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nothing more than a friend...
hi, ill be 15 in a few days and female. I have a crush on this guy in my jewish youth group, but he most likely doesn't see me as any more than a friend. how do i change that?
I feel that i have a shy, but SOMETIMES outgoing personality, and can look really pretty when i try. When i am with this guy, we don't have akward moments when we are talking, its just smooth, casual, talk (even though i try to flirt). I don't know what to do to get him to ask me out....we're the same age, get along really well, and both fairly attractive.....i just don't get it.
Thanks!!
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You should ask him to hang out with you and your friends outside of youth group this weekend at movies, parties etc. because you want to know him better outside of youth group.
This isn't directly asking him out but it's letting him know you are very much interested in him without saying it directly. This helps you to test the water and if he turns you down you'll know he's just not in to you.
Be subtle with your flirting and looking pretty but up the ante a bit and start in with flattering comments here and there. He's probably liking you as well but scared to do anything about it much like you are.
See what happens when you ask him to spend more time with you and hang out more. Maybe he will make a move but I think he's hoping you'll make the move first and get agressive that way.
Honesty also works. It would be going out on a limb but if you have been friends for a long time and are close you can say pretty much anything to him and vice-versa and nothing will change.
Try telling him that you think he's a great friend and you don't want to wreck a friendship but ask if he would ever consider making the friendship anything more than what it is now and that his answer will not change your friendship.
If he's just not getting your signals and that you like him you need to make a move and go after what or who in this case you want. My advice--go for broke.
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Hey,
Give it some more time. It's a great thing that you feel comfortable around him and stuff. Same goes for it.
I'm sure he'll ask you soon. Just be patient...the days will seem like years but that's the only way it will happen. =). Maybe in 7 years or so XD. Or even one year...Or a few months...
Okay I'll stop before I confuse you! (7 years = 1 week, do the math).
Best of luck,
Kay.
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