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My name's Kendal and i'm 17. I've been through quite alot of stuff, from heart breaks, to messed up parents with drug addictions & not being together, to fights with just about anyone about anything. I'm the youngest of 7 children, 4 brothers & now two sisters. In school I use to be the kind of girl who thought they were better then everyone else, and was the popular bitch who played varsity basketball & softball as a freshman. Alot has changed. After my older sister died things sort of started coming into perspective. And i just wanna help ppl out now. If you need anything about anything. I'm here to talk, help, listen, whatever. I dont judge, and i usually can understand where the ppl are coming from. My lifes had alot of ups and downs and i really just wanna help out. I wish i would of known about this site a few years ago! Currently i have a boyfriend, Chad. And i usually hang out w/ him and my friends after school and on the weekends. I'm super social, and i think easy to talk to. So ask me anything! Btw the user name's from the song, from the tv show; 8th and ocean. If anyone was wondering. ha. MUCH LOVE!
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My friends' mother is an alcoholic. She is constantly drunk, belligerent, and aggressive, yells and passes out in front of guests. Her children cant stand living in the house anymore, but despite numerous calls to child services and the police, they have been told that there is nothing that can be done unless the mother seriously injures one of them. I fear for my friends, the stability of the family, and their mental well-being. All of the family members are kind and caring people but at home, they are constantly at each-other's throats and on the verge of a possibly much more serious problem. Is there any way to force this mother into a rehabilitation program? I really appreciate any insight you can provide, my friends are at the breaking point and feel there are no options left.
Oh wow. Lemme tell you, my mother was an alcholic for as long as i can remember. And i have a pretty good idea of what your friend is going through. Make sure to keep in communication w/ her always, you never know what could be going on at that house. Constantly have her and her siblings over, and maybe have another adult talk to the mother. The mother obviously needs help from someone more then her kids. As for her kids depending on how they feel, they should make the final decision. Try telling them to talk to her when shes sober, and have them say they think it would be a good idea if she went to a rehab place. We tryed talking my mother into it and it took a while but she finally ended up going to one.. but other things happened from there. Make sure they research the rehab place and understand where shes going to be. They should def. call another family member to stay with and have talk to their mother, possibly someone close to the mother, their grandma, aunt, uncle or anyone like that. BUT make sure you know that their are options left. And that everything will eventually work out, their mother just need help now. They just need their mom to want to go to rehab and then it will be easy to send her there. Keep me updated, and hopefully everything works out. ♥ Much love
How much do you eat in a day and what? Do you really get lots of fruits and veggies in? Also, what vitamins do you take?
In a day, you should have 3 meals.. make sure of all 3 of them. You're really suppose to eat a ton of small little meals, so you can realize when your full.. but us Americans dont do that very well. Anyways. For breakfast, have something healthy to start out the day. And not the same thing everday, anything repeatdly makes you can weight, and makes you unhealthy. Your diet needs to be balanced. For lunch something non-greasy is perferable, and something small. Make sure you eat slower so your body can tell you when your full, but knowing that you probably have some type of lunch break that could be hard. So you might just wanna try eatting something small, and then having something small again later. For dinner, its your least important meal, even if it might seem the other way. Something to fill you up, but again eat slow and in small portions. But make sure to fill yourself up w/ the healthy stuff so your not craving a bedtime snack of ice cream or something. Balancing your food is the best thing i can tell you, thats what my aunt always told me when i wanted to lose weight! [shes a dietition] You should get fruits and vegetables in everyday. And vitamins, i personally dont take any BUT its not a bad idea. I would ask your doctor, depending on what is good for you. Everyones bodies are different. Well hopefully that helped a little bit! :]
hey, i just put on jergens natural glow for the first time yesterday. i had the right skin color bottle and stuff. but then today i woke up and my stomach back and shoulders were tan! (they looked awesome) but then my legs and arms were completly white with some random spots of orangeish tanish. i have this big party to go to on friday. i dont want to look weird. should i re-apply and hope it blends or should i keep showering like twice a day and hope it comes off? cait ♥ = ].
