likes you =). Go for it!

But give it some time - even if he seems he doesn't care about being dumped, he will still get a little hurt. Show him you care and that you're not rushing.

Best of luck sugar.
=)
Kay

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How do you gain weight? I can eat and eat until my stomach hurts.. My weight stays the same.

I really want to fill in my body.. instead of being slightly bony. I don't have eating disorders, it's called a high metabolism.

I want some meat on my bones.
Or some muscle.


Any help?

You said it: meat on your bones. Don't go to the unhealthy methods (fast food). They make you fatter but .. it's unhealthy. Instead, eat a lot of protein. Meat. Chicken. Beef. Pork. Fish. Humans. Anything. =)

Good luck.
Kay.

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ahh ok where to start.. 16/f and 17/m.. well ive been with him about 10 months. and i love him i really do, but i cant freaking breath anymore! ive felt this way for awhile. i just need some space man. but its like hes soo dependent on me.. like im his oxygen or something. we go to diff. schools, so i talk to him in the mornin, after school if were not workin, and at night. we used to talk for hours and hours, but now, i just want some chill time ya kno. so now i might talk to him for 30-45 minutes, and then be like ill call you back later or somethin, and he'll give me the whole "you dont wanna talk to me anymore" guilt trip deal.. or else he'll be like where are you going?? [another thing.. i HATE being soo invaded.. its always "what are you doing, where are you going, who are you talking to".. and he doesnt give up until i answer.. i mean honestly, privacy anyone? but then if im like "i dont have to tell you everything" then hes like "i didnt say you had to" but when you keep pushin me like that.. then uh hellooo]. also, sometimes when i say ill call him back, a few hours will roll around and he'll call me back and be like im sorry but i was going crazy i had to talk to you. AHH. or if he does actually wait till i call him then hes all moody and bitter bc "i didnt wanna talk to him" or wtfe. or else he`ll answer and in stead of hello its "...finally". this isnt a once in a blue moon things its ALL the dang time. i feel so suffocated! and talking to him really does a whole lotta nothing.. ughh wut can i do before i go crazy?


btw.. no breakin up.. i dont want that.

Ello.

I think he's going for a serious relationship...talk to him about it. Try doing the same for him and see what he's going to say.

Or it could be a matter of time. Maybe he's jealous of some other guy friend (?) or worried or doubtful (possibly). Ask what's bothering him.

I'm sure he has a good reason to be protective like this. Maybe he heard stuff from others about you? Misunderstood something?...


Good luck.
Kay.

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Woohoo! My sister and I are planning to go to Greece for 10 days this summer :) I'm soo excited! BUT, I don't know what to do once we get there.
Any suggestions on:
- which islands to visit
-How to get from island to island, best ways...
-where to stay, etc.

We're planning to fly into Athens and go around to a couple of islands..
Thanks!

UPDATED!

http://www.greeka.com/greece/greece-cruises.htm
http://www.cruise.gr/

You could find stuff here too. Make sure to check the dates and schedules as well.

Let me know if this helps. If not, I'll look deeper.


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Oooh, make sure you check out all the temples and sutff...they're awesome!

You can go on cruises and stuff to get from island to island, that's the best way i think.

Stay at a local cozy hotel thing and not some fancy 5* place - that way you'll get to experience the real life of Greece.

Oh, and the food - yum. Make sure you eat loads of Greek food and go to Greek restaurants and watch them dance the Zorba XD.

Have fun.=)
Kay.

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