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Hi! My name is Kayla.. I'm 21. Through out life, I've had quite a bit of rocky roads and difficult dilemmas. They sucked at the time, but now I've become a call for help.I do it because I enjoy it.
If you send question in my inbox, you'll be answered FIRST.
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so there is this guy, and i told him how i felt about him even though he had a girlfriend and he said i wanna tell you how i feel about you and he did he said he wished we could have gotten to know each other more...
well we would just talk on emails over myspace and thats it until just recently two days ago from today he asked do you wanna hang out with me.....well we never did cuz of the timeing bbut the next day we talked more, ust over emails and he told me that him and his girlfriend just broke up!!!!! but the thing is we never talk about him and her and whats more he told i didnt even bring her up!!!!!
well anyways i asked why they broke up and he said it was because
.....she thought he was cheating on her with ....ME!!!!!!!!
and thats not true!!!!! so i wrote back saying im sorry i should have just left you alone i feel really bad now.....heres the part youve been waiting for......his girlfriend requests me as a friend on myspace and she says.........listen yurr not the reason we broke up things were just going down hill for us so its not yurr fault!!!!!
WTF!!!!!!!!!!! why in the world would he tell me that i was the reason!!!!!!???????
does anyone know why!!!
cuz im pretty sure he likes me or at least has feelings for me so why would he tell me they broke up cause of me??????
help me please!!
When two people coming out of a relationship have mixed feelings-- different sides of the story and reasons why the end has to come, are always going to be two-sided. Chances are, you're never going to get the truth out of this situation. You may never know whether or not he told you the truth.
You know that you did nothing wrong but simply respond to emails. There was no cheating-- and if she really thought he was cheating on her with you, then why would she be so nice as to tell you that it wasn't your fault at all?
Be rational.. because teenage boys do whatever they can to trigger a girl's confusion.
13/f
i have an old friend that i had for about 3 years in middle school and we were very close. almost like sisters. wel we had a few fights like most friendships and that was fine and wed stop talking every once in a while. she would get mad at me for talking to ANY other girl and thats what bothered me the most. i dont know if i should let it bother me so much that we r not friends anymore. but i am a little scared on her reputation now. shes been smokng and shes only in 7th grade and shes becoming a WAY different person
now that i have new friends though it doesnt btoher me that much. but it wouold be nice if i could talk to her and just be cool
any advice?
thank u=]
Your concern for your friend, even if she isn't right now-- is admirable. That's why this situation is going to be a bit harder to bear. Losing a friend is hard enough as it is, but actually showing genuine care for them, is even harder after the friendship is done.
My advice-- is to talk to her. Tell her that you miss your friendship and that you think about how much fun you used to have. Leave out the part about her changing into a different person that you're not happy with with. Because no matter how nicely you say it--it can come off insulting, and almost like you're attacking her. Save that for another day, and just work on the friendship, and not the person. Chances are, even though you don't like who she is now, changing for you won't be what she wants to do.
Just be real. Honest- and friendly. It'll work itself out.
Okay, I'm 17 and a virgin but I've been externally masturbating (rubbing my clit) for a few years.
Ocasionally I'd try penetration with my fingers or something else but I never really got much from it. Lately I've been trying the penetration thing more but I'm not getting ANY pleasure from it.
I can go fast or slow, rub my clit while I'm penetrating..I just get no pleasure what so ever from it.
My question is, is it normal to not feel pleasure from masturbation penetration but still feel pleasure from actual intercourse?
I'm worried that when I start having sex I'm not going to get pleasure from intercourse.
I've done some research on your question, and it turns out that all you need is patience. A women's body needs time to mature, and some really don't feel anything from penetration until there's late teens/early 20's.
Don't be embarrassed to bring this stuff up to a doctor, if you're really concerned. They'll know more then we do on here--- and they hear this stuff everyday.
Good luck.
So, i just started a new church and i REALLY like it and seem to fit in. Well, there's this boy whos name is Blaine, and i like him alot, and we have been like side by side since we met pretty much but theres a problem. One girl, named Heather, who is REALLY honest said that he flirts with all the new girls and then once he sees something else that he likes he moves on, then a girl named Sierra said thats not true that hes just a flirty person, then this girl names Camille said that hes fun to flirt with but hes not boy friend material. I find all of them hard to believe because hes SOOOO nice and like hes so sweet and just seems like no intntion on being mean or anything, oh and hes like 4 years older then me, but my parents are okay if we go out, becuase he is friends with them and with my brother, i NEEEEEED HELP.Oh and im a girl
Sounds like there's definitely some girl-on-girl crime going on here. What most people don't understand about female gossip, is that it's the dirtiest and most terrorizing kind there is. Girls will say whatever they need to to keep things for themselves. They fight hard, and compete until they feel satisfied.