Ah! My sister uses that stuff. And the same thing happened to her except in different areas. What she did was shower normally, and then just apply more to the areas that didnt turn tan. Once they catch up to each other, then start doing it evenly again. It was probably that you didnt even get enough spread on your legs in the first place, or some how it came off. BUT, since its your legs i wouldnt shave them not until the party. I know that sounds sick, but that could be part of the problem in why it came off there. When you shave it takes little parts of your skin as well, you just dont notice it. But yeah. Hopefully that works! :] Good luck.
ok hey. so, i'm in highschool (i'm a sophomore.). i'm a female (pretty obvious?) and i need advice. duh. i haven't dated/liked ANYONE since llllaaaasssssttttt year. i really want to find someone that i can like and will like me. all my friends have boyfriends, and they are neglecting our friendship to hang out with their stupid boys. this isn't just about them, though. i really want someone who i can be with romantically. do you have any advice to help me when i don't have a boy, or to help me get one?
Ah, sophmore year. So fun. My advice to you is, have one of your friends that has a boyfriend throw a little get together, her boyfriend, some of his friends. Def more then one tho so it isnt awkward and doesnt look like their trying to set you up. And then maybe another couple or something. This way it wouldnt be awkward and you could def. meet some ppl. That or if you find a guy you sort of like, go to things that he would be at to, and always just hang out w/ him a little bit more then anyone else. But not to much, clingyness is unattractive. But even if you dont get a boyfriend, its not the end of the world. Boyfriends come when you least expect it. Make it look like you dont want or need a boyfriend, what boys cant have they want. So play it off like that. i promise eventually someone will come, and they'll want you ;)
♥ MUCHO LOVE
Im in seventh grade and my best friends mom wants her to go to a catholic school. And if she goes there I do not have any friends at my school because im really shy. Ive never had that many friends, so if my friend wants to go to that school then I want to go to a different school too. I feel bad cuase im really jealous but its hard because I dont see my best friend after school very much. So I dont know what to do. I dont think my parents could afford private school. I would really like to try and make new friends though...
Then do what you want to. I mean you could probably still stay in touch w/ your best friend, if you really are best friends. First start hanging out outside of school now, that way it wont be awkward next year, continue to do it over the summer too. And, this year start trying to make new friends at your school, even include your friend thats leaving. You could make a group of friends, and then after your friend leaves you'll have a few other girls to lean on. A good idea to make friends is either have a small get together, doesnt even have to be a sleep over, or just start talking to them in school. If your not already in a club/sport it wouldnt be a bad idea to join, then its easier to find people that have the same intrests as you. You and your friend could do it this year, so you wouldnt have to be alone, and then next year continue it with the new friends you made. BUT ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS keep in touch w/ your best friend. Especially if shes been there for you, and is your closest friend. Or depending on the school, try and join. You could def. get a scholarship if you wanted too. i went to a private school in middle school and they were always offering them! well good luck.
MUCH LOVE!
do guys really like blond better than brown hair?? cause in movies there like always blond girls with good looking guys and everything! so i just wanna know what collor do guys like better?
Like everyone else said, it def depends on the guy. BUT i also dont think its 100% true even then. I'm a brunette and the majority of my friends are too, we've never had a problem getting a guy over a blonde girl. It all depends on their personality, & probably other features.. depending on the guy. Guys are confusing tho, so everything could be different. Sorry if thats not very helpful! Much lovee
I feel like lately i've lost a lot of friends for the main point that I don't really care for the things they do... I've always felt older than I actualy am and I can't really get along with most people my age... But I have trouble making friends with older people because they don't take me seriously or give me a chance because I look like i'm a 15 year old "hooligan" i suppose ((i'm 18))... Actualy, I have trouble making friends in general. Anyway, It seems like most of my "friends" have abandoned me and that has kinda made me feel a bit down lately, but the few times i've hung out with them, I just don't feel like I belong anymore. I feel left out. Everytime I feel like I actualy belong somewhere or I feel like I fit in with a group of people, it always turns out that I don't... And it's not like I start a fight or anything of that sort... I just never feel like I belong.
Personaly, and not to sound cockey, but I like my personality and the way I am and i'm not the type to change just so I can fit in with a bunch of kids... But a part of my personality is that I like people and I just get down easily when I'm alone.
There's no direct question, Just want some opinions on any of this or advice.
Thanks.
