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flirting??
this weekend i was with some of my guy friends, and then i was alone with one of them, and he told me i had really pretty eyes. I said thanks, and stupidly said, "you have really pretty eyes too!".......i know, akward.
#1) Was that a dumb thing to say?, did it insult him, or just make things akward??
#2) Was he flirting with me??, or just telling me i have pretty eyes??
thanks
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#1) No, it wasn't a dumb thing to say. "Pretty" isn't usually an adjective one uses on a guy, but for some reason it's okay when referring to the eyes. Now, if you'd said he had really pretty biceps or something, he probably would have been a little weirded out. Only a guy who's totally insecure in his own masculinity would be insulted by something like that.
#2) Yes, it was a flirt. Here's the thing about guys, though - we'll sometimes flirt with girls even if we don't intend to date them. I'm not saying he didn't mean it; he almost certainly DID mean it, but he might have been, as you say, just telling you that you have pretty eyes.
You don't mention whether you'd like to get a little closer with this guy. However, I'd say that he's given you an opening to do exactly that, if you want to. What you should probably do now is try to find out exactly how he DID mean that compliment; whether it was a casual remark, or whether it was something he hoped would show you how interested he is. I think you need to do a little flirting of your own, and see how he responds. Try the following:
(1) Whenever you're hanging around together, like when you're with a group a friends, make a point of being close to him.
(2) Brush his hand with yours every once in a while. Give him a little hug when you go your separate ways. Smile every time you see him.
(3) If he plays sports, go to his games and cheer for him.
(4) Call him on the phone "just to chat". Or text message him frequently, whatever it is that you do.
(5) Get caught staring at him. When this happens, look away for a moment, and then look back and smile as if to say, "Oops! You caught me!"
(6) If you can possibly work it into the conversation, tell him that he's the kind of guy that girls want for a boyfriend. Follow that up with something along the lines of how you wish more guys were like him.
(7) If after all this, he still doesn't get the point, wait until you're alone again sometime, then casually mention, "Just so you know, if you were to suddenly kiss me right now, I'd be totally okay with that."
Good luck!
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Aw, how cute is that. haha. Well, firstly, it wasn't a stupid thing for you to say and I doubt your comment insulted him. You got nervous and awkward when you got the comment and it's completely normal.
He could possibly have been flirting with you, but he could've also just been being nice. Who knows? But the flirting is more probable because that's what "you have really pretty eyes" sounds like...especially when it's a young guy.
Good luck!
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