They best thing to do? Don't be like them. Don't fight hard and look like just a competitor. Be the girl who comes off as a challenge. You don't want to be another trophy placed on his shelf if the rumors are valid. Trust me.. if he's a flirt, he'll notice you RIGHT away with this technique. Don't ignore him-- just don't be the one to walk up to him or start conversation. Also, don't disregard what other people are saying completely.. just because there's a few girls who are in total agreement with his flirtatious ways.
Basically, if you used this advice, you'd be finding out the truth in a different way, ands you'd be getting to know him on your terms. Decide for yourself, and good luck!
14/female; btw, i turn 15 in like three months!
(sorry this might be long :x)
okay, so theres this guy, lets call him g.
g is 17 and he turns 18 in like two months.
well i've know him for about 3 years.
and me and him are like reallly good friends.
i can tell him just about anything, and he can tell me anything as well. i think hes really cute, and he thinks im "gorgeous", haha.
were like best friends i guess you can call it, but we have hooked up many times, never actual sex thou he has tried. lol.
well heres the thing, i really want a boyfriend right, and i know he would be a really good one to me, BUT my parents hates him! ):
they say hes a bad kid, and that hes not gonna get anywhere in life that all he does is get introuble and do drugs... not cool yo.
and yeah w.e he does smoke bud, and he droped out but thats his choice. but other then that he is a good kid...
sooo, how can i make him see that i wanna a relationship, and how do i get my parents to understand that he isnt all that bad and that he does care about me?!!!
help; and thanks loveees!
Hey there!
Your best bet is to just be honest with him. Once you cover the status on whether or not you both was to pursue more then a friendship-- you can then go over the parental stuff.
Once they see that he's important to you, I'm hoping that they'll just want you happy. But really, no parent wants their child with someone who does things they don't normally approve of. It's going to be hard to take this step, seeing as there is so much working against you-- but if it's meant to be, then you'll figure it out.. together.
I hope it all works out.
well im 17, my boyfriend massaged his penis on my organ, but we both were wearing underwears , is it possible for me to be pregnant ?
and if its possible ,,how much time does it take to be pregnant ? help please im in a religious country that i cant ask anyone and i need help.thank you
There is no way possible that you are pregnant. Unless a penis is inside of the vagina, where both liquids can meet and develop, you're fine.
Relax.. by freaking out, you can actually cause your period to come later, and create pregnancy symptoms in your head.
You're not pregnant. =)
I AM A 15 YEAR OLD MALE
at my school i am known for having a big dick and my girl freind is really short and small. well ive fingered her and shes given me head and i think we both no that im not going to b able to fit but we both wont to have sex wat should i do
There's a few options that may help you out. First of all, I'm a virgin. But, my boyfriend and I have definitely done things together. He's big, and it freaks me out. It's scary for a girl. You have to be easy, and understand that it's going to hurt her. Fingering her is the best way to loosen her up a bit. There's also products you can buy over the counter to help make it easier, such as lubricated condoms.
Be safe, and remember to go easy on her and patient.
so i had this best friend
i was with her all the time
we were really close
but she started being a really bad friend
and this huge thing happened
and we completly stopped being friends
she never even apologized or anything or even try to be my friend again
not that we could be friends even if we wanted to
actually if we realllyy did im sure we could
but the other day she came whne i was hanging out with my other friend
if wouldnt normally be okay but nothing bad happened
we still arent friends
but everyone says she misses me
today i found something we made
and just started crying
i really wanna be her friend again
but i don't even know how to go about it
or if i can even trust her
Talk to her. If the two of you are both hurting-- either you need to make a friendship work, or gather closure from the friendship being over. Be the bigger person, make the call, knock on her door. Do it alone, and do it nicely and stay honest. Tell her that it's going to be hard to trust her, and explain why.
Good luck.
I met this guy a few days ago. Basically, I already know he's a player, and I KNOW I'm being played, but I can't stop myself from being attracted to him. I KNOW he's said the same things to other girls because he dated my best friend. He is so OBVIOUSLY a player, but I can't help it! I know he's just trying to get with me. He even knows I have a boyfriend and doesn't care. He keeps saying it isn't cheating if we're not married because he read that somewhere. Help! How do I stop this sudden attraction before it gets worse? Why do I like him so much?
