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crush. falling. for him. need advice pleasee.
female- 14 years old.
i'm guessing this will sound annoying to those more soffisticated than i. and it's longer than i intended it to be. just to warn you.
Basically I want opinions on what I should do about this little crush that i keep fighting.
i know i shouldn't fight my feelings but he has a girlfriend and i'm friends with her. she's actually planning on breaking up with him soon though, and i'm 95% sure that he knows shes going to dump him and doesn't really care.
i sit near him in one class and we always end up flirting the entire time (which apparently he doesn't do much of with anyone else). he doesn't say anything extremely sexual either, just adorably flirty [not common among 14 year old boys.] it's all just light and cute and sweet and things like doodling pictures on eachother's notebooks, talking about life, etc. my friend says that when i'm not looking he's always staring at me "in the CUTEST way". haha i guess what i'm trying to say is the boy's just all around adorable. and he's not a player at all, and he so could be if he wanted to. my best guy friend (who's fairly protective of me)said that my crush is a genuinely nice guy, and he would approve if i wanted to date him.
i hadn't really thought about dating him until my bff said that.
well, i mean, i had... but like i put it out of my mind until that point.
so that got me thinking. what would it be like to date my crush?
and after playing out the scenario in my head over and over again, i admitted to myself that i really do like this guy. a lot.
and i think he feels the same way.
BUUT back to the girlfriend issue. that would be awkward even after they broke up. and i know i can't let myself become the rebound, and i won't.. i just really do want to be with him. and it scares me because i have MAJOR trust issues, and my past relationships weren't so great.
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ok that was probably more than you needed to know, but that's what is going through my head and it would make me feel so much better to get some clear, blunt opinions and/or advice. i really don't know where to go from here.
i should probably wait out their relationship though, right? before i let it be known that i kinda like him..
i've been down on love for a while now, and i'm scared that by getting my hopes up that there could be decent guys at my school, i'm falling too fast. (falling for him.)
thanks to anyone who took the time to read my little rant (:
i'll appreciate any advice very much!
thanks again!!!!
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Howdy honey
I agree with the other columnist and I think that waiting until theyre separated is the right thing to do around (and i know that this will feel like an eternity)three months should do the trick but you will as loyalty to your friend obv have to tell her that your gonna ask him out like the day before so she is prepared and doesnt throw a fit.
good luk and from a girl who was in your situation but didnt dive in so to speak hope all goes well and that you live happy ever after or at least for a year or two anyway lol.
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It's best if you waited after they've broken up. That way the guy will see that you respect him by giving him some time at the same time, you'll get a chance to get closer to him. You know, this way a little flirting won't make you feel guilty since he's not your friend's boo anymore.
I think he likes you =). Go for it!
But give it some time - even if he seems he doesn't care about being dumped, he will still get a little hurt. Show him you care and that you're not rushing.
Best of luck sugar.
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Kay
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