My favourite quote is 'Do unto others as you would have them do unto you'.
Life really is a roller-coaster with it's ups and downs and varying speeds. Yet no matter how hard you try to stay on an even keel, something always comes along to kick you in the teeth and remind you just how fragile life is. We are all trying to live the best we know how and to get along together. So take time to appreciate those around you and tell them how much you love them occasionally. A smile and a kind word speaks volumes.
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1. How do you let a guy know you want to marry him without coming out straight foward.
2. How do you know if a guy is cheating on you
3. Why do men always smile when they have sex...
Sorry for all these random questions they just came to mind.
Bahaima22 (link)
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1. Start by talking about a future together and where he sees your relationship in 6 months/1 year/2 years from now. If he runs a mile he doesn't want to get married!!
2. Someone who is cheating generally trips over their own lies eventually. You will feel that there is something not quite adding up in what he says to you. I call it gut instinct. He will start telling lies and then elaborating on them and finally he will go full circle and catch himself out.
3. Men smile because they have got what they want (sorry lads)! If they genuinely love you they will be smiling because they are making you happy too.
Hope my answers help but other people will have their own opinions.
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So my boyfriend and i have been going out for a while.& He asked me for the first time when am i going to tell my parents about "us" and i said i dont know.He does'nt wanna ruin the good relationship he has with my parents and he does'nt wanna keep it from them.&& when my parents met him for the first time they loved him.But the first time my parents met him he wasnt my boyfriend he was just a friend.But my best friend told me that he liked me and i knew that so i went ahead and told my mom and she said oh well thats sweet.He's been coming to my house alot offteen since its summer and all and i think shes suspecious and i havent told her anything yet cause everytime hes at my house im afraid she'll be paranoid.So i havent told her or my dad.& if my dad finds out he'll go crazy on me and not want my boyfriend to come over.Soooo how do i tell my mom? (link)
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Your Mum has probably guessed that there is something between you already. However, if she has not I suggest you start by telling her how great you think he is and how much you appreciate his friendship. If you slowly drip-feed little snippets of how you feel about him, it will not come as too much of a surprise to her. I also suggest leaving the telling of your Dad to your Mum. Most Mums can handle Dads a lot better than you think. I hope that it all goes well for you both.
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This guy that I met about a year ago got my # and started texting me a lot, but I was already in a relatinship at the time. When my relationship ended, about two weeks later he asked me to hang out with him. Well, it ended up we started dating but only for a month and then he dumped me and gave me a stupid reason for it. We still talked after that, but only as friends.
Just recently, he asked if I was seeing anyone and I told him about the guy I just started dating a couple weeks ago. That's when he told me the "true" reason he dumped me before, in which it was not really his fault, but he was extremely apologetic. And then he asked if we could start over, but I told him I had moved on, and so he said that whatever happens will happen.
The problem is, now he texts/calls me pretty consistently throughout the day, as if I am all he thinks about. Is it possible that this guy could just be trying to get back with me because he wants sex? Because when we were dating, he would bring it up and I would tell him I wanted to wait. My first inclination was that he was only in it for sex, but now that I think about it, if he only wanted sex, then he wouldn't be spending all this time waiting on me because there's plenty of girls willing to hook up with a guy around here. Should I consider him? (link)
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He sounds a little obsessed and my personal opinion is that you should not consider going out with him. Give your new relationship a chance to work. If he continues to text/call you should ask him to back off and give you some space. I hope it all works out for you. All the best.
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First off, I do not see myself as fat. Nor do I think I am skinny. I consider myself absolutely average, with a little more fat then I'd like. Around normal people I feel great. But lately I have been exercising regularly at my gym that I have a membership to and eating less and healthier to shed those extra pounds, and since I started I've realized how many people in this world are the lucky ones..that can pig out soo much and never work out and just be so in shape. The more I think about it, the more it pisses me off. All of my friends but 1 are these "lucky" ones. I feel totally fine with myself (though still wanting to get skinnier for sure) until I get around those people and feel horrible! I want to lose weight for myself not for them, dont get me wrong but it honestly kills me to see those people! I was not born with stick genes and I will never be a stick. It's just NOT FAIR! I even use a calorie/exercise counter every single day. I admit I could eat a little healthier, but I should be allowed to eat a cookie or some chips or go out to eat once in awhile without worrying about it, like all those sticks! So beyond what I am doing now, I know there is not much more I can do to be tiny..but I guess I just need any advice you can give me. I am not even that big and I feel huge!!! I don't know what I am asking really, but any stories or opinions on how to deal or whatever is sooo appreciated! Sorry it's so long thanks =] And I am 16. (link)
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Life is very unfair and you only have to look around at those less fortunate than yourself. I won't tell you to be happy but just start thinking about how lucky you really are. The only person who should really matter to you is you and your self worth. It doesn't matter if you have that cookie or some chips if you balance it out. However, all the other people you mention may well be feeling the same way and doing even more drastic things in private to stay slim. That is not good.