Ask yourself if you'd prefer to be with someone who has been treating you with respect, or if you'd like to continue chasing someone who's probably only in it for your goods.
The fact that you can openly admit that he's a player, and that you know he's no good is an achievement. Some girls become naive, and consider the fact that they may be treated differently. They won't.
This guy is doing this for one reason-- because he can. You're letting him, and you can't allow it to go too far. The fact that you're a challenge because you're unavailable is a turn on... and players will compete. The un-attainable are their favorite.
Keep this is mind-- and I hope it works out.
I met her (I will call her Xy) via an old girlfriend, they were best friends and very close. After my ex and I broke up, I maintained a relationship with my friend Xy and we became very close over the past 8 years. I trusted her with everything and she with me. About 3 years back, something happened between her and I, and we were intimate. Even though she no longer spoke with my ex, she still felt a sort of loyalty to her and asked to leave things were they were. We moved on, she eventually got married and we still maintained our friendship. Her marriage did not last, and we some how ended up together again, and things are wonderful in every way. That was until my ex came back from Europe heartbroken and crying and began to call Xy again. Xy decided that she again could not be with me and felt a loyalty to her friend, and asked to stop and return to just being friends between her and I. I was hurt, not just romantically speaking, but as a friend. I feel she chose her loyalty to be with my ex, her old friend who has been MIA for the past 3 years, and pushed me to the side. I walked away from her for good and decided that everything between her and I is over. Am I wrong to be hurt? I really do love her, but I think I was the only one in the relationship and that I may have been just a stepping stone for her to move forward with certain things she was dealing with.
Hey there!
The fact that there's even a possibility that she may have been using you for anything at all, is a red flag. Imagine how things would have been if you two had gotten together, and she used you to accomplish things that made herself happy, but never you.
You are not wrong for being hurt, especially when it comes to a broken heart that's been through 8 years of confusion.
Honestly, any girl that makes you feel inferior, or like your just some kind of option-- is not good enough. Never settle for that. I hope you find what it is you're looking for.
hey i was searching columnists and i found yours and decided to ask you...sry this is a little long...i just really need help...
a little more than a week ago i was messing around with my boyfriend and doing a little dry humping and he took his penis out and kinda thrusted it in and out for a few seconds but not all the way in...just sorta a tease cause we were both virgins and just really horny and wanted to see how it would feel
i cant fully remember but im pretty sure i gave him a blow job a little before this all happened and he came in my mouth and i swallowed it and then he put his penis away and we just started making out and messing around again then that happened and im scared that i could be pregnant
he swears that he checked and there was nothing on his penis like precum or anything but im just really paranoid and scared
n then a couple days after that we had sex but i had given him a blow job a little before that and same thing...he came in my mouth and i swallowed and then we started making out and stuff again and got horny and decided to have sex and he put a condom on and all and we had sex for a bit but he didnt go in very far becuase it was my first time and it hurt a bit (though my cherry didnt pop and i dont know why...? he was in far but not ALL the way) then he pulled out and came in the condom
and about twice in the pool we were grinding each other but he was just in boxers (boxer breifs) and like nike basketball shorts and i was in a bathing suit and we were grinding against each other and he moved his penis upwards in his shorts so that it was poking at my vagina and was grinding and took his penis out and put it against my vagina and was grinding it on mine (i was in my bathing suit still) so im scared...really really scared
and its making me think things over even more like what if ive given him blowjobs and gotten cum on my hands then started rubbing my vagina or he got it on his fingers then a lil while later fingered me
im so paranoid and nervous now
im 16 and hes 17 and i last got my period on memorial day weekend...about may 24th im almost positive so if your periods supposed to come every 28 days i should be getting it this friday and now im getting all paranoid cause i feel like other times ive gotten my period i start getting slight cramp waves around now like the few days before i get my period and now im not
please help!
You have no idea how much I used to BE you. My boyfriend and I wouldn't have sex, but I'd do him a favor, he'd cum, and I'd be sitting there freaking out about whether or not the sperm could have possibly made it's way to my vagina. You're question was very long, but I read it all, and my answer is going to be just as long.
The first experience you mentioned, when you were just doing a little grind, and he slipped it, is the other scenario you have to worry about. Even though it's the only one you SHOULD worry about, it's still not very probable that you're pregnant.
I'm glad that you used a condom the second time with him. They're about 89% effective against pregnancy.
As for the pool? No. After I kept freaking out thinking that my boyfriend's came touched my hand, then I peed, got it on my vagina when I wiped blah blah blah-- I finally just sat down and researched it.
