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So i have this friend at school and im really confused about her...because shes really sweet 1 on 1 but when your with a group of people especially boys she wont talk...so we started getting suspecious...plus, her sister is bi-sexual. And we have another friend who she always stares at in wrong places and talks about her 24.7!! (In ways that are kinda okward!) And one night at a sleepover we asked her why she didnt like boys and she just shrugged...and we asked her if she would ever consider going out with the other girl. And then she started getting really uncomphortable and okward. So how do me & my friends deal with this? -We want her to be able to talk to us about this kinda things...HELP!

--thnx..missymay123 (link)
Well, first of all, you need to make sure she knows that you and your friends would be okay with the fact that she may be gay or bi-sexual. If she even has a sneaking suspicion that any of you wouldn't be okay with it, she won't feel comfortable confiding in you about it. Just let her know that you have noticed these things and you would be okay if she wasn't into guys. Hope this helps.


Ahh!
So, my video iPod is no longer working.
Its warranty is expired.
And basically, to get it fixed, it would cost $100+ and it's pricey, and to add to that, my computer is also broken. Our family has had a pretty bad past with iPods [with my sister's breaking 3 times and eventually getting a new one that broke once again].

Well, I wanted to know what # from below I should pick...

1. Get my iPod fixed and hope for the best
2. Get a new mini iPod or whatever it's called
3. Get a new mp3
4. Get a CD player

If you are going to say #3 or #4, I'd really love it if you could give me a company/brand name that I could look for because I'm clueless beyond iPods. So, yeah, what company product would you recommend? It would be better if they had a radio option included [like, be able to listen to the radio with the switch of a button]

Thanks!
15/f if that helps in any way???? Haha
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I would say, just get a new mp3 player. Any company would be good. A friend of mine has had his for almost three years and it still works just as well as when he bought it and he's even run over it once.


Could someone list some really good UNSIGNED artists? Like maybe alternative rock artists and stuff like that. Thanks in advance. (link)
DeadStuntMen
Rain Fall Warning
Laisy Daisy
Magenta
Taistix
Rude Street Peters
Just Six Spaces
The Martyr Syndicate


what does it mean when guys say your tight?
& is it a bad thing? (link)
It simply means that your vagina hasn't been stretched that much, i.e. as in having sex, or inserting other things in there, etc. For example, when guys say a girl is 'loose', it means they have sex often with many partners.

No, it is not a bad thing. The tighter you are, the better feeling for the guy.

Hope this helps.


my friends tell me by stimulating your clit, or using a vibrator will give u an orgasm...
I tried.. several times.
It just doesnt seem to work!
It doesnt even feel good.. its as if its like hurting:s?
is this normal?!
and how can I get an orgasm?!

thankssssssss, xo (link)
Yes, you may be able to orgasm through clitoral stimulation, but it does usually feel uncomfortable or even painful if you do this while it is dry. Try using a lubricant when you do this if you're not wet enough. Try not to focus on how you're not getting an orgasm right away. It can take up to a half an hour or more for a female to reach orgasm. If you think you're not going to reach one, you probably won't. So, go in thinking you're going to achieve one. Hope this helps.


Okay, well I'm not planning on doing anything soon, but in case the situation comes up anytime remotely soon:

In case of someone giving me oral or fingering me, what is the male preference of hair... down there? like should there be no hair? should it just be left alone? trim it down?

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All male preferences differ, but most guys like you to be trimmed at least because it makes it easier to maneuver down there. That way they don't have to worry about their fingers getting tangled in the hair. So, just a trim would be good, but you could look up some different shapes of pubic hair on Google and you can pick one if you want to be creative.


uhhh well i have this friend and i think that i might have fallen in love with her but im not sure. She likes me as a friend, but i think i like her more then that. I really do not know if i should tell her, or how to tell her. (link)
There are many ways to go about this. I will give you a few. Caitlin had a good idea about asking her who she likes. But if she's not sure you like her, she may not say she likes you either. Here's a way to tell if she may like you: she blushes a little when she tells you, or she says someone's name that is similar to you. If she says someone who is completely different than you, then she may not like you in a romantic way. But you can never be too sure about that one though because girls can like two guys that are completely and utterly different. For example, I like two guys. One has blondish, shaggy hair, hazel eyes, likes hip hop, cars and drawing and is really shy and has a small group of close friends. The other one has short dark hair and eyes that are almost black, is really outgoing and mingles with pretty much every group, tells jokes nonstop and would rather be hiking than be inside drawing.

You could also gage her feelings about you by mentioning a girl you think is cute or pretty or something like that. You may have to do this a few times in order to read her right. If she likes you, she will probably get this sad or disappointed look in her eyes, but you have to be quick or you'll miss it. She may agree with you but probably won't look you in the eye if she likes you because she may be afraid to start crying. If she doesn't like you back, she may just agree or disagree with your choice and joke around about it before telling you who she likes.