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Alright. My brother use to tell me a similar thing about his friends, he always felt like the dad in the group because everyone else was immature. And he use to try and do the things they would do w/ them, but it was never fun for him, because his personality was totally different. But anyways, heres what he did. He started hanging out w/ people on his sports teams, not i dont know if you play sports but they have so many different ages and groups that if you like something similar a frienship can began there. But also your 18, which makes it hard to just pick something up, or anything like that. Plus if your a senior in highschool you might be the most mature one there. I would just try and find ppl a year older then you, and if they dont take you serious, move on to a different group of ppl older then you, someone eventually will. Two of my best friends are in the grade above me and i think it makes it almost a stronger relationship, you dont see them as much, but when you do boy do you got alot to talk about.
*thats just my opinion* to really try and make friends w/ the peopel older then you. And if that doesnt work think about just spending some time alone, sometimes just spending a weekend by yourself can be fun. Possibly find guys to hang out with, yeah they can be even more immature but you'll expect it and you wont be doing the same things that you do w/ the girls. Lastly, look for some family. If you have any cousins close in your age that live close i think they are always fun to hang out w/, they basically like you because they've known you for so long, and they might be feeling the same way.. if its in your blood. ha sorry if that wasnt to helpful. I tryed. MUCHO GRANDE LOVE.
Ok so i was wondering is it better to eat/drink dairy products when you're on a diet or not?
Also, im somewhat large chested, and i was wondering what can i do to keep from hurting when i run. I wear a sports bra sometimes but that doesn't help. Ive also tried it with a regular bra. But that doesnt help either..so does anyone know of anything i can do? its alwasy miserable the day after i run.
thanks, 5s to all who answer seriously
You def. wanna drink or eat some diary products when your on a diet, just not alot. Notice its towards the top of the food pyramid, meaning less portions of it. But to have a balanced diet of course have some, its good for your bones!
And as for your chest hurting while you run, theres a few things you can do. My friend Ciara has the same problem, she where's her normal bra, and wheres a sports bra over it, sometimes even a cami over that, and then a tank top, t-shirt or whatever you where while you run. The more support the less it will hurt will you run. Either that, or take the money to buy an expensive bra. Well I hope that helps! Much love
okay so i was with this guy for like a year and i loved him alot and then after school started the folling year he changed and kept telling me that i was changing and then in november we broke up and i have since moved on with my life i haven't rly had another boyfriend and i wanted to stay friends with him but we have this thing between us everyone who knows what i was to him and what he was to me knows we should be toghether but he just makes everything hard for me. he will email me and say rly weird things to me and i dont know how to deal with it. i keep talking about him but i dont know why. i have the sudden urge to call him because we talked all the time when we were together and i feel like its not fair please help me
Thanks Alot
not so amazing guy
You should call him. if you have those urges to do it, your bodies really telling you that you like him still. and even if you dont you can realize that once you talk to him.
I understand exactly where your coming from when he says he thinks you have changed. It hurts. Because you probably think your the exact same person you were, but the truth is you probably have changed and he only notices it because he was so close to you before, or even if you didnt change he feels you have because you guys arent together anymore. Thats def. a change and probably changed how you were, even if it was only a little changed. But the weird emails he sends you your just gunna have to tell him you think their weird. Be completely honest about how you feel. And if your talking about him constantly, that means your thinking about him constantly and that means you still have feelings for him even if their only friendly feelings. You guys probably could be friends if you took the time and both worked at the relationship. But yeah i would def. call him, talk to him, and maybe even ask him to hang out. As friends.
can you catch radiowaves from cell phones if your phone is on but not in use? i keep it in my bed while sleeping.
thanks!!
There is no proof that your cell phone can cause health issues. And from my point of view I dont think it can, i've been sleeping next to my phone for the past like 5 years and alot of my friends do it too, it doesnt seem to do any harm and i think you'll be find if you do. However i would ask your doctor or someone next time you seem him just to be safe. Sorry if that wasnt very helpful.
Much Love
Tonight is familynight and I've known about it for about 3 days. I also got invited to go somewhere else with some of my friends. But the thing is that the place that I might go with my friends A LOT of people are going to. So it will give me a chance to mix and mingle with a lot of people and have fun. The place with my friends seem so much more fun that family night. But I don't know if I should just ditch my family for my friends? Can anyone help? What would you do? What is the right thing to do?
Well you obviously don't wanna hurt your parents, and you really wanna hang our w/ your friends. Very understandable, i would def just do both. Hang out w/ your family, and then afterwards go to the party. But if the family thing was later do it opposite. If you cant do that, i would just hang out w/ your family for the night. Friends have these things all the time, next time you could even host it. but a family night for me would seem like a rare thing.. and your family is def more important. Hope it works out!