In order for a girl to get pregnant, a penis needs to be inside the vagina. Once sperm hits the air, it dies. Therefore, unless his penis was inside your vagina at the moment he was penetrating you, your pregnancy chances are from slim to absolutely nothing.
Also, as long as someone is wearing underwear, in your case a bathing suit, then there's no possible way it could happen, either.
When I was going through this faze, my boyfriend told me that people have sex all the time.. without condoms. Only 50% of them get pregnant. So if their chances are only half when they have actual sex, then getting pregnant without having sex is completely impossible.
Like I said, because if the time you actually did have sex, there may still be a chance from that. But really, relax.
Your period feeds off of different things. Food, exercise, sleep, and stress. Stress can actually slow down the arrival of your period. When I though I was pregnant, my period was a week late. And what sucked the most? I was inventing the pregnancy symptoms in my head. So I was actually making myself nauseous, hungry and tired.
So relaxxxxx. There's nothing you can do about it now. But now that you and your boyfriend may be getting more into sex, try birth control. That's 99% effective and way easier to manage with.
Take care!
hey so for the past few days i have had a temp of only like 99.5, and ive had an extremely soar throat and very swollen neck glands. Also my ears feel pressure. i am either very tired, or not at all. what do you think this is? and should i go to the doctor
Hey there!
Anytime a fever last past 3 days, seeing a doctor should be more of an obligation.
It could be strep, or even mono.
Check out this website, it's wonderful, and it's been very helpful to myself and other people I know as well.
www.webmd.com
Click "Symptom checker".. and take the steps from there.
I hope you feel better. Take care.
15/f. this will probably be long.
there's this kid eddy at my school, he's 1 year older than me. i always thought he was like the hottest thing ever. last friday i went to this lake with my friends to chill and he was there because he's close friends with my sister's boyfriend(they were there too). we were talking a lot and we had to go through the woods for like 10 minutes to get back to the car so he held my hand the whole time, it was really cute. then he was flirting with me in the car. later when we got home, my sisters boyfriend called her and was like "i think eddy's interested in your sister. we should hook that up" then later apparently he was saying how he wanted to hang out. i was suprised because i always saw him as unattainable
then on tuesday i went to the beach with him and a few other people. we talked and sat next to eachother and the car and whatever, but we didn't really talk that much, probably because it was more awkward knowing that we liked eachother. while we were there he told his friend he liked me but he just got out of a 1 1/2 year relationship so he just wanted to see what happens, which is how i feel. its summmer, i just want to have fun. but that was the last time i saw him and i'm leaving tonight to go away for a week, and i'm afraid that he'll lose interest. there's a slight chance we're hanging out tonight, but probably not. how can i make it more known that i like him without it being too obvious, and make sure he likes me for sure?
thannnks
It sounds to me like you already know the answer. YES, he likes you. And if he likes you enough where it's worth trying to build something, then it will take much longer then a week for him to forget about you.
Now, I'm a forward chick. I like to control sitiatuons and be aggresive when the guy doesn't know how to. If I were in your shoes, I would joke about him maybe losing interest. Look deep into his reaction though.. it will tell you everything. You have to consider the fact that he's probably freaking out about you losing interest, too.
I'd take the situation by the horns, tell him you like him if his reaction shows you that he has interest. Make it known that you like him.. because if you don't, it will turn out awkward. If you see him tonight, crack the joke, watch his eye, and see where the night leads you.
If you don't see him, text him from vay-cay.. tell him it's beautiful and he would love it.
You'll be fine. Good luck, and have fun on your vacation.
okay so i really want to be fingered im old enough and i have a boy friend but i have some questions ive been felt up givin him a handjob and of couse made out
do i need to shave right my vagina before so its smooth?
do i take my pants off or do they just go down?
and what do i do like while hes fingering me??
please answer me quick!!
There's no right or wrong way to do any of the stuff you mentioned. But first of all, relax. He's probably just as nervous as you are.
First of all, different guys have different preferences on the "shaved" deal. Some guys like it smooth, and others feel like they're touching a child if it's bald. Therefore, there's no right or wrong way to go. I'd shave it, and see how he reacts. If he's grossed out, then go ahead and get natural with it. =) If you've been dating this guy long enough to be fingered, you could probably just ask him straight up.
As far as the pants?.. That should come naturally. But, it may be easier for him to access if the jeans are down.
While he's fingering you... relax. Just chill out, tell him what you like, moan if you really like it. Chill out, play with the things closest to you. His hair, his neck. Kiss him everywhere. It'll make things more exciting.