I can't give you a magic formula to keep you skinny and eating everything you want to. I can say moderation is the key. Be happy with yourself. All the best.
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is the contraceptive pill the same as "The Pill"(Birth control) (link)
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Yes it is, although it may be known under different generic names they all do the same thing.
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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a month, and he's already trying to do sexual things with me. Yesterday, he fingered me. And today he tried going up my shirt. I didn't really care, except he like, stuck my hand down his pants. For some reason, it made me feel like hes using me or something. I really love him, and I hope he's not. But I need other opinions.
Is he using me just to do stuff to me or get stuff done to him? (link)
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If it feels wrong to you, then it is! He should never make you feel like you are being used for his own sexual satisfaction. If he had more respect for you he would make sure that you were happy for him to pleasure himself in front on you. Personally it is not something that I would like happening to me. All the best.
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me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex yesterday
it was my first time and my cherry didnt pop
and he didnt cum.
put after this all happened my vagina feels weird
and it always feels like i have to pee and its like not comfortable and its really annoying
i know this is signs of a uti
but if i get tested for it will the doctor know i have been having sex or that i could be possibly pregnant? (link)
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It sounds like you have an infection - possibly thrush or cystitis. There is also a very big chance that you could be pregnant but you won't know until your next period is due. It won't matter to the doctor whether you had sex or not, they will just be interested in helping you get the right treatment for whatever infection you may or may not have.
The best answer is to pop along to see your doctor and have yourself checked out and in future always use a condom for protection against disease and pregnancy. If you are pregnant, again the doctor will help you to make the right decision for yourself. Good luck.
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20\f
i would like to know if theres any risk in doing the girl on top of man position(riding) during sex???
i've heared that it could cause harm to the penis if the girl rides too wildly.. is it true???
also is it pleasurable o have sex in that position???
my bf wants to try it out thats y (link)
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There is nothing wrong at all in riding on top. In fact I would say it's better (my own personal opinion). You won't do any harm to his penis either.
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Im not sure if this is the right category for this question but hey whatever, ok yesterday was the first time i used a tampon i checked like 50 time to make sure I had it in right but all day it hurt like crud every time i moved i wanted to kill myself whats wrong with me ?? (link)
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It could be possible that you had a tampon in that was too big for your flow for that day or it was in at a slightly wrong angle. What I suggest you do next time it feels awkward is to remove it and insert a fresh one. Try experimenting with different sizes for different rates of flow - smaller tampons for light bleeding and then go up and down in size in relation to the bleeding.
However, if you find that it continues to be uncomfortable to use a tampon it may be worth having a check up at the gynaecologists office just to make sure everything is ok. Sometimes, though not very often, a woman just cannot get on with using tampons at all. We are all different. All the best.
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I've been having sore boobs for a while now. I can't seem to enjoy sex anymore because it hurts. I've been having sex like 3-5 times a day for over a year now. Out of nowhere.. It feels like he got bigger or goes in deeper.. when he doesn't go in deep! I always end up holding onto my stomach because it doesn't feel comfortable.
What could be wrong? (link)
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I think that the best thing to do in this instance is to seek the opinion of your doctor. They will be able to examine you and make sure there are no underlying causes for the pain and sore boobs. They will be able to put your mind at rest. All the best.
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Our gym class is biking to an ice cream place and we have a uniform. Where could I put my money? I don't want to bring a purse or something because that will distract me and i'll probably crash.
Many girls stick it in their bras but I'm VERY flat chested; if I sticked a penny I think people would notice.
Would it work if i stick it in my shoes? (link)
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1) Inside your socks.
2) Create a small pocket on a wrist band.
3) Sellotape it in a bag to your handle bars.
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okay if youre like fifteen and not sexually active would it be like normal to i dunno wanna practice for pleasure with like...i dunno a pillow or something haaha idk random i know
and if you use something like a 'toy' or whatever are you still a virgin (link)
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It is totally normal to want to pleasure yourself at that age. If you keep it private and don't use anything on yourself that will cause harm - go ahead and enjoy. It is teaching yourself how you like to be touched and where you like to be touched. The more you know how your body works and feels, the better it is when you finally have full sex.
In my own personal opinion I believe that someone is a virgin until they have consensual sex with another person. All the best.
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what are some words that had the LOO sound in it? (link)
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Waterloo
Vindaloo
Portaloo
Hullaballoo
Loopy Loo
Loose
Loom
Sounds like loo:
Flew
Blew
Clue
Flu
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13/f
this might be in the wrong category, but 4give me if it is.
so i had my first period like a month ago or something like that. and i know, your supposed to get a period every month. but itsz like 30-40 days now and i still didnt get it. well ive been feeling rather horny after mii first period and started to masturbate like everyday. but nothing else. is my period just irregular or could it be something else? any advice would be very much appreciated. thankx! (link)
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It can take a while for your periods to settle down into a routine. You may not bleed again for several months or you may even bleed twice in one month. There is nothing to be concerned about at this stage, but if your periods do not settle down within a couple of years it may be worth talking to a health professional. All the best.