The only surefire way to know if she likes you back is to just lay your heart in your open palm and hope she gives you hers back.


hi im sam and im 11. i shaved my arms and i realllyyyyyyyyyy regret it!!!!! how can i make the hair grow back normall like befor!! please help me and awnser this!! do i wax or what? (link)
Shaving your arms in the first place was not a good idea. When you shave the hair, it comes back darker, thicker, and more coarse. You won't be able to get it back the way it was. You can lighten it by putting lemon juice on your arms and being in the sun. If you don't want it to get any worse, don't shave or wax it again. But if you want to just keep shaving or waxing them, the hair will just keep getting worse and you will have to shave more frequently. I advise you to not shave them or wax them again.



what are some GOOD christian rock bands? like, relient k, thousand foot krutch, superchick, and such.

thanks in advance (link)
Antiskeptic
12 Stones
Adam Again
Blindside
The Gentleman
Pillar
Becoming the Archetype
Echoing Green
Casting Crowns
Life in Your Way
Mortification
Downhere
Brave Saint Saturn
Everyday Sunday
Paramore
Run Kid Run
Trading Yesterday
Last Tuesday
Further Seems Forever
Seventh Day Slumber
The Rocket Summer
Future of Forestry
Flyleaf


hi
can u get pregant if u are on birth control and using a condomn and he ejacuateing in me and
i am from va and im 18 and a female (link)
Well, both the birth control pill/patch and the condoms are only about 98% effective, but by using both you have a backup plan, Even using just the condom without the second method, it would be 98% effective even if he ejaculates inside of you. Condoms are made to have the ability to withhold his semen if he ejaculates in it if it is used properly. Make sure you squeeze the tip before you roll it onto his penis, this way, it has somewhere to go, where as if you don't squeeze the air out and he ejaculates, the air has to have somewhere to go and that is why many condoms break.

But, answering your question, yes, it is possible for you to still get pregnant. There is a little less than two percent chance of it occurring.


how can i know when someone is in love with me? am 21 year and i live in guadeloupe (link)
When someone is in love, they get this kind of 'glow' about them. I'm not sure how to describe it, but it's kind of like an after-sex glow, except it's all the time, especially when they are looking at you. They smile whenever someone mentions your name or talks about you. They call just to hear your voice, say good morning, or say good night. They may text you or email you just to ask how your day is going. They go out of their way to see you. They remember things you said that you wouldn't think they would, like an opinion about some kind of soup. They're willing to ditch the 'little black book'. They are willing to go somewhere they absolutely hate or have no interest in just because you want to go. They think the idea of doing nothing together sounds great. They want you to be happy even if it means they're not.


I have four days to think up a one month anniversary present.
Help!!!!!
He's really sweet. And he can put up with me. He's the guy every girl dreams of.
13/f-me
13/m-him (link)
Well, I'm assuming you want it to be something personal, maybe even something from an inside joke you guys have? Since you didn't give me any specifics, try to answer these and I can give you a couple ideas. How did you guys meet? How did you start going out? What kinds of things do you do together? What's he into, i.e. type of music, sports(?), movies, etc.? This will help me get a better idea of things he might like.


Ok so i love dramatic movies with deep meaning behind them, i.e. the pursuit of happyness. if anybody could list some movies like that that they recommend it would be greaty appreciated = ] (link)
'Big Fish' - A movie about a man finally realizing that everything his father told him when he was younger was a complete lie. You know those stories of 'the big fish that got away'? A lie that you know is a lie. That's the concept.

'Mona Lisa Smile' - A movie about a group of young women in a university that think the only goal they should have is to capture a husband. But one woman realizes from her professor that there's more to happiness than securing a man that won't really appreciate you anyway.

'Million Dollar Baby' - About a woman that keeps being told she can't do it, and proves them all wrong.


my friend needs help with her hair. shes asian and has this silky hair that goes limp a lot and needs help getting volume. does anyone have similar hair to hers and has actually had a product work for them too? (link)
Well, I don't have first-hand knowledge of this, but my cousin's girlfriend is Asian also and has trouble volumizing her limp hair. She has tried a lot of things to help volumize it, but these are the couple that she said works best on her hair. Her hair is straight and about midway down her back. She has used that curling shampoo. It didn't curl her hair, but it did lift the roots a bit and added a very subtle wave, but the wave went out after about an hour of walking around. The thing that I have noticed that volumizes her hair the most is when she blow dries her hair, and rubs mousse into her roots and blowdries her roots with her head upside down. Things that make limp hair harder to volumize is too much conditioner. Your friend should shampoo her roots and all the way down to about an inch and a half of her ends and then condition from about an inch and a half from her roots to her ends. Conditioner makes hair smoother, which then makes it harder to volumize. If she wants a wave or curls, she should wash her hair at night, let it airdry, then put it in curlers for curls and buns secured with bobby pins if she wants waves and sleep on them. Then in the morning, she should spray a thin layer of hairspray all over her head, then bend over and shake her hair, then scrunch it with her fingers. Tell her to use volumizing shampoo and conditioner and she can also buy volumizing mousse, gel, and hairspray.


16/f
I have sensitive teeth, and I was born with not enough enamel on my teeth. My mom told me I can't get my teeth professionally whitened because the dentist said it wouldn't be a very good idea for me. I was wonderinng what are the best way to have your teeth whitened when you have sensitive teeth. I tried simply white, oral-b white strips, and crest white strips, but they're not doing a whole lot for me I found this

http://www.amazon.com/Hollywood-Smiles-Plasma-Whitening-System/dp/B000JV39IK/ref=sr_1_1/002-8787740-6845647?ie=UTF8&s=hpc&qid=1186081781&sr=8-1

does anyone know how that is or can give me other suggestions...Thanks!
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Well, these ideas aren't extensive and take a bit longer than the advertised methods, but it's gentle on your teeth. Mixing baking soda with your toothpaste whitens your teeth about one shade every week and a half or so. Also, using mashed strawberries as a toothpaste works too. It takes longer than the baking soda, but it helps with bad breath too. These things are actually used as a form of blocking stains instead of removing them all, but they do help whiten them a little.


well i forgot the password for my email adress and i tried using the feature that says something like forgot your password click here but i have a popup blocker... so does anyone know either how to cancel the popup blocker or how to make this feature come up another way?? thanks in advance (link)
If you don't want to completely turn off your pop-up blocker, you can press the control button (it's abbreviated as 'Ctrl' on the lower left hand side of your keyboard) at the same time as you click on the link.


I like this kid, but he has a long distace gf. they have been dating almost a year now, i want him. im not going to break them up, but i want him.. help please

Signed, huggless (link)
I know you don't want to break them up, but you have to at least give it a shot. It's like Declan said in Kyle XY, 'If they're meant to be together, they'll stay together.'

That's all I can say, or all Declan can say, rather. Hope it helped.


okay. so i'm 5'4 and a half, 145lbs. i want to weigh 130lbs by September or sooner. i was thinking of a low-fat, healthy diet with 5 nights of excersise.
my diet plan is this:
breakfast- oatmeal, bannana + yogurt, water.
OR english muffin, bannana + yogurt, water.
OR Instand Breakfast Smoothie (instand breakfast mix, bannana, nonfat yogurt, milk, + ice)
snack- watermelon, or some fruit.
lunch- slimfast bar and carrots.
snack- pretzals, veggies, or fruit
dinner- chicken with rice and corn
OR Lean Cousine, Healthy Choice.

what foods should i avoid?
cheese? or what?

do you think i can do it if i eat that and work out for an hour 5x a week? (link)
Well, some of your food choices are either too many calories, or too few calories to lose that much in a month, which frankly is a very unhealthy goal. You may lose the weight, but it may make you sick to lose it that quick, and you may gain all of it back plus some if you try to lose it that quick.

For breakfast, instead of eating all of that, try drinking a fruit or veggie smoothie instead of instant oatmeal or an instant breakfast smoothie. It will be less calories consumed with more food in your stomach. You can mix in the banana, nonfat yogurt, strawberries and mainly any kind of fruit or veggie you would like, some skim or soy milk and some ice. If you don't like skim or soy milk, it's still okay to drink them in the smoothie, because you can't taste the difference if you had just used regular milk.

For a snack, watermelon would be a good choice because it is, in fact, healthy, but it may leave you hungry soon after eating it which may cause you to pig out later. Instead try celery with peanut butter. The peanut butter has protein which will keep you feeling fuller and give you more energy. Or you could have some cantaloupe, nonfat yogurt, a granola bar, or pretzels.

For lunch, definitely do not eat a slimfast bar or drink a slimfast drink. If you look on the back, you will see that the bars and the drinks have more calories in that one little portion than if you had eaten a sub from subway, but it doesn't leave you feeling full for very long and it will cause you to be having hunger pains before dinner.

For dinner, chicken would be a good choice if it's boiled or baked. Try to avoid fried chicken because the grease adds extra calories. Again, with the lean cuisine and healthy choice meals, it's the same thing as the slimfast meals. More calories with less food.

But try to mix it up between days to get all the things you need in your body. Google different healthy meal ideas for more info.


after i shave my legs i can see tiny dots on my legs...like where my hair follicles(sp) were...is their a way to fix this? (link)
You can probably see these dots because you're not shaving with the hair growth. When you don't shave with the hair, you pull the follicles apart and make them seem larger, kind of like large pores. Shaving with the hair will keep the follicles closed and you won't be able to see them. Or you could try a dipillatory, in which it just dissolves the hair and lessens the appearance of the hair follicles.


My dad is 37 he's got like a 6 pack he's not ugly and I need to find him a date. He tells me that if he doesnt find someone soon he's going to go back to his exgf [yuck] So how can I find him a date? Where can i tell him to go to meet chicks? I dont want to say a bar because nasty bar sluts aren't his thing. (link)
He needs to go somewhere where they have things he likes so he can find a woman that likes it too. That way they'll be able to strike up a conversation.

I suggest: coffeeshops, bookstores, jazz clubs, concerts, the beach, mini golf, bowling, roller skating, a dog park, etc. You could also try to talk him into taking a single's cruise.

I can't think of anyplace else at the moment but my parents met at a cd shop in the mall.

Hope it helps you somewhat.




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