Good luck!
okay, we're best friends, lets call her Anna, and i love( like family) her to bits but she drives me crazy!!!! she'll ask me some advice and i'll tell her but, as soon as i say something she doesn't want to hear, she'll go mad at me! and lately, she's made a mistake with two of these guys, and she asked me my opinions on them, and i told her, my answer wasn't harsh at all, but she came out with the sort of answer like 'yeah, well you've never had a boyfriend so what the hell do you know?' my question is, should i tell her these things piss me off or should i just keep quiet and ignore them?
Ahh.. I've had a friend just like this. She'd ask me for advice on college, boys, and family.. I'd answer her, and she'd get pissed at my answers. And if that wasn't cruel and unappreciative enough, she went ahead and insulted me the same when your friend is insulting you.
I finally got through to her when I stopped giving her advice. I told her to do whatever she wanted to do, make her own mistakes. She did. Then one day she finally asked why I haven't been giving her advice. And it was simple, because she didn't like the advice I gave to her.
Maybe your suggestions to her are too much for her to handle. You could be too honest to the point where it bothers her. That isn't your fault. If she wants your opinion, she's going to have to learn to accept it the way it is, or don't accept it at all. That includes making you feel insecure about any personal issues you have.
That's not a fair friendship. Ignore her calls for help, show her what she's going to miss out on if she continues to take advantage of you.
Take care.
your clit?
i know its near your vagina but where exactly?
The tippity top.
http://www.riversideonline.com/source/images/image_popup/ans7_vulva.jpg
There ya go!
Just recently my dog had some type of surgery on her ear, and now there is a tube sticking out of it.
But you see, my parents just recently went on vacation (smart of them to leave my brother and I to do this. -_-) and every morning and night my brother and I have to clean around the tube.
It literally takes an hour just to do it. Macy (my dog) will NOT cooperate at all. We've laid her down, where I would pet her and my brother would try and get to her ear and clean it, but she just freaks out.
She growls, she kicks, she jumps up and runs away.
I was wondering if anyone has any ideas on how to calm her down?
Because for two weeks while my parents are gone my brother and I will have to do this, and I don't think we'll be able to if she keeps acting like that.
So, any ideas?
Thanks. :)
Hey there!
We had a dog problem just like this, actually. We called the local vet office that my dog went to, and they suggested many great methods to use.
For example, offer your dog treats if you doesn't move in one sitting. Give her something to work for, and he keep her interested.
Also, do it when she's very sleepy. After a long day of running around doing dog things.. right after dinner, but before bed go ahead and try it.
The idea is to get her used to it. Once she's used to it, she won't be so bothered by it. In her head, she feels these two people cleaning out the most sensitive part of her body. Once she starts to realize that you're not trying to hurt it, and she'll get a treat for staying calm and not growling, then she hopefully will relax.
If this doesn't work, then call your vet. They may have great tips for your dog.
Is there a certain way to shave down there?
Other than like you shave down and not up....
The easiest way is to shave against the direction of the hair growth.
On the right, angle it to the right, and shave from the bottom to the top. The middle, is straight back, and the left is the same as the right, own from the bottom left to the top.
There's no right way, but this is what I know to be the easiest, and the most effective. If it doesn't work out, just experiment with yourself, and see what may work best for you.
Take care.
ok got this gril i like and were really close friends and its a real turn off to me that she smokes cause it is decusting and waste of money and harmful.... even if nothing happens with us what can i say to get her to quit...i have asked her before and she has for a while then started back up what should i do and what can isay to let her no its not worth it!!
Suggesting to a smoker that you want them to quit can sometimes irritate them. So if you really want her to quit, ask he if she even wants to. If she does, then you can suggest ways to help her get through it.
It's already a plus that it turns you off, because if the two of you end up together, I doubt she'll want to do things that gross you out.
If nothing happens between the two of you, and she doesn't want to quit, there's nothing you can do. Be careful, because if you push her, it could make her resent you because smoker's tend to feel controlled by by people who only want to help them.
I hope she, and you make the right decision.
Good luck.
13/f
k well I don't have big breasts. I guess I'm an AA, but anyways. I had these bumps where my aerola or however you spell it is . Well , more like one bump, and it had like a black dot in it. I had it for about 4 months. But the black dot appeared about a month ago. Today, I accidiently popped it and these very light creme thingy came out. After I wiped that, blood started coming out. What is this? And is there any way to make it better? Thanks :)
I've heard of this before, and it turned out to be nothing but a pimple under there. This is nothing to worry about, but if other strange things start occurring such as a bad odor, or a repeated return of this black dot, then see a doctor just to be safe.