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K i am not pregnant but my boyfriends cum wont stay in me.....i dont no what is wrong with me??.... (link)
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I found that the best thing to do immediately after having intercourse was to lie on my back on the bed with my feet straight up on the wall. I fell pregnant with my third child doing that.
However, please don't worry that your boyfriends sperm does not stay inside you because they are canny little things and it only takes one to get you pregnant and he will ejaculate thousands.
I can't answer your question about what is wrong with you because I am not medically trained. If you still don't have much luck conceiving after trying for a year, the best thing to do is go and have a chat with your doctor. They are the best people to put your mind at rest. Good luck with getting pregnant. All the best.
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i have been at my school for some time now and i have always put others before myself. my friend that has just moved here is really nice, but since she has been here alot of my friends have been spending more time with here than with me. i really dont mean to be jalous, but i cant help it. and it seems like all my friends are kid of becoming more distant to me. sometimes i feel that i have to be someone else in order to really talk to them. i am leaving soon but i dont want to tell anyone because i dont want them to start being all close to me bacause of that. what should i do? (link)
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In my opinion, if you are moving away soon then there is little point in beating yourself up about this. True friends will not favour someone else above you just because they are new. When you settle into your new school you may well meet your very best friend for life there and you could possibly see this situation from another point of view. You will be the new girl and all the others will be interested in who you are and what you are like. Please tell your friends you are moving so that when you do go you do not feel let down and disappointed with their lack of friendship towards the end. You have no need to be jealous of this new girl, she will be feeling what you will be feeling soon - lost and a little lonely until you make friends. I wish you all the very best in your new life. Take care.
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hi elcee, i am 16 almost 17 and i have ever had a boyfrind before. what is wrong with me. i mean i dont think i am ugly, the only guys that ask me out are the ones taht are not really my type. i am short and slim and have a very feminine body and i just dont seem to be really getting anyone interested. please give me tips! (link)
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This is a question that lots of girls ask themselves over and over again. There is nothing wrong with you but perhaps you may be being a little choosy when it comes to guys. Try giving someone that isn't 'your type' a chance to become one. Another possibility is a lack of self esteem. Guys like confident girls and perhaps your self confidence is not as good as it could be. Tell yourself everyday that you are a good, worthy person and really believe you are. Once you have got more self confidence the guys will see a really approachable, potential girlfriend. I wish you all the very best of luck. Take care.
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well everytime i see him just sitting there or we are talking i always just want to hold him or for him to hold me, or just to lie on his chest. i dont really have butterflies in my stomach when i see him. i dont know if i am really inlove with him or if i just miss having a boyfriend. i dont really want to go out with him because if it does not work our friendship might also be ruined or we will feel uncomfortable around eachother. what should i do and what is this that i feel? (link)
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How does your best friend see you? Do you think he feels more like a brother than a potential partner? It is possible for friends to take their relationship further and for it to work. Why not suggest going out for dinner one night (dutch) and start talking about your feelings. Tell him how important he is to you and how you enjoy him being in your life - then listen to how he responds to you. If you think that he feels more about you then take another little step in that direction. As long as you don't go barging in declaring your undying love, there is a possibility that you could make it work, but as you pointed out that if it doesn't work you could end up losing this friendship.
Again, there is the possibility that you feel lost without a boyfriend and are just looking for a stop-gap. Don't go there if that is the case - go out and look for someone more suitable.
Whatever way this goes I wish you all the best but my watchword is slow. Take care.
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I have test anxiety and was wondering if I could use Valium (prescription med) to calm my nerves?
Does it make you drowsy, or will it still allow you to stay focused?...meaning, can it calm you down just enough, or is it a bit much?
Also, is valium habit forming? Thanks, I am just trying to see what I can do about calming my nerves, it's really getting in the way of my concentration and ability to perform well on exams. (link)
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I would seriously recommend Bach's rescue remedy before trying valium. My daughter uses it before her finals and she also used it before taking her driving test (she passed). You can buy it at the chemists or health food shops.
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My name is BLANK and I need help. I am about to be convicted of a Federal Crime involving bank fraud from 1999. I lost my girlfriend, two children that I love, my job, and have no money.
I am an idiot and still have not learned from all of lifes mistakes.
I am in such pain and want to commit suicide. Please help me. I am in such pain. Just provide me with a way to commit the detergent suicide and end my life painlessly.
PLEASE HELP! (link)
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You won't find anyone on this site that will assist you to commit suicide. Do you really want your children growing up and living with the pain of a father that decided to end it all? You can get help if you go to your doctors - he/she can point you in the right direction to help you deal with everything that life is throwing at you right now. Yes I know that it looks like there is no where else to run but there are always choices. Please start right now by seeing your doctor and asking for their help. They will have heard this all before and will know what to do. The first step is always the hardest I know but once you have taken it, keep on walking. You can do it for yourself and your children - they are the best reason in the world to keep on living. I wish you all the very best and I know that other people will add their positive comments too. Good luck.
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