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Afraid of losing a friend
Okay, I have no idea what to do. I found out yesterday that my bff is cutting and doing drugs. She has cuts ALL OVER her arms and stuff and it's really scary. And she told me that she's been doing drugs but didn't tell me what. I talked to her and shes acts like it's no big deal. I mean, her brother recently was diagonosed (sp?) with cancer and her parents are getting divorced so that may have something to do with it. But I really don't want to find her dead one day. I need help. What should I do?
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Wow, hey there!
This is a really tough situation! You need to tell her that its hurting you and you need to talk to an adult if it continues.
First talk to your friend, let her know that she isn't alone, and let her know that you're going to stay by her side and that she can depend on you and can trust you.
About the drugs, tell her it won't help in any way. It's just going to get things worse. If she feels like doing drugs is a way to forget about what's happening, let her know that it won't change anything. It's going to hit her at some point.
About the cutting, my friend used to cut her arms last year, she said she did it because it felt good and it helped her relieve some stress. If thats your friend, help her find new ways to relieve stress, and if it's for attention for her parents then she needs to sit down and talk to them.
She NEEDS to let everything out that's locked up inside. It'll help really. She doesn't have to talk to anyone if she doesn't want to, but let her at least write it all down.
Try to help her out, if it doesn't change, you need to talk to an adult or someone that can help her. I think you might have to, if she doesn't listen to you and there are no changes...then you need to get her some help =( please please keep me updated! I hope i helped! Anyways tell me what happens...Best of luck! Take care! <3 If you need anything else ask away...im happy to help, leave a question at my inbox! <3 Good luck!
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Disregard.
I can speak on this from a personal level and through 4 years of psychology. A divorce, and family trauma can cause drug addictions and cutting. There is a key to both of them.
Drugs:
Look for signes, bags under her eyes, maybe she is talking really fast. Does she seem to be slow at answering a question? Drugs is her way of trying to not feel the emotional trauma she is going through. Once someone is hooked it is usually hard to get them off it.You should comfront her about it. Sometimes you need to lose a friend in order to save them.
Cutting:
Dont be scared of it. Analyze it. Where is she cutting? Is it out in the open where everyone can see it? Or is under clothes and covered. If its out in the open your friend is reaching for attention. She wants someone to notice. It is her way of proving to herself someone cares about her. If it is under her clothes where no one can see, chances are she is doing it to snap herself into reality. Some people get so stressed and emotionally desperate that they feel the need to hurt something. Sometimes they think they should punish themselves for their problems. It snaps them back into reality. Ive been there its scary
The best thing to do is talk to her. Tell her you are worried. Stay by her side. If you walk away from her without doing that its going to hurt her more. I was on my death bed for what your friend is doing, my best friend stayed by me the whole time. Thats what makes a best friend
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this always a tough one your gonna have to risk losing here tell somebody to help her because obviously talking to here anit helping you she might hate u at first but shall respect you in the long run would you rather risk loosing her or watching her kill her self and you had the power to stop her but didnt think about it goodluck and i say this because i use to be a cutter
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This is an outcry for help. Your friend wanttts help deep down inside. You need to tell someone so she can get counseling. She might be mad at you for a little bit, but she will thank you in the end because you care. The best thing you can do is tell a trusted adult who will get her to see the school phycologyst(excuse my spelling lol) and from there she will get better. She is going through a lot right now so she cut herself to get attention. Now that you know, please do what is best for her and get her help. I hope it all turns out well! Keep me updated!
-melissa-
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OK, first off- I'm praying for you and your friend, ok?
Tell your friend that you're really worried about her because drugs can kill her, and the cutting looks scary. Voice your concern, and tell her that you really wish she would stop because most people who do drugs & cut end up going too far and you don't wanna lose her.
Reassure her that if she ever needs comfort, you'll be there... she doesn't need drugs and she doesn't need to hurt herself.
This is a really heavy subject, and sometimes nothing helps, no matter what you do.
She's obviously going through a rough time and she doesn't know where to turn.
I am definitely going to be praying.
Sounds like your friend needs the love and shelter of God.
Just tell her that you're worried and that what she's doing is hurting you. Ask her to stop.
And please, keep me updated.
Hope this helps
God